wendy kaufman putting together your puzzle. objectives what makes me happy? how do i feel ...
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WENDY KAUFMAN
Putting Together Your Puzzle
Objectives What makes me happy? How do I feel
Physically? Emotionally? Dream list
Goal Setting Specific Measurable Achievable Realistic Time line
Short: 0 -1 yearMedium: 1-3 yearsLong: 3 years +
Will PowerWill power is active only in 1/6th of your brain.5/6th of your brain power is at the non-
conscious level. Thus you are unable to control it.
However, scientific research has found that you are able to control all 6 parts of your brain.
So, learn to control the non-conscious thinking by putting your brain on autopilot.
This will enable you to keep yourself motivated!
Avoid Procrastination A 50% average in making good
decisions is a good record. Many people are not good problem
solvers, but they are good decision makers.
Learn to analyze facts quickly, make a decision, and then learn to live with the results!
Happiness Intent Accountability
Grass is greener…
Do what you like and do it more
TragediesMoving on and
upwardExample: lottery
winners one year later--many say they are less happy
HappinessNever give upDon’t dwell on
the pastEmbrace changeEmbrace fear
What are you afraid of?
What would help you cope better?
OptionsCreativity – think
outside the boxAppreciationMindful livingGivingEthics/honestyCharacter – when
no one is looking
Health Sleep
8.3 hours 7 nights a
week REM sleep
Eating5 fruits & veggies
20 minutes after eating
Weigh once a week
Finances Goal setting Nickel and
dime spending Retirement
planning Start now
Meat vs. gravy Debt
management Family values Inheriting
spending habits
Prioritizing Your Life Write your eulogy Re-evaluate your choices Examine other people’s
priorities Role-model your priorities
Wear them openlyShout them from a rooftop
Stress Management20 minutes every
dayFight or flight
responsesRelax your body …
6 -3 -6 exerciseBaths/walkPet/plant therapy
LaughCryTouchCrossword puzzlesLearn a new
language/musical instrument
Relieving Stress Stay ahead of your
work. Do the hard tasks
first. Do the difficult
tasks in phases. Getting enough
sleep is a must.
Have planned recreation and hobbies.
Admit and verbalize the causes of your own irritations.
Face up to the fact you really can’t do all the things you scheduled.
Emotional Intelligence Self-awareness Learned optimism Delayed gratification Empathy Social skills
Communication Start with “I” 3 minute rule Family meetings Needs vs. wants “Men are from Venus …..” Self-talk
Assertiveness Ask for what you want
9 times! Practice makes perfect Passive vs. aggressive Personal vs. business
Quotes“Take your life in your own hands and
what happens? A terrible thing: no one to blame.”
“Self-pity is our worst enemy and if we yield to it, we can never do anything wise in the world.”
Erica Jong
Helen Keller
Quotes“Motivation is when your dreams put
on work clothes.”
“One worthwhile task carried to a successful conclusion is worth half-a-hundred half-finished tasks.”
Ben Franklin
Malcolm S. Forbes
Wendy Kaufman
Putting Together Your Puzzle