w omen mentoring w omen mentoring w omen by linda mei koh by linda mei koh general conference...
TRANSCRIPT
WomenMentoring
Women
WomenMentoring
WomenBy
Linda Mei Koh
By
Linda Mei Koh
General Conference Women’s Ministries
Leadership Level 4
General Conference Women’s Ministries
Leadership Level 4
“Give instruction to the wise, and
they will become wiser still; teach
the righteous, and they will gain
in learning.”
Proverbs 9:9
• A Trusted Counselor or Guide
• A Brain to pick, a shoulder to cry on, a push in the right direction
• A Dynamic Relationship of Trust in which one person enables another to maximize the grace of God in his/her life and service
Definition of Mentoring
• Mentoring is a cooperative and nurturing relationship between a more experienced person and a less experienced one. The mentor provides support, encouragement, and advice to another, based on his/her knowledge, life and experiences.
• This two-way learning experience for both mentor and mentee encourages deep satisfaction and numerous benefits in many personal, career, organizational, and spiritual areas.
What is MENTORING?
• Jesus mentored 12 disciples
• Paul mentored Timothy
• Naomi mentored Ruth
Mentoring in the BIBLE
• Galbraith & Cohen found that mentoring provides individuals with opportunities to enhance cultural awareness, aesthetic appreciation, potential to lead meaningful lives, and spiritual growth.
• Feiman-Nemser found that mentoring can help teachers develop tools for continuous improvement and reform.
Research in MENTORING
• A greater likelihood of completing high school, attending college, and working
at least 10 hours per week.
• A decreased likelihood of being in a gang and having physically hurt someone in a fight in the past year.
The National Longitudinal Study of
Adolescent Health found that
having a mentor for teens was
associated with:
The National Longitudinal Study of Adolescent Health
(cont…)
• Higher levels of self-esteem and life satisfaction.
• A higher degree of physical activity, as well as regular use of birth control.
The National Longitudinal Study of Adolescent Health
(cont…)
Why do Women Need MENTORING?
• Women benefit greatly by having someone with experience and expertise to teach them.
• Women face barriers that prevent them from learning the skills of leadership.
Why do Women Need MENTORING?
Why do Women Need MENTORING?
1. Formal Mentoring
2. Informal Mentoring
3. Small Group Mentoring
4. Professional Mentoring
Types of MENTORING
1. Mentors Help with Skill and Career Advancement
2. Mentors Assist with Spiritual & Psychosocial Development
3. Mentors Assist in Maintaining And Enhancing Mentees’ of Quality of Life
Purposes of MENTORING
1. Ask Yourself What it is You Want from a Mentoring Relationship
2. Reflect on a Mentor from Your Past
3. Be Assertive
4. Seek God’ Help
Finding a MENTOR
1. Desires to Help/Inspire
2. Believe in the Value of a Person
3. Good Reputation for Developing Others
4. Devotes Time/Energy
5. Has Up-to-Date Knowledge
6. Has Positive Learning Attitude
7. Demonstrates Effective Mentoring Skills
Characteristics of a Good MENTOR
8. Models a Healthy Life & Ministry
9. Has Gifts of Listening, Affirmation, Affection, Cheerfulness, Prayer
Characteristics of a Good MENTOR
The Plan – Agree on time for meetings and activities– Mentee to list down expectations
The Goals Establish clear goals as to what you want to accomplish as mentor and mentee
The MENTORING ProcessThe MENTORING Process
The Check Up
• Regular evaluation of how the relationship is going should be done
• Ask questions of mentee to see if the experience is positive
The MENTORING ProcessThe MENTORING Process
1. Obstacles Confronting a Mentee:
• A mentoring style style that does not meet mentee’s needs
• Insufficient time
• A hidden agenda
• An inappropriate attitude
Obstacles in a MENTORING
RELATIONSHIP
Obstacles in a MENTORING
RELATIONSHIP
II. Obstacles Confronting aMentor:
1. Being accused of “holding on to the coat tails of another.”
2. One party overstepping professional boundaries, especially in
cross-gender mentoring relationship.
3. Falling from favor with others who disapprove.
Obstacles in a MENTORING
RELATIONSHIP
Obstacles in a MENTORING
RELATIONSHIP
“How far you go in life depends on
your being tender with the
young, compassionate with the
aged, sympathetic with the
striving, and tolerant of the
weak and strong. Because
someday in your life you will
have been all of these.” – George Washington Carver