Relationships, Love &

Happiness

Preface

Suicide rate is higher if you live alone We depend on relationships Relationships are the most important

source for happiness

Relationships with pets Pet relationships should be a model

for human relationships Unconditional love

lowers your blood pressure reduces the level of stress hormones increases your level of oxytocin

Human relationships We are animals too We need to touch and to be touched

To feel bonded, touch!

Without Oxytocin your life would have been so much different!

Don‘t play mind games!

Animals are honest straightforward uninhibited

Inhibitions make other people think they’re seeing reality

when, in fact, they see illusion make liars of us

Learn to see emotions

Visibility of emotions Don‘t approach others with

hostility suspicion

Matching body language not too obviously

Understand characteristic differences to widen your circle of friends

Living with „the one“

m/f benefit equally by splitting up Alternative: stay together It‘s your right to be happy If you stay together, you commit

yourself to build a relationship that makes both of you happy

learn something new about your partner

Avoid the projection trap

Don‘t project your fantasies onto your partner

„Walking on air“ feeling just can‘t last

Namely projecting onto the relationship raises a monument of a perfect relationship

Rules for walking on air

Comes from the chemical PEA

Follow the following rules to keep the ‚walking on air‘-feeling!

Rules for walking on air

#1: Accept your partner‘s love! #2: Accept the way your partner is! #3: Accept your partner‘s growth! #4: Accept two people are different! #5: Always remain curious! #6: Always give support! #7: Always build your partner up!

Rules for walking on air

#8: Talk, talk, talk! #9: Don‘t make comparisons! #10: Don‘t hold onto negative

thoughts or emotions! #11: Provide plenty of physical

contact! #12: Have plenty of sex! #13: Do something happy together

every day!

10 things to remember

Relationships are the single most important source of human happiness

If you’re lonely, consider getting a pet Love people the way you love your pet

– unconditionally. Oxytocin binds you to other people –

the more touching, the more bonding. Don’t play games in your relationships.

10 things to remember

Push your love and happiness ahead of you so everyone can feel it.

Don’t be judgemental. Resolve to make your relationship

happy The union of two people involving the

collapse of ego boundaries is the greatest happiness.

Don’t project your fantasies onto your partner but love the reality