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KIDSINCRISIS:MINISTERINGTOCHILDRENFROMMODERNFAMILIES
Presentedby:WayneStocks|[email protected]|cell:(614)206-8974
http://Hope4HurtingKids.com@Hope4HurtKids
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TheStatisticsAreRight!!!
1. WhatpercentageofchildrenintheUnitedStatesreachage17havinglivedwiththeiralwaysmarriedbiologicalparentssincethetimeoftheirbirth(orshortlythereafter)? ___________ %
2. Inwhatyeardidthenumberofchildrenimpactedbytheirparents’divorcefirstexceedonemillionkids? ___________
3. From1970to2012,thenumberofcohabitingcoupleswithchildrenhasincreasedbywhatpercentage? ___________ %
4. Howmanychildrenlivedinsingleparenthomesin2012? ___________
5. Whatpercentageofremarriagesinvolvechildren? ___________ %
6. What%ofchildrenwillliveinastepfamilybeforereachingage18? ___________ %
7. What%ofbirthstowomenunder30werebirthstosinglemothers? ___________ %
8. Offirstchildrenborntounmarriedmothers,whatpercentagehaveahalfsiblingbyage10? ___________ %
9. Howmanymorekidslivedwiththeirgrandparentsin2010thandidin1970? ___________
10. WhatpercentageofcountiesintheUnitedStatesincludeagayhouseholdwithchildren? ___________ %
KIDSINCRISIS:MINISTERINGTOCHILDRENFROMMODERNFAMILIES
Presentedby:WayneStocks|[email protected]|cell:(614)206-8974
YourDefinitionofFamily
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ANewDefinitionofFamily
http://waynestocks.com/2014/09/27/a-new-definition-of-family/
KIDSINCRISIS:MINISTERINGTOCHILDRENFROMMODERNFAMILIES
Presentedby:WayneStocks|[email protected]|cell:(614)206-8974
ResourceGuide
A. Books1. Flesberg,EvonO.TheSwitchingHour:KidsofDivorceSayGood-byeAgain.Nashville,TN:Abingdon
Press,2008.2. Hart,ArchibaldD.HelpingChildrenSurviveDivorce:WhatToExpect,HowToHelp.Dallas:WordPub.,
1996.3. Marquardt,Elizabeth.BetweenTwoWorlds:TheInnerLivesofChildrenofDivorce.NewYork:Crown
Publishers,2005.4. Pearce,Lisa,andMelindaLundquistDentonAFaithofTheirOwn:StabilityandChangeinReligiosityof
America’sAdolescents.NewYork:OxfordUniversityPress,2011.5. Root,Andrew.TheChildrenofDivorce:TheLossofFamilyastheLossofBeing.GrandRapids,Mich.:
BakerAcademic,2010.6. Stocks,Wayne.“DealingwiththeEffectsofDivorceonKids:AParentandChildren’sWorkerGuide.”
DivorceMinistry4Kids,October31,2012.(http://divorceministry4kids.com/2012/dealing-with-the-effects-of-divorce-on-kids/)
7. Wallerstein,JudithS.,JuliaLewis,andSandraBlakeslee.TheUnexpectedLegacyofDivorce:A25YearLandmarkStudy.NewYork:Hyperion,2000.
B. Programs1. DivorceCare4Kids(http://DC4K.org)2. IAmAChildofDivorceSupportGroups(http://iamachildofdivorce.com/groups/)3. TheBigD:DivorceThroughtheEyesofaTeen(http://sonsetpointministries.com/thebigdinfo/)4. ChainedNoMore(http://robynbministries.com/chainednomore)5. DivorceCare(http://www.divorcecare.org/)
C. Websites1. MinisteringtoChildrenfromModernFamilies
a) Hope4HurtingKids(http://Hope4HurtingKids.com)b) DC4KBlog(http://blog.dc4k.org/)
c) AssociationofMarriage&FamilyMinistry(http://www.amfmonline.com/)
2. ForChildrenfromModernFamiliesa) IAmaChildofDivorce(http://iamachildofdivorce.com)b) TheHopeLineforTeens&YoungAdults(https://www.thehopeline.com/)
3. Mentoringa) DoubleDutyDadsfromtheNationalFatherhoodInitiative(http://www.fatherhood.org/double-
duty-dad)b) NationalMentoringProject(http://www.mentoring.org/)
c) TheMentoringProject(http://www.thementoringproject.org/)
d) YouthMentoringfromParentingMinistry.org(http://www.parentingministry.org/index.php/youth-mentoring-resources)
KIDSINCRISIS:MINISTERINGTOCHILDRENFROMMODERNFAMILIES
Presentedby:WayneStocks|[email protected]|cell:(614)206-8974
The“Take-Aways”
Married Biological
44,070 60%
Cohabitating Biological2,620 3%
Cohabiting Other3,100 4%
Step-Families3,542 5%
Single Parent17,848 24%
Grandparents1,431 2%Other 1,302 2%
Source: FAM1.B Family structure and children’s living arrangements: Detailed living arrangements of children by gender, race and Hispanic origin, age, parent’s education, and poverty status, 2013
“The proliferation of varieties of familystructures in recent decades means thateverything church leaders accepted as trueabout families can no longer be taken forgranted.”
- Does the Shape of Families Shape Faith?
� Consider your view of family� Look at every program, ministry and event� Search for imbalance� Consider modern families� Make a Plan
� Preparation� Relationship� Emotional Guidance� Retreat� Celebration � Mentorship / Follow Up� Hope
� Serve Kids / Serve Family� Programs� Practical Service
� Create a Community� Intergenerational� New Story (Rites of Passage)
� Mentorship� Organized / Organic� Service Opportunities
� What are they feeling? � Shock / Grief / Anxiety
� What are they going through? � Chaos / Change / Adjustment
� What should you say? � I’m Here For You / Your Feelings Are ok / God Loves You
� What should you do? � Be Available / Empathize / Mentor
� What shouldn’t you do? � Try to Fix It / Minimize It / Assume It’s All ok
� What do they need? � Solid Ground / Understanding / Hope