SELF MANAGEMENT

How to be successful in Life?

by

PROF (Lt Col) DAYAKAR THOTA

FAILURE TO NOT TO LEARN FROM FAILURES SHOULD BE.”

-WALTER WINSTON

FAILURE IS NOT A CRIME ;

Every successful person has a Every successful person has a painful story.painful story.

Every painful story has a Every painful story has a successful ending.successful ending.

Accept the pain and get Accept the pain and get ready for success.ready for success.

Every successful person has a painful story.Every successful person has a painful story.Every painful story has a successful ending.Every painful story has a successful ending.

Accept the pain and get Accept the pain and get ready for ready for success.success.

WHAT IS SUCCESS ?

It differs from person to person, time to time &

circumstances – it is relative

Distinguish between money & success

Success must give one happiness

Happiness is better enjoyed & more lasting if it is

achieved by your own efforts

Web site:presidentofindia.nic.in (Reader’s Digest; November 2004)

Abhishek Shetty, Std VIII:

According to you, what is ‘achievement’?

The President APJ:

That which gives happiness and fulfillment.

------------------------------------------------------------- HENCE, DEFINE YOUR OWN

MEANING OF SUCCESS

Have Dreams

"DREAM is not what you

see in sleep,

DREAM is the thing

which does not let you

sleep“

-- APJ Kalam

GOALS

Goal is the object of a person’s ambition or effort, A destination, An aim – (oxford)

Goals are the purpose of life.

One who does not know where he wants to go will reach nowhere.

Goals are a must -- if you want to succeed.

SUCCESS IS REALISATION OF YOUR DESIRES / AMBITIONS /GOALS

GOALSYou can achieve anything if you really want

Goals must be challenging, should be pragmatic, i.e.,

Goals may be ambitious but achievable and must inspire

a strong desire

Goals could be personal or / and organizational

GOALS –of SURVIVAL or ACHIEVEMENT

YOU CAN GET WHAT YOU WANT

YOU ARE WHAT YOU THINK

. HAVE POSITIVE GOALS

GOAL SETTING

Goals must be set in the back drop of SWOT analysis of self.

TAKE STOCK OF SELF

• Carry out a detailed analysis of your own strengths &

weaknesses.

• Make a list of all positive & negative attributes of self.

• Peruse the list from time to time and, if need be,

REVISE & UPDATE.

YOU ARE WHAT YOU THINK

Don’t get into Elephant mind set

Don’t Act Like An Elephant !Strange statement, isn’t it?

Don’t Act Like An Elephant !Strange statement, isn’t it?

LET ME EXPLAIN:

You know that in our country elephants are used for manual labor.

But what to do with them when they are not behaving? How to restrain them?

HOW DOES IT WORK?HOW DOES IT WORK?

When the elephants are still small, weighing around 150 pounds they get tied up with a very heavy rope.

All day long, the elephants try to get rid of it, whine, tug at it and some of them even try to chew it.

But they can’t break free.

When the elephants are still small, weighing around 150 pounds they get tied up with a very heavy rope.

All day long, the elephants try to get rid of it, whine, tug at it and some of them even try to chew it.

But they can’t break free.

Their handlers came up with the idea to “program” them while they are still very young by setting self-

imposed limits into their thinking.

From this moment on, they strongly believe that there is absolutely no chance to

get rid of the rope.

Finally the elephant gives up and the fight is

over.

They accept the “fact” that the rope limits them. And with this imprinted belief in place, their handlers are able to tie them with extremely small ropes, even as adults weighing 8,000 pounds and more, they never attempt to break free, because they “know” they have no chance at all!

As you can see, the elephants limits are

not real but exist only in their mind.

As you can see, the elephants limits are

not real but exist only in their mind.

We also have built-in boundaries.We also have built-in boundaries.

If you truly want to become successful and are not kidding yourself, you can change your inner belief system, your attitude, and break your inner boundaries.

They are also not real but exist only in our minds. But it doesn’t have to stay this way. Our negative belief

systems don’t have to limit us for good.

They are also not real but exist only in our minds. But it doesn’t have to stay this way. Our negative belief

systems don’t have to limit us for good.

JOHARI WINDOWSFEED BACK

KNOWN TO UNKNOWN TO SELF SELF

ARENA BLIND SPOT KNOWN TO OTHERS

FAÇADE UNKNOWN UNKNOWN TO OTHERS

(JOSEPH LUFT & HARRY INGHAM)

EXPOSURE

ARENA BLIND SPOT

FACADE UNKNOWN

COURAGE IS WHAT IT TAKES TO STAND UP AND SPEAK;

COURAGE IS ALSO WHAT IT TAKES TO SIT DOWN AND LISTEN.

-WINSTON CHURCHIL

GOAL SETTING - Contd

Make a list of all your goals

- Long term

- Medium term

- Short term

All the medium & short term goals should dove tail and lead to the Long term goal.

SET DEADLINES –

TARGET DATES / MONTHS / YEARS

No one can go back No one can go back and change a bad and change a bad beginning;beginning;

But anyone can start But anyone can start now and create a now and create a successful ending.successful ending.

NOBODY CAN GO BACK TO START NOBODY CAN GO BACK TO START A NEW BEGINNING; A NEW BEGINNING;

BUT ANYONE CAN START TODAY TO BUT ANYONE CAN START TODAY TO

MAKE A NEW ENDING MAKE A NEW ENDING MARIA MARIA

ROBINSONROBINSON

TIME MANAGEMENT

Make a list of all the jobs to be done a day before

All these jobs must, in some measure, lead toward your goal (s)

Prioritize and pick up the tough & dirty job first

Adhere to the list

Tick off the jobs completed :Review the job list at the end of the day

TIME & TIDE WAIT FOR NONE

Every success is the result of a plan

1. Set a deadline

2. Break the plan down into easily achievable

stages

3. Be prepared to change direction

4. CHECK YOUR PLAN with THE PROGRESS

5. Concentrate your thoughts on what you want

People don’t plan to fail;they fail to plan

6. Ask opinions from qualified persons only

7. Consider what you have to do to achieve your

goal

8. Ensure your plan is visible to you at all times -

do not loose sight

The person who is sure nothing can be done is

usually the one who has never done anything

ALL THE BATTLES ARE

WON OR LOST

IN THE MINDS OF THE

COMMANDERS

MUCH BEFORE THEY ARE FOUGHT

What makes a successful person ?

Self confidence

Mental robustness

Conceptualisation

Extrapolation

Burning ambition to achieve

Dreams

"DREAM is not what you

see in sleep,

DREAM is the thing

which does not let you

sleep“

-- APJ Kalam

STRONG DESIRE

IS

THE CARDINAL PRINCIPLES

1. Control over one’s speech –talk less; hear more

2. Control ego – don’t be “I” specialist

3. Be empathetic / follow righteous path

4. Be clear about your goals

5. Dream / imagine & feel your goals

6. Pursue the goals steadfastly

7. Be positive

8. Success will be yours