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Positive Guidance
and Discipline
Discipline & Guidance facts…
•Discipline: guidance which helps the child learn self-control
•Self-discipline: ability to direct one’s own behavior
•Children may rebel when parents punish rather than discipline
•Attention is a powerful reinforcement when guiding children: they often misbehave
for attention
•Being an example is a very effective way to teach children desired behavior
•Consistency is the key to guiding children’s behavior
•Respond to aggressive behavior in non-aggressive ways
Positive Guidance Techniques
Natural and Logical Consequences
Natural Consequences:
• Occur without interference, child can
see the result of their choices
• Cannot be used if the consequence
will cause harm to self, others or
property, or too far in the future
Logical Consequences:
• Must follow the act
• Cannot be imposed in anger
• Must feel as though it is an
unpleasant behavior
• Short in duration but impactful to the
child
To take away privileges that relate to the misbehavior
• Example: If Jake spills the
toys he must clean up the
mess that is made.
• Example: If Olivia
doesn’t eat her dinner then
she will be hungry.
Positive Statements
• When guiding children, phrase all
requests in a positive manner with positive
words.
•For example: say, “Let’s use soft hands”
rather than, “Stop hitting!”
• Clearly states what is expected, what you
want them to do, then help them get
started
**Turn to page 7 in your packet and complete the
Positive Statements page.
• Avoid saying: No, Don’t, Stop, Can’t
Redirection
• Try to direct their attention to something else
• Give them a toy
• Hide whatever is causing the problem
• Find something else for them to focus on
•Example: If John is angry and misbehaving in
the blocks area, lead him to a different area of the
room and introduce a different activity.
• Children can be easily distracted!
Reverse Attention
• When a child’s behavior is inappropriate,
focus on a child who is displaying the
appropriate behavior and make a positive
comment.
• Ignore the negative, reinforce the positive
• If a child is screaming for a piece of candy, ignore
them. If you give them the candy then you are
reinforcing a negative behavior.
•If a child changes his/her behavior, he/she
should immediately be reinforced with a
positive statement.
Limited Choices
• Do not give the child an unlimited
amount of choices.
•Only give choices that are available.
• For example: “Would you like juice or water for a drink?”
As opposed to: “What would you like to drink?”
• Giving a child a choice will make
them feel like they have some control.
Time Out
•When a child has disobeyed a rule,
they are sent to a predetermined place
to distance themself from the problem
and gain composure.
• Use a place where there are no
distractions or positive reinforcements
• If a child is placed in time out, but they can see
the tv, then the child won’t see it as a punishment
•One minute for each year of age
• You can’t expect a 3-year old to sit quiet
and still for 20 minutes
Reinforcement
• Positive ReinforcementENCOURAGES or SUPPORTS a behavior
“This behavior is good. Keep it up!”
• Negative ReinforcementSTOPS or DISCOURAGES a behavior
“This behavior is not okay.”
• Ways to positively reinforce behavior:• Reward
• Smile, laugh
• Give attention
• Give praise
• Ways to negatively reinforce behavior:• Ignore
• Discipline
• Punish
Your child brings home a report card with straight A’s.• How would you respond to positively reinforce the behavior?
• How would you respond to negatively reinforce the behavior?
Your child is screaming at the store because they want a sucker.• How would you respond to positively reinforce the behavior?
• How would you respond to negatively reinforce the behavior?
When Dealing with
Misbehavior Avoid…
- Physical punishment
- Bribes
- Withholding love- You always love the child, but you just
don’t approve of the behavior
- Forcing promises from the child
- Guilt trips
The GOAL of positive
guidance…..
Help a child gain inner control!
Protect
Encourage