teamwork in marriage

Tuesday, April 11, 2023

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TEAMWORK IN MARRIAGE

There is no competition in the home. A husband and wife work as a team. Everybody ought to know that the husband and wife are to function as a team.


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What is there in Marriage in 2014?

As we start off the Year 2014, I see a bright future as regards the institution of marriage, When we are in the home, working as a team in our marriage, we will strengthen our relationship and commitment to each other; we will be there for each other and any attempt by our enemy will be defeated as we will be working as a team. There is power in a team.


3 Ephesians 5:23-33 The husband provides leadership to his

wife the way Christ does to his church, not by domineering but by cherishing. So just as the church submits to Christ as he exercises such leadership, wives should likewise submit to their husbands. Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church--a love marked by giving, not getting. Christ's love makes the church whole. His words evoke her beauty. Everything he does and says is designed to bring the best out of her, dressing her in dazzling white silk, radiant with holiness.


4 And that is how husbands ought to love their

wives. They're really doing themselves a favor--since they're already "one" in marriage. No one abuses his own body, does he? No, he feeds and pampers it. That's how Christ treats us, the church, since we are part of his body. And this is why a man leaves father and mother and cherishes his wife. No longer two, they become "one flesh." This is a huge mystery, and I don't pretend to understand it all. What is clearest to me is the way Christ treats the church. And this provides a good picture of how each husband is to treat his wife, loving himself in loving her, and how each wife is to honor her husband. (MSG )


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We are discussing an attitude and a matter of the heart. We are also focusing attention on a relationship. We can say that we are studying an attitude of heart that should be demonstrated in a specific relationship.


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What is a team?

What is a team? The word is not used in the Bible with reference to marriage even though the concept is there as we shall discover. A team consists of people working together, yoked together, coupled, linked and cooperating for the common good. Webster defines the word and uses marriage to illustrate the meaning.


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Different Yokes

The word “yoke” can be understood in terms of a burden or an unbearable load as Paul used it in Second Corinthians 6:14, “Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers." Or It can be understood to refer to a beautiful and intimate relationship of favor as Jesus used it in His invitation found.


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In Matthew 11:28-20. “Come unto me, all ye that labor and are heavy laden and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn of me, for I am meek and lowly in heart, and ye shall find rest unto your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.”


9 Being yoked in marriage requires agreement. Amos stated the great principle in Amos 3:3, “Can two walk together except they be agreed?” Teamwork demands:

1. Consideration, 2.Communication, 3. Consultation, 4. Cooperation, 5. Companionship,


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In marriage there must be the inclusion of Christ. Without these essentials the team simply cannot and will not function as its Originator intended.


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Originally

It was God’s original and present purpose that the husband and wife function as a team, not separately, but as a complement to each other. Genesis 2:18,“And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him."


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Marriage is a blessing given to mankind by God. If we could summarize marriage with one word, we would choose the word “companionship.” This is what God intends in marriage.


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Several Biblical Phrases Show Teamwork

Gen. 2: 24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife; and they shall be one flesh.


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This teaching concerning marriage was repeated by Jesus Christ when He gave His will concerning marriage (Matthew 19:1-9). His will is as God planned and designed it from the beginning. All men everywhere are accountable to God through the teaching of Christ in this matter as in all others (John 12:48).


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Composition of the Team

Notice the team is composed of a husband and wife, not merely a man and a woman, nor a man and women, nor a woman and men, nor a man and man, nor woman and woman.

Teamwork of husband and wife is seen in the phrase, “bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh.”

Teamwork is seen in the phrase, “one flesh,”


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God made man and woman of the same kind. They were two distinct personalities blended into one satisfying unit for the physical and part of the spiritual needs of both. It is as stated in Proverbs thirty-one, “He trusts her... He praises her... She will do him good.” (Verses 11,12,28).


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The Closest Relationship

This team is closer than the tie between parent and child. They were to leave and cleave one to the other. Prime allegiance belongs to each other above even the close tie of parent and child.

We are to love our mates first before everything except God. The beautiful truth is that when we love God first we will love our mate above everything else.


18 Husbands and wives are

interdependent on each other. “For the man is not of the woman, but the woman of the man. Neither was the man created for the woman, but the woman for the man. Nevertheless neither is the man without the woman, neither the woman without the man. in the Lord. For as the woman is of man, even so is man also by the woman; but all things of God” (1 Corinthians 11:8,9,11,12).


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Anti-Marriage

Some people complain that in marriage you lose your individuality. We can never completely lose our individuality. We shall stand as individuals before God in the judgment (2 Corinthians 5:10). But in any human relationship, including marriage, there is the sacrifice of some individuality.


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In marriage each is an individual with distinctive roles for which each is especially made to fulfill. We should assist each other in fulfilling these God-given roles in life. Neither is the master of himself or herself, but each seeks the highest good of the unit. This is what “agape” or love embodies and involves.


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What Teamwork Requires

Teamwork in marriage requires :

1. Compatibility, 2. Companionship, 3. Nearness, 4. Personal involvement, 5. Cooperation, 6. Also Christ.


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We need to understand that any disposition of marriage that omits God cannot be what marriage is intended to be.

There are three involved in marriage, not just a man and a woman. There must be the inclusion of the Designer, Originator and Giver of marriage, who is God.


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Marriage is not merely a social relationship, economic arrangement, or just a legal contract. It is a holy, sacred, God-given relationship. Without God in marriage it is lacking in a basic fundamental ingredient.


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This attitude of teamwork must manifest itself in a number of areas. Husbands and wives are like a lock and key, or two blades of scissors. They cannot and do not function properly by themselves.


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There is teamwork in the conjugal or sexual relationship. Paul wrote, “Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband” (1 Corinthians 7:2).


26 There should be teamwork in the

rearing of children. Genesis 1:28 tells us that God blessed THEM and said to THEM to be fruitful and replenish the earth. Both have a duty, not only in bringing the child into the world, but also in the upbringing, training and care of the child. This includes setting goals, priorities, discipline and provision. The child is not my child or your child, but “our child.”


27 There should be oneness in handling

the finances of the home. This is a source of problems among many. Some talk about “her money and his money.” This is foolish. You may not agree, but you need to consider this point more seriously. Money problems have caused much strife in marriages. An understanding that in marriage it is no longer “me, my, mine,” nor “you and yours,” but it becomes “we, us, ours” in everything.


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Teamwork demands loyalty to one another. This would eliminate many problems. Nobody from outside the marriage can intrude into a marriage where husband and wife are loyal to each other. This includes having and showing respect for each other’s feelings, refusing to embarrass and destroy the other.


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Joined Together For Life

Teamwork in marriage means you are together for life, in good times, bad times, sharing joys, sorrows, loads, burdens, in sickness or health, adversity or prosperity, not pulling apart, not pulling against, but pulling with each other. It is a case of “me and you against the world.”


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The Basics in Marriage

Teamwork in marriage means being united in THE FAITH. It is not enough to be united in a faith, but THE FAITH. Both ought to be Christians as the Bible teaches.

The best team is one composed of a Christian husband and a Christian wife.


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We need to teach our young, as many of us have been taught, that the primary goal in marriage is to help each other get to heaven. This is a statement of Peter, “...dwell with them... as heirs together of the grace of life” (1 Peter 3:7). Recognize that you both are precious souls, precious to each other and precious to God.


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Leadership of the Team

Every team must have a leader. In God’s plan the husband is the leader of the home. This does not please everyone. But it pleases all who love God (Ephesians 5:23).

Unless the God-designed team functions as God has designed it, Satan will run in some substitutes that will destroy everyone involved.


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Value of Experience

Experience makes the team more effective. This is true in sports. It is also true in marriage. You learn to think alike, work smoothly, understand each other, grow together, where one stands, two stand, and share together.


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The newlyweds are not so well suited for each other as they shall become as they go through life together.


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Finally

God’s team consists of a husband and wife, living together, loving God and each other, in the oneness of marriage, and in Christ.

Each being there for the other. This will indeed bring joy and stability in that marriage.

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