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All the Time!All the Time!

Discover the Secret of

Thinking and Living

Positively

All the Time!

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Discover the Secret of Thinking and Living PositivelyDiscover the Secret of Thinking and Living Positively

All the Time!All the Time!

Discover the Secret of Thinking and Living Positively

All the Time!

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Preface

About the Author

Thoughts: Understanding Thought and the Mind

The Thought Chain

Attitude: Raw Material for Thought

Power Your Life with PEP

PEP: Positive Energy Power

NEP: Negative Energy Poison

My PEP Story

Flip over from NEP to PEP

Now Can You Think and Live Positively All the Time?

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Preface

For the last 25 years, I have been reading about Positive

Thinking and Positive Attitude and have passionately lived

each day of my life positively. I have experienced the power

of Positive Thinking and have understood how thought can

control actions, reactions and feelings. Although I have

acutely felt the power of positivity, I initially did not

understand the nature of this power where it came from and

how exactly it worked, and I kept wondering how it could be

understood.

We all know that it is great to be positive, but we cannot

control our thoughts at all times. Thus, a meaningful

question arises can we think positively all the time?

I remember the times when I wanted to be positive but

couldn't be due to some reason; my mind would just wander

toward thinking negatively. However, reading books on

positive thinking, using the power of positive self-

suggestions and various other triggers finally built positive

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energy in me. But despite these efforts, I felt that something was

missing in my understanding of positive behavior and the negative

forces that worked against it. I kept asking myself:

Where does this positive energy come from?

Are people born positive? Is it in their genes?

Why are some people so full of positive energy while others

emit fumes of negativity all the time?

What controls the mind?

What controls our actions and reactions?

These questions have been active in my subconscious for the last

two decades and my curiosity has led me to read up more on the

nature and power of thought.

Finally, I discovered a secret that provided answers to all the above

questions, and I call it PEP Positive Energy Power. The

acronym itself denotes energy, but one has to read this book to

appreciate its use and understand how to remain positive all the

time. Once you understand it, you will be able to influence your

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thoughts, take charge of your actions, control your reactions, be a

master of your feelings and live a life of your choice. You will be

able to flip over from negativity to positivity.

When you choose positive energy in your life, all the negativity will

disappear because it will be replaced by the power of positivity. Just

as a coin can be flipped over from heads to tails, your thoughts,

feelings and actions too can be easily flipped over with a few simple

decisions and choices. You will be able to distinguish between

thoughts, attitudes, feelings and actions, and this will help you take

charge of your life.

The power of positivity, although a simple concept, has not been

clearly defined and explained previously. It has often been

presented mysteriously. Writers, philosophers and thinkers have

always urged us to Think positively, but have failed to explain

how to think positively always. Authors have emphasized the

power of thought, but have not explained the way in which thought

can be controlled. Aspirants of positive thinking, like me, have

often tried in vain to be directly in command of thoughts, but to no

avail.

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This book, Power Your Life with PEP is written to bust several

myths about Positive Thinking. It will help you discover the power

of positivity that will eventually transform your life. It will serve as

a guide for you to take care of your thought and life.

I believe that life comes to us only once and that if we fill it with

negativity, we will lose this valuable gift of life in misery. One can

choose positivity and live positively every moment and every day

or one can choose negativity! It is not something magical, but a

practical choice that one needs to make.

Once you understand the concept of PEP, you will realize how

simple life can be. PEP will fill your life with excitement and

enthusiasm like never before! And that's guaranteed. So let's begin

the journey then... and flip over from negativity to positivity!

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About the Author

RVM is a Positive life philosopher, an author, a speaker,

and a motivator.

He was one of the earliest successful Indian retailers who

transformed the way retailing was done in India through his

megastoresKidskemp, Big Kidskemp and Kemp Fort.

After achieving success after success, he realized that there

was more to life than just accumulating millions. He

transformed his life from that of a successful businessman

to that of a philosopher.

He started a Trust, which has built the 125-bed capacity

RVM Home for the destitute and needy. He has also built

the RVM Hospital, which is growing from a 150-bed

charitable hospital to a 1000-bed one, offering free medical

services to the poorest of the poor and reducing their pain

and suffering.

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His spiritual efforts to spread the power of faith led him to build a

65-feet-tall statue of Lord Shiva at the RVM Shiv Temple on Old

Airport Road in Bangalore, which is a revered spiritual destination.

RVM has devoted his life to spread the RVM Philosophy, which

stands for Rejoice, Value life and Make a difference. To share this

exciting way of living, he has authored several books, some of

which are: I Wanna Be Happy, The A to Z of Life Philosophy and

Succsex.

Through his talks to various audiences, RVM shares with them the

philosophy he practices in his life. He hopes others too will learn

from his life philosophy and live a meaningful life with purpose,

rejoicing and making a difference in the world before their journey

of life is over.

Website: www.rvm.co.in

Email: [email protected]

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1Chapter 1

Understanding Thought and the Mind

Thoughts:

What are

The word thought originates from Old English. It means to

conceive of in the mind or to consider, and it refers to an

intellectual or mental activity. Thoughts are impulses that are

broadcast from the mind.

A thought is like an electrical vibration that is produced in our mind

and leads us to feel and then act. A thought happens by itself and is

something beyond our control. It is produced by the mind that acts

as a machine, which I would like to refer to as the Thought

Factory.

Everybody has a Thought Factory. This factory manufactures

thoughts, both positive and negative: thoughts of love, hope,

courage and compassion as well as thoughts of hate, fear, worry and

jealousy. Is it possible to enter this Thought Factory and program it

to produce positive thoughts? Do we have a direct command over

our mind? Unfortunately, we don't! Science is yet to invent a

machine or a medication that can consistently create positive

thoughts. Yet, some people always think positively, while others are


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filled with negative thoughts. What makes these positive thinkers

always think ever-positive thoughts?

Undoubtedly, it has to do with the Thought Factory that produces

thought. By taking charge of the Thought Factory, we can take

charge of the thoughts it produces. But how does one do that and

think positively all the time? Over the years, philosophers and

authors have optimistically recommended the Think positive

mantra. However, when one is surrounded by negative

circumstances, how can one think positively? The thought process

becomes involuntary, and like impulsive reactions, the mind begins

to emit negative thoughts. Thus, it is very important to understand

the nature and origin of thought.

Where do thoughts come from?

While it may seem that thoughts originate from nowhere, they are

actually born in the mind. Before we understand how we can

control our thought, let us first understand the link between the

mind and the body. The mind perceives or senses the objects of

perception through the sense organs. When the body sees, smells,

tastes, hears and touches, the sense organs trigger thought in the

mind.

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Thoughts

For instance, I see an apple and feel hungry. I smell something

burning and panic. I hear my favorite song and feel like dancing. I

feel the cold breeze and feel like I am in the mountains. I touch

currency notes and feel rich! Thus, whenever our sense organs are

exposed to something, thought is created. This thought leads us to

feel and then act.

We are essentially emotional beings because we are able to feel, and

we do so consistently and naturally at all the phases of our life.


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MIND

Thoughts

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Organs

1. Sight

2. Hearing

3. Taste

4. Touch

5. Smell

However, does this mean that we give in to the demands of our

sense organs completely? For instance, I see apples and feel hungry.

But do I eat all the apples? Let's consider another example, I see a

beautiful car that does not belong to me and develop a desire to

drive it. Do I break open the door and zoom away? No, I don't. The

question that now arises is what controls or influences the sense

organs? Our intellect does. My intellect counsels me that the car is

somebody else's and my desire to zoom away with it is unethical. In

such situations, the intellect creates further thoughts and feelings.

Hence, there is an aspect within us that regulates, controls and

influences the sense organs: our intellect.

The mind is known to think, but the deeper question is how does it

choose its thoughts? How does it decide whether it should give in to

the demands of the senses, allow the intellect to govern or allow

something else to take over?

To seek an answer to these questions, let us attempt to understand

the mind. Our mind is structured in layers. These layers can be

differentiated into three: the conscious, the subconscious and the

superconscious.

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Most of us are fully aware of the power of the conscious mind alone.

However, it is only the tip of the iceberg. A few people realize and

actualize the power of the subconscious mind, but the power of the

superconscious mind continues to remain a mystery. The conscious

mind is the active mind that is alive and thinks from moment to

moment. When we sleep, the conscious mind goes to rest and we are

said to be in an unconscious state.

The subconscious is awake even when we sleep. It is a storehouse of

all the information processed by the mind during the day. Pictures,

sounds, feelings and circumstances, amongst other things, get

automatically stored in the memory of the subconscious mind. We

may not consciously register certain things, but the subconscious

mind grasps and registers all these things in detail, which are

otherwise invisible to the conscious mind. Thus, it is very powerful.


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The MIND Conscious, Subconscious, superconscious

THOUGHTSTHOUGHTSTHOUGHTS

FEELINGS,FEELINGS,FEELINGS,

EXPERIENCES,EXPERIENCES,EXPERIENCES,

IMPRESSIONSIMPRESSIONSIMPRESSIONS

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responsible for intuition, sixth sense, creativity, hunches,

imagination and telepathy. It functions as a powerful receiver and

transmitter of thoughts from and into the Universe. While the study

of the power of the superconscious is still in its infancy, the

superconscious mind is said to have tremendous powers, yet

unknown to man, but capable of strengthening both the conscious

and subconscious mind, ultimately making man a genius.

We now know that the mind is a combination of the conscious,

subconscious and superconscious. We also know that thoughts are

constantly produced in the mind, the Thought Factory. Before we

can take charge of our mind and the thought it produces, we must

understand how the mind is formed.

Let us imagine the mind of a newborn child. Is the newborn already

full of thoughts and habits? Does it have a character or is its mind

like an empty board spotless without thoughts? A newborn lacks

thoughts, habits or character; therefore, it is obvious that the

newborn's mind is empty. Then, how does a newborn's mind

develop thoughts, feelings and habits?

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Sight

Hearing

Taste

Touch

Smell

MIND UNDER FORMATION

Senses

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Each newborn is naturally born with the five sense organs, that is,

sight, smell, hearing, taste and touch. These sense organs trigger the

mind when they come in contact with any stimulus. The conscious

mind of a young child will react while the subconscious mind will

register and memorize all that it hears, sees and feels. A child that

grows up in an environment of anger and violence, where the

parents are screaming and fighting most of the time, develops a

mind filled with negative emotions like anger, hatred and tension.

Whereas, a child that grows up in a nurturing environment of love

and understanding develops an uncomplicated mind that eventually

leads to positive personality traits and emotions. The subconscious

mind of an infant is believed to be more dominant until the

conscious mind develops adequately.

There is a global debate on the influence of nature vs. nurture. The

question debated is, Is a child's life capable of being nurtured or are

a child's genes preset by nature and incapable of being molded and

changed? Scientists, philosophers and doctors have more or less

agreed that while a child's genes determine its physical appearance

and health, the genes do not influence the child's thoughts, habits

and character. Upon further study, they have realized that the

subconscious mind of a young child will definitely absorb whatever

it sees, hears and feels, and this will influence the child's character

as it grows up. However, if the same child was brought up in a

different environment, the subconscious mind of the child would

absorb a different character and culture the one that it is exposed

to. This has, by and large, laid to rest the debate on the role of nature

and genes in influencing the mind and thoughts of a child.

The mind is born with empty thoughts like a blank slate. Every

impression influences the conscious mind and is registered in the

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subconscious mind, leading to the formation of our character. Thus,

a large part of a child's mind and character is formed during its

youthful years.

If a mind is already formed and if its character is already set, can it

be changed? The good news is that the mind of a child is still in the

process of formation and is capable of being molded as the child

matures into a teenager and an adult. The experiences of a

youngster growing into an adult are instrumental in creating its

character. Once the mind is formed, it can be visualized as

constructed in cement, stone and steel, difficult to break and

change. This realization gives further hope and possibility for an

individual to take charge of their mind, thought and life.

As the mind grows, various constituents are responsible for its final

formation. The five sense organs, of course, respond consciously to

the stimuli, creating impressions on the subconscious mind. The

subconscious mind absorbs impressions from the environment and

helps build the structure of the mind. As an individual grows up, the

mind thinks, leading to feelings and actions. These repeated actions

become habits, and they further influence the mind. The mind, by

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its nature, reacts and responds. These behaviors also influence the

thought that the mind produces through the Thought Factory.

Since the mind has so many sources that influence the thought it

produces, is it possible at all for us to control our thoughts? Is there a

way to strategically build a mind of our choice or does our mind

evolve on its own as we grow up? Is it possible to take charge of our

mind, our Thought Factory and thus our thought; or is this beyond

our control? Since circumstances influence our habits, do we

become creatures of our habits and thoughts, or is there a way to

take charge of our habits and thus our mind and thoughts?

Since our mind is already conditioned to react in a particular way, is

it possible to control our reactions and responses or is our behavior

involuntary, based on the state of our mind? Is the mind so deep-

rooted that its shoots and roots are predetermined? Has our

childhood crystallized our mind into a character that is irreversible

or is there a way to change? Is the mind already programmed

permanently or can it be reprogrammed to think the way we want it

to?

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Thoughts


While it seems possible for a mind to change its thought patterns,

we haven't scientifically studied how to do it. We spend much time,

money and energy learning to program and reprogram our

computers, but we are yet to discover how to perfectly program our

mind to think positively all the time. I believe it is possible to

reverse the conditionings of our childhood! But unfortunately,

science has not invented a device to directly reprogram the mind to

think positively. If such a machine were invented, it would be a

global best-seller; one could plug into it and be able to think

positively all the time!

However, while there is no such device to directly control the mind

and thus the thoughts, there is definitely a way to influence the mind

and take charge of our thoughts and hence our life. If only we learnt

how the mind functions and how we can program and reprogram it

to think the way we want, we would be able to control our feelings,

our actions, our habits and our destiny! Let us understand how this

is possible by understanding what I call The Thought Chain,

discussed in Chapter 2.

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Chapter 2

The Thought Chain

Science has shown that thoughts are electrical vibrations and that

they have power. They are a source of energy that lead to feelings

and actions. They can make us happy or sad. Thoughts create

beliefs and habits that strongly influence all our choices in life,

which ultimately create our destiny.

Something as simple as a thought is actually amongst the most

important ingredients of our life. James Allen, acclaimed to be the

founder of Positive Thinking, wrote, As a man thinketh, so is he.

Norman Vincent Peale, known as the Father of Positive Thinking,

elaborated on the power of Positive Thinking and its impact on

human life. He said, When I get up in the morning, I have two

choices either to be happy or unhappy, and what do you think I do?

I just choose to be happy, and that's all there is to it. Henry Ford

said, Whether you think you can or can't, you are right. Many

successful people have, through a study of their experiences,

vouched for the amazing potential and the power of thought.

Is there any doubt about the power of thought? Ask someone who

has used creative thinking, intuition and imagination to create

dreams. I have done it, and these inspirational thoughts have not

just created my dreams but have also pushed them into becoming a


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reality. Not just once, but every time a creative thought has

crystallized into a powerful dream, success followed.

While there is no doubt about the power of thought and its

connection with feelings, actions, habits, character and destiny, one

must understand the role of thought in the Thought Chain before

one can take charge of their own thought and life. As we grew up,

we may have pondered over things like what came first - the

chicken or the egg. But we may not have bothered to study the chain

that rules our life. We know that there is a connection between

thought, feelings and actions. But what creates thought? What

controls our feelings? What leads us to act? Where does this chain

start from and where does it end? If only we discover the source of

this chain or the life chain, so to speak, we could take charge of

our destiny by controlling our thought!

The Thought Chain

The Thought Chain begins with a thought that leads to feelings. If

the mind thinks of a happy thought, we feel happy. In the Thought

Chain, therefore, feelings follow thought. Some people however

question this. In their view, while a happy thought may lead to a

happy feeling, they believe that a happy feeling creates a happy

thought, and hence, feelings don't follow a thought, but precede it.

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The Thought Chain

While their argument is correct, a simple logic puts thoughts before

feelings in the Thought Chain. This logic pertains to the nature of

thoughts, that is, if there were no thoughts in the mind, there would

be no feelings. Thus, all feelings are created by the electrical

vibrations produced by thoughts. Science has also shown that

failure in the functioning of the mind directly results in the absence

of the corresponding feelings. Thus, while feelings do influence

thoughts, the rightful link in the Thought Chain is that of thoughts

preceding feelings.

Just as thoughts produce feelings, what do feelings produce?

Feelings produce actions. A happy thought leads to a happy feeling,

which in turn leads to happy actions. The Thought Chain has three

links in it so far. Again, some people are of the opinion that actions

lead to feelings. Some philosophers have prescribed that if you

want to feel happy, you should act happy. They are absolutely right

because, if you dance, this happy action will make you feel happier.


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THOUGHT FEELINGS

We now have thoughts, feelings and actions in the Thought Chain.

The next link is habit. Repeated actions create habits and this forms

the fourth link in the Thought Chain. While most people agree, a

few have a different but valid argument: Aren't habits responsible

for creating actions? If one had the habit of becoming angry, then

one's actions would be full of anger. Therefore, should not habits

precede actions in the Thought Chain? Before delving into this

further, we need to know where habits come from? None of us is

born with habits. Our repeated actions result in forming habits.

Thus, while habits do influence actions, habits are actually formed

from actions, and they follow actions in the Thought Chain.

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FEELINGSTHOUGHTACTION

However, while this is true, I believe actions follow and not precede

feelings in the Thought Chain. This is because if there are no

feelings, there would be no actions. Just imagine, is it possible for

you to dance joyously without actually feeling like dancing from

within? Certainly not! Thus, feelings lead to actions.

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CHARACTER

HABITS


HABITS

The Thought Chain now has thoughts, feelings, actions and habits.

The next link in the chain is character. Repeated habits build our

character. While an individual's character may create habits, it is

actually habits that form one's character in the first place; therefore,

in its rightful order, character follows habits in the Thought Chain.

Finally, the last link in the Thought Chain is our destiny or life. Are

we born with a predestined life or is our life in our hands?

Philosophically, we may have several answers for this. But

practically, we all know that we create our own destiny. Therefore,

the important question is does our destiny create our character or

does our character lead us to our destiny? If you read the

autobiographies of great men and women in the world, you will

discover that many of them were born in ordinary families. Some

did not receive any formal education, yet they worked their way to

the top and became successful. They weren't born successful, but

something made them successful. Their success didn't happen

entirely by chance. It was more a result of their hard work and the

choices they made. More importantly, it was their actions, habits

and character that led them to their destiny.

We now have a clear picture of the Thought Chain. Thoughts create

feelings, feelings create actions, actions create habits, habits create

character, and character leads us to our destiny or life. Therefore, to

take charge of our destiny and life, we need to take charge of our

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thought. But the big question is, how can one take charge of their

own thought? The next chapter provides an answer to this question

by revealing the raw material that manufactures thought.

DESTINY


CHARACTER

HABITS

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Chapter 3

Raw Material for Thought

Attitude:

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Although we have reviewed thought and the mind and have

understood that thoughts lead to feelings, actions, habits, character

and our destiny, we are yet to understand how thoughts are

produced in the mind.

Earlier we discussed that the mind is like a Thought Factory. This

factory keeps producing thoughts but we have no direct control

over it. However, the factory needs a raw material to produce its

product Thoughts.

In any production unit, the quality of the finished product depends

on the quality of the raw material. Likewise, in the Thought Factory

too, the quality of thought depends on the quality of ATTITUDE

that we supply to our mind, as raw material. So, let us understand

how attitude becomes the raw material for producing thoughts.

THOUGHT FACTORY

Raw Material Product

Attitude Thought


What is

Attitude is the way in which we react, respond and behave. It is a

physical and mental response. The response may be due to our

thoughts, actions, feelings, emotions, others' actions or

circumstances. Our attitude can be either Positive or Negative.

Every day and most of the time, we react and respond to things

happening around us and within us. We react to our own thoughts as

well as to others' actions; this is expressed in our behavior. We react

to circumstances, and in fact, we are actually reacting to life.

Therefore, we are constantly thinking, feeling, acting or responding

with our attitude. While we cannot directly control our thought and

the feelings and actions they produce, we have command over our

attitude.

As we are responding and reacting every day, the conscious mind is

either thinking and following the subsequent links that is, feeling

and acting in the Thought Chain or it is reacting and responding to

somebody elses thoughts or actions. Sometimes, the conscious

mind is reacting to our own moods, beliefs or habits.

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AAtti tude?Att i tude?

Attitude

Our mood is our state of mind. The mind may be in a good mood or

bad mood, happy mood or sad mood. We thus understand that the

mood of the mind depends upon the kind of emotions that we have

currently chosen to live with. If we choose positive emotions, the

mind is in a positive mood, but when we live with negative

emotions, our mood or state of mind becomes negative. Thus, you

will notice that even though something negative happens, a person

in a good mood reacts positively, while the opposite is also true. A

person in a bad mood will react negatively even in the best of

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Positive Emotions Positive Mood Positive Reactions

Our mind also reacts to our beliefs. What are beliefs? Over the

years, we are exposed to certain patterns of living and we tend to

believe in some of these. These beliefs become our philosophy, our

way of life, our ethos and even our life's constitution. These beliefs

are formed by repeated thoughts or observations, and they stand

like iron pillars in the mind. Therefore, although a particular

circumstance deserves a type of reaction, our mind reacts

differently depending on the beliefs it is attached to. This may not

be logical, but the mind still reacts that way because it believes in

something and its response is based on this belief.

Every time we react, we are choosing a behavior that is depositing a

raw material in the mind to produce a thought. Suppose, we see

somebody doing something that is not as per our expectations, then

it creates an intense disappointment or a feeling of hatred or dislike,

which makes us react nastily and develop a negative attitude. This

negative attitude acts as a raw material and directly influences the

mind to produce a corresponding negative thought and thereafter a

negative feeling and action. However, if we have the willpower to

control our attitude and understand the other person's action, we

will choose to react with patience and compassion. This positive

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attitude or reaction to the exact same situation deposits a positive

raw material in the mind that leads to a corresponding positive

feeling and action. Therefore, the type of attitude we choose, either

positive or negative, becomes the raw material for the mind and

produces the corresponding positive or negative thought,

respectively.

Raw Material

Raw Material

Negative

Thought

Thought

Negative

Each time we react, respond and behave, our attitude supplies the

raw material to the mind and is thus directly responsible for the

Positive Positive

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What is Habit?

The dictionary defines a habit as a recurrent, often unconscious

pattern of behavior that is acquired through frequent repetition.

Habits are behaviors formed by an individual from repetitive

ATTITUDE

THOUGHT

MIND

quality of thoughts the mind produces. In fact, when we constantly

repeat our attitude, the consistent reactions not only act as raw

material to produce thought but also crystallizes in the mind as a

habit.

HABITS

Attitude

actions, reactions, thoughts and feelings that have become the very

essence of a person's life. As are one's habits, so are one's thoughts

and actions. Hence the saying Change your habits to change your

life. Once cultivated, habits are rock-like and difficult to break.

Once we form a habit, the habit in turn forms our life.

How are habits formed?

We are not born with habits. Instead, we grow up forming habits

depending on the environment and surroundings we live in. Our

mind is empty at birth. Once the subconscious mind is formed, it

triggers thoughts, which in turn, lead to feelings and actions. These

actions when performed repetitively get established in the

subconscious mind as a habit. The act of repetition influences the

subconscious mind and leads to the creation of habits.

Habits are created not only by repetitive actions but also by

repetitive reactions expressed in our attitude, behavior and

responses as they crystallize in our mind bit by bit. Each time we

react, not only does the mind get triggered to think a corresponding


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thought, but also the reaction deposits in the mind an emotion,

finally creating a strong habit.

Habits, once formed, become the pillars of our life. They take

charge of our mind and thoughts, our feelings and emotions, our

attitude and reactions. In fact, habits are responsible for everything

we do in life because our life gets programmed for living in a

particular way depending on the habits we have cultivated. The

foundation of our entire personality, sometimes understood as

character, is based on the habits we form. We think, act and react

with this personality or character until we decide to change.

As a person grows, the mind becomes stronger and stronger with

stronger habits, thoughts, feelings and convictions. Parents,

teachers and mentors influence a child's character as it grows from

an infant to an adult.

Can habits be changed?

Habits take charge of our mind. They become the directors of the

Thought Factory and make it produce their kind of thoughts.


Positive habits, on the one hand, take charge of our mind to produce

positive thoughts, which then lead to positive feelings and actions.

On the other hand, negative habits will influence the thought

factory to produce negative thoughts. These in turn lead to negative

feelings and negative actions.

To view the process more practically, let us reflect upon our habits.

Many of us may develop the habit of reacting with anger. The habit

of anger will create angry thoughts and will lead us to feel angry and

frustrated. The frustration then becomes a habit and constantly

creates thoughts of anger and frustration. This negative circle will

continue with each negative thought, feeling and action adding a

layer to the habit, thus making it stronger.

Positive or negative habits and traits define ones personality or

character. However, it doesn't mean that if these habits happen to be

negative ones, they cannot be changed.

We can compare a habit to a thick cable made up of several thin

wires that are twisted together. Similarly, a strong habit can be

perceived to result from the cumulative formation of several

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actions, reactions, thoughts and feelings that come together. A thick

cable, which is hard to break, can be easily undone wire by wire;

likewise, strong habits can also be broken by dissolving or

changing, one by one, the actions, reactions, thoughts and feelings

that comprise the habit.

Another way to view a habit is to visualize it as the long hair of a

woman. Each action, reaction, thought or feeling is just like one

strand of hair. By itself, it can just be plucked off effortlessly, and it

will easily break away from the scalp. However, just try to hold the

entire plait of hair and pull it from the scalp. It is impossible to break

it free. Habits also behave in the same way.

The only way to change a habit is by dissolving it thought by

thought, feeling by feeling and action by action. And since we

cannot control our thoughts that lead to feelings and actions, we

should control our attitude that leads to our responses and reactions

and influences our thoughts. Is this a lengthy process? Not really.

Changing all negative habits into positive ones may take some time,

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but the change starts the moment we make the decision or the choice

to respond with a positive attitude. The moment we start responding

positively, we start destroying the negative habits. Slowly, but

surely we will change the negative elements in our life to more

positive ones because attitude is a matter of choice.

While moods, beliefs and habits influence our attitude, what is it

that actually controls our attitude?

Our WILL plays a vital role in our choosing our attitude positive

or negative. A waiter in a restaurant may accidently spill water on

us. However, our willpower actually decides whether to react with

anger or forgive him. Therefore, the mind also develops a power,

called willpower, which is responsible for the choice of attitude and

thereafter thought.

At this point, we have discovered several things. So let's sum it up.

We have discovered that thoughts lead us to our destiny through

feelings, actions, habit and character. We have understood the mind

and how it produces thought. We have realized that attitude is the

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raw material that produces thought. In addition, habits also

crystallize in the mind to produce thoughts. The will helps the mind

to choose an attitude that triggers thought and thus influences our

feelings, actions and finally destiny. Moods and beliefs also

influence our attitude, but finally, while all of these influence our

attitude, it is attitude that is the raw material that produces thought.

While we have discovered the above, we are yet to find out what

creates our attitude, and thus our thoughts, feelings, actions, habits

and destiny.

The magical ingredient that creates Attitude is our Emotion. Our

emotions can be positive or negative, and I call them PEP (Positive

Energy Power) and NEP (Negative Energy Poison), respectively.

This PEP and NEP create our Attitude, which in turn, influences our

thought that creates feelings, action, habits, character and destiny.

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Attitude

THOUGHTATTITUDE

FEELINGS

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HABITS

Remove i and t still remains.

Habit; not easy to break.

Remove the H and a bit still remains.

Remove a and bit still remains.

Remove b and it still remains.

Some people just cant change the

habit of T (drinking tea).

Chip away your Habit Bit by Bit!

H AB IT

AB IT

B IT

IT

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Visualize a habit like a cable.

Just like how one strong cable is

made of hundreds of wires,

a habit is one strong attribute that is

formed due to repetitive actions,

reactions, thoughts, and emotions,

each adding up to form the thick cable Habit!

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Chapter 4


Although the Thought Chain is a very simple concept, people have

not understood how they can control their thoughts, feelings,

actions, reactions, moods, beliefs, will, habits, character and

destiny. All these are part of the Thought Chain, and if the first link

of this chain is positive, the entire chain becomes positive. Begin

with a negative link and you have no choice but to end with a

negative life.

What is the first link of this chain that will determine our life? What

is it that can ensure that the mind produces only positive thoughts?

We know that if the mind produces positive thoughts, then we don't

have to worry about feelings and actions. Once the mind shelters

positive habits, beliefs and will matching its positive attitude, we

can rest assured that the mind cannot be wrongly influenced by

negative attitude. This is because the source of energy for the mind

is so potent that it cannot be misdirected.

What is the original source of this energy for the mind? The energy

in the mind is not static; rather it is in a state of flux and makes the

mind active or creates motion in the mind. This same energy is


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responsible for our attitude and also builds our willpower and is

further responsible for crystallizing into habit through attitude.

This energy becomes the life force of the mind. Not only does it

produce the raw material that manufactures thought but also lends

an aura to the mind, which creates the mood that also leads the mind

to manufacture thought. This active energy in motion is nothing but

our EMOTIONS.

What are emotions? Emotions are those powerfully strong feelings

by which we live. They are the Energy in Motion. They are not

mere impulses that follow thoughts but are derived from certain

choices we make; these are choices that each one of us make as we

grow up. Emotions can be either positive or negative and they build

the foundation of our life. They are the source of all the factors that

influence our thoughts, feelings, actions and destiny.

As we grow up, our life is filled with emotions emotions that we

can choose and emotions that we can change at any time. We are

influenced by emotions not just as kids but also as we grow into

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adults. We choose our emotions till the last day of our lives. It is this

choice of emotions that controls our life's destiny.

Emotions can be positive or negative. We can choose the emotion

love, and this energy in motion will make us affectionate and will

prompt us to behave in a friendly and warm way. Alternatively, we

can choose the emotion hate, which will create unrest in our heart

and mind, creating negative feelings and thoughts. The good news

is that whether the emotion is love or hate, it is our choice. We can

choose to fill our life with love or hate. The moment we fill our life

with either of these emotions, we choose a source of energy that

creates a motion that will trigger attitude, thought, feelings and

actions.

Let us look at another choice of negative emotion over positive

emotion. When someone does something to insult us in front of

several people, we vow to take revenge, that is, we choose the

negative emotion of revenge. This emotion not only fills our

mind with poison at that instance but also leads to the production of

poisonous and toxic negative thoughts. Once the negative emotion


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establishes itself as a source of energy in the mind, the mind begins

to be controlled by it. In fact, we develop negative habits and a

negative mood and our positive willpower gets destroyed. Negative

thoughts are produced leading to negative feelings, actions and

destiny. Instead, if we chose forgiveness, this positive emotion

would create peace and tranquility. The mind would be at rest and

there would be no worries. Positive thoughts will be produced and

this would result in a positive destiny.

So, the good news is that we can choose emotions in our life. We can

overcome negative emotions by making a conscious choice of the

corresponding positive emotion and thus power our life with PEP.

What is PEP?

PEP is Positive Energy Power. It is a power that can lead us to a

positive destiny. It is the choice of positive emotions that can power

our life with positive energy. PEP acts as a source of energy and

nourishes the mind. PEP, which is a combination of positive

emotions, produces positive attitude that manufactures positive

thoughts that build positive habits. PEP also creates a positive mood


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that influences the mind to produce positive thoughts. PEP creates a

positive willpower directly and indirectly. PEP is a source that

determines a positive life. If only we understand PEP and accept it,

we would be able to think positively and live positively all the time!

Is it that simple? Yes and no! If you power your life with PEP, you

have discovered the way to a positive life. However, many of us are

unfortunate and have the presence of NEP, Negative Energy

Poison, in our life. Just as PEP can power our life, NEP can destroy

our life. It can create toxins and poisons that can devastate our life

through negative thoughts, negative feelings, negative actions,

negative habits and a negative destiny.

NEP creates a negative mood and a negative aura in the mind. It

kills the positive will that PEP creates and pushes us into the whirl

of negativity. While NEP is so powerful, what is most encouraging

and exciting is that at any given time or circumstance, we can

always change and choose PEP. Yes, you can power your life with

PEP and take charge of your thoughts and life!


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Chapter 5

Positive Energy Power

PEP:


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What is

PEP is an acronym for Positive Energy Power. It is the power

that comes from using positive energy to think, feel, act, respond

and behave. When one chooses to live positively with PEP, one's

life is transformed. While it sounds great to be able to live life only

with PEP, most people don't know how to make this happen. All

around us, we find a mix of both negative and positive energies.

Sometimes people and circumstances force us to respond

negatively. Then, how can we live with PEP all the time?

We cannot control others' behavior and circumstances, but we can

surely control our own reactions to these. When you choose PEP,

you are actually choosing the power of positive energy that then

helps you respond with a positive attitude toward people and

circumstances. PEP will, therefore, make you think, feel and act

positively. If you do not choose PEP, negative people or

circumstances may naturally derive a negative response from you.

But by choosing PEP, you ensure that even the negative is

confronted with the positive. Confronting the negative with the

positive brings you growth and fulfillment in the long run.

PEP?PEP?

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PEP is a matter of choice. It is a way of life that only you can choose.

PEP is based on the concept of living life with positive emotions

and energy, rather than letting negative poisons consume life. When

you choose PEP, you automatically develop positive habits and

your responses will be positive. While PEP is not directly positive

thinking, a positive attitude or a positive habit, it is a power that

leads to all the three. It is a power that channelizes your life into

being positive by you making positive choices even in negative

situations.

What creates PEP?

PEP is created when one makes a conscious choice to live only with

positive emotions. Emotions are Energies in Motion that flow in our

life through our Thought Chain. The cumulative positive energy

that we choose to live by creates PEP. Once our life is full of PEP, we

become equipped to face the negative and transform our response to

positive.

PEP is a powerful force that takes charge of our attitude, thoughts,

feelings and actions. Many positive emotions cumulatively build

PEP into our life. Some of the positive emotions and attributes that


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can create PEP are faith, hope, love, joy, courage, confidence,

passion, inspiration, cheerfulness, compassion, optimism,

appreciation and enthusiasm. Let us understand these emotions that

create PEP.

Faith

The word faith is born from the Latin word fide. It implies

sincerity of intentions and connotes firm belief and trust. People

with faith have strong convictions and inbuilt loyalty. Faith gives

rise to courage, confidence and enthusiasm. Generally, faith is

talked of in relation to God and religion, but can be used in other

contexts too. To me, the word FAITH is best understood as an

acronym for Full Assurance In The Heart.

Faith is a positive emotion. It eliminates doubt and destroys fear. It

suppresses the negative and gives rise to all that is positive. People

with faith naturally respond positively. Their firm belief is the key

to their positive energy. Faith is the foundation of PEP. Without

faith, the negative emotion, doubt, enters our life and creates

skepticism, hesitation and indecision leading to negative reactions,

thoughts and feelings. We must carefully fill our life with faith.

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Hope

What is hope? HOPE, to me, is an acronym for Having Only

Positive Expectations.

With hope, one is more confident of the future. Hope generates

belief and trust. It makes people's emotions positive and fills their

lives with positive energy. While a person without hope may react

negatively in any situation, a person with hope always responds

positively. Hope creates optimism and influences our emotions and

feelings by giving us the assurance that something positive will

definitely happen. Positive expectations make a person's attitude

positive forever. Therefore, hope is one of the most important keys

to unleash PEP.

When the positive emotion, hope, is absent, the negative emotion,

despair, creeps into our life creating a poison within. This makes us

lethargic and drains us of joy and cheer. Hence, we must choose

hope to live with PEP.

Love

Love has different meanings, but in the context of PEP it implies a

deep sense of caring and being affectionate toward others. Love


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builds strong relationships and carries no price tag. In its higher

form, love emerges as a positive emotion. When you love someone,

your attitude toward that person is kind, compassionate and

understanding. That is, love emits positive vibrations that ensure a

positive response toward others no matter what. Love is the energy

that lets PEP take root, bloom and spread positive radiance all

around.

Love is a positive emotion that creates PEP. Love also builds strong

and genuine relationships that can serve us in times of crisis. Love

emits positive vibrations; with love as a dominant emotion, our

thoughts, feelings, reactions and actions will always be positive.

Replace love with hate and the heart is instantly filled with a poison!

The poison initiated from hatred creates anger and hostility that

makes us react with cruelty. Hate kills kindness and mercy and

makes us brutal and ready to inflict pain on others. We are at our best

when we love and feel loved. Living a life rich with love is a wise

choice, which will fill us with PEP.

Joy

Joy is a positive emotion that fosters happiness and bliss. It is a state

of being wherein one smiles, has a twinkle in the eyes and feels the

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heart dancing with excitement. One is filled with joy if one is

continuously cheerful and in good spirits.

Joy eliminates gloom and worry not only from one's life but also

from others' lives. Joyful people subconsciously develop the habit

of being positive because their feeling of cheerfulness eliminates

the possibility of being negative; they naturally respond with

optimism. When one is cheerful, one cannot be negative, just like

one cannot be crying when one is laughing and smiling. Therefore,

joy, cheerfulness, bliss and happiness are the basic ingredients of

PEP.

The absence of joy opens the door of our life to sorrow. This creates

distress and regret and leads us to a life of dullness. The body sinks

into a poisonous state as if it is stung by a reptile. Once we sink into

sorrow, we have no option but to live an unhappy life. It is wiser,

thus, to bounce back and consciously choose joy instead of sorrow

and live with PEP.

Courage

The word courage is derived from the Latin word corage, which

means heart. Over time, it has come to signify a strong heart.

People with courage have the mental and moral strength to face


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opposition, danger and hardship. Courageous people can overcome

any difficulty.

Those who are courageous eliminate fear from their lives and hence

are able to face dangers with a strong heart. With this state of mind,

they respond positively to all the occurrences in life. Though many

things perceived as difficult or unfair may happen to them, they

don't let those unfavorable incidents interfere with the way they

respond. Courage makes them respond positively. Courage is the

guts and the steel that forms PEP.

The opposite of courage is FEAR False Expectations

Appearing Real. This negative emotion appears because our life

doesn't have enough PEP. It creates anxiety and exaggerates our

dangers. While the dangers may not be real, fear is real. This

negative emotion both poisons and paralyzes us with the negative

energy it possesses. Fear can kill, and thus, we must always choose

courage over fear.

Confidence

Confidence is a positive emotion that quite instantly creates PEP.

Confidence is to do with belief in oneself. It is about trusting one's

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own abilities. The word confidence originates from the Latin

word confidentia, which means firm trust. When one has

confidence in oneself, one is said to have self-confidence.

However, confidence, belief or trust is not something restricted to

one's self alone; it can be placed in others as well.

When one has confidence, one's responses are naturally positive

even when the situation, circumstance or person they are dealing

with is essentially negative. A person with confidence responds

positively.

Lack of confidence welcomes the negative emotion called

hesitation. Hesitation is indecision and doubt in disguise. It

corrodes faith and trust. It causes us to miss opportunities with its

toxic power. Conquer hesitation with confidence and live a life of

PEP!

Passion

Passion is the root of PEP, because it is one emotion that creates all

other strong emotions. One who is passionate can truly love, live

with faith, be inspired and can live with enthusiasm. Therefore,

passion is the root foundation of PEP. However, this positive

emotion if improperly used can lead to great disasters. For instance,


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when love becomes lust and inspiration becomes overconfidence, it

leads to disastrous results. If positively implemented, passion can

create the power that can fuel PEP.

Lack of passion leads one to a state of dispassion, wherein there is

no desire, no life. One who is dispassionate doesn't possess the

energy that can drive PEP forward. Slowly, a poison develops along

with indecision, lethargy and lifelessness. Choose positive passion

as you power your life with PEP.

Inspiration

The word inspiration is born out of the word in-spire, meaning

to create within us a spiraling energy that will arouse our mind to

creative action. Inspiration ensures that we are always in action.

One who is inspired is full of energy, courage and confidence.

Those who want to live with PEP must choose inspiration over

boredom. Boredom drains us and makes us lose all the power that

inspiration creates. A bored person can never respond with PEP, but

will surely make room for negative poisons to fester and destroy

growth. Eliminate boredom and live a life of inspiration and PEP!

Cheerfulness

Do you want to live a life full of PEP? Then, choose cheerfulness

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over depression in your every thought, word and deed.

Cheerfulness eliminates gloom and worry and creates ripples of

happiness in those around us. Cheerfulness destroys the possibility

of NEP and other negative emotions. It is a strong expression of

positive power, joy and bliss. This emotion is far better than its

opposite: depression.

Depression is a killer. It is amongst the most dangerous of NEP and

is born only in the absence of cheer. One who is depressed has no

interest in living, is bored of life and is slowly, but surely, sinking

with NEP. Before depression attacks us increasingly and digs deep

into us, we must create the foundation of cheerfulness and live a life

full of PEP.

Compassion

Compassion is a positive emotion that kills indifference and apathy.

It is born with the sympathy we nurture and express toward others;

it's a sense of care and mercy. People who have compassion

understand other peoples pain and problems and empathize with

them instead of ridiculing them, and this understanding creates a

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There are others who are indifferent toward the problems that their

fellow humans face, they are unconcerned, aloof and detached. This

insensitivity creates negative poison. If you fill your life with

compassion and eliminate indifference, you will notice PEP and its

other positive emotions taking charge of your life.

Optimism

Optimism is about expecting the best possible outcome. An

optimist simply believes that all is going to turn out well. Generally,

an optimist will look at a glass that is half full as half full, whereas a

pessimist will find the same glass half empty.

Optimists do not react with negativity because they expect good

things to happen. They know that if they respond negatively, then

things will not happen the way they want them to. Both optimism

and PEP march in the same direction and work hand in hand; they

both are about believing, hoping and achieving. One cannot have

PEP without optimism, and one cannot be optimistic without PEP!

When optimism is absent, pessimism rules the mind. One is always

apprehensive and lives with doubt and hopelessness. Obviously,

this creates poisonous thoughts and leads us to a poisonous destiny.

Flip over from pessimism to optimism, now!

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Appreciation

Appreciation is the recognition or the highlighting of the good in

someone or something. It is a positive emotion that creates positive

energy. It is magical, since one who receives appreciation becomes

very happy and excited. When we appreciate somebody, we create a

positive aura around us and deposit positive energy within us as

well. I believe that every day we have the choice between

appreciating or condemning someone or something. A positive

person chooses appreciation and uses it as a tool to never lose sight

of PEP.

When PEP is missing and NEP takes charge, one is always

criticizing and condemning. Criticism creates poison because it

focuses on only the negative and ignores the larger positive picture.

Such an attitude can never result in positive energy. To live a life of

positivity, learn to focus on the positive and appreciate others and

yourself instead of concentrating on the negatives and indulging in

criticism.

Enthusiasm

Enthusiasm is born from the Greek word entheos, which means

in God. People who have enthusiasm usually place their trust in


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God. Such people believe in the existence of the power that gave

them life. Enthusiastic people are happy, energetic and always

positive because they live with faith in God.

People who display enthusiasm can never be negative; they always

respond with a positive attitude. Enthusiasm creates a large amount

of positive energy. Once you choose to be enthusiastic and believe

in the divine power, you will joyously accept whatever happens as

the work of the Master Craftsman. Instead of being in denial and

resentful, you will positively accept whatever comes your way with

happiness and a welcoming spirit. Such an approach makes anyone

respond enthusiastically and builds PEP.

Lose enthusiasm and you will see lifelessness entering your

thoughts, feelings and actions. Instead of a positive energy, a

negative poison will rule your life. So choose to be enthusiastic

always. Live with faith, hope and belief in God!

Cumulatively, all the positive emotions discussed in the preceding

text create Positive energy Power or PEP. Let us observe the

working of these positive emotions and attributes and use them to

create PEP in our life.

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By choosing these positive emotions, which then lead to positive

energies, we will be eliminating the negative opposites that maybe

constricting our life. For example, choosing compassion will

eliminate indifference from our life and the many other negatives it

would have produced as its by-products in the course of time.

Similarly, choosing faith will remove doubt and lead to hope,

enthusiasm and love.

Let's recall what all these positive emotions do cumulatively.

Positive emotions create an environment of positive energy. This

positive energy or happy aura we develop, in turn, makes us feel and

think positive. In such a positive environment, it is unlikely that we

will react negatively to people and situations. Therefore, Positive

Energy Power ensures that we continue to plant positive thoughts

and habits through constant positive attitudes and emotions. When

we start living with PEP and eliminate all the negative poisons, we

start the process of being ever positive and convert all our negative

habits into positive ones. All our responses steadily become

positive; so also our thoughts, feelings and actions. PEP gives birth


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to a positive circle, and this will definitely lead us to a positive

destiny!

PEPPEP

POSITIVE

ATTITUDE

POSITIVE

THOUGHT

POSITIVE

FEELINGS

POSITIVE

ACTION

POSITIVE

LIFE

POSITIVE

DESTINY

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CHARACTER

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Chapter 6

Negative Energy Poison

NEP:

What is NEP?

NEP is an acronym for Negative Energy Poison. Just as

positive energy creates power, negative energy creates poison.

How does negative energy create NEP? It paralyzes thought; it

creates hesitation, fear, worry, anger, hate, jealousy, greed, sorrow,

pessimism and doubt amongst other things. All these lead one to

respond negatively. They create an environment of negativity

giving rise to negative thoughts, feelings and actions. NEP or

negative energy poison can never result in any positive action.

We don't realize it, but at times, when we don't fill our life with PEP,

poisonous negative energies enter our life without our knowledge

and lead us to failure and disaster. These negative energies build

negative habits, brick by brick. They capture the mind and take

charge of the thought factory. Cumulatively, they become so

poisonous that they can destroy life. Hence, I call them NEP

Negative Energy Poison.

Generally, negative energy is far more powerful than positive

energy. Negative energy can be lethal because it produces

chemicals and hormones in the body that create depression and

sorrow. People who live with NEP will generally be sad, dejected

and hopeless. It is difficult for them to choose a positive attitude


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because they are surrounded by negative energy, which paralyzes

them.

Slowly but surely, NEP leads people to a life full of sickness and

disease. The sunshine of positive living escapes these people

because negative energy has enslaved them. They seem to be

injected and drugged with the influence of negative emotions.

By now, we have understood that when such negative emotions are

present, it is impossible to think positively. This negativity will be

followed by negative thoughts, feelings and actions. Those who

live with NEP cannot escape from a negative destiny. The poison of

negativity is so strong and powerful that its influence and effect

lasts for a long time and becomes difficult to overcome. What is

needed is a strong antidote of positivity to slowly convert the

negative energy into a positive one. It is definitely possible to

convert it; however, it is not an easy journey. It can only happen

when every negative situation is confronted with PEP and changed

from the negative to the positive.

Some of the negative energies that create NEP are revenge,

jealously, ego, greed, anger, worry, cruelty, hostility, agitation,

disappointment, agony, frustration and guilt. Let us understand the

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negative energies that create poison in our life and also how they

lead us to disaster.

Revenge

Revenge is an action taken in response to an injury received or

perceived as unfairness. It is a negative reaction and attitude that

makes a wrongdoing justifiable. Unfortunately, revenge can never

deliver peace, because it is a negative poison. Only forgiveness can

undo the wrong done to us. When we choose revenge, we fail to

realize its nature and instead choose to house a poison within us that

constantly emits toxic fumes. Instead of getting even with the one

who has wronged us, revenge is sure to suffocate us and steal our

joy and happiness. It is a negative poison and can never create a

positive power, no matter what. Although one will feel an

immediate sense of achievement, after executing this negative

emotion, one experiences a sense of regret. Due to the poison that

revenge carries, one will wonder why one ever chose to take

revenge in the first place.

Revenge is NEP. It will lead us to negative thoughts, feelings and

actions. The only way to flip over to positivity is to replace revenge

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Jealousy

Jealousy is another negative emotion, which emerges in response to

others and their possessions. When one feels a lack of something

and wants what others have or when one painfully desires others'

advantages, one becomes jealous. Jealous individuals focus more

on what others have rather than on what they themselves possess

and get upset. For a jealous person, the grass is always greener on

the other side. Due to jealousy, people react with negativity. They

may have enough to be happy, but instead of enjoying what they

possess, they lose their happiness because they are more concerned

about what others have. Jealousy, therefore, robs away one's joy and

happiness.

Why choose to become unhappy by craving for others' possessions?

Why not rather choose to count one's own blessings and vibrate

positive energy. The resentment caused by jealousy or envy for

others' good fortune leaves behind the poisonous influence of

negativity in one's life.

Jealousy is NEP and can never create positive energy. To flip over

from this NEP to PEP, one must focus on contentment and

fulfillment. These emotions will defuse jealousy and lead us to

think positively.

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Ego

Ego is one of the strongest negative emotions. It is born from the

nominative Latin word I that translates to I, myself. It is an

inflated feeling of pride in oneself and a feeling of superiority over

others. Egoistic people feel high and mighty and look down upon

others with disdain; they don't respect others. Whenever they react

to something, they do so by only keeping themselves in mind. It is

only I, me, and myself for such individuals.

Ego is a negative emotion that kills the positive emotion of humility

that is needed to live a positive life. Humble people are able to

attract cooperation and get things done. To succeed and live a life of

joy and bliss, we must learn to give up ego and choose humility.

Greed

Greed is an excessive desire to acquire and possess more than what

one needs. Greedy people are never satisfied; they continue to

acquire and hoard only to show off to others rather than enjoying the

acquisitions themselves. This selfish and negative emotion makes

one blind to the reality of life, thus making one react negatively.

Though greedy people have enough, they behave as if they have

very little, and their actions and reactions clearly reflect their

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consumes one's thoughts, feelings and actions thus displaying

negativity all the time. Greedy people forget their need and focus on

greed.

Instead of greed, if the PEP of contentment was chosen, one would

attract far more positive energy, love and affection. Nobody likes to

be with a greedy person. Thus, we must learn to flip over and be

content by attracting PEP into our life.

Anger

Anger is a strong negative emotion that emerges out of displeasure,

frustration and helplessness. When something doesn't happen as

per one's expectations or when one has no control over important

matters, then one becomes angry with somebody or something.

Anger creates poison within; it raises one's blood pressure and

emits venomous thoughts, words and deeds. The strong feeling of

anger creates an environment of hostility.

When one is angry, it is natural for one to react negatively. Anger

takes away the power to think and reason from an individual. An

angry person is highly emotional, volatile and mostly unpredictable

at times. Being highly volatile and reactive, the only way an angry

person can react is by being negative, causing pain to oneself and

others too. Thus, anger is considered to be the most dangerous of all

the terrors lurking inside one's being.

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It is sure to burn one's heart and soul far more than it could ever hurt

the one who is being targeted. One can choose to continue the

negative influence of anger by either suppressing it, or expressing it

or converting it into a positive power through forgiveness. Angry

people are people who are extremely impatient as well.

To eliminate anger, choose calmness, the PEP that can overcome

the NEP, anger. Calmness, in turn, will attract many other positive

emotions that create Positive Energy Power.

Worry

Worry is the most commonly found negative emotion. Most people

worry. Worry consists of an uneasy feeling; it is a troubled concern

or fear that strangles and chokes a person from the inside. It creates

anxiety and destroys the ability to think. Hence, worry causes

unhappiness.

A worried person is like a rocking chair going up and down but

getting nowhere. The thoughts of people who worry never progress.

They worry about what might happen in the future rather than

enjoying what is in the present. Worry can never have a positive

consequence, as it is a pure unadulterated poison that can only kill.

Instead of choosing worry, which is a negative poison, why not

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emotion that can give extreme calmness, and with it the mind can

truly think and introspect.

Cruelty

Cruelty is the lack of kindness, compassion and mercy. It leads to

behavior that is brutal in manner, while inflicting pain and suffering

upon others. This negative poison starts with a lack of

understanding that turns into indifference and finally peaks with

cruelty. The poison of cruelty makes one's thought and actions

barbaric.

One who is cruel does not realize how negative their actions are. At

first, the cruel thought lead to cruel actions, until slowly they

become a habit. One emits the poison of cruelty without even

realizing it.

It is better to choose the positive emotion of kindness as kindness is

sure to give us joy and success and build PEP than allow cruelty to

destroy us.

Hostility

This negative emotion reveals symptoms of one being very

unfriendly. It almost makes one feel that others are their enemies,

and this emotion vibrates ill will. Thus, it emits poison and is most

unwelcome. Instead of hostility, if one flips over to the positive

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emotion of harmony, one could live a life of joy and bliss. Harmony

welcomes positive thoughts and people, as it expresses a

willingness to work toward compatibility.

Agitation

This negative emotion creates extreme disturbance in the mind

leading to negative thoughts, feelings and actions. An agitated

person cannot react positively.

Only when agitation is replaced with serenity can positive power be

attracted. Serenity on the other hand, eliminates all stress and

turbulence in our mind, thus creating Positive Energy Power.

Disappointment

When one develops a feeling of being let down, one builds the

emotion of disappointment in one's life, not knowing that this will

lead them to NEP. A feeling of being let down along with dashed

hopes and crashed expectations results in dissatisfaction. These

generate NEP. While it is true that we often feel disappointed, we

must realize that this feeling grows into a strong negative emotion.

We must desist it, and instead of being disappointed, learn to

develop the positive emotion gratification.

Gratification will dissolve the poison that disappointment created,

generating PEP.


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Agony

Agony is another strong NEP. This intense feeling of suffering,

torment and torture gives us tremendous pain.

If only we learned to develop the habit of being blissful, this

positive emotion would transform our life, creating power and

defeating the pain that agony brings.

Frustration

Frustration is the result of feeling defeated or extremely

disappointed when expectations are not met. Sure, many of our

plans in life will not materialize, but why should one be annoyed

and frustrated creating further poison that one has to deal with?

Is it not sensible rather to flip over from frustration to peace?

Choosing the positive emotion of peace dissolves frustration. It is a

choice that we must make to choose to be peaceful or frustrated.

Guilt

Guilt is one of the strongest poisonous emotions. It is born out of

committing an offence or mistake and feeling extremely negative

about it. It pricks us from within, releasing negative poison.

Of what use is it to create this NEP! Nobody is perfect and if you

have made a mistake, use the positive emotion of innocence to

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humbly accept your error and eliminate guilt, which is only

counter-productive. This is the only way to pass from negative

thinking to positive thinking.

All the negative emotions discussed in the preceding text create

Negative Energy Poison or NEP. Imagine living a life with all these

negative poisons! The very thought of anger, hate, jealousy, worry,

revenge, indifference and doubt creates panic in the mind. How

could one fill one's life with such negative energy? Of what good

can these emotions be? Can they lead us to any positive

consequence?

While positive energy has power, negative energy is poisonous.

Negative energy creates a toxic environment in our mind and body.

The body becomes listless and lifeless and instead of being

inspired, we become depressed.

We have all experienced what it feels like to be criticized unjustly,

to be condemned and treated with cruelty. How can this poison

motivate us to live happily? NEP is negative and cannot lead to

anything positive. When the mind is thinking of revenge, it is

consumed, controlled and constricted, unable to do anything else

but produce strong negative fumes that will make us feel negative

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hopelessness and know how these can shroud a visible opportunity

in a cloud of uncertainty and doubt. While the positive power gives

courage to act, its negative counterpart creates hesitation and

paralyzes action.

PEP creates courage, but NEP creates fear. The former creates hope,

while the latter creates despair. People with PEP have faith in their

faith, but the ones with NEP believe in their doubts.

It doesn't take time to identify those who carry PEP in contrast with

those who carry NEP. The visible signs of joy and cheer are smiles.

They symbolize PEP. Sorrow expressed with a frown reveals NEP

instantly. Can you imagine living a life of hatred and worry without

any enthusiasm for anything? You would end up being dull, lifeless

and bored. Can this create any power to progress? Of course not!

These are sure to poison us into inaction and lethargy. NEP ensures

a negative attitude, produces negative thoughts, generates negative

feelings, creates negative actions and builds negative habits. NEP

will surely lead to a negative character and a negative life.

Does it make any sense choosing to live without trust, while being

confused and de-motivated? Will this catapult us into an orbit of

success? Rather, these negative poisons will enslave us. All the

negative energies mentioned are destructive and some can

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devastate us. Surely, we have all experienced negative emotions

such as anger and its power to create a terror within, fear and its

paralysis, indifference and its freezing chillness, cynicism and its

vicious fumes and ego and its singular loneliness.

No doubt NEP can be terribly destructive! Each constituent of this

negative poison is extremely toxic and lethal. Some may destroy

instantly, while others may act as a slow poison, but cumulatively

NEP will kill whatever PEP creates. Do we still want to choose

NEP? Would anyone still prefer to fill one's life with these negative

energies? If it were a choice, would one adopt these poisons to be

the energy of their life?

Flip over from NEP to PEP

I believe one requires Willpower to turn ones life over from NEP to

PEP. These can be visualized as two sides of the same coin. We must

make a choice and flip from NEP to PEP the positive side. To

change from NEP to PEP, it is important to introspect and check

whether our mind is producing negative thoughts. If we realize that

we are producing negative thoughts, we need to use our willpower

to stop this NEP from being produced. This may need grit and

practice; but once we make it a habit to flip over from NEP to PEP,

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Whenever a situation of NEP confronts us, our willpower should

react and respond with a positive attitude. PEP will conquer NEP if

we develop this strong willpower. It needs practice and

commitment, but it is not difficult. We must consciously choose to

be positive. If we don't, NEP will arrive, occupy our mind and

destroy us. NEP is poisonous. It can transform positive power into

negative poison destroying our joy and bliss and all the positive

emotions that we could otherwise choose to live with. Therefore,

we must become champions in flipping over from NEP to PEP!

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NEPNEPNEP

NEGATIVEATTITUDE

NEGATIVE

THOUGHT

NEGATIVE

FEELINGS

NEGATIVE

ACTION

NEGATIVELIFE

NEGATIVEDESTINY

NEGATIVECHARACTER

NEGATIVEHABITS

A man who bought a new shiny car

came out to the porch to admire it.

To his astonishment, his 4-year-old

son was scratching the car with a

stone. Enraged, the man ran to his

son, screaming in anger, took the

little boys hand and hammered it as

punishment.

After the man cooled down, he took his son to the hospital.

However, the child lost his fingers due to multiple fractures.

Devastated, the man went home and kicked the car

many times. In sadness, he knelt down in front of

the car. He took a look at the scratches, the child

had written " LOVE YOU DAD.

The father could never forgive himself for the rest

of his Life!

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Chapter 7

My PEP Story

What better way could there be to endorse PEP than sharing my

personal story of how PEP transformed just about every facet of my

life? That's why I call this chapter My PEP Story. This story

started when I was a teenager, bubbling with the positive energy

derived from reading all kinds of books on positive thinking gifted

to me mostly by my father. It built in me a storehouse of positive

energy, which I did not understand initially. But I was charged and

excited with this unstoppable positive energy. Authors like James

Allen, Norman Vincent Peale, Dale Carnegie, Napoleon Hill,

Robert Schuller and J.P. Vaswani further influenced my thoughts

and feelings and put me into action.

When I started my positive journey of life, I attempted to think

positively. I used to read positive books, use positive

autosuggestions and mingle with positive people; all these

activities filled me with a lot of positive power. However, a few

years later, I discovered the power of PMA or Positive Mental

Attitude. I realized that I could only think positive if I had a positive

attitude, but I did not know how I could develop a positive attitude.

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explained to me how one could definitely and incessantly think

positive. It is only now, two decades later, that I discovered PEP and

I realize, in hindsight, how my story had PEP in it all the way. When

I started, I was positive as if by chance, but today, I am positive by

choice.

The positive emotions of faith, hope and courage made me start an

advertising agency at the age of 16, and by the age of 18 I had

enough earnings to buy my own car. My friends found it weird

because they were still engrossed in activities like studying, playing

and enjoying life. My positive energy gave me enormous amounts

of focus and direction. It gave me the confidence to start my success

journey before others could even think about it or plan for it.

Normally, a youngster would be paralyzed with fear, but I found

myself confident and full of faith. Instead of being uncertain, I was

self-assured, patient and passionate, only due to my optimism.

Instead of questioning myself, Can I do it? I would expectantly

tell myself, Yes, I can do it! And this made things happen. The

positive energy in me created positive thoughts through a positive

attitude, which then eliminated all negative options and

possibilities. I was so positive that I would declare, Nothing is

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My PEP Story

impossible. I have removed the word impossible from my

vocabulary!

My success as a teenager was only the beginning of my PEP story.

From then onwards, it was one success after another. When I turned

20, I collaborated with my father to launch the retail brand Kids

Kemp. At all stages of my early years, my father was more than

just a parent. He was a good friend and a guiding light, who helped

build my positive energy and emotions that supported me

positively. There arose a time that called for us to let go off a brand

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