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Third Culture Kids (TCK’s) and Cross Cultural Kids (CCK’s)
Social Emotional Practicum
2012
TCK’s Defined
Spend developmental years outside the parents’ culture.
Builds relationships to all of the cultures, full ownership of none.
The sense of belonging is in relationship to others of similar background.
CCK Model (Cross Cultural Kid) Someone who is living and meaningfully
interacts with two or more cultural environments for a significant period of time
The CCK definition is not dependent on the question of where CCK’s grow up, such as outside the passport culture or overseas.
CCK’s do not merely live side by side with those from other cultures, but are interacting with more than one culture in ways that have meaningful or relational involvement.
The TCK or CCK Model
Third Culture or Cross Culture
with Shared Commonalities
Host or Second Culture
Home or First Culture
CCK Categories Traditional TCK’s Bi/Multicultural
Children Bi/Multiracial
Children Children of
Borderlanders Educational CCK’s
Domestic TCK’s International
Adoptees Children of Minorities Children of
Immigrants Children of Refugees
Cultural Identity Modelin Relationship to Surrounding Culture
Foreigner
Look differentThink different
Hidden Immigrant
Look alikeThink different
Adopted
Look differentThink alike
Mirror
Look alikeThink alike
Who Am I? Finding a sense of personal balance and identity
Adults experience cross cultural transitions and high mobility with an international move
But YOU experience growing up cross culturally
It is the interplay of these factors for you during your youth that leads to the benefits, challenges and personal characteristics of TCK’s
Achieving Cultural Balance and Personal Identity
Who we are and where we belong is a developmental task for students
We learn the basic rules and values by which our particular culture operates
As you grow, you challenge these rules Eventually you internalize the principles and
practices you have learned, by challenging and finally accepting (?)—or adjusting within yourself
This is achieving cultural balance and personal identity
What about Cultural Balance for TCK’s and CCK’s? Often feel out of balance Why? Because rapid cultural change has been
normal. You are one plane ride away from exchanging complete sets of worldviews, expectations of behavior, and even languages
Before you know how to behave, you must figure out where you are
You are trying to find cultural balance in a world filled with many cultures, many worldviews and you ‘catch it’ from all of your environments
What are the main challenges of a TCK upbringing for you?
Finding a sense of personal identity
Finding a sense of cultural identity
Dealing with unresolved grief
Turn to your neighbor and discuss the above concepts. Be ready to share your thoughts with the group.
TCK’s and CCK’s undergo Chronic Cycles of Mobility
Much more often than the population at large Go through the transition cycle with greater frequency
so there are multiple and repetitive cycles of loss and grief
Grief during a transition is not a negation of the past—it is an affirmation
Also TCK’s move often meaning changing cultures as well as places
Experience grief because of the very richness of their lives
Reasons for Unresolved Grief
Fear of denying the good Learning to live with the mystery of paradox
Hidden Losses Loss of relationships, loss of role models, loss of
status, loss of their world, loss of lifestyle, loss of possessions
Lack of permission to grieve Lack of time to process Lack of comfort
Part two
Let’s get personal
Benefits and Challenges of TCK’s/CCK’s
Benefits Expanded Worldview
Awareness of more than one way to look at the same thing
Three Dimensional View of the World
Cross Cultural Richness
Challenges Confused Loyalties
Value dissonance
Painful Awareness of Reality
Ignorance of the home culture or perhaps questioning of home culture
TCK Personal CharacteristicsBenefits and Challenges
Benefits
Cultural Adaptability
Blending In Prejudice: Less The Importance of
Now
Appreciative of Authority
Challenges
Lack of True Cultural Balance
Defining the Differences Prejudice: More The Delusion of Choice
Planning at the last minute to not risk disappointment
Mistrustful of Authority Real vs. Perceived
Arrogance—I’m different from you
TCK Practical Skills Cross-Cultural Skills Observational Skills Social Skills Linguistic Skills
Rootlessness vs. Restlessness Dreaded questions of TCK’s
Where are you from? Where is home?
The Migratory Instinct Where I am, today, is temporary. But as soon as I
get a job or purchase a home, I’ll settle down.
Relational Patterns Large numbers of relationships Deep and valued relationships as TCK’s
Home culture relationships ‘shallow’? Relationships levels we pass through
Superficial level—small talk ‘Still safe’ level—we exchange facts with no personal
risks Judgmental level—we risk comments about our opinions Emotional level—share how we feel about life,
ourselves—here we risk a piece of inner worlds, selves Disclosure level—reveal our private thoughts and
feelings, allow ourselves to be vulnerable, are truly honest
Why do TCK’s have deeper relationships? Practice
Have started new relationships often Content
Have a large store of knowledge, feeding many topics for discussion
Sense of urgency They perceive little time to develop a particular
relationship
Possible Effects of a Cycle of Multiple Losses on Relationships Refusing to care
Limits your vulnerability to impending grief Quick release
Friends stop calling each other and don’t visit any longer
Anger could be part of this Emotional Flattening
Refusing to feel the pain; they say they don’t like messy goodbyes
Normal Developmental Tasks Establishing a personal sense of identity
Establishing and maintaining strong relationships
Developing Competence in decision making
Achieving independence
Adulthood
Early Maturity of TCK’s In… Broad base of knowledge and awareness
Relationship to adults
Communication skills
Early autonomy
Delayed Adolescence in TCK’s Cross cultural mobility in developmental years
Can lead to restrictions of movement due to safety Extended compliance to cultural rules Lack of opportunities for meaningful choices Life is often unpredictable making it hard to
make decisions Family separations Operating between different systems-social
and educational
Delayed Adolescent Rebellion Extension of delayed adolescence
End of the need for compliance
Loneliness Need for a home base, vacation time is lonely
Anger Manifestation of unresolved grief
Expressions of Unresolved Grief Denial Anger Bargaining Sadness/Depression Withdrawal Rebellion Vicarious grief Delayed grief