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REUNITE, READJUST AND REDISCOVER REUNITE, READJUST AND REDISCOVER BRIEFBRIEF

Presented by the MAG-39 Religious Ministry TeamPresented by the MAG-39 Religious Ministry Team

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MAG 39 CHAPLAINSMAG 39 CHAPLAINS

Chaplain J.N. Saville (Evangelical Covenant) Commander, U.S. Navyjeff.saville@usmc.mil

Located across the street fm Air Station Classrm /Hot Dog stand

During business hours: 760-725-8180After hours: Call the Duty Chaplain 760-725-5617/5618

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“ “They also serve They also serve who stand and wait”who stand and wait”

John Milton (1608-1674)

THANK YOUTHANK YOUFOR FOR

YOUR SERVICE YOUR SERVICE TO YOUR COUNTRY!TO YOUR COUNTRY!

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Chaplain’s Chaplain’s Two Main Topics:Two Main Topics:

1. Emotional Cycle of Deployment2. Post Combat/Operational Stress

Will identify resources for you

You should have handouts already

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EMOTIONAL CYCLE OF EMOTIONAL CYCLE OF DEPLOYMENTDEPLOYMENT

• Stage One: Anticipating the Loss• Stage Two: Detachment and Withdrawal• Stage Three: Emotional Disorganization• Stage Four: Recovery and Stabilization• Stage Five: Anticipation of Homecoming• Stage Six: Renegotiation of the Roles• Stage Seven: Reintegration & Stabilization

Conceptual framework from Logan, Kathleen V.,

“The Emotional Cycle of Deployment”, Proceedings, February 1987

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STAGE FIVE-ANTICIPATING OF STAGE FIVE-ANTICIPATING OF HOMECOMINGHOMECOMING

•Every deployment has an ending!•Starts about six weeks before end of deployment•Lots of activity (new dress, spruce up yard, haircuts)•Tension builds•Individual and family changes•Expectations•Changes vs. stayed the same•Prepare children•Preparation to become a couple/family again

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STAGE SIX-REUNIONSTAGE SIX-REUNION•Overcoming jet lag—1 day for every time zone / hr •Becoming a couple/family•Reunion day to 6 weeks•Strangers when we meet-intimacy grows•Different strokes for different folks•“Hold” the family reunion please•Time alone and time together•Quiet time / noisy time•“I’m on the outside looking in”•Resuming the marital and parental roles•Responding to changes

Hey Mom/Dad I grew up!•Negotiating changes in the marital and parenting roles•Goal is not to have a PERFECT reunion, but a GOOD reunion—achievable for everyone

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STAGE SEVEN- STAGE SEVEN- REINTEGRATION & STABILIZAIONREINTEGRATION & STABILIZAION

•6 TO 12 WEEKS AFTER REUNION•Settling in•Our car, our house, our kids, our family•A functioning unit again—another “new normal”•Stuck- Get help now

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RESOURCES TO HELP YOURESOURCES TO HELP YOU

GREEN SHEET:GREEN SHEET:• CHAPLAIN CONFIDENTIALITY• WORSHIP OPPORTUNITIES ON BASE• COUNSELING OPTIONS

BLUE SHEET:BLUE SHEET:• PREP (PREVENTION & RELATIONSHIP ENHANCEMENT

PROGRAM) • CREDO MARRIAGE ENRICHMENT RETREAT• WISDOM FOR MARRIED COUPLES

WHITE SHEET:WHITE SHEET:• FREE FOOD PROGRAM

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COMBAT / OPERATION STRESS COMBAT / OPERATION STRESS BROCHUREBROCHURE

STRESSSTRESS IS PART OF NAVY/MARINE CORPS LIFE

‘IN THEATER’ STRESSES ARE NOT ONLY DUE TO ACTUAL COMBAT, BUT ALSO DUE TO CHALLENGES OF:

IT ALL ADDS UP!IT ALL ADDS UP!

• Working where there is potential danger • Working in uncomfortable conditions (heat, cold)• Working long hours every day for months (lack of sleep)• “Groundhog Day” syndrome (drab colors, same people, same place, same routine…) • Knowing your mistake can cost someone their life• Loss/significant injury of fellow Marine/Sailor

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ChallengesChallengesfor Servicemembers Returningfor Servicemembers Returning

to Garrison and Home Life to Garrison and Home Life• Giving up the security of being surrounded by their buddies 24/7• Giving up the security of being armed 24/7• Learning that trash on the roadside back home is

not going to explode as you drive by• Learning, not just in your head but in your heart,

that people on the street do not want to kill you• Learning to adjust to the slower pace and lower

excitement level of life at home• Relearning how to be around others without swearing or being offensive• Learning how to do the things you miss (like drinking, driving, or sex) in safe moderation• Figuring out how much to tell family and friends

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ADVERSE STRESS REACTIONS: (see brochure list)

•CAN HAPPEN EVEN WITH EXPERIENCED WARRIORS

•CAN HAPPEN AS A RESULT OF MULTIPLE WARTIME DEPLOYMENTS

•DO NOT MEAN YOUR MARINE/SAILOR IS WEAK

•USUALLY DIMINISH QUICKLY—WITHIN A FEW WEEKS OR A COUPLE OF MONTHS.

•CAN ALSO LINGER OR WORSEN… IF STUCK, GET HELP (see brochure for suggestions)

COMBAT / OPERATION STRESS COMBAT / OPERATION STRESS BROCHUREBROCHURE

CONT

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DON’T WORRY, HAVE FAITH!DON’T WORRY, HAVE FAITH!

“Courage is fear that has said its prayers.”

Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything; tell God your needs, and don’t forget to thank him for his answers. (Philippians 4:6 The Living Bible)

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Brief Prayer Brief Prayer for for

Safe Returns Safe Returns and and

Happy Happy ReunionsReunions

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QUESTIONS?

During business hours: 760-725-8180

After hours: Call the Duty Chaplain760-725-5617/5618

Chaplain available after meeting concludes