the simple (not easy) recipe of mutual trust for teams
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Mutual trust and safety for teams
The simple (not easy) recipe
Antti Kirjavainen @anttiki Scan-Agile 2017
http://flowa.fi/ @FlowaWolf
Antti who?
Widespread experience of mutual trust in teams
And lack thereof: • Embarrassment, • Insecurity, • Losing morale etc.
Let’s share experiences
• Share a story about when you saw lack of trust in a team (or at another work-related context)
• What effect did that have on the work?
• Take turns, we have 4 minutes J
Answers from Agile
• Shared purpose, • Working agreements, • Communication, • Listening, • Engagement, • Celebrate failure/learning, • Retrospective prime directive, • XP (or Scrum) values etc.
Me
You – Interactions
We
Shared purpose Working agreements
Celebrate failure
Listening Communication
Engagement
Courage
Me
You – Interactions
We
Courage
Safety and trust is built from individual level
through 1-on-1 interactions
BY THE WAY: MOST OF THE STUFF I TALK ABOUT IS INVITATION-BASED
Don’t make people do this stuff because you say so, okay?
How to get out of these boxes?
In the box: • See others as objects • Others less real • My needs matter more • Resist others’ humanity
Mind at War
Outside of the box: • See others as people • Others just as real • Their needs matter as
much • Respond to others’
humanity
Mind at Peace The Arbinger Institute: Anatomy of Peace
Share your story of growing self-esteem and courage
• Tell about something that had a positive effect on your self-image or self-esteem
• You can also relate a story about someone you know (keep confidentiality in mind)
• How did it help that person to be more vulnerable?
• Take turns, we have 4 minutes in total J
Mindfulness
• Has been reported in studies to support high self-esteem
• Can help dealing with uncertainties, anxieties etc.
• http://psycnet.apa.org/journals/psp/84/4/822/
Safe experiments of being vulnerable
• Practice saying NO • Share a mistake you’ve made with a
colleague • Ask for help when you don’t fully
understand something
• See more on Amr Elssamadisy’s blog/vlog: https://samadisy.com/2017/01/22/how-to-create-psychological-safety/
Me
You – Interactions
We
Courage to be
vulnerable
One-on-one Interactions
Honesty Candidness Feedback
Authenticity
Me
You – Interactions
We
Courage to be
vulnerable
One-on-one Interactions
Awareness Listening Attention Respect
Honesty Candidness Feedback
Authenticity
Check-in protocol
• ”Hello! I’m {one or more of [GLAD, MAD, SAD, AFRAID]}.
• [Share details if you want]. • ”I’m in!” or ”I Pass” • Others: ”Welcome!”
https://liveingreatness.com/core-protocols/check-in/
Check-in protocol
• ”Hello! I’m { one or more of
[GLAD, (I have energy)
MAD, (My needs are not met)
SAD, (My thoughts are elsewhere) AFRAID]}. (I’m uncertain)
• [Share details if you want] • ”I’m in!” or ”I Pass” • Other(s): ”Welcome!”
https://liveingreatness.com/core-protocols/check-in/
Share stories on vulnerability http://www.happymelly.com/how-build-trust-in-workplace/ http://www.360stories.one/
RESPECT IS ABOUT TAKING RESPONSIBILITY IN THE TEAM
As well as taking responsibility of your own emotions and actions
Empathetic Communication
Observation Emotion Need Request
Non-violent communication @ilmirajat @markotaipale @karhatsu http://flowa.fi/blog/2015/03/18/nvc-speed-dating-kata.html
Let’s share war stories
• Share a story about when communication in a team improved
• What kind of things influenced this improvement?
• Take turns, we have 4 minutes
Me
You – Interactions
We
Courage to be
vulnerable
One-on-one Interactions
Awareness Listening Attention Respect
Honesty Candidness Feedback
Authenticity
You can reach me at…
• Email: [email protected] • Twitter: @anttiki • Website: http://flowa.fi/ • Management 3.0:
http://flowa.fi/management30/ • Beyond Agile:
http://flowa.fi/beyondagile/
We are running a survey on safety in teams
• We want to help the community by collecting data and publishing a report
• Please take part: http://tiny.cc/safetyfi
Are you interested in having Temenos in Helsinki?
• We will run the first retreat this summer
• If you are interested, please email me at [email protected]