the motivational manifesto: a 30-page guide to living your best life while pursuing your dreams

1 The Motivational Manifesto To Improve Your Daily Life. | Brought to you by Kiner Enterprises www.kinerenterprises.com


Table of Contents

Chapter 1 How To Get Out Of Your Own Way Page 4

Chapter 2 How To Overcome Obstacles and Life Challenges Page 14

Chapter 3 How To Have An Incredibly Satisfying & Successful Life 3

Chapter 4 31 Motivational Quotes to Keep You Motivated Every Day Of The

Month Page 31


Introduction

Hi there, it’s me, Ashani Mfuko, the Founder of Kiner Enterprises, and I’m so glad

that you are reading this e-book today! I wrote this e-book so that you would be

inspired, uplifted, empowered, and deeply motivated to pursue your goals and

dreams!

I am really excited to share this free, motivational e-book with you today because

daily motivation and inspiration is something that is vital to our lives while

pursuing our goals and dreams. There are so many distractions ready to grab our

attention and focus in this fast-paced world of social media, technology, and

mobile devices. We must make a conscious and assertive effort to find the quiet

time and space in our daily lives to reflect and reconnect with God, ourselves, and

those we love around us.

I want you to know that there is no obstacle or challenge out there that is too

difficult for you to handle. God does not give us more than we can bear. In those


moments when you feel lost, discouraged, or overwhelmed, just take a moment to

say a prayer, and talk to God. He is always there, and he is always listening.

In this e-book I will break down some of the most common obstacles that you face

on a day-to-day basis, and share some effective ways for overcoming them, and

also share ways on how you can set healthy boundaries, and be the best version of

yourself, no matter your circumstances. I know that life can be tough sometimes

for us because of external factors and challenges, or even our own internal

struggles. But I also know that things always get better, and that we have the power

to overcome, to adapt, to grow, and to thrive, in every phase of our life, and bounce

back from every tough situation. Are you ready to get some soul inspiration,

encouragement, and motivation? Let’s do it!

Chapter 1

How To Get Out Of Your Own Way

"Finding your purpose is not as hard as most think. Believe it or not, you

probably already know your purpose." ~ Marshawn Evans

Finding, discovering, and knowing your purpose is always at the core of

everything that I teach and share with others. Whether I’m one-on-one with a

client, teaching my online course, or speaking at a live event, I always start with

purpose. Your purpose is the foundation for all that you do, and keeps you on

target as you encounter daily struggles, distractions, and decisions. Once you’re

solid in your understanding of what your purpose is, the next step is to stop, and

ask yourself another important question: Why?


When was the last time you sat down and asked yourself, "Why?"

Why do I feel the way that I feel today? Why do I work at this job, or in this

career? Why do I do what I do every day? Why do I do things the way that I do

them every day?

If you haven't asked yourself this question in a while, there's no better time like the

present to get started, and begin reflecting. In some cases, it can be a painful or

difficult process. But it ultimately leads to enlightenment, understanding, and a

clear path ahead of you. Once you understand the 'why' of a situation, the 'how'

becomes a lot clearer, as well as who, what, and where.

Too many times we get stuck doing things because it's what we've always done, or

it's what our parents did, or what other people think we should be doing. Other

times, we're the culprit in the monotonous and counterproductive actions and

thoughts of our daily lives, which then lead to habits, and ultimately create our

reality.

It is imperative to reflect on your life, your choices, your habits, and your actions

daily, in order to have clarity about where you are in life, and where you're going.

"Would you rather end up at the place you stubbornly insisted upon, or the place

where you belong?" ~ Mandy Hale

Ask yourself the following five questions to get started:

1) What do I believe is the God-given purpose for my life?

2) What are my unique gifts/talents?


3) How am I using my unique gifts and talents to fulfill God's purpose for my

life, and also bring fulfillment and joy into my life and the lives of others?

4) What are my top three goals for the following categories: my

marriage/relationship, my family, my career, my finances, my home, my future,

my health, my legacy?

5) What can I do today, this week, this month, this year, to maximize my unique

gifts and talents, and reach my goals?

These five questions are just to get you started on the right path, so that you

can be sure that you're not just doing things out of habit, or for the wrong

reasons.

Divine Reflection and Guidance

"There is never a moment when God is not in control." ~ Mandy Hale

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I find all of the answers that I need related to my life's purpose, and how I should

spend my time and money on a daily basis, in what my pastor calls, "the prayer

closet". This doesn't mean that you actually go into a closet to pray. It simply is the

act of getting alone with God, in a quiet place, where you're not just talking to God,

but more importantly, you're listening to his divine direction for your life. Some

people refer to this time as meditation.

The ways that I stay on target every day, or get refocused, when I feel like I might

be getting off track, is through reading my bible, through prayer, and through

intensely listening to God's voice. Oh, and I can't forget, by being obedient to what

I hear God directing me to do. That's one of the most important parts. Lots of

people know what the right thing is to do, but they just choose not to do it. Don't be

one of those people. When you hear or feel God moving you in a certain direction

don't fight it, go with it.

"Never let anyone talk you out of a place God told YOU to enter." ~ Marshawn

Evans

How To Use The Desire To Give Up To Your Advantage

Do you ever feel like giving up? Do you ever feel like just calling it quits, and

saying (as we do here in New York City), "Fuggetaboutit!!"? Great! Guess what

that means? You're on the right track!!

Yes, you are (No, I'm not crazy)!


Here are some reasons why we typically feel like giving up:

1) You're exhausted, and feel like your efforts are in vain, so what's the point.

2) You're not getting the results you want, within the time frame that you had in

mind.

3) You're frustrated because of financial challenges or obstacles, and feel like

you can't go on.

4) You're overwhelmed.

5) You're depressed.

"Your possibilities have massive value, but only if you do something about them.

Now is when." ~ Ralph Marston

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How To Use The Desire To Give Up To Your Advantage

1) You're exhausted, and feel like your efforts are in vain, so what's the

point? More than likely, you are actually at a point where you're making

significant progress, but you just can't see it yet. This is the time of your life

that separates the really successful people, "the winners", from the people who

never quite reach their full potential. You are very close to a breakthrough, so

you should not give up now. It's like when you start eating healthier and

exercising more in an effort to lose weight. You have a certain goal in mind for

how many pounds you want to lose. But for the first week or two, you may not

be able to see any noticeable changes. However, this is the time when your

body is really beginning to change. You just can't see it. This is also the hardest

part of a weight-loss journey because you're working so hard, and sacrificing,

but not getting any visible reward/gratification. My advice to you? Hang in

there! You're closer than you think!

2) You're not getting the results you want, within the time frame that you had in

mind. So you were committed to making a change, an effort, or taking a risk in

your business, career, or relationship, and then.....nothing. You knew that it would

take time, but heck, you didn't think that it was going to take THIS long! Guess

what, here's a quote for you, from my mentor and inspiration, Marshawn

Evans, "Just because God doesn't move on your timeline doesn't mean that He

isn't moving." That says it all. We typically want things to happen faster than is

realistically possible. But most importantly, if God is delaying something, it's for a

reason. Focus your energy on learning the lesson, and gaining wisdom from the

process. Then, when that end reward finally comes, you'll be wiser, stronger, and

have a bit more patience and gratitude as a result.

3) You're frustrated because of financial challenges or obstacles, and feel like

you can't go on. Welcome to the club! You are not alone! We all face financial

challenges and setbacks. It's a part of life. Some situations are more extreme and

more difficult than others, but either way, feeling this way is totally normal, so

don't feel bad about it. Just do what you CAN do. There are many actions that you


can take each day to better your situation during lean times. You just have to get

creative. I also recommend writing down a plan for what you will do now, and

what you will do when times of financial flourish come back your way. This will

give you hope, and keep you focused on the future, and not stuck in your current,

temporary situation. Ultimately, you want to learn how to be content in every

situation. Don’t let money (or the lack thereof) determine your level of joy,

happiness, or personal value. “I know how to get along with humble means, and I

also know how to live in prosperity; in any and every circumstance I have learned

the secret of being filled and going hungry, both of having abundance and suffering need.” ~ Philippians 4:12 (New American Standard Bible (©1995)

4) You're overwhelmed. I believe that feeling overwhelmed is God's way of telling

us that we're carrying a burden that we're not supposed to bear. It means that either:

1) you need to ask for and get help. Or, 2) you need to let something go. Now

sometimes that "thing" you need to let go of isn't a physical item. It could be that

you need to let go of guilt, your past, shame, someone else's expectations of you,

negative people or thoughts, and so on. Or maybe it's time for you to hire a

babysitter, an intern, a personal assistant, or a home cleaning service. Feeling

overwhelmed is a sign that something needs to change. It's your job to figure out

what that is. Do you need to go to bed earlier? Do you need to do more of the

things that you love and enjoy, and stop working all the time? Do you need a break

or a vacation? Take time to figure out what's wrong, and why you're overwhelmed,

and then do something about it.

5) You're depressed. This is serious. If you feel like your depression is out of

control, or really dominating your life, you should definitely visit your health care

provider, and seek the professional help, therapy, or medication that you may need.

This is nothing to be ashamed of. While you're doing that, take time every day to

do those things that make you happy and feed your soul. This can be anything from

dancing, singing, playing an instrument, doing Yoga, spending time with your

kids, or loved ones, reading a book, going to church, praying, meditating, writing,

etc. Make time to do those things that make you feel whole, joyous, and happy,

from the inside out. Write down plans for the future, things you want to

accomplish or experience. Also, help someone else. Whether you volunteer

somewhere, become a mentor, or just actively seek out opportunities to help the

people in your circle, this is a great way to breathe some new life into you. Taking

the focus off of you, and helping someone else, not only benefits them, but it

makes you feel valuable, purposeful, and fulfilled in many ways as well. Lastly, I

believe that prayer changes things, and there are some things that only God can

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truly heal us from. You were not created to live in depression and constant despair.

God wants you to live a life that is full of joy and happiness. So don’t forget to

pray, and ask God for help and for healing. He will do it!

"Never think that God's delays are God's denials. Hold on. Hold fast. Hold out. Patience is genius." ~ George Louis LeClere De Buffon

How To Get What You Want In Your Life, Career, and

Business

After getting married, a couple in the newlyweds ministry at our church

recommended a very popular book for my husband and I to read called, "The 5

Love Languages - The Secret To Love That Lasts" by Gary Chapman. This book

focuses on helping couples communicate better, and learn what each other's

primary "love language" is. It is truly an incredible book, and I highly recommend

it. The general idea is that, my primary love language may be different from yours,

which means, what's important to me is different from what's important to you.

What makes me feel loved, valued, and appreciated, more than likely is different

from my husband, and usually isn't exactly the same for most couples.

This is where it gets interesting.

My husband and I took the quiz in the book after trying to guess what each other's

primary love language might be, and it was extremely accurate. It basically

confirmed what we already knew about each other. But it also gave us an

opportunity to learn even more about what's most important to each other, and how

we can spend more time and energy doing the things that we each value the most.

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The 5 Love Languages

Words of Affirmation

Quality Time

Receiving Gifts

Acts of Service

Physical Touch

Imagine spending your time and energy every day on something that you THINK

is important to your staff, clients, boss, students, friends, family, spouse, or child,

only to be disappointed because they're not appreciating it, or reciprocating in the

way that you would like.

It's easy to blame the other person or people for being ungrateful, insensitive,

selfish, or unprofessional. But there's a good chance that whatever you're doing,

whatever you’re offering, or how you’re communicating or interacting with them,

is not as valuable to them, as it is to you. You might say to yourself, "If someone

offered this to me, or did this for me, I would be ecstatic, and I would respond like

this....!" Well, great. That's you. You're different from other people.

You may be putting your time and energy in the wrong places (places that are of

little or no importance to the other person).

So, what do you do?

#1 Ask People What They Want

The best way to get what you want is to give someone else what they want or need.

And the best way to find out what that is, is to simply ask. Find out what they

value, what's important to them and what matters to them.

Disclaimer: Some people don't know what they want. So you have to get a little

more creative in order to help them articulate what they want.

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Ask them questions like:

- What do you love to do?

- What makes you happy?

- If you had $1 million dollars, how would you spend it?

- What are some things that I can do to make you feel loved and appreciated?

- What's the one thing that stresses you out the most?

- What's the one thing that would make your life less stressful, and happier?

- How do you treat yourself? What do you do to pamper yourself?

- When do you feel loved and appreciated the most?

- What are some of your pet peeves?

- What is your passion?

- If money wasn’t an issue, and you could do whatever you wanted every day,

what would you do? How would you spend your time?

- What motivates/inspires you?

- What are some of your personal goals, and how can I help you to reach them?

Asking questions like these will help you to learn what's important to your clients,

your boss, your students, your friends, family, your significant other, your child,

etc.


At the end of the day, if you're not getting the results, response, or reaction that you

want out of the people around you, you may need to learn what their “love

language” is. Find out what the best way is to communicate with them, what

matters to them the most, what makes them feel valued and appreciated, and what

drives them to make decisions, and take positive action. This is one of the absolute

best ways for you to get what you want out of your life, your career, and your

business.

Chapter 2

How To Overcome Obstacles and Life Challenges

If there's one thing in life that is guaranteed (besides death and taxes), it’s

problems. We all face them, and have to deal with them on one level or another

every day. Problems are infinite!

But, I have some good news for you today....

SOLUTIONS ARE ABUNDANT!!

For every problem that exists, there is a solution. Period! In some cases, the

solution may not be easy (simple and easy are not the same thing). In other cases,

the solution may take you out of your comfort zone, push you to grow in areas


where you're weak, and take some time. Nonetheless, there is a solution to every

problem.

Here Are 4 Common Life Problems, and Their Simple Solutions:

Problem #1 I don't make enough money.

I think that 99% of the population would agree with this one! Not making enough

money is a bit complex though, because sometimes when people say this, what

they really should be saying is, "I have too much stuff to maintain on a monthly

basis, and I need to let some of it go, so that I will have more money", or, "I am

putting all my time and energy into work that is not fulfilling, and not helping me

to create the lifestyle that I want to live". So, sometimes, it's not just about making

more money, it's about what you do with the money that you make, and also, how

fulfilling the work is that you're doing to earn your money. To make a ton of

money doing something that is degrading or dishonest, doesn't work. To make a

ton of money, but then not have the time or energy to enjoy it, and spend time with

the ones you love, doesn't work either. So, you have to put things into perspective,

and then you will be able to figure out how you can improve your quality of life

financially, and otherwise. Ultimately, if lack of funds is a major issue for you, you

will need to do whatever it takes to make major changes in two areas: 1) decrease

how much you spend each month on your bills and expenses, and 2) find ways

to increase your income at the same time. It’s as simple as that. Will that be easy

for you? It depends on how bad you want it, and how much you’re willing to

sacrifice to improve your financial situation. But the key is to take action now to

improve your situation, and to not spend your time focusing on or talking about the

problem itself.

Problem #2 I don't have enough time.

Time, is extremely valuable, and it is limited. Once it’s gone, it’s gone, and you

can never get it back again. So it is up to you to make time work to your

advantage. Time is a matter of choices. You choose how you spend your time. I

believe that you should budget your time, just like you budget your money, in


order of priority. If your priorities are family, health/fitness, your career/business,

and hobbies, then your time should be distributed as such, in order of importance.

Trust me, this really works. What I've found is that, once you are clear about what

your priorities are, and what your values are, related to your time, you begin to

teach other people to respect and value your time as well. This includes saying 'no',

a lot! This also leads to people approaching you about various things, with the

understanding that, you're very busy, and may not be able to participate in the way

that they would like, and that's okay. Get on track with time management by

prioritizing, saying 'no' to things that don't line up with your priorities/values/goals,

and by teaching others to respect and value your time.

Problem #3 I can't deal with difficult people.

Ah yes, difficult people. They're everywhere, aren't they?

Well, I have a quote for you that speaks volumes, "Think about what you say

before you say it. What you WANT to say is usually different than what you

NEED to say."~ Marshawn Evans

I was just having a conversation about this with someone on Twitter the other day.

She was explaining how difficult some of her co-workers and supervisors are to

work with, and how she struggles with holding her tongue a lot of the time. My

response to her was, you can't control what other people do, you can only control

how you respond to it, and YOU are accountable for your actions, no matter what.

It's not easy to remain calm, and keep your composure when someone is lashing

out at you, but if they're already in a negative state of mind, joining them in that

space won't do either of you any good. When in doubt, listen to what they have to

say, then step away, take a break, and let them know that you've heard what they

had to say, and you will get back to them with a response shortly. Cool down, look

beyond their emotions, and find the root of the problem, and then address that.

There are so many reasons why people act the way that they do. Sometimes, by

you remaining calm, and letting them know that you hear where they're coming

from, and understand their thoughts/feelings, they are able to cool down, and walk

away with even more respect for you than they originally had.


Problem #4 I need to get more customers, clients, students, supporters, jobs,

and funding...

I have a 2-part solution for this problem, to get you started on the right foot.

- Build Relationships. Figure out who your target audience is, and who the people

are that can help you reach your goals. (And the answer, “everybody, because

dance is universal", is not acceptable.) Get specific about who you're targeting and

why. Write out a description of the qualities/traits/demographic of your target

customers. Then do some research to find out the best ways to connect with them.

Do they love Twitter, but spend less time on Facebook, or vice versa? Are they all

over YouTube? Are they involved in a certain dance membership organization?

Find out where they are, and then make sure you're there too, to add value to their

lives in some way. Find out how what you have to offer might benefit them, and at

the appropriate time, share it with them. But build genuine, mutually beneficial

relationships first.

- Build A Tribe. Once you've cultivated some relationships through people liking

you and what you're about, and trusting you as a result, you will be able to build a

community of people who all support and are interested in what you do. Now

you're getting somewhere. Build your tribe through your e-mail subscriber list

(most important), and through Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn, so that you can

have a consistent and organized way to stay connected with them. This way, you

will be able to send them targeted messages that lead to the positive actions that

you want them to take. Building your own tribe takes time, but it is the most

important thing you can do for success in your marketing and branding efforts.

When you’ve done this effectively, you will begin to attract the types of

opportunities and people that you want, without having to constantly hustle and

seek them out on your own. There are many doors that will open up to you when

you have an extensive network, and a loyal tribe of fans, followers, and

subscribers. You can also become a real power player based on your social media

presence and influence, which can lead to lucrative business opportunities and a

significant and positive impact on your community as well.


My Top 5 Ways To Make A Tough Decision

A while back, my company, Kiner Enterprises, went through a major transition.

My company was originally founded as a dance teacher staffing company,

providing long and short-term teaching artists to dance studios, schools, and arts

organizations. This is how we started out, and it’s what we were known for. But

after about three and a half years of running the business, I knew that I needed a

change. My goals, desires, and interests had shifted, and also the reality of running

that type of business made me realize that, it wasn’t actually the right business for

me.

So I began the process of soul-searching about what I wanted my business to

become in the long-term, what my passion and purpose really were, and what type

of lifestyle I wanted to have as an entrepreneur. It was a very difficult decision and

transition to make, especially since my company was only known for that one

thing. But it was absolutely worth it!

Now more than ever, I feel like my company, my work, my purpose, and my

passion, are all in alignment, and I have the peace, joy, and daily excitement to

prove it!

You may be wondering about what steps I took to finally come to this difficult

decision. I will share them with you below.

My top five ways to make a difficult decision:

1) Seek Peace. After a year of contemplation, I literally felt uneasy for about a

week straight, and it intensified every day, until I finally stopped what I was doing,


sat quietly, and addressed the feelings that I was experiencing. When things

aren’t quite right, you won’t have any peace. Seek God, pray, meditate, and

do whatever it takes to get your peace back.

2) Do a Self-Assessment and Evaluation. I watched and took note of some of my

personal habits, feelings, and patterns as it related to various aspects of running my

business every day. What I noticed was the areas that I would procrastinate in or

not follow through with, were the very areas that I no longer enjoyed, and had no

passion for. I also wrote down my personal and business goals, straight from the

heart, and realized that they weren’t the same as they were three years prior. So

that just proved to me that it was time to make a change. You have to evaluate

and re-evaluate your personal and professional goals, at least once a year.

You, and the world around you, are constantly changing and evolving, so it’s

important to check in with yourself to see if there are any things that you need

to change, let go of, or re-prioritize in your life.

3) Seek Sound Advice. Once I came to my decision, I spoke to those around me

that I respected and trusted, to get their feedback, and I was amazed. When sharing

my decision with my husband, his response was, “I knew you were feeling that

way, and tried to tell you to make that transition a long time ago.” Classic, huh?

My other confidantes that I spoke with were so supportive, agreed with me 100

percent, and began sharing great ideas on how I can build things going forward,

based on my brand new business model and plan for my business. Speak to those

around you who you trust, and who you know you the best. They will be able

to give you valuable insight into your situation, and offer support to you when

making a tough decision.

4) Take Action. Although my decision to restructure my company’s business

model was the right decision, it was also a difficult one. I mean, I was essentially

going to have to start from scratch all over again. I also struggled with questions

like, “what will people say?”, “what do we do next?”, “how do we build on this

foundation that we’ve already established, in a smart and beneficial way?” You’ve

got to ask yourself the tough questions, and also answer them! And ultimately,

take action to bring about the new life, and change that you so desire.

5) Start Fresh. Since making this decision, I’ve allowed myself to have a brand

new vision and open mind about what direction I want my company to go in. No

limitations, no expectations, nothing but an open forum where new ideas can be

cultivated, explored, and allowed to grow. This is one of the benefits of making a

tough decision. Once you make it, you’re free to create something new and


different, with no limitations. This of course applies to any sort of decision,

whether it is about your business, your career, your relationship, your living

situation, going back to school, or changes in your beliefs, values, health, and

wellness. Don’t ever feel like you’re stuck on a particular path, because that’s

all you’ve ever done, or that’s the path that you’ve been on for so long. Don’t

be afraid to start fresh.

So, what has happened since I made this difficult decision? I have peace, I’m

happier, I feel free, and I feel more fulfilled in my work. I am more passionate than

ever about expanding the company in ways that I’d never even imagined before,

and changing the dance world for the better, in a huge and significant way.

Amazing new business opportunities have begun to open up! Plus, I’m helping

more dance artists to improve their quality of life, and I know that more growth

and success are on the way. I am focusing solely on the things that I am truly

passionate about, and are aligned with my life’s purpose, and it feels great!

So really, the hardest part of making a difficult decision, is accepting the fact

that you have to make it. Everything else after that is gravy. What you’ll find

is that, after you’ve made the tough decision, the fun really begins.

“5 Deadly Thoughts on the Road to Success”

Back in 2009, I hosted a teleseminar entitled, “Dance Your Way Into Business

Success”. Two of the major concepts that I spoke about during this teleseminar

were: “You have to create your own “Big Break”, and “You must face your

fears”. If there’s one thing that many of us have learned in the current economy

it’s that, waiting for someone else to make you successful or to create opportunities

for you is a complete waste of time, and will only prevent you from reaching your

goals and dreams.

I believe that when it comes to your life, your career, or your business, you cannot

afford to be passive, be a bystander, or expect others to recognize your talents and


create the blueprint for you that will lead to success and prosperity. Only You can

do this.

Here are 5 Deadly Thoughts on the Road to Success and How To Overcome

them:

1) There just aren’t any opportunities out there.

2) I don’t have the money.

3) What if I fail?

4) No one’s ever done it before.

5) I don’t even know where to start.

1) “There just aren’t any opportunities out there.” – Yes, there are. If you feel

this way, you probably need to do more research, and even enlist the assistance of

someone else to help you. If the opportunity isn’t there, then that’s even better!

That means that you can be an innovator, and create something completely new!

Finding and creating opportunities is no easy task, and will require some serious

determination, education, and tenacity on your part. But remember, just because

it’s difficult, doesn’t mean that it’s impossible. Keep searching! If you can’t find

what you’re looking for, then create it!

2) “I don’t have the money.” – With the internet, do-it-yourself websites, and the

explosion of social media, which is totally free, you don’t necessarily need a ton of

money to get started. Now granted, I don’t recommend starting a business with no

capital, but don’t let that minor obstacle stop you. Save up, get creative, start small,

barter services, network, and go from there.

3) “What if I fail?” - There’s a good chance that you will. Let me rephrase that.

There’s something called a “learning curve” in business, which is basically a fancy

way of saying, “I failed a bunch of times along the way, and learned from my

mistakes.” Remember, failure is not permanent. It is part of the learning process.

There’s ALWAYS a way to bounce back from failure, and the main way is, get up


and try it again (a little smarter). It’s also great to have a mentor to help lead and

guide you along the way, so that you can avoid a lot of mistakes that others have

made, learn from their mistakes in advance, and make faster progress.

4) “No one’s ever done it before.” – This is a no-brainer! Obviously, that means

that there’s a great opportunity for you to do something really special. And guess

what, since you have no competition, you have a really great advantage! What are

you waiting for? Do a little market research to find out if people would be

interested in your idea, and discover if it’s a viable concept or not. More than

likely, someone else has probably attempted to do what you want to do, so you can

check out where they may have gone wrong, and use that as an opportunity to

create something even better.

5) “I don’t even know where to start.” Ok, this is a tough one. Not! Grab a piece

of paper, and a pen, or better yet, go to your computer, and put on paper what your

ideas are. That’s how you start! After that, ask yourself the Who, What, Where,

Why, and How about your idea; Who would be interested in this product/service?

What will it be used for? Where will people go to access this product/service? Why

would potential clients be interested in this product/service? How will I market it

to my target audience? Then share your idea with a few trusted friends and

colleagues, to get some feedback.

See, how easy that was? Now you’re on your way! I would also recommend doing

some soul-searching to determine the motivation behind your particular idea. Is it

something that you’re passionate about? Are you good at it? Do you have a lot of

knowledge about that particular area, or do you simply think it’s a way to make

some fast cash? Are you willing sacrifice and deal with the stress, instability, and

pressure that you may have to face along the way? Are you in it for the long haul?

Answer these questions, and don’t be afraid! Step out on faith, and walk in your

purpose. Anything less would not only be sad, but boring! Go for it!


Chapter 3

How To Have An Incredibly Satisfying and Successful Life

A couple of years ago, I went through a very stressful time in my life, and became

very careless with my diet and exercise regimen, and ended up gaining about 30

lbs. Now as a professional dancer, that might as well have been 50 or 60 lbs.!

During that time, I of course was not happy with the condition that my body was

in; however, it took a while for me to get to the point where, it was time to wake up

and make a change. Mastering the power of focus is part of what got me out of the

rut that I was in (along with God’s grace, and a lot of prayer).

When it comes to your body, we all know that we need to “eat healthy and exercise

regularly”. But what happens when life takes over? Maybe you’re stressed because

of financial problems, or trouble in your relationship or marriage. What if you,

your child, or a loved one, is sick, and the emotional stress is taking its toll on you?

What if you’re struggling with emotional trauma or pain from your past? Eating

healthy and exercising regularly isn’t necessarily as easy as it sounds under these

types of circumstances. We must, however, put things in perspective, and start to

develop the habits that will help us to succeed, reach our goals, and be happy and

joyful, from the inside out.

To master the power of focus, you need to do three things:

1) Understand that the power of focus lies in your hands. You choose what you

focus on. You can focus on your circumstances, or focus on God. You can focus

on the positive or focus on the negative. Therefore, the power of focus can work

for you, or against you, it’s up to you to choose. Focus is an action word, a verb, a

decision, and it is crucial in your daily life. If you’d like to lose weight, you must

focus on that vision of your physical self, and your life, once you are in a healthy

place again, and nothing else. This will allow you to overcome the junk food

temptations that you are confronted with every day, because your focus is on your


goal. This is just one example. The goal is to focus on what you want to create,

rather than what you dislike about your situation.

2) Set goals, focus on them, and begin crawling towards them. I use the word

“crawl” because it’s usually the little steps that we take each day that make the

most difference. It’s okay if you can’t take huge steps and make huge strides right

now. Every little bit counts. It’s unbelievable to me how much we can accomplish,

or change in our lives by doing, or not doing something, once or twice a day. Take

time to meditate or go for a walk for just 5 or 10 minutes, in the middle of the day,

and see how different you feel. Choose to stop working from home at 8 pm every

night, and watch how much more relaxed, happy, and productive you will be

throughout the day. Make a decision to spend an extra hour or two with your

children, or on learning a new skill. The same goes for going to sleep 30 min. or 1

hour earlier than normal. Figure out what will work for you, set your goals, get

focused, and do it today!

3) Your thoughts become actions, and your focus begins in your own

mind. Are you a negative thinker? Do you always see the glass as half-empty?

Well, if you focus on the negative, then that’s what you’ll always get. Choose to be

positive and see the positive possibilities in people and situations. That way,

negative people or occurrences (although they will come) won’t sway your new-

found mastery of focusing on the positive and what you want. You can always put

a positive spin on any given situation if you try hard enough. But remember, it

starts with your inner dialogue. Overcome negative thoughts with positive ones,

and you will see your life start to change for the better.

By the way, no one ever said that this would be easy. But it’s crucial to be actively

controlling and streamlining what you focus on from day to day. Otherwise, your

mind will be controlled by your circumstances, and by what others say, do, or

think, and believe me, you don’t want that!

"Mastering the Power of Focus" Part 2


Have you ever done a particular task or activity while you were distracted, then

again when you were focused? Could you see/feel a difference? Were the results

different?

I'm from the school of thought that, in order to do something well, and get it done

in a timely manner, you need to focus on that one particular thing, preferably

without interruption, if possible. I don't say that because it's easy to do, but

because, based on experience, it's the way you get the best results, and get things

done within a reasonable time frame. That’s how I actually was able to write this e-

book. I shut everything down around me, and focused on writing, and nothing else,

until this e-book was done.

However, if you think that by simply "focusing", your phone will stop ringing, e-

mails will stop coming through, or people will refrain from disturbing you, I would

say that you're a bit delusional! That's not going to happen.

Mastering the power of focus means being able to block out that which is around

you (or even within at times), or anything outside of what you're focusing on, in

order to complete a task or activity, fulfill a purpose, or reach a goal.

Ever wonder why your parents used to say to you, "no TV until your homework is done"? Because they wanted you to focus on the task at hand, and get it done.

How do you think gold-medalists, professional athletes, performing artists, public

speakers, etc. are able to excel under very stressful and high-pressure

circumstances? They have mastered the power of focus.

Beware…

Now I must warn you, some people may not appreciate your new-found "power of

focus" attitude, because it means that they may not have the same access to you

that they once had. You may take a little longer to get back to someone, or you

may have to say 'no' on occasion, because while you're focusing on one thing, other

people/things have to wait. People in general, tend to have a lack of patience,


especially nowadays with the speed of technology that we've all grown so

accustom to. So be prepared for some opposition.

If you start to feel guilty, or wonder if it's all worth it or not, just think about your

doctor. Would you want him/her to examine you, and two other patients at the

same time? Would you mind if he/she was texting while doing surgery on you? Or

would you prefer that his/her total and complete focus was on you, until the task at

hand is complete? You already know the answer to that question.

How To Use the Power of "No" To Get What You Want

Have you heard of the Bravo network's reality TV show "Bethenny Ever After"?

This show is all about the NY Times best-selling author, celebrity chef, lifestyle

brand maven, and creator of the "Skinnygirl Margarita", Bethenny Frankel, and her

crazy life with her husband Jason, and daughter Bryn. I'm a huge fan of the show,

and really admire Bethenny's work ethic, and well-deserved success. In Bethenny's

book entitled, "A Place of Yes", she shares "ten rules for pursuing your goals with

authenticity and drive".

"It's easy to say 'no', to say I can't, to expect the worst, and to doubt yourself.

But life can be better than "not bad" or good enough. It can be amazing." ~

Bethenny Frankel

I love the idea of "A Place of Yes". The idea that you should say yes, I can

accomplish my goals, yes; I can have, and deserve to have the life that I've always

wanted.

But, the flip side to the 'Yes' that gets you want you want for your career, business,

and personal life, is the power of the word, 'No', that will prevent you from getting

off track, and keep your mind and environment safe from unhealthy distractions.

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At the beginning of 2011, inspired by Chris Brogan, I wrote a blog post about my

three words for the year that were going to help direct my path and choices

throughout the year. One of those words was discernment.

To me, discernment means, knowing when to say yes, and when to say no. I've

found that the things that I say 'no' to in my life, business, and career, are

equally as important as the things that I say 'yes' to.

As I get older and wiser, I learn more and more every day, how empowering it is to

say 'no'. So, I believe that you can use the power of 'NO', to get the life that you

want.

Say 'NO' to:

- Negative people and environments

- Distractions

- Self-Doubt and Self-Pity

- Desperation

- Settling

- Useless opportunities

- Working for free

- Naysayers

- Fear

- Unhealthy eating

- Lack of exercise

- Smoking

- Overworking

- Unhealthy relationships

- Debt

With life being so short, and all of us having a limited amount of time each day to

accomplish our goals, handle our responsibilities, and spend quality time with

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comfortable with. Saying 'No' to the wrong things for your life or your business,

will empower you, open you up, and free you up, to say 'Yes' to right things.

My Top 5 Secrets To A Happy and Balanced Life

1) Put Yourself First. Let me clarify this point before I explain it. I put God first

in my life, above everyone and everything, and my husband is second, so

technically I'm third. But what I mean by "put yourself first" is this:

Put Your Mental & Physical Health and Well-Being First.

Put The Relationships That Matter To You The Most First. I've been

known to postpone non-urgent work, in order to spend some quality time

with my husband or a day with my niece at the park, and I'm proud of it!

Put Your Priorities, Personal Goals, and Happiness First. One thing that

I've learned is, what is urgent to someone else, isn't necessarily urgent to me.

Don't make other people's priorities, your priorities. Stay focused.

Put Life Balance First. Your life cannot be all work, and no play. Your life

cannot be ALL of any one particular thing. You need to have balance.

Meditation, Exercise, Work, Play, Downtime, White Space, Rest,

Relaxation, Entertainment, Learning/Reading Time, etc.

2) Keep or Create White Space In Your Life. I read an article online about the

concept of having white space in your life, and it's so important. White space is

that time where you can just think, and be alone with yourself in your own mental


space. It's a bit different from meditation. You can think of it as the space that

creates a time for meditation. It's a time that you leave blank, as opposed to

scheduling things to take up every minute and every hour of your day, until you go

to sleep at night. It's basically empty space or time in your day/week, where you're

able to think, process, reflect, and not get caught up being busy doing "stuff", with

no time to actually think about what you're doing, and why you're doing it.

3) Stop and Think About What You're Doing and Why. Be very careful of

routine. Sometimes we can get stuck in the routine of doing certain things, while

forgetting why we started doing them in the first place. It's very easy to continue

doing things out of routine, so be sure to stop every so often and ask yourself,

"Why am I doing this?" You may find out that you no longer need to be engaging

in a certain activity, task, or job, or with a certain person. Or you may simply find

an extra bit of motivation and inspiration to get you refocused on your purpose and

your goals.

4) Learn To Delegate. There are some things that you really shouldn't be spending

your valuable time on every day, and you (and I) know it. Delegating can be a little

scary at first, and can backfire if not done properly. But it's something you and I

must learn to do, if we want to live the balanced and happy life that we've always

dreamed of. It's pretty simple. Start with delegating the things that you like to do

the least, then move on to those areas that are not exactly your strengths. Take the

next step, and find (or hire) someone to take over those tasks for you. You will not

only be more productive as a result, but you'll be happier too!

5) Give Yourself Permission To Be Un-Productive. TV, movies, video games,

sports, reading a book or magazine, these are all things we do simply for the

pleasure and enjoyment of doing it. It may not help your career or business grow,

or help you mark any tasks off of your to-do list, but it sure feels good! Yes it

does! Allow yourself to have time where you don't have to think, accomplish

anything, or even be productive. Give yourself time to just be, and have fun. Spend

time with your loved ones, and enjoy those precious moments with them. Life is

short. You deserve it.


Plus, three more…

"Learn to take risks in life. If you win, you can lead, and if you lose, you can

guide."~ Brittney Moses

6) Take Risks - How will you ever know what is possible, if you never take a risk,

and try? There aren't too many guarantees in life, and at the end of the day, what do

you have to lose? Just go for it!

"It takes courage to BE who you really are. Choosing to live out your purpose is

more powerful than you realize." ~ Marshawn Evans

7) Put Yourself Out There - We all want to be liked and accepted, and hey, no

one likes to be judged or criticized. But, the only way to reach your full potential,

and experience the success of your dreams, is to put yourself out there. Yeah, you

may encounter some haters, but the rewards of putting yourself out there, and

having a positive impact on someone’s life, outweigh the stress of possible

criticism or negative feedback.

"When you do what you can do, God will show up and do what you can't do." ~

Joel Osteen

8) Feel The Fear, Do It Anyway - It's always scary to try something new or

different, and step into the unknown. But that doesn't mean that you shouldn't still

do that thing that scares you. That's where the most awesome things happen: right

outside your comfort zone.


Chapter 4

31 MOTIVATIONAL QUOTES TO KEEP YOU MOTIVATED

EVERY DAY OF THE MONTH

“You were born with purpose and passion. It's up to you to seek out that purpose and find your passion.” ~ Billy Cox

“No vision is permanently stopped by lack of finances, but by lack of faith & courage, & an unwillingness to step out & take risks.” ~ Bob Gass

“Don't let rejection keep you down. Often out of our greatest rejection comes our

greatest direction. Other people do not determine your potential.” ~ Fred

Ajamagra

“The easiest path is often so crowded you can't make any progress. So the more difficult path actually ends up being easier.” ~ Ralph Marston

“Sometimes the longer you have to wait for something, the more you will

appreciate it when it finally arrives.” ~ Kim Garst


“You cannot hang out with negative people and expect to live a positive life.” ~

Fred Ajamagra

“Cast down fear and start walking in your God given potential.” ~ Farrah Gray

“Success comes to the man who does today what others were thinking of doing tomorrow.” ~ Fred Ajamagra

“As God promotes you, remember where you came from. Our choices create ecosystems. Use God's favor to promote & help others.” ~ Sandi Krakowski

“Success is attained not by those who start big, but by those who maintain their momentum long enough to get big.” ~ Ralph Marston

“Owning your own platform is better than renting out space on someone else’s stage.” – Marshawn Evans

"Count up all the hours you've given 100% focus to a TV screen. They are living

their dream. Are you living yours?" ~ Tony Gaskins

"Don't let the good life become the enemy of the great life." ~ Hanns-Oskar Porr

"Success is not the result of spontaneous combustion. You must set yourself on fire." ~ Fred Sero


"When ye are prepared for a thing, the opportunity to use it presents itself." ~

Edgar Cayce

"Be thankful for what you have; you'll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don't have, you will never, ever have enough." ~ Oprah Winfrey

“God will NEVER bring you to something that He hasn't given you the power

and strength to overcome.” ~ Kimberly Jones

“When your priorities are in the right place, distractions become easy to recognize.” ~ Marshawn Evans

“It's okay to say "Thanks, but no thanks." That's called discernment.” ~ Mandy

Hale

“Don't plan and then pray for God to make it work. Pray and find out what God's plan is.” ~ Joyce Meyer

“God doesn’t always lead us the easiest way, but He leads us in the way that will grow us & prepare us.” ~ Victoria Osteen

“If no one gives me an opportunity, I will make my own...No Excuses!” ~ Farrah

Gray


“We are here to grow and evolve and to change...not to stand still. Make your move!” ~ Mandy Hale

“Your destiny is not determined by your critics. Rise above the criticism and run your own race.” ~ Joel Osteen

“NEVER hold your head down, NEVER say I can’t, NEVER limit yourself, and NEVER stop believing in yourself.” ~ Kimberly Jones

"Studies have shown that the most successful people make decisions rapidly

because they are clear on their values and what they really want for their lives.

The same studies show that they are slow to change their decisions, if at all. On

the other hand, people who fail usually make decisions slowly and change their

minds quickly, always bouncing back and forth. Just decide!" ~ Tony Robbins,

Awaken the Giant Within, p. 49

“Count up all the hours you've given 100% focus to a TV screen. They are living their dream. Are you living yours?” ~ Tony Gaskins

“People achieve success when they take a leap of faith and face what they don’t know and move forward with fierce determination.” ~ Robert Kiyosaki

"People are often unreasonable and self-centered. Forgive them anyway. If you

are kind, people may accuse you of ulterior motives. Be kind anyway. If you are

honest, people may cheat you. Be honest anyway. If you find happiness, people

may be jealous. Be happy anyway. The good you do today may be forgotten

tomorrow. Do good anyway. Give the world the best you have and it may never


be enough. Give your best anyway. For you see, in the end, it is between you and God. It was never between you and them anyway.” ~ Mother Theresa

“What got you to where you are won't necessarily get you to where you need to

be. To be "called" means you'll always be moving from something, toward

something. “If what you're doing isn't working, seek God for fresh instructions.

If your goal is to fit comfortably within the framework of where you started and

make no waves, you'll never enjoy what God has for you up the road. You can't

pray for growth and resist change.” ~ Bob Gass

I never judge a risk by the probability of success. I judge it by the value of the goal. ~ Rick Warren

Did you enjoy this e-book? Do you feel motivated, empowered, and inspired to

pursue your passion with purpose? I hope you do!

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member, and let’s send a wave of positive energy across the world!


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