sherrys guide

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TABLE OF CONTENTS

Appendix ......................................................................................................................................4

What is Sherrys Self-Guided Guide ...................................................................................................... 5

How Do I Move Beyond Skin Color Bias ................................................................................................ 6

Maximizing Your Power Rules to Live By .............................................................................................. 6

Rule One

Housekeeping Items .......................................................................................................................... 7-8

Know Thy-Self Confused About Self

The Parking Lot

Work With Objectives ......................................................................................................................9-10

Rule Two

Pre-Guide

The Three Ps ....................................................................e13

Rule Three

The SMART Way ............................................................................................................................ 10-13

You Don't Have to be Light, Bright, an

ItsOkay for a African American to Know His/Her place, in Society

The Urgent/Important Matrix ....................................................................................................... 14-19

Rule Four

Can't Change The Past

Maximizing the Power of Your Journal.......................................................................................... 19-20


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Rule Five

Why Procrastinate ............................................................................................................... 21-24

Ways to Overcome Procrastination ..................................................................................... 21-24

Dont Wait for Life to Start Its an

Emergency.21-24

Rule Six

Strength, ToughnessWhen the Storm Hits ........................................................................... 25-29

Creating a Plan ..................................................................................................................... 25-29

African American Crisis

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Lessons Learned .................................................................................................................... 25-29

Rule Seven

Don't Jump Off Roof .............................................................................................................. 29-30

Dealing ................................................................................................................................. 29-30

Rule Eight

When to Organize Get the Bull-Clutter Out! ......................................................................... 30-33

Life Full of Challenges.Keeping Control ............................................................................. 30-33

The Importance of Challenges .............................................................................................. 30-33

Sting In your

Life32

Rule Nine

Never Let Anyone See You

Sweat..What?....................................................................................................................34-36


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Rule Ten

Feel Good About Your-Self Keep

Control37

Making Sure the Questions Were Worthwhile Patience is Virtue..................................... 37-40

Rule Eleven

Feel Good About Your-Self

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Forever Rule

Let Go!!!!!Words from the Wise .................................................................................................. 41-42


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Preface

What is Sherrys Self Guided GuideTo Help You Move Beyond Skin Color Bias?

Welcome to my personal Self-guided guide, a completely new experience!

My Self-Guided Guide offers you top-quality material that is customizable, user-friendly, educational, and fun.

This is my own private guide of moments of my life I share with you. I want you to know who I really am on the

side, so each and every time I found something new to share about our skin tone/color I did. This guide provides you,

aterials that is educational, fun for every person. All you simply need to do is prepare to share!!!!

est of all, my Guide truly was created from the heart This guide is created in Word and PowerPoint. (Most other wordocessing and presentation programs support these formats, too.) This means that you can customize the content, add your

go, change the color scheme, and easily print and e-mail to others to share this material. The name of this game is share,

are, and shareEnjoy.

How Do you Customize Your Own Guide ?

Customizing your own guide is easy. It is okay to use Sherrys Guide as your own guide,just create and think about

our problem. This is particularly convenient if you want to customized and add to your guide your thoughts as you go on a

aily basis, or additional information. You can, also use all of your word features, including text formatting and editing tools

uch as cutting and pasting).

Learning is a treasure that will follow its

owner everywhere.

Sherrys Proverb


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Maximizing Your Rules To Live By:

I have just one more thing for you before you get started. This Guide is built for people, by a person like me, so I

ought I would share some of my tips with you, to help you create an engaging, unforgettable experience for your-self.

MAKE IT FUN AND INTERACTIVE.Most people do not enjoy sitting and listening to someone else talk for hours at a time.

Make use of the tips in this guide and your own experience to help keep your interest, engaged yourself. Mix up the

questions to include your own questions, small group work, large group discussions, and mini-get togethers ifyoure all

in it like that.

MAKE IT RELEVANTYOUCAN BEmuch more receptive to questions if you understand why you are learning it and how you

can apply it in your daily life. Most importantly, you may want to know how it will benefit you and make your life easier.Take every opportunity to tie what you are learning to real life it can only make the experience so much easier.

KEEP AN OPEN MIND.SOMEpeople find that they learn something each time they read. If you go into a rule with that

attitude, you will find that there can be an amazing two-way flow of information between the guides. Enjoy it, learn

from it, and make the most of it in your life.

ou Know What Time It Is, Time for the fun!


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Rule

One: Know Thy-Self

Getting Started

nowing Thy-Self requires time often it begins with setting goals. Goals are recorded and may be broken down into a plan, o

simple list. Then rated based on urgency and importance, priorities assigned, and set. Knowing that you are amazing and

at you can get through this is going to make it more than satisfying for you. Knowing what to feel when it comes to you is

e key. Believe it or not misunderstanding you is a common problem that most do not want to face. When you look at you

e you confused. You know what you feel and see, but you are still confused this leaves you so confused about self. To all

frican Americans brothers, sisters who are intelligent, well educated, stressed out; miserable you need to knowThy Self.

ease let Sherrys guidetake you through the process that will result in a plan with a list or activities to help you move

eyond. Sometime routine tasks are often given less focus to free up your time to work on self-using this guide will

ontribute to you making an important choice which will be part of your goals. Its your personal CREDO.

his entire process is supported by a skill set that should include personal motivation, delegation skills, tools, and how to

anage crisis in your life. Well cover all this and more in this guide.

Housekeeping

Take a few moments to cover basic housekeeping items.

If you need an opening for an excuse to participant, open the guide to begin during the day.

Take ime to WORK, PLAY, THINK, READ,

PRAY, LAUGH, LISTEN,

DREAM, WORSHIP, LOVE..sherry turner


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Go to the bathroom to take a break.

Turn off your cell phone or at least turn to vibrate. If you must take a call be fast about it no time to spare.

Take this time to encourage yourself to think of questions and make this an interactive time with yourself.

Write the words Respect, Confidentiality, and Practice on a piece of paper and tape it to the wall refrigerator. Knowthat in order to get the most out of this guide, you must read each step, explore new ideas, and make mistakes. After

all, thats how we learn!


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The Parking Lot

x Explain the concept of The Parking Lot

The Parking Lot is a visible place where you will park ideas that arise which are not on your schedule, may be off

topic, or are better addressed outside of the norm.

Make it Work

Suggestions for You:

1.

If you are alone, working with a group, you may wish to get a recorder to park items as you are thinking.

2.

Its a good idea to note thequestion along with the parked item.

3.

Items noted on the parking lot can be useful to you in your future parked items.


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herrys Self-Guided Guide Objectives

esearch has consistently demonstrated that when clear goals are associated with learning, it occurs more easily and rapidly.

ith that in mind, lets review our goals for today.

the end of this Guide, you should be able to:

Plan and prioritize each dayto except yourself in your own skin tone/color

Overcome procrastination quickly and easily

Handle crises effectively and quickly

Organize your time to make better use of time

Except yourself for who you are in your own skin tone more efficiently

Use rituals to make your life run smoother

Plan questions for self-more appropriately and effectively

e encouraged to write your own questions objectives in your guide that you can live by.

Pre-Guide

The purpose of the Pre-Guide is to get you thinking about the time management

trategies you are already using and where you need to improve.

Ask You:

hat are your biggest time wasters?

What are you currently doing to manage your time?


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What Will You Do to Make a Difference to start excepting who you are? Knowing you, yourself in your own skin

tone/color?

What did you learn from reading Sherrys Guide if anythingwhat would it be?

ake a moment to discuss these questions and note answers on some of the room provided. Try to come to a consensus on

me of the questions and answers. Email sherry [email protected]
mailto:[email protected]:[email protected]:[email protected]:[email protected]


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ule Two: You dont have to be light, bright, and damn near White to Set SMART Goalsetting Goalsis critical to being effective. It is one of the most important life skills that, African American people never learn

ow to do properly. Sherrys Self-Guide explains how to use the SMART goal it will help you to move beyond skin color bias.

he SMART goal it is a fool proof goal that can be used in every area of your life, including, physical, personal development,

lationships, or spiritual. According to book Secret, fewer than 3% of people have clear, written goals, and a plan for getting

ere. Setting some will put you ahead!

esearch states that some people blame everything that goes wrong in their life on something or someone else. They take

e role of a victim and they give all their power and control away. Successful people instead dedicate themselves towards

king responsibility for their lives, no matter what the unforeseen. A set of timeless wisdom that can help every African

merican accomplish exactly what he/she sets out to achieve in any realm of his/her life. Personal and avoiding pitfalls that

ight teach you among others. Or uncontrollable events. Live in the present: the past cannot be changed, and the future is

e direct result of what you do right now! There is no need to be colorblind..

he Three Ps

etting meaningful, goals is a step toward achieving your dreams. Setting and achieving goals can help you accomplish all

ou'll need to achieve all. It is also important to make sure that all of your goals unleash the power of the three P's:

The bad news is that time flies.

The good news is that you are the pilot.

Tamara Turner


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POSITIVE: that's not boring"? Goals should be positive, so they help you feel good about yourself and what you're

trying to accomplish. A better alternative might be this: "study this guide so you can help other African Americans

with problems someday."

PERSONAL: must be personal. Must reflect your own dreams and values, those of everyone else, family comes also

When crafting your statement, always use the word I in thesentence to brand it as your own. When your goals are

personal, you'll be more motivated to succeed and take greater pride in your accomplishments.

POSSIBLE: yes.Consider what's possible and within your control. Anything is possible if you are realistic if you're

struggling. You might also pursue volunteer work that would strengthen yourself.


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ule Three:

ts Okay for an AfricanAmerican to know his/her place in Society

s Okay for an African American to know his/her place,in society. You just should not stay there. Damm!!!! A smart African

merican takes full credit for doing exactly what he/she has to do. Management is about self-more than just managing your

me; it is about managing in relation to time. It is about setting and taking charge. It means changing habits that cause us to

aste time. It means being willing to experiment with different ideas to enable you to find the best way to make maximum

e of self.

he 80/20 Rule

he 80/20 rule, known as Paretos Principle, states that 80% of your results come from only 20% of your actions. You will find

at the 80/20 principle is pretty much right on with most things in your life. For most people, it really comes down to

nalyzing what you are spending your time on. Are you focusing in on the 20% of activities that produce 80% of the results in

our life?

timated Time 5 minutes

opic Objective Become familiar with Paretos principle.

Vincent Thomas


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opic Summary 80% of your results come from only 20% of your actions.

ecommended ActivityAsk the group to think about the icebreaker this morning. Did the 80/20 rule

seem to come into effect?

eview Questions How can we use the 80/20 rule to help us plan our goals and our time?

he Urgent/Important Matrix

Means being effective as well as efficient. Managing time effectively, and achieving the things that you want to achieve,

eans spending your time on things that are important and not just urgent. To do this, you need to distinguish clearly

etween what is urgent and what is important:

IMPORTANT: These are activities that lead to the achieving your goals and have the greatest impact on your life.

URGENT: These activities demand immediate attention, but are often associatedwith someone elses goals rather

than our own.

his concept, coined the Eisenhower Principle, is said to be how former US President Dwight Eisenhower organized his tasks.

was rediscovered and brought into the mainstream as the Urgent/Important Matrix by Stephen Covey in his 1994 business

assic, The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People. The Urgent/Important Matrix is a powerful way of organizing tasks based

n priorities. Using it helps you overcome the natural tendency to focus on urgent activities, so that you can have time to

cus on what's truly important. You!!!!


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he Urgent/Important Matrix:


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URGENT/IMPORTANT: Activities in this area relate to dealing with critical issues as they arise and meeting significant

commitments. Perform now.

IMPORTANT/BUT NOT URGENT:These success-oriented tasks are critical to achieving goals. Plannext.

URGENT/BUT NOT IMPORTANT:These chores do not move you forward toward your own goals.Manage by delaying

them, cutting them short and rejecting requests from others. Postpone chores.

NOT URGENT/NOT IMPORTANT:These trivial interruptions are just a distraction, and should be avoided if possible.

However, be careful not to mislabel things like time with family and recreational activities as not important.Avoid

distractions altogether.


opic Objective To understand the difference between important/urgent.

opic

Can placed into one of four groups:

Urgent /important

Important/ not urgent

Urgent/

Important Crisis

Problems

Deadlines

Important/ But

Not Urgent Opportunities

Progress

High value

Long term

Urgent/ But NotImportant

Maintenance

Routine Questions

Not Urgent /NotImportant

Trivia


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Urgent/not important

Not urgent/ not important

ems paper

t List

uestionsWhat are the four categories of the Urgent/Important Process? Space

provided Below.


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ule Four:

Cant Change the Past.

Be ssertive

An African American never let others see him/her sweat. Stay calm, cool and collective

t all times. You cant change the past!!

Lets get cracking!!!!

he hallmark of being successful is being consistently cool, calm and collective each

ay. Many people use a plan to motivate themselves. Having a plan and committing to it

an help you stay focused on the priorities. You are more likely to get thingsccomplished if you write down your plans.

Tee says Life is short we have not too

much time for the hearts..


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ule Five:

ont Wait for Life to Start Tackle Procrastination

smart African American cant just sit on the porch and wait for life to

start; they will

cept who they are. They will accept issues of race, color, accept self quite procrastination delaying task that should be a

iority. To overcome procrastination and tackle the important actions that have the biggest positive impact in your life is a

allmark of the most successful people.

I am a great believer in luck, I know the

harder I work, the more I am blessed.

Vincent Thomas


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Why We Procrastinate About Skin Tone

here are many reasons why we tend to procrastinate, including:

No clear thoughts

Inadequate (time, money, information, thoughts, loneliness, just plain ole mean.)

Dont know how to begin

Overwhelming, Job lose,

No passion for doing anything

Fear of failure or success

Relationship issues

Marital problems

Procrastination exercise


opic Understand the reasons that you procrastinate.

opic People procrastinate for different reasons. Its important for AfricanAmericans to understand what their reasons are for talking about Skin Tone.

ems

paper

pencil

ecommended Activity

Why We Procrastinate:

Draw a line down the middle of the sheet of paper. Label one side Causes

and the other side Solutions. Ask yourself to think of reasons why you

procrastinate and list them on the paper. After a few minutes, ask yourselfwhat are ways to overcome these barriers, list theme in the Solutions

column. List items that are relevant to you in your plan.

t Save time, you can pre-prepare the paper.

ories to Share Procrastination is the thief of time. Share a story why you are in denial..


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Ways to Overcome Procrastination about Skin Tone

our ability to get over Procrastination is important to you getting a clear mindset, priorities and getting the process finished

uickly. As you develop to overcome procrastination issues will simply fade away.

ere are some ways to overcome Procrastination.

DELETE IT. Dont doit at all? Consider the 80/20 rule; maybe it doesnt need to be done in the first place.

DILIGENCE. If it is important, ask yourself if its really something that youmust get done? Why are you doing it in the

first place? Know your boundaries and ask if it is part of your responsibilities toward your-self Diligence is the answer

DO IT NOW. Postponing will create feelings of stress. Do it as early as possible.

ASK FOR ADVICE. Asking for advice from a trusted person, coach can give you some insight on where to start and thesteps for completing.

CHOP IT UP. Break it down all the way down, make milestones, and then into steps. As my mama one said, Break it

down into the ridiculous. Huge things dont look as big when you chop it down as small as you can.

OBEY THE 5MINUTE RULES. To reduce the procrastination, each should take no more than 5 minutes to complete.

GIVE YOURSELF A REWARD. Reward yourself, I surely believe doing things on time. It will provide positive insight;

motivate you toward your goals of becoming color free.

REMOVE DISTRACTIONS. You need to have a positive environment at all time that is conducive to getting things done.Remove any distractions.


opic To identify some general ways to overcome procrastination.

opic

1.

Delete it

2.

Diligence

3.

Do it now

4.

Ask for advice

5.

Chop it up

6.

Obey the 5 minute rule

7.

Have clear thoughts

8.

Give yourself a reward

9.

Remove distractions


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ecommended ListCompleted Why We Procrastinate activity from the previous process guide

recommended.

emsReview the solutions you came up with in the last activity. How can these

ideas be applied?


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ule Six:

trength, Toughness.

In a crisis, be aware of the danger.

Sherry Turner


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ith better planning, a smart African American has enough strength, toughness and will to find a way to see yourself

rough. However, you cant plan for everything, so in this rule you have to have the courage to take your life into your own

ands. The world is lying in wait to come between you and ambition. A person must develop the knack of finding a

otivation for doing what he/she wants or he/she will never get a chance to do what he/she wants at all. Life of being an

frican American is always harder from the outside looking in. Thats why you have to give your life a bunch of shoves; shakes

ways take care of self. Welllook at what to do when a crisis does occur.

When the Storm Hits Dont Jump Off The Roof!!!! I know someone who did

he key to handling a crisis is to move quickly, but thread carefully.


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he first thing to do when a crisis hits identify the point of contact and make them aware of the situation. (For this rule, well

sume that point of contact is you.) Dont jump off the roof if you cant pick your-self off the ground. A smart

fricanAamerican never lets anyone see how smart he/she is. Always know and think you can do and get anything by going

ead-on.

our not a fool!!!!

lways have your plan in order. I always was told this by my mother, in return I told my daughter this.

hen, you will want to gather and analyze the data.

What happened?

What were the direct causes? What were the indirect causes?

What will happen next? What could happen next?

What events will this impact?

Who else needs to know about this? Who else dont need to know about this?

bove all, take the time to do, proper research. You dont want to jump into any conclusions or use erroneous information

nd make the crisis worse.

ou will also want to identify the threshold time: the time that you have before the situation moves out of your control, or

ecomes exponentially worse. You may also find that the crisis will resolve itself after a certain point of time. (Seebelow).

isis Exercise

me 5 minutes

opic Handle the crisis.

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TopicFirst things first when a crisis hits is to identify the point of contact make

them aware of situation. Gather and analyze the data.

Itms paper

paper

Know what to do if a crisis hit you

Dont panic\stay cool

Stay cool, calm and collective

list

Know what to

do?

Rule Seven

ife is full of Challenges.Lessons Learned

ont be too easyon your-self, remembering life is a challenge. Remember its not what you look like;

s not what color you are. Its how hard you work that keep you on your toes. After your challenge has gotten the best of

ou, take a moment to look at why it happened and how to prevent and improve it in the future. Planning should help you

eal with your lessons; there is always adjusting and perfecting your approach, so it is important to learn times where stuff

ay not work.

ou should be prepared for what cantbe predicted, such as illness, fire, or theft. In the case of illness, prepare a short

ontingency plan indicating who will be responsible for your correspondence, projects, will and general responsibilities in

se you are ill for an extended period. Make sure you let the person you have designated to handle your business know you

ans with the appropriate person so that they can be prepared as well. A smart African American do not waste his/her time

n bad memories, because when a bus heads toward you, a smart person period will get out of the way.Diversion.always

e reproachable.


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ssons Learned Exercise


opic To understand the closing phase of crisis

opic After the crisis is over, understand why it happened and if you can prevent itfrom happening again. Plans are an important part of this step.

ems Paper

st List Crisis you have had or may be contemplating as far as Skin Color.


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Rule Eight:

Organizing Your Life Never let anyone see you Sweat.Get the

Bull-Clutter out of your Life.

In order to manage your time and to be organizing, you must create an appropriate environment. By eliminating all

ull out of your life, setting up an effective system, using tools, and managing Self,you will be well on your way to creating an

fective Self.

Patience is the guardian of faith, the

preser4ver of peace, the cherisher of love,

the teacher of humility.

Robert StrandPatience


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Get the Bull-Clutter out of your life.

You only need three - basic kinds of files:


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Family: Used frequently and needed hold close.

: Information needed only occasionally.

ARCHIVAL FILES:Seldom used but that must be kept. Organization is the simplest way possible. Example, you could

label files with a one or two words arrange the files alphabetically.

Once the bull-Clutter has been eliminated and taken out of your space it will include only what is essential for your

ind to function: Everything else, except for what you are working on at the moment, can and should be put on the back

urner where it can be retrieved as needed.

Estimated

Time5 minutes

Topic To understand what belongs in your life, and what doesnt.

TopicAn effective life contains a three-tier system, and Bull-Clutter need to be

eliminated.

Tools

paper

pencil

List Save time, pre-write the list.

Files

Review the list below see if they can identify the file that each document

belongs in. I have included the answers in parentheses below.

Home phone list, which you use (Working)

This year and Last years budget, which you need to keep for legal

reasons (Archive)

Budget from two years ago, which you dont need to keep but want

to have it for reference (Archive)

List of bank accounts (Working)

Share Hysterical is the fear (uncontrollable laughter, impossible to hold back orcontrol).

Tips

Never let anyone see you sweat!!!!Got It.Do - finish bull-clutter on a timely

basis.immediately if possible.Delete- trash, bull-clutter

junk.immediately if possibleDefer - if it is not important.


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Take the S.T.I.N.G. out of feeling overwhelmed about your life follow these steps:

Select to do one thing at a time.

Time yourself dont overdo It no longer than thirty minutes.

Ignore everything.

Interruptions permitted.

Give yourself a reward when the time is up a cup of coffee (whatever).

Estimated

Time5 minutes

Topic To identify a tool set that can be used to manage your life.

Topic

Use one of the four Ds when you write on a piece of paper:

Do, Delete, Defer, and Delegate.

To take the S.T.I.N.G. out of feeling overwhelmed, follow these steps:

Select one thing to do at a time.

Time yourself for no more than five minutes.

Ignore everything.

No interruptions permitted.


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Give yourself a reward when the time is up. (Coffee)

Items Paper

List List of Sting request

Take on the role of an African American Manager of a small group in amanufacturing company. Then, review the list of items from your sting list

and the D list decide which D to use for each of them.

ANSWERS:

Delete

Delegate

Delay

Do

Tips Review List. (Space for writing below).


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ule Nine:

Patience is Virtue

youreon your own, theres only so much you can get done, no matter how hard you remember patience is virtue. African

mericans have to have patience, because other African Americans are often clueless about what is really going on about

lf.After a while patience gets really boring I know. So if you get too comfortable with the way things are, you may have to

ake things up a little.Feel Good about yourself, especially if youre happy. You just got to feel good naturally about

our-selfSometimes doing good, feeling good can be delightfully badFind out is there a life before death? LOL!!!

ne of the ways of overcoming this limitation is to learn how to help other people with skin color bias problems with

atience. If you do this well, you can quickly build a strong and successful outlook.

first patience can feel like more hassle than its worth. By being effective you can expand the knowledge that you can

eliver. You can have a recipe for success.

emember, to be effective, choose the right, positive influences in your life and other African Americans, this will help you

entify the right people that are positive in this right way. Theres a lot to take in but once you do you will be effective and

ccessful...

The true measure of a person is the height

of his ideals, the breadth of his sympathy,

the depth of his convictions, and the length

of his patience.

E.C. McKenzie


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When to have Patience

Patience allows you

make the best use of your time, and it helps you grow and develop to reach your full potential in your life. Patience can

nly be a win-win situation for you, but only when done correctly. Keep this rule in your mind when deciding if patience

ould be needed when it comes to helping other African Americans.

Patience should provide an opportunity for you to grow.


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Weigh the effort to properly train yourself how often this will reoccur.

Be Positive in using Patience

ime 5 minutes

opic To understand when to be Patient.

opic

Patience should be used if:

It provides positive outlook to you as a person.

Effort worth it.

You must also be careful when using patience itscritical the stakes are that

much higher for you to do what you have to do.

opic

Decide if you should use Patience. This is debatable but you will have to use

our recommended answers...

reviews about Self (Yes) (No)

Data about Self (Yes, if properly outlined)

Filling out weekly questionnaires about self (Yes)

hare Remember; use your head better next time!!!!! This is always a yes!!!!!


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Rule 10 -FOREVER RULE Let Go!!!!

Keeping Control

Now, once you have worked through the above steps, make sure you brief yourself

ppropriately. Take time to think about what you have learned about yourself, whats expected from you during the process

overcome being a affective African American, the goals you have for the process, all timelines. The resources on which you

n draw positive situations out of others. Work with others to develop progress, milestones, and other key process points.

ou will want to make sure that you know that you want to know if any problems occur, that you are available to review your

ted questions or guidance needed to progress.

e all know that as people, we shouldnt micro-manage. This doesnt mean we must abdicate control altogether. In being

fective, we have to find the difficult balance between giving enough space for people to use their abilities, while still

onitoring and supporting closely enough to ensure that the process is implemented correctly and effectively. One way to

ncourage growth is to ask for recommended solutions when speaking with other African Americans with a problem in skin

ne/color, and then help them explore those solutions and reach a decision.


opic Objective To understand how to make your process more effective.

opic Summary

Process involves finding the right balance between giving enough space for

you to use their abilities, while still monitoring and supporting closely

enough to ensure that the process is done correctly and effectively and

completed.

ems Paper, Pencil

st List of other African Americans with Communication problems


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ecommended Activity

Think of ways that you can improve your character by maintaining control

throughout the Process. (We have included an answer sheet in the activities

folder.)

ps You can also write out on paper a storysomething you have experience

ull Acceptance

Conquering/Accepting the idea of being an African American with No Skin/Color

ias.ProblemsBut willing to Make a Change

et aside enough time to thoroughly review any important issues you may have. Letting go is the best revenge. It frees your

eart for much more, if you dont want to abstain from war against the race, soul just be thyself!!!! If possible. Worse than

is, you now accept a new you will probably complete yourself. Not only does this overload you, it means that you have the

me to be your own person. A New African American with New Ideas on Skin Tone Bias

o much of the unpleasantness in your life of being African American is a result of feeling underappreciated Of course, whenood work is returned to you, make sure to both recognize and reward your effort. As an African American, you should get in

e practice of complimenting other African American every time you are impressed by what they have done. This effort on

our part will go a long way toward building a better African Americanwho have self-confidence and efficiency now and in

e future.


opic To understand what to do when the process is complete.


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opic Summary

When this process is done, set aside enough time to review what you have

went through go over it thoroughly. Make sure that it is done correctly

(although correctly doesnt always mean the same way that you would do

it as I would do it, different stokes for different folks I guess).

ems paper

st End Results of what you have learned

scussionDiscuss what your character should look like in the final process. (Included

is an answer sheet in the activities folder.)

ps You can write out the story on paper of what you have experienced.

Making Sure the Discussion Was Worthwhile

fter the process, write out a summary of the process, including making you a copy. Items should be clearly indicated, with

art and end dates, and progress dates if applicable. Should be communicated, understood by you. Space provided below.


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Although this Guide has come to a close, I hope that your journey to improve your process toward becoming a

etter African American toward skin/ color bias has been fulfilled. Understand by going through this guide it gives you a

etter attitude toward other African Americans and it is just beginning. Please take a moment to review and update your

ocess/plan. This will be a key tool to guide your progress in the days, weeks, months, and years to come. I wish you the bes

luck on the rest of your journey!


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Words from the Wise

Here are a few thoughts that I would like to leave you with, to accompany you on your journey.

PRICE PRITCHETT:Time is free, but it's priceless. Free your people from bureaucracyand youll find it much easier toenlist their support for culture change can't own it, but you can use it, but you can spread it. Once you've lost it, you

can never get it back.

POUND:Take time to hit with enough shock effect to immobilize the old culture at it will be temporarily, but when

the time for action arrives, stop thinking and go.

STEVE JOBS:Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life.

SHERRY TURNER:You may delay, but dont hesitatetime will not.

sherrys guide

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