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Slides Courtesy of the Kansas Bullying Prevention Program

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Your School

Your Presenters

for Bullying Preventionhelp for parents…


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What is bullying?

Bullying is any ongoing physical orverbal mistreatment where there is:

– an imbalance of power and

– the victim (target) is exposed repeatedly to negative actions on the part of one or more other students.

(Olweus 1986, 1991 and 1993)


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Harassment defined

• “Harassment is a course of conduct directed at a specific person that causes substantial emotional distress in such person and serves no legitimate purpose.”

18 USCA 1514(c)(1)


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One student out of seven

• According to the National Association of School Psychologists, about one in seven school children — about five million kids — have either been a bully or a victim (target).

– 14% are bullies or victims (targets) now and then

– 9% are regularly victimized

– 7% bully others regularly

– 1.6% are both bullies and victims (targets)

– 65-70% are bystanders


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Exposure to bullying on the rise

• 60% of American Teenagers witness bullying at least once a day

• 2001 – 37% witness bullying everyday

Survey by Worthlin Worldwide for the National Crime Prevention Council


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Locations where bullying occurs

• Bullying more often takes place at school than on the way to and from home.

• Bathrooms

• Cafeteria

• Halls

• Schoolyard


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Health consequences of bullying Fekkes

Bullied Not bulliedHeadache 16% 6%Sleep problems 42% 23%Abdominal pain 17% 9%Feeling tense 20% 9%Anxiety 28% 10%Feeling unhappy 23% 5%Depression scale moderate indication 49% 16% strong indication 16% 2%


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Why victims don’t report• Fear retaliation• Feel shame at not being able to stand up for

themselves• Fear they won’t be believed• Don’t want to worry parents• No confidence that things will change• Advise from parents/teachers would make it worse• Fear the adult would tell the bully• Think that being a snitch would be worse


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Attitude makes a difference

• The attitude of teachers and parents toward bully/victim (target) problems plays an important role in the extent of the victimization at school.

• “If you keep on doing what you have always done __ then you will keep on getting what you have always had.”


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B

VictimA. Bully

B. Follower or henchman –

may even carry out the acts

C. Supporter, takes part in the

bullying

D. Passive Supporter – seems to like the bullying

but does not take an active part

G. Defender – Dislikes the bullying and tries to

help the victim

Social CultureSocial Culture

E. Disengaged Onlooker

F. Passive Defender – dislikes the bullying but

does not show open defense

Cycle of Bullying


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DC

B

VictimA. Bully

B. Follower – may not be as ready to act

C. Disengaged Onlooker

D. Passive Defender

E. Possible Defender

F. Defender’s Supporter

G. Defender – Helps the victim

Social CultureSocial Culture

Breaking the Cycle


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The passive victim (target)

• The passive victim (target) seems to signal to others that they are insecure and worthless individuals who will not retaliate if they are attacked or insulted.


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The provocative victim (target)• Provocative victims (targets) may be physically

weaker than their peers (if they are boys) and have “body anxiety.”

• May be hot-tempered and attempt to fight back when attacked or insulted.

• May be hyperactive, restless, and possibly offensive because of irritating habits.

• May be actively disliked by adults including the Teacher.

• May themselves try to bully weaker students.


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Characteristics of victims (targets)

• Mental ability• Speech difficulties• Eye glasses• Color • Language• Height or weight• Hygiene• Clothing


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Characteristics of children who bully

• Children who bully tend to be very aggressive toward their peers– They are often aggressive toward adults,

including teachers and parents.– They are characterized by impulsivity and a

strong need to dominate others.– They usually have little anxiety and relatively

good self esteem.


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Characteristics of children who bully, cont.

– Children who bully are of average popularity and often surrounded by two to three friends who support them

– Popularity of bullying children decreases in upper grades

– Children who bully have a strong need for power or dominance; they seem to enjoy being “in control” and need to subdue others


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Ten Strategies Ten Strategies for Effective for Effective

Bullying PreventionBullying Prevention

HRSA's National Bullying Prevention Campaign, HRSA's National Bullying Prevention Campaign, 20042004

What we can do at school…


18HRSA's National Bullying Prevention Campaign, HRSA's National Bullying Prevention Campaign,

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Effective Effective Bullying PreventionBullying Prevention

Focus on the whole Focus on the whole school environmentschool environment

Strategy #1Strategy #1



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Assess bullying at your schoolAssess bullying at your school




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Garner staff/parent supportGarner staff/parent support




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Form a group at school to Form a group at school to coordinate bullying prevention/ coordinate bullying prevention/ intervention activitiesintervention activities




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Provide training for ALL Provide training for ALL staff membersstaff members




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Establish and enforce Establish and enforce school rules and policies school rules and policies regarding bullyingregarding bullying




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Increase adult supervision in Increase adult supervision in “hot spots” for bullying“hot spots” for bullying




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Intervene consistently Intervene consistently and appropriately in and appropriately in bullying incidentsbullying incidents



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HRSA's National Bullying Prevention Campaign, HRSA's National Bullying Prevention Campaign, 20042004


Focus some classroom time Focus some classroom time on bullying prevention and on bullying prevention and interventionintervention



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Classroom Rules by OlweusClassroom Rules by Olweus

1.1. We will not bully other students.We will not bully other students.

2.2. We will help students who are bullied.We will help students who are bullied.

3.3. We will make it a point to include all students who We will make it a point to include all students who are easily left out.are easily left out.

4.4. When we know someone is being bullied, we will tell When we know someone is being bullied, we will tell a teacher or an adult at home.a teacher or an adult at home.

StrategyStrategy #9a #9a



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Continue efforts over timeContinue efforts over time



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Parents need to listen to their children...

because they often will hear things they don’t want to hear - in order to hear the things that they need to hear.

What parents can do at home…


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How parents can help

• Keep the lines of communication open

• Watch for signs and symptoms of bullying

• Take your child’s complaints seriously

• Keep a written record

• Contact school administration if you suspect your child is being bullied

• Teach your child to respond assertively


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How can parents help the victim?

• Help your child recruit a friend. Help them develop effective social and interpersonal skills.

Don’t give labels to your child that suggest inadequacy. Help your child develop success. Involve them in activities

such as scouts, sports, church, etc. Recognize a physically younger, smaller and weaker child

may be prone to bullying. Look for signs of body anxiety—the fear of being hurt.

Help your child learn skills for gaining success and acceptance.


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Helping the victim combat bullying violence

• Take an active role in your child’s life and promote positive activities for your child

• Do not tell your kids to hit back• Don’t ask them what they did to the other child• Make sure you don’t bully your child


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How can parents help redirect bullying behaviors?

Watch for signs of bullying. Don’t allow your child to control others through verbal

threats and physical actions. Help your child develop empathy for the problems of

the victim (target). Apply clear, consistent, escalating consequences for

repetitive aggressive behaviors. Provide anger management counseling for your child if

needed. Don’t tolerate revengeful attitudes. Don’t allow your child to have contact with aggressive

groups.


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How can parents redirect bullying? Limit your child’s exposure to models of aggressive behavior

such as violent television, movies and video games. As a parent, be a good role model for constructively solving

problems. As a parent, be a good role model for getting along with

others. As a parent, help your child develop a healthy physical

image. Watch for the emergence of feelings of power and control. As a parent, know the whereabouts of your child. As a parent, protect your child from physical and emotional

abuse at home.


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How can parents motivate bystanders?

Approximately 65% to 70% of students just watch bullying happen—they are bystanders.Teach them that they can:

learn how to distract the students who bully

support the person who is being bullied privately

support the person who is being bullied openly

do not feed into the bullying behavior


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Summary

• Bullying can best be tackled with a school-wide program. To succeed we must have all the adults working together, parents, teachers, bus drivers—everyone.

• To recognize there is a problem is the first step __

to do something about it requires commitment.• “Easy to say __ hard to do.”• Be part of the solution, get involved.

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