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Simple Solutions . . . Managing Conflict
Bart Christian, President Southwest Training Systems, Inc.
Monday, July 14th
3:30 – 4:30 PM www.bartchristian.com
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Learning Objectives 1. Learn immediately applicable skills that
can be used in the workplace and in life.
2. Recognize the early signs of conflict and learn skills to diffuse situations before they escalate.
3. Recognize when to stay and when to step away from a conflict situation.
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• What is the problem with people? • What are sources of conflict? • How to “See it Coming!” • Deal with It!
4 Things
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People resist criticism.
Why do we have People Problems?
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Human reaction cannot be predicted.
Why do we have People Problems?
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A person’s way of doing things is correct as far as they are concerned.
Why do we have People Problems?
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Many people hear only what they want to hear.
Why do we have People Problems?
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“It can be stated with practically no qualification that people in general do not know how to listen. For several years, we have been testing the ability of people to understand and remember what they hear.…These extensive tests led to this general conclusion:
• Immediately after the average person has listened to someone talk, he remembers only about half of what he has heard—no matter how carefully he thought he was listening.
• What happens as time passes: Our testing shows…that we tend to forget from one-half to one-third [more] within eight hours.”
UNIVERSITY OF MINNESOTA - DR. RALPH G. NICHOLS
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The definition of communication is the response you get.
If you are not getting the results you want
then you MUST . . . change the way you are communicating.
What are you communicating?
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Cortisol (Stress Hormone)
Testosterone (Confidence / Power Hormone)
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Feeling Powerful ???
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Be Objectively Observant (BOO) ◦ How do people walk? ◦ How do they talk? ◦ Facial Expressions? ◦ Tone of Voice? ◦ Posture & Body Movement? ◦ Eye Contact? ◦ Reactions to events? ◦ Verbal & Non-verbal
Develop a Habit of Observing . . .
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Women & Men
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BIG 5 - Sources of Conflict
• Unclear Expectations • “Poor” Communication
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“Wisdom is the reward you get for a lifetime listening . . . when you would have preferred to talk.”
- Doug Larson
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BIG 5 - Sources of Conflict
• Personality clashes • Competition for resources
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BIG 5 - Sources of Conflict
• GOSSIP
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Recognizing the Rising TIDE!!
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Defensive Responses
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Red Flags -
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Truth is . . .
Sometimes discretion truly is the better part of valor.
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4 Steps
“I” vs “You”
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Stay C.A.L.M. & handle
confrontation
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FASCINATION
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Quick Tips • BOO – BE OBSERVANT OF BODY LANGUAGE • ASK QUESTIONS OF THE OTHER PERSON (ESPECIALLY IF
YOU THINK YOU UNDERSTAND) • ASK QUESTIONS OF THE OTHER PERSON (ESPECIALLY IF
YOU THINK THEY UNDERSTAND) • PRACTICE 2 + 1 • LISTEN – LET THE OTHER PERSON TELL IT ALL • USE THE C.A.L.M. METHOD FOR DEALING WITH CONFLICT
& COMPLAINTS • FOCUS ON WHAT YOU CAN CONTROL AND INFLUENCE –
JUST BE “FASCINATED” BY THE REST
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“Committing truth to memory is wonderful – HOWEVER . . . . Real wisdom comes by committing truth to daily life.”
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Make the investment!!
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EXPECTATION
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THEY DESERVE IT !!
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Choose To Be Your Best!!
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"Life is not about waiting for the storms to pass...
It's about learning how to dance in the rain."
It is really just a choice . . .
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Make it a GREAT year & best of luck!
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Click the “Evaluate Your Sessions” link.
THANK YOU!
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