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Whataresomethingsyourealizeasyougetolder?I'm18,justreachinglegal"adulthood"intheUnitedStates.WhatI'vefoundisthat,asI'vegottenolderandhadmoreexperiences,I'vebeguntorealizemoreaboutlife.Thishasmademecuriousastowhatpeopleolderthanmyselfhavelearnedabouttheworld.Mindsharingananswerandincreasingthisyoungster'swisdom?Andisthereawaytoacceleratemylearningthroughexperienceslike...(more)

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CiolocaSavanCristian,SoftwareEngineerEditBiographyMakeAnonymous

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thatbeinghappyisactuallysomethingthatisachoiceyoumakeregardlessofwhatcomesyourwayinlifeandnotsomeaccidentreservedforthoseluckypeoplewhoneverhaveaproblem...becauseweallhaveproblems.ireallywishiknewthisearlierwhenispentsomuchtimebeingmiserableandthinkingitwasdifferentforeveryoneelse

thatyouareneverreallyasoldasyouthinkyouarethereisalwayssomeoneolderwhowilltellyouthatyouareyoungandwonderfulandhavealottoexperienceyetinlife

thatwhatireallywantforthepeopleimostloveisthattheyfeelhappyandfulfilledinlife...evenifthatconflictswithmyownagendaandcreatesaconflictbetweenus.thisonecanbeveryhardattimes

thatloveandclosetieswithfamilyorfriendsandthosespecialmomentswhereyoufeelhappyandrichinlifearereallywhatmattermost.yesweallneedahomeandfoodandcannotjustliveonloveanddancearoundatahippieconcert.butno,youmaynotneedamansiontofeelrich

thatitisworthmakingtheextratriptoseeyourgrandparentsorotheroldfamilymemberforthatspecialeventorvisit...evenifyouhaveanimportantmeetingoreventthatweek.youmaythinkyouare...butiwilltellyounowthatyouareneverthatbusyorthatimportanttonotmakeit.ithoughtiwasthatimportantandithoughtiwastoobusyuntililostsomeoneveryimportanttome.hardwaytolearnthaticouldhavemadethattimehappenifihadonlygottenovermyself.doitnowanddon'tregretitlater.

thatsayingnotosomeonewhoisaskingyoutodosomethingyoudonotwanttodoissomucheasierthanyoueverthoughtpossibleatage20...itisbasicallyafriendlysmileanda2letterword.

thatoftenwhenyouareangrywithsomeoneyoucareabout,itmighthavemoretodowithyourownegobeinginsultedoramisunderstandingthananintentionaleffortbythatpersontohurtyou

thatitistrulyliberating(andeasierthanyourealizewhenyouareyoung)toletgooftoxic/unhealthyfriendsandmoveon

thatyoureallyhavetotakecareofyourselfasapersonbeforeyoucanbeyourbesttoothers

thatthebestshortcuteveristodosomethingrightthefirsttime.

JenRieger,idroppedit,istillateit.126upvotesbyJayBest,MattPrivman,MikeLeary,(more)



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Herearemypersonalsuggestionsforyoutoconsider.Ihopetheyarehelpful.Asa69yearold,lookingbackonmyyouth,Icansaythatafewthingsthatmyintuitiontoldmetobelieveandpracticehaveledtoafruitfulandsatisfyinglife.

1. Inmyteens,aninnervoiceItrustedsaid"Youarenobetterthananyoneelseandyouarenoworsethananyoneelse."Thesecondmessagewas,"Erin,don'tworrywhatothersaredoing.Justdowhatyoushould/needtodo."This,mercifully,allowedmetoescapethetyrannyofpeerpressureandavoidcomparingmyselftoothers.

2. Inmyearly20s,Igottiredofplayingsocialgames(maybethisisabiggerproblemforwomen),tryingtobe"nice".Ivowedtobe100%honestwithmyselfandforseveralyears,Iwasdirectlyhonestwithothers,aswell.Inmy30s,Igrewanotherstepandlearnedtobetrulysincere(withacaringhonesty).

3. Istruggledthroughmy20stounderstandthewiderworld,findworthyfriends,anddealwithindifferentandhostilepeopleIdiscovered.Thiswasthe1960sintheU.S.andtherewerealotofcrazylifestyleoptionsanddestructiveexperimentationallaroundme.Mycautiousnaturecausedmetocarefullyobservemypeers,theirchoicesandtheconsequencesbysteeringthiscourse,Iwasabletoavoidmakinganyreallyseriousorirreversibleearlymistakes.

4. BecauseI'manidealist,Ifoundmyselfknottedupwithfrustrationfueledbymyhighexpectations.Isoonlearnedtomaintainhigh(butrealistic)expectationsofmyselfbutnotforothers.Theyhavetheirowngoals,standardsandlimitationsanddon'toweittometodowhatIhopefor.

5. OnceIletgoofthestressoffrustration,IwasabletoshiftgearstoamorespiritualpathandIstartedtoseeeachpersonasvaluablewithastoryhiddeninsidethecoversoftheir"lifebook".Icouldlearnsomethingfrommostanyone.Thisenabledmetostartinvestingmyselfinothers.

6. InthisperiodalsoIhadanexperienceinanextendedintimaterelationshipthatwaslessthanhealthy.WhenIfinallyneutralizeditintoafriendshiponcemore,Ifeltliberatedandvowednevertospendtimeinanunhealthyrelationshipagain.Iregainedmydignityandtrulygrewasaperson.

7. Throughtheyears,I'velearnedit'sgoodtokeepthingsassimpleaspossible(howeveryoudefinethat)becauselifeandchangesareplentycomplicatedenough.Iwouldadviseyoutoprimarilyaccumulatetheresourcesandskillsthatwillenableyoutopursueyourdreamsandbeabletosharesomethingvaluablewithothers.

8. Asafinalpoint,lifeoffersmanyadventures,someriskierthanothers,somemorevaluablethanothers.Chooseyourchallengesaswiselyaspossibleandenterintothemwhenyoufeelyouhavethefoundationtocarrythemoff.I'mnottalkingaboutfinancesbutselfconfidenceandcourage.Andonceyou'vesetyourcourse,keepthefaithandbebold.

Awonderfulfutureliesahead.

ErinLenoreBouma,Learner,Teacherandallroundgoodwoman71upvotesbyVandioZuccarelli,EdnaZhou,TiffanyTraille,(more)

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ThatayearisamuchsmallermomentinalifethanIeverimaginedat18.

GuyTaylor527upvotesbyGarrettCollins,HeidiAlden,BulatBochkariov,(more)



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Thatmoremyelinmakesabigdifferenceinthebrain.

Thatyouneedto"eatthefrogs"firstandtonotputoffwhatneedsdoingtothelastmoment.

Thatselfindulgencesleadtoveryrealphysicalpain,eathealthy,brushyourteeth,liveanactivelifethatdoesnotmuchinvolvedesksorcouches.Especiallyafter25.

ThathappinessisinthePURSUITnotinthegaining,Lifeisthejourneynotthedestination.

Mistakesareyourbestfriend.Asidefromthingslikeridingbullsorkissingcobras,nevermissanopportunitytoriskmakingamistake.Frommistakeswelearn.Nevererrandnevergrow.

Creditisthelittleslavery.Becauseofdebtyouarerequiredtoperformservicesyoumightnototherwisechoose.Becauseyouoweadebttooneparty,youmustlaborinthefieldsofanothertorepayit...Youmustdoasisdemandedbyyouremployer.

Partnershipsandsoleproprietorshiprepresentmuchmorefreedomthanemployment.Employmentonlymeansthatyouhavethefreedomtoquitandthebosshasthefreedomtofireyou.Youcanneveraffordtobeunemployed.Findinggoodreliablepartnersismuchlessrisky.

Belongingisimportant,soisforgivenessfamily,friendsandcommunityneedtobepreservedandsupported.Independenceisovervalued,andinAmericalargelytheproductofpopularmyth.

Doingareallygoodjobisvaluedmorethaneithercreativityororiginality.

Collaborationandstewardshipserveusbetterthancompetitionandcasualindifference.Thislifeisn'tabsolutelyaboutyoudoingforyousomuchasyoudoingforothersandothersdoingforyou.Allbyyourself,beingselfservingbringslittle.

Caredeeplyaboutsomething.DowhateveryoudoinordertoexpressthatcareDoWHATyoudoas,ifalllifedependedupongettingit"right"andwhatever"right"mightturnouttomeantoyou.

Themoreoflifeyouexperience,themorethatexperiencemakesclearjusthowlittleofallthatwas,allthatisandallthatwillbe,youwilleverhavetheslightestchanceofexperiencingyoumusteventuallybegintorealizethatyouneverdidknowitallandyouwillbe"partlygreen",innocentuncomprehendinguntilthedayyoudie.Ifyouaretrulyluckyyouwillbepermittedtocontinuetopursuelearningwiththebreakofeveryday.(thankyouBarbaraLaughtonSauderPeczeforpointingoutmylapse.Thus,outofthecrowdibelongtoIseenewthingseveryday!)

Whichremindsme...

Probablynoonesays"Thankyou!"asmuchorassincerelyastheyought.Whenyouseeanopportunity,itprobablywon'thurttosayit,Youcanevenveryquietlysayitwhensomeoneelseforgetsto.Itwillbeappreciated.

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I'm47andIteach18yearoldssoI'mthinkaboutthiskindofquestionalot.Here'swhatI'velearned:

1)Beconfidentinyourself.WhenIlookback,IregretallthetimesIdidn'tdosomethingorgaveupbecauseIdidn'tbelieveIcouldsucceedatit.Ioncewantedtobeadancer,butIdidn'tthinkIhadadancer'sbody.Well,alongcamecontemporarydancethatcelebratesallshapes.IfIhadbelievedinmyself,Icouldhavebeenpartofthatmovement.IalsowantedtobeawriterbutIdidn'tbelieveinthethingsIwaswritingandwouldlosefaithinthem.Now,whenIreadthosethingsIseeIwasdoingjustfineandshouldhavekept

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ongoing.BeconfidentinanythingandeverythingthatyoudoIcannotstressthisenough.

2)Drinkingalcoholfrequentlyorexcessivelyisabadidea.Duringcollegeandgraduateschool,Idevelopedahabitofpartyingwithmyfriendsandunknowinglywiredmybraintoenjoyintoxication.IfIhadn'tdonethat,Iwouldhavesavedalotoftimeandmoney.Thesamegoesforsmoking.Bewaryofmindalteringsubstances.

3)Useyour20sasatimetomeetyourlifepartner.You'llbeshockedathowthingschangeonceyouareoutofschool.Nolongerwillyoubehangingoutwithpeopleyourownage.Youmightgetajobinanofficefullofmarried40yearolds.Donotputloveonhold.Findagreatpersontosharelifewith.Learntoacceptthatperson'snegatives.YouwillNOTfindsomeoneelsebetterlater.

4)Take(andprint)photosoftheplacesyoulive.Notposedphotos,butrealphotosofthemessybedroomsandoutdatedkitchensyou'llwinduplivingin.Takepicturesofyourcarwhenit'sdirtyandsittinginyourworkparkinglot.IdidthisandnowIlovethosephotosoftheordinaryexistencethatwasmylife.

5)Someoneelsewhoansweredthisquestionsaidthatchoicesyoumakenowwillaffectyourentirelife.True.Chooseacareerthathasmeaning.Nursing,scientificresearch,orenvironmentalactivism,forexample.Youwillspendalotofyourlifeatworkandcometounderstandwhat"thegrind"is.Aftergivingallyourvitalityandenergytoyourjob,youwantsomethingback.Moneygoestopaythebills,soallthat'sleftisthesensethatyouaredoingsomethinggoodfortheworld.Thatcan'thappeninsomeprofessions,sochoosecarefully.

6)Inafewyears,yourrelationshipwithyourparentswillchange.Youwillseethemaspeopleinsteadofauthorityfigures.Youwillseetheirfaultsmoreclearlyandseehowthosefaultsaffectedyou.Don'tletyourparentsmanipulateyou.Youowethemkindnessandconsideration,butnotyoursoul.

7)Stayintouchwithallyourfriends,evenwhenit'sinconvenientortheyareannoyingyouoryouthinkyoudon'tgainfromthefriendshipanymore.Iregretlettingcertainpeopledisappearfrommylife,andtherehavebeentimeswhenIneededfriendsanddidn'thaveanybecauseIdidn'tkeeptheonesIhad.Anotherthingaboutfriendship:Yousortofdon'tchooseyourfriends.Theyjustshowup.Consideryourselfluckywhenoneappearstheyarevaluable.

GOODLUCK:)

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Theworldhasfewerenemiesthanthepoliticianswantustobelieve.Alotofpeoplewhodisagreewithme,evenonfundamentalprinciples,aregoodpeopleandmaybegoodfriends.Benevolenceandcuriosityaretherightdefaultattitudes,notsuspicionoranger.

EdCaruthers,Retiredphysicistandtechnologydeve...(more)84upvotesbyVandioZuccarelli,BillMcDonald,GregMann,(more)

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Thatvery,verylittlethingsinlifearereallyblackorreallywhite.Fewpeoplearepureevil,fewarerealheroes.Life,politics,history,"facts",thesituationyourarefacingcanandwillbelookedatdifferentlybydifferentpeople.Notbecausetheyarewrong,ordumber,butbecausetheirexperiences,background

AnneMarijkePodt,goingplaces...41upvotesbyKeinosukeJohanMiyanaga,VandioZuccarelli,AndrewKoenigsberg,

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orpersonalityisdifferentandbecausethingsmaynotbeas"clearcut"asyouthoughttheywere.Tryingtoputyourselfintheotherperson'sshoes,tryingto"seethegrey"inasituationwillhelpyoulearn,understand,benuancedinyourthinking,makeconnectionswithothersandhelpyouimmenselyinlife.

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Adulthoodmeansbeingresponsibleforyourself.

Yougettodecidehowtoliveyourlife.Ifyoualwayschoosetheeasypathyouwillprobablynotgetveryfar.Ifyouchoosetocheatyouwillprobablywindupinprison.Ifyoublameothersforyourfatewhethergoodorbadyouwillnevergrowup.

Youshouldtrytounderstandexactlywhereyourlifeisandwhereyouwantittogo.Youcanchangethesethingsanytimeyouwantbutitrequiresasignificanteffort.Ithelpstohavegoals.Themoreclearyourgoalsaretheeasiertheyaretoachieve.Planningtoreachyourgoalsishardworkbutitpaysoffinamazingways.Sometimesjustimaginingwhereyoumightliketobeorwhatyouwanttobewillgetyouthere.Ifyouneverhaveanygoalsyouaresuretobestagnant.Putdifferently,youwillstayinthesameplaceandrotfortherestofyourlife.

Youprobablyalreadyrealizeyouwillhaveabetterlifeifyouhaveasteadypartner.Youprobablydon'trealizejusthowimportantthisisorhowimportantitisthatyouhavetherightpartner.Myadviceistopickonethatyouarereallycomfortablewithratherthanonethatexcitesyou.Theexcitementissuretowearoffafterawhilebutbasiccomfortcanlastalotlonger.

Onelastcommentaboutmoney.Ifyouspendlessthanyoumake,youwillbuildwealthandfreedom(theyareinseparable).Ifyouborrowmoneytobuythingsyoucan'tyetafford,youwillprobablyalwaysbeindebtandneverhaveanyrealfreedom.Sometimesitisnecessarytoborrowmoneytosurviveorlivereasonably.Thiscouldbeforbuyingahouseormaybeacar.Mostotherpurchasescanwaitforalongtimeorforever.Freedomismoreimportantthanhavinglotsofstuff.

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AnsweringbecauseIwasasked,notbecauseI'mthatfaraheadofyouinthewhole"gainingwisdom"process(I'm18aswell).However,Idoalwaysloveanopportunitytoreflect.So,withoutfurtherado,herearesomeofthemoreimportantthingsI'vebeenstartingtofigureoutrecently(inthelastcoupleyearsorso):

"Maythethoughtsofmymindandthewordsofmymouthbethatofmyhighestself."Ihadagoodfriend(whohappenstobeayogainstructor)wishthisformeoneday.Thismightbethesinglegreatest,mosthelpfulquoteI'veeverheard.Allthetime,Ifindmyselfasking"Wouldthehighest,greatest,bestpossibleversionofmethink/say/dowhatIamabouttothink/say/do?"Iftheanswerisno,then...whydoit?

Youcan'tbeafraidoffailure.That'swhenyoulearnthemost."Try.Fail.Tryagain.Failbetter."Ifindmyselfalmostleaningintofailure,becauseunlessyou'rewalkingthat(veryverythin)edge,youwillneverbesuccessful.Trustit.Acceptit.Youwillfailsometimes.Learn."Whydowefall,Bruce?Sowecanlearntopickourselvesbackup."

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Worryingisnotworking.Ithinkalotofpeopleconfusethesetwo.Ifyouhavealotofworktodo,worryingalotandstressingaboutitisn'tthesameasworkingonit.Itseemsobvious,doesn'tit?Buteverybodyforgetsthisoneintheheatofthemoment.

Relationshipsmattermorethananythingelse.

Lifeneverstopsmoving.Ever.Soyouconstantlyhavetoadaptandshapeyourmindsetaroundthis.Example:Growingup,Iwasveryfunny.HowdoIknowthis?Becausepeopletoldmeallthetime.Thatwasmything,Iwasthefunnykid.Gradually,Istartedtobelievethem.Well,youknowwhat?Atsomepoint(ifIhadtoguess,I'dsaylatehighschool),Istoppedbeingfunny.ANDNOBODYTOLDME.Whatdidthismean?Ispentthefirstsemesterofcollegemakingjokesthatnobodyenjoyedexceptforme.CurrentlyadaptingtotheideathatwhoIusedtobeisnotwhoIcurrentlyam.Gottakeepthefeetmovingtokeepup!

Comparisondoesnothelpyou.Sostopcomparingyourselftoothers.Theyaren'tlivingthesamelifeyouare.Infact,trytorefrainfromcomparingyourselftoyourself."Aw,Ididthisbetteryesterday."Doesn'thelpyou.Focusonbeingthebestyouthatyoucanbetoday.

Nobodyelsegetstotellyouhowyoufeel.That'syourdecision,nottheirs.

Youcanneverbetoograteful.Peopleappreciateappreciation.Also,thevastmajorityofpeoplearen'tappreciatedenoughfortheworktheydo.Sincere"thankyou"sareanamazingconnectiontool.

Youcanneversay"Iloveyou"toomuchtothepeoplewhoreallymattertoyou.

Ego,enemyof_______.Nomatterwhatyouputintheblank,thatsentencestaystrue.Rememberthat.Andletitgo(asmuchasyoucan).

Thingsalwaysworkoutthewaythey'resupposedto.Isupposethisisavariationof"Everythinghappensforareason."I'vefoundthisremindertobeincrediblyhelpful.Youcanworryallyouwant,butintheend,whateverhappensiswhatwassupposedtohappen.Thisonealwaysmakesmoresenseretrospectively.

Ifyoudon'tgive100%toeverythingthatmatterstoyou,youmightaswellnotbedoingitatall.Notafunonetolearnthehardway.

Focusonwhatyoucancontrol.Anotheronethatseemssimpleonpaper.Basically,ifyoucan'tchangeit,there'snoreasontoworryaboutit.

Everythingisachoice.Peoplearealwayssoupset,usuallybecauseofsomethingthathappenedtothem(orseveralsomethings).Ifindthat,atonepointoranother,everybodyforgetsthatyoucanreactpositivelytonegativeevents(yes,thatisallowed!).Peopledecidesomethingisbad,andtheyreactnegativelybecausethat'showtheywereraisedtorespond.I'vefoundsomuchhappinessandcalminmylife,simplybyattemptingtovieweverythingasalearningexperience.Crappyday?Insteadofrevelinginthecrap,focusonhowtoturnitaround.Whatcanyoudotomakeitbetter?Focusonthesolution,notontheproblem.I'vefoundthatthevastmajorityofthetime,theproblemisn'tasbigasyouthinkitis.Apositiveoutlook=apositiveexperience.

Thereisonlyonewayoutofpain:throughit.Youcan'tgoaround.Youcan'tavoidit.Acceptit,letithurt,andacceptthatatsomepoint,itwillhurtless.Thisisacrappy,crappylessontolearnfirsthand.Butyouknowwhat?Thisisonethateveryonewilllearnatsomepoint.Sojustkeepthisinthebackofyourhead.Anddealwiththepaininyourownway,inyourowntime.

You'reworthit.Andnever,ever,everletanybodytellyouotherwise.

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Wealldiffersomewhat.IcanonlysaywhatI'vefound.

Don'tsweatthesmallstuff.Don'tsweatthebigstuffeither.Makingyourownchoicesisamustandaresponsibility.Don'tsweatyourresponsibilities.Don'tbecome"old"beforeyourtime,adapt.Communityhasvalue,beingstoicorhedonisticcanhurt.Healthmeansmorethanmoney.Thebodybecomesfragilesofightbacktokeepitstrong.Samegoesforthemind.Befriendingyourelderscanbearealprivilege.Youmaywonderifyouwereevenaconsciousbeinginyourtwenties.Workboilsdowntocontactsandpresentationnoteducation.Rediscoveringyouthbringsvitality.Lettinggoofyouthcanbringwisdom.Embracemortalityyouwilldiesogetcoolaboutthefact.Youmighthavedonebetterwhenyouwereyoungbutyoudidn'thavethebrainthatyouhavenow.You'velivedwelloverhalfyourlifesoyoucanactuallycomprehendit'send.Youthiswastedontheyoung?Maybenotbutit'saquestion.You'realmostbecomingpersonalfriendswithyourdoctorsanddentists.Stuckinyourwaysthatcanbecomeaquestiontoo.Technology...ifyoucan'tstandtheheatgetoutofthekitchengoodifyoucanstandtheheatthough.Youabsolutelyknowthedifferencebetweenlust,infatuationandlove.Youshouldhavelearnedhowto"pickyourbattles".There'sno"superman"left,buttherecanbea"supermind".Understandthevalueofindividuals,overlookyourdifferencesitisseriouslyworthit.Realizeyourstrangesurprisefortheyouthoftodayforallit'sstrengthandweakness,cometotermswithit.Theywillbeoldtoo,andreplaced,intheblinkofaneye.Respecttheirenergyandbraveryforwhattimeithas.It'snotoveryet,youhaveanauthorityandanintellectthatyouonlysawinthemovieswhenyouwereyounger.Balanceeverythingyoupossiblycan.

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"20yearsago"goesfromashockingunitoftimetoastatementwithnomeaningatall.

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IfIhadrealisedhowmucheverythinghurtsasyouageIwouldhavebeenagreatdealmoresympatheticintheearlierstagesofmycareer.

Carpediemdon'tmessabout,goforit.

Bebolder.

QuotedfromBillBryson:Ifyouhaveadreamgetonwithit.

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Don'tmoannobodylovesamoaner.Ifyouseesomeonedroppinglitterkillthem.

QuotedfromBillyConnolly:Over60neverpassuptheopportunityforapee,nevertrustafartandIFyougetanerectionuseit.

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Justaboutalloftheoldchestnutsyouhearfromyourparentsendupbeingtrue.Tobespecific:

Moneydoesn'treallymatterallthatmuch.It'snicetohave,butyoucangetbywithoutalotofit.Thereforeit'sbesttotrydowhatyoulovetodo

Don'thavearomanticrelationshipwithsomeoneyoucan't,ordislike,talkingto.Seemsobviousenough,butyou'dbesurprisedhowoftenthisgoesunheeded.

Opportunitydoesknockverysoftly.Manyoftheturningpointsinmylifecamefromalmostimperceptibleincidencesofopportunity.

Peoplearereallygoodatfiguringoutwhenyou'renotbeingyourself,soitmakesnosensetotryandfoolthem

Beinga"niceguy"doesn'tmeanyou'reasapwho'snevergoingtofindagirlfriend.Youwillandtherightkindforyou.

AsWoodyAllensays,90%oflifeisshowingup.

Youregretthethingsyoudon'tdomorethanthethingsyoudo,withinreason!

Howyoulookmatters.Asitshould,nomatterwhatyouusedtothinkincollege.

Thatthefollowingaregoodideas:eathealthily.Don'tsmoke.Don'tdrinktoomuch.Getexercise.Takecareofyourteeth.Payyourbillsontime.Replytoemails.Showupontime.Maketimeforyourfriends.

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"arslonga,vitabrevia"Somuchtodoandsolittletime.Toachievealotinthisworld,youhavetofocusandalsomakeuseofotherpeople'stime,moneyetc.

youareresponsibleforwhatyoudoandhowyouhandlelife'sissues.

youalreadyhavelotsoftheanswersyouseekoutside.

youarenotperfect

whoisarealfriend/ally?polite,funfriendlyspeakingpersonorpersonwithconsistentpositiveactionstowardsyou.

Planningishelpful

Yourlimits.

MuyiwaSaka,Interestedinthisparticularidea.11upvotesbyKatrinA.Otrzonsek,JoeyLavoie,GarrettCollins,(more)

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Thefeelingthatwehaveanycontroloverourlivesisanillusion.Inonemomentyoumayloseeverythingandeveryone.Sadnesswillfindyou.Don'trunfromgriefbecauseitwillhuntyoudownandinvadeeverypartofyourbodyuntilyougiveitrespect.Nomatterhowbadeverythingseemsitcanalwaysgetmuchworseaslongasyouarenotdead.Therearelevelsofsufferingwhichonecannotimagineexistwithoutenduringthem.

Knowingthesefewtruthsisfreedomfromthetyrannyoffear.

Anddespiteourpainorperhapsbecauseofit,lifeisbeautifulineachandeverymoment.Beclearwithyourselfandthosearoundyou.Expressyouremotionsortheywillownyou.Forgiveeverything.Forgiveyourselfforbeingtheonewholives,theonewhosucceedsandforallyourfailuresgreatandsmall,realandimagined.Youmayneverknowthegreatsorrowsandtragediessurroundingyou.Thereareinfinitekindsofcourage.Askquestions.Bepresentineverymoment.Bekind.Bethejoy.

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Youmayreadthewisdomofothers,butyou'llonlylearnthelessonswhenyoumakethemistakesforyourself.

EdLea,Designer.http://edlea.com14upvotesbyMikeLeary,JustissBoyer,VandioZuccarelli,(more)

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Therearealotofwonderfulanswersonhere,whichshouldprobablybestartingalist.ButhereisoneIseewithfolksoverandoverthey'vemissed.

Alotofthingsyoudowhenyounger,willsetupyourprocessforlife.

Youareactuallypracticingforyourfuture,bydoinganythingyoudo.Manyofthosethingswillbeyournostalgia,sopayattention.

Whateverlevelyoudowillbecomeyournewbaselineandboring,Yourtendencywillbetotakeittothenextlevel.Sopickthingswhichwhentheydriveyouoveracliff,won'tdestroywhatyoulove.

Becarefulwhenitisfun,butnegative.Theytypicallystopwhensomethingelsestopsyou.ThatlookonCoyotesfaceintheroadrunnerwhenherealizesheisnolongeronthecliff,isonlyfunnyfromtheoutside.

EVERYTHINGyoudo,istrainingyou.noexceptions.Itallbecomespartofyou.

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I'm55.ThisiswhatI'velearnedsofar:

Workhard.

OneofthebiggestlessonsI'velearnedisthatnothingbigorgreatisaccomplishedwithouthardwork.Oneofthebiggestthingsmissingfromyoungergenerationsisagoodworkethic.Atmyage,Iseemtobeabletostayphysicallystrongandworkmuchharderthanguyshalfmyagewhoseemto

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giveupandwimpoutmuchsooner.ThereasonwhyisbecauseIspentmyyouthworkinghardateverythingandmybodyisusedtodoingit.

Playsafe.

It'sOKtohavefun,buthavingitattheriskoflifeandlimbormentalstabilityissimplystupid.Drivingtoofast,drinkingtoomuch,takingstupidrisksthatcouldkillyou...I'velosttoomanyfriendsthisway.I'velearnedfromtheirmistakes.It'sjustasmuchfuntoplaycardsortouchfootballasitistodragrace.

Walkeveryday,atleastamile.

Mygrandfatherwalkedamileormoreeverysingledayafterhisdinnerandhelivedto99.IdothesamethingnowandInolongerfeellazyordullafterameal.It'sthebestthingyoucandoforyourdigestionandmentalhealth,eveninthewinter.

Eatalittleofeverything,allthingsinmoderation.

Trynewfoods,tryhealthierfoods,tryallkindsofforeignfoods.Don'tbeafraidtobetheonethatisn'tsaying"Yuck,Iwon'teatthat!".IhavesomuchmoreinterestingdietthanwhenIwas21andenjoylifemorebecauseofit.Don'tdrinktoexcess,youcantellwhenyou'vehadenoughsojuststop.Anythingcanbecomeaviceifyoudotoomuchofit.

Trustyourgut.

EverysingletimeIhavegoneagainstmyownbetterjudgement,Ihavebeenbittenintheasswithproblemsbeyondmycontrol.Inrelationships,inbusinessandmore.Mygutwastellingme"NO"butIwasn'tlisteningandjustbargedaheadandgotmyselfintotrouble.

Optoutofanyrelationshipthatistoxic,evenifit'sfamily.

Youdon'treallyneedthatmanyfriends,ifyouhaveoneortwothataregoodfriends,youwillbefine.I'vehadtoleavemanyfriendsbehindbecauseofmentalillnessoralcoholproblemsorworse.Mylifeisbetterforit,theywouldhavedraggedmedownwiththem.I'vealsohadtocutofffamilymembersthatwereabusiveandtoxic.Lifeistooshort,sosurroundyourselfwithpeoplewhorespectyouandareyourchampion.Getridofpeopleinyourlifethatputyoudownorrefusetosupportyouinyourlife.

Takechancesonnewthings.

Ibuiltalogcabinfromscratchwithzeropreviousconstructionknowledge.Ijustjumpedinandstarted.HadIknownthatitwasgoingtotakemeayearandmakemeworkharderthanIhadeverworked,Iwouldn'thavedoneit.It'sbestsometimestojustgoforitwithoutthinkingaboutit.NowIhaveabusinessdevotedtotryingnewthingsandit'ssuccessful.Lazinessisyourenemy.

Givetoothersbutkeepalittleforyourself.

Becharitable,givesomething,money,food,clothes,timetoothersandyouwillfeelmuchbetteraboutyourself.Karmahasawayofpayingyoubackinsomeway.Toomanyinthisworldareselfishandgreedy,goagainstthattide.Andthelittleyoukeepforyourself?That'stheactofgiving.

Peopleareneverwhotheyseem,evenifyou'veknownthemallofyourlife.

'Nuffsaid.



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Sinceturning50I'vebeenreflectingonalifelivedandlessonslearned.Here'smytwocents:

Yourlifeconsistsofthestoriesyoutellyourselfaboutwhathappenedtoyourself....sodoyourbesttochooseyourreactions.Iknewmyfirstmarriageendedwhenmythenwifesurprisedmeintheparkinglotofourapartmentwithaposseofherfriendsandannouncedshewasmovingoutrightthenandthere.Iwassurprisedandhurt.Ididn'targue(atleastnotforlong),orcauseabigsceneIwentforajog.Istillrememberthatjog,afieldIranby,andthefeelingoflifeContinuing,despitetheawfulnessofamarriageendinginaparkinglot.Thingswillhappentoyou.Whatyouwillrememberofthosethings,evenmoresothentheWHATofthemoment,istheHOWofyourreaction.Keepthatinmind.Thestoriesyoutellyourselfabouthowyoureactedtokeymomentsasyougrowolderwillinformyoursenseofwhoyouare.

Yourattitudedeterminesyourage.Peoplewhoexerciseregularlyhavemorestemcells(repaircelldamagebetter),longertelomeres(cellslivelonger)AreTelomeresTheKeyToAgingAndCancer? ,andahigherVO2maximum(cansustaineffortlonger).Asyouageyouwillnoticethatsomepeopleintheir20's,30"s,40'setc...become"old"physicallyandinattitude.Someneverdo.

Creativitydoesn'tstop,itshifts.NearlyeverydayIdrivebyabog.AndeverydayIremindmyselftopayattentiontoaparticularspotwheretreesbothlivinganddeadlinetheshoreastheychangewiththetimeofday,weather,andseasons.AsayoungmanIenjoyedimmersingmyselfinthe"immediacy"ofcreativity.Now,thewavesofcreativityare"longer."Payattentionandyou'llnoticeyourcreativityhasn'tstopped....likelyyou'vejuststoppedpayingattentiontowhereitis.Giveyourattentiontoyourinnerandouterworldandyou'llfinditagain.

Youdonot"need"caffeine,alcohol,oraBMW...orreallymuchatall.Generallyallofthesethingsaredistractions.Theydonotdefineyou.However,youcangetcaughtupinthings.Youcaninvestyouremotionalenergyinallofthem.However,theyalleventuallyleaveyour"system."TheBMWbecomesjustanothercar,andthebuzzofcaffeineandalcoholbecome...piss.AndyouareleftwithYOU.Andthat'sagoodthing.Infact,thatisTHEthing.

Lovearrives.Youcan'tgosearchingforsomethingyouaren'texpecting.Andlovewhenitarrivesisusuallyasurprise.Stayopentomystery,people,experience,andyourownemotional/spiritualresponsesandlovewillinvariablyarrive.

Manypeoplewanttoknowandhelpyou.Kindpeoplefaroutnumbercruelpeople.However,itusuallytakesahabitofcouragetoopenyourselftobeinglovedandcaredforbecauseinwesternculturesindependence/isolationisa"norm".Trysomethingnewtoday....shakehandswiththekidbehindcoffeecounter,whensomeoneholdsthedooropenforyouonthewayintotheofficelookthemintheeyeandsay"thankyou",askyourkidsiftheyfeltlonelyorhappytoday....takeyourselfoutofyourisolationandyou'llbesurprisedthatthemajorityofpeople(notall)respondwithsurprisedjoyattheconnectionyou'vemade.

Keepdancingasthemusicchanges.Thereisarhythmateachstageoflifeassureastherewillbedifferentpartners,places,jobs,illnesses,friendsandpairsofpants.Sure,goahead,getcaughtupinthemoment....butremember,whenthemusicchanges(anditwill)don'tstopdancing.Listen.That'swhenyou'llstarttotuneintothemusicofyou.

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"itwon'thappentome"Yes..Yesitwill

Timeandit'ssenseofmomentum,thisyearwasquickerthanthelast,andthenext?Thatwillhappenevenquicker.Andasyougetolder,itbecomesmoreandmoreapparent.

"Idon'tknowwhatIwanttobewhenIgrowup"You'realreadyit,youaregoingtobeyou,thewholeway.

Lovecomesinmanyforms

Relationshipshavenorules,otherthantheonesyouagreeon

Realisingitsyourresponsibilitytotakecareofyourself,nooneelsewilldoitforyou.

Existence/lifeisn'tfair,butit'sunfaironeveryone,soIguessit'sfair.

Noonereallyhasacluetowhatisgoingon,everyoneisjustlikeyou..Figuringitoutastheygoalong,makingsenseoutofoursensesinordertoquenchourdesiresbeforeitallburnsdown,whatevertheymaybe.

Happinessdoesn'tcomefromperfection,perfectioncomesfromhappiness.

Fortheworld,asdestructiveasitis,isperfecttoapeacefulsoul.Fortheworld,asbeautifulasitis,ischaotictoananxioussoul.

ThesearethingsIrealisedasIgrewolder.

AlthoughIbelievewisdomisnotpastdowngenerations,butwisdomisbroughtintothisworld,throughnewgenerations.

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Thatthepeopleinyourlife...friends,familyandthequalityoftherelationshipsyoubuildisallthatreallymattersandiswhatwillultimatelydeterminehowmuchjoyandpainonewillhaveinlife.

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IhavegainedsomeperspectiveasIhavegrownolderandthathasledmetoreadjustmypriorities.Iamnowslowertoangerandfastertosmile.Ihavelearnedthatsomethingsjustdon'tmatterinfact,manythingsthatusedtomatteralottomedon'tmatteranymore.It'sjustnotworthitanymore.Imeanthingsthatflowfromtheego:possessiveness,theneedtowinandandberight,attachment,greed,etc.ThebigoneI'mlearningtoletgoofatthisageisfear,whichisreallythesourceofallothers.Iput"Steppenwolf"bymynamebecausethatisabookbyHermannHessethatispartlyaboutagingandthe

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midlifecrisisthatoftenoccursinthemiddlefifties.Iwasthesteppenwolfforafewyears.Somethingsslowdown,othersquickenasthevalueoftimeisperceivedmoreclearlyandloveisrevealedmoreandmoretobeattheheartofallexistence.

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Yourparentsaren'talwaysright.

Justbecauseparentsaren'talwaysrightdoesn'tmeanyouhavetofallout.

Gettingintofightsdoesn'tmakeyoulookcool.

Gettingintofightsmostcertainlydoesnotdefineyourbravery.

Keepingsilentisatalent.Somearebornwithitwhilesome,includingme,havetoworkhardtodevelopit.

Beingweirdissomethingthatshouldbecelebrated.Embracewhoyouare.

Angerishorrible,unlesschanneledpositively.

Themediaplaysanimportantroleineducatinganation.Thatdoesn'talwaysmeanthey'redoingtheirjobwell.

Everyonehashisownstory.Neverbequicktojudge.

Impressions,ontheotherhand,areautomaticreactionsofathinkingbrain.However,donotletthemhinderhowyouviewathingorperson.

Mindyourownbusiness.

Differentstrokesfordifferentfolks.Donotforceyouropiniondownotherpeople'sthroats.

Youdon'tneedhypocritesinlife.

Sometimes,peoplejusthavetobepunchedfullintheface.Withawarhammer.Thesadthingis,youmustnotdoit.

Looksandsizematter,andit'sunfair.

Youdon'thavetoact"normal"tofitin,butfacingyouruniquenessandstandinguptoittakesawaysomeconvenienceinlifewhicharereadilyavailableifyoujust"playalong".

Peopledon'talwaystreatyouthewayyoutreatthem.

Surroundyourselfwithpeoplewholetyougrow.

Kindnessisaveryimportantthing,morethanbeautyorbrainsormoney.

Childrenneedtogrowinlove.Theyareourbesthopeforabetter,fairer,brighterworld.

Meanwhatyousay.Ifwhatyou'reabouttosayismean,thendon'tsayanythingatall.

"Peoplecanalwaysdisagreewithoutbeingdisagreeable."

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SomeofthebestdecisionsthatIhaveevermadewereto"quit"or"giveup".Thetrickistobeabletomoveon,pickupthepieces,andstartoveragain.

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Havingjustrecentlyturned40andhadmyfirstchild,IhavethoughtdeeplyaboutwhereIamandwhereIthoughtI'dbe.Theydon'tmatch.Atall,really.Lifecanbereallyreallyreallyhard.Whenitis,youhavetohonestlyandfearlesslyaskyourself,"Why?"Theanswersyouprovideyourselfhavetopowertohealyou,orkillyou.TheBIGGESTmostprofoundandimportantskillthatIhopetopassontomy9montholddaughtersleepingpeacefullyintheotherroomwithherlittlehandstuckedunderherselfandhertookusupintheairisthis,"IfyoutrulyLoveyourself,youwillbeyourownbestfriend.Ifyoudon't,thenmakesureyoustartseeingaCounsellorearly".Ifeelthatformostofmyadultlife,Ihavebeenmyownworstenemy.Thingsthathappen"to"meoraroundmearenothingmorethanmanifestationsofwhatishappeningwithinme.Thisideaisnothing"new".Ijusthopethatitwon'ttakeanother40yearsofmylifetostopbeatingmyselfup!!!

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Therearetwolevelsofcommunication:theexplicitandtheimplicit,thesaidandtheunsaid.

Iwouldguessthatmostpeople(evenadults,andespeciallymen)neverlearnthelatter,becausethey(we)arealmostexclusivelytaughtthatwhatissaidorsayableisthetotalityofknowledge.Asrationalbeingsinsidearational,languagebasedworld,weattendonlytothoseideasavailabletorationalityinlanguageandtendtoignorethoseimplicationsnotmadeexplicit.Wearesimplynotequippedwiththetoolstocommunicateoutsideoflanguage.

Unfortunately,thisleadstoaridiculousamountoftransparencytothosewhocananddoattendtothecommunicativelanguageofgesture,becauseweareallalwaysexpressingmorethanwearesaying,whetherweareconsciousofitornot.Anoffertohelponaprojectismorethanarequestforhelp,itisagesturewhichacknowledgesthecapacityoftheothertoperform,aswellasthedesireforhisorhercollaboration.Aninterruptionismorethanjust"rude,"itimpliesapositionintheinfrapoliticalsuperioritygameofwhogetstointerruptwho.

Contextiskey,however,andisespeciallykeytounderstandingwhatisandisn'tflirting.Inthestageofpossibleromance,itisterriblyawkwardtoexpressinterestsexplicitly,ortogivepermissiontomakeamove,sotheseideasarecommunicatedbyproxyorsymbolicdramatization.

Anexample:Ioncehadafriend'snewgirlfriendenthusiasticallyaskmetocomeintoherbedroom,gotothecloset,climbaladder,andputalightbulbintoasocket.Irecommendedthatmyfrienddoitandshesaidhewasn'tbigenough.Whetherthiswasconsciouslystagedornotisbesidethepoint:theunsaidwasatthesurface.

Icanonlyspeakfromexperience,butabeliefthatcommunicationonlyexistsinthethingsyousayandwriteandotherwisecommunicateexplicitlywillleadtoawkwardcontradictionsbetweenyourexplicitlanguageorclaimsandthesubtleexpressionsofyourbodyoractions.Youcaneitherengagethisconsciouslyornot,andmostpeoplechoosethelatterandspendlivesinconflictandconfusion.Ittakesawhiletolearntoexpressinterestcircuitously,tacitly,orthroughgestureorimplication,butitcanbedone.

Afinalnoteofwarning:thisisaskillsetveryclosetocoldreading.Makingtheimplicitexplicit(throughlanguage)isagoodwayoflosingfriendsandmaking

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peopleincrediblyuncomfortablearoundyou.Respondinkindthereisnoobligationtoremoveaconversationtolanguageifeveryoneisgettingbywithoutit,andtherecanberealconsequencesinbreakingthespellbyexplicitinterpretation.

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OAfewthingsIlearned,beinganunconventionalcreativepersoninaworldandera(80's&90'sweremy20's)thatisdesignedforconventionalpeople:

Everyonesays"thereistimetodothisorthat."Yeah,no.Actuallywhenyouarebetween20and34,that'stheprime.Ifyoudon'tfigurestuffoutcareerwiseuntilyou're40itactuallyistoolate,unlessyouhavemoney.MoneytrumpseverythingintheUS.Thosethatsayitdoesn'tmatterneverhadtoskipmealsorliveoutofacar.Ihave.Dowhatyouloverightnowdonotwait.Lifeisshortsoburnithot!

Don'tgetinvolvedwithonelover/girl/boyfriend(doNOTgetmarried)tooyoung.Iknowpeoplesaydon'tbeacommitmentphobe,andITAwiththat.WhatI'msayingiswait,haveLOTSofloversandrelationshipsbutjustwaitforthebigcommitment(grantedyourheartwillgetinthewayofthisbutyoudon'twanttobe40outofwork&marriedtosomeonewhofriendzonesyou).Youneedyour20'stofigureoutstuffandgetyourselfsituatedsoyou'renot40andoutofworkbecausealmostnoonehiresafter40.Trustme,especiallyinthecreativeindustries.Everyoneover40hastheirowncompanyorstudiosotheylookatyoulikeyou'resomesortofslacker.After40youbettergoitaloneorteamupwithapartnerforyour"mixedoccupation"career.(It'snotsobadreallyjustwayhardertogetmoving).

Oh,wait,Iscrewedup&talkedworkagain*smacksforehead*You'rebodyishardandtightnow.You'llappreciatethemellowbodytypelaterafteryouknowwhatyou'redoing.You'llbeabetterpartnerhavinghadexperiencewithlotsofdifferentkindsofpeopleandlesshangupslaterwhileyouappreciateyourownagingandthatofyoursignificantother.

Workyouassoff.Anticipateandbeproactive.Seewhatneedstobedoneandjustdoit,don'twaittobeasked.Andlearnthesocialgames.NothingworsethanbeingthegotopersonatworkonlytohaveMr.SlickGamesmangetthepromotionyou(needed)wanted.

Liveeveryday,everymomentasifitwerethemomentafteryourdeath.You'llvalueeverythingmore.

Alwayshaveagiveback(nevergotosomeoneemptyhanded).Reciprocity,relationships,community.Icangetintosomerestaurantsothersgetinlineforbecauseeverydishwasher,cook,waiterandMaitreDknowI'mthatcrazyguywhocomesintothekitchenafteramealtopersonallythankthemforafantasticmealandexperience.I'vemetincrediblepeopledoingthat.Don'tforgettotipharderbecauseitmaymeanthedifferencebetweensomeoneskippingamealsotheirkidcaneat.IfIneedsomethingfromsomeone,Ifindoutwhattheyneedfirstandbringit.Hardertosaynowhenyoushowupandmeettheirneedsupfront.

KnowCommoner'sFourLawsofEcologybecausethat'swherelifeisreal.Thereisnofreelunch,everythingisrelatedtoeverythingelse,thereisno"away",everythingisalwayschanging.

Hydratesufficientlyandmindyourspine.Havingputseriousmileageonminedoingwhatarenowcalled"extremesports,"youhitfortyandevery

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discsays,'yeahfuckthis,we'redone'andtheyherniateruptureandbasicallykickyerass.Nothinglikehavingtorelearntowalkwithafusedback.Takecareofityoung.

Giveyourselfauthorityandpermissiontoditchbeliefsthatnolongerserveyou,andadoptnewonesthatdo.

Ifyouheedthegoodadviceyou'vegottenfromthefiftysomeoddawesomepeoplewhogaveit,you'llhaveameaningfulandfulfillinglife.Weallcareaboutyou.Nowgogetit!

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Theanswersyouseekallliewithin.Thosedemons?Theycarrywisecounsel.Thatshityou'vebeenfastidiouslyavoiding?Thereinliesyourgold.

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Mybiggestregret,lookingback,isthatIlivedmylifeselfishly.MyfocuswasalwaysonwhatIneeded,notonwhatIhadtogive.Mybestadvicetosomeonewiththeirwholelifeinfrontofthemisnottoliveforyourselfalone.Giveasmuchasyoucantoasmanypeopleasyoucan.

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1. Don'teverusecreditcards.

2. Squareyourselfwiththeradicalnotionthatyou'renottheabsolutecenteroftheuniverse.

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Thatwhatyoureallylearninhighschoolandcollegeifyouworkatitishowtothink.

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I'mlearningthathowyouthinkaboutagingplaysareallybigpartinhowyouage,foralotofpeople.

SomepeoplethatIknowtalkaboutbeing40,50or60asifit'sonestepawayfromthegraveandotherpeoplethatIknowbarelymentionbeing50andcarrythemselvesliketheyareintheir30's.

Iknowthattherearemanyvariablesinaging(diet,genetics,etc...)butIcan't

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helpbutthinkthatI,andmanyotherpeoplearebetterofflivingassomeonewhodoesn'tpaytoomuchattentiontomyagethanifIspentmydayslimitingmyselfbyit.

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Brilliantvideo!

Thingstolearnstraightaway:

Itdoesn'tmatterwhatanybodythinksaboutyou,itsnotyourbusiness.

Nothingmattersenoughtogetanxiousaboutorworryabout,unlessitstopsyoubreathing.

Whydoyouneedtobegoalormoneydriven?Thinkfirstwhatyouwantoutoflife.

Forgivestraightaway,putdowntheburdenofanger.

Youarenotasimportantasyouthinkyouare.

Squirrelawayalittlebitofrainydaymoneyeachmonth.

Valuegoodfriends.

Helpothers,itmakesyoufeelgood.

Meditate...

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Manypeoplelearn,overtime,thetruerelationshipbetweenidealismandcynicism.Thatrealizationempowersthemtohavedealingsthatarebothsuccessfulandgraceful.Theyuseabundleofhigherandlowermotives,bothinthemselvesandothers.Notallofthesepeopleknowthattheyknowthis,buttheyapplyitintuitively,atvaryinglevelsofskill.

Asthepatternsbecomeclearer,theyfeellessclumsy,andacquiregrace.Theyhave'calibrated'bothhigherandlowermotivesinoftenrecurringsituations.Theyseethat,bydefault,youhavetoappealtolowermotivesinyourselfandothers,whileappearingtoappealtohighermotives.Theyknowtheirshadowindetail.Foranyclassofreasonstodosomething,thecynicalpartisthesweatinghorseandtheidealististhepayload.Neglectingeithersideofanyone,especiallyanyone'shorse,isrude.

Therearesomeexceptionswhereyoucanworkwithotherrealitiesandappearances,whentheinterestsandselfconceptsofthoseinvolvedareallaligned,forabriefmomentintimeandspace.Thatisalwaysapleasantsurprise,ananomalythatissavored,enjoyed,publicized,andremembered.

Peoplethatknowthiscanfeelwhentheyaredealingwithsomeonewhodoesn'tknow.Whensomeoneappearsclumsilyrude,itmeansthatpersonseesonlyhalfofthem,seesonlyeitherahigherorlowerpartthatneedstobeappealedto.Nearlyallteenagersareoftenrude.Theycanonlyappeargracefulwhilenottryingtogetsomethingdone.Whentheyarerudewhilegettingtheirhandsdirtytheyareforgivenbecausetheydon'tknowanybetter.Butwhen

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progressivelyolderpeopleconfusethehorsewiththepayloadtheyaremoreandmorelikelytobegracefullyavoided.

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I'velearnedthathelpingthoseyoulovewhentheyneedit,nomatterifwhatthey'reaskingforisnotsomethingyou'dprefertodo,strengthenstherelationship,andincreasesyourtolerancefordoingwhatneedsdoing,ratherthanjustwhatyoufeellikedoing.Thisisahelpfulcapacityinyourownlife.

Ifyoucareenoughtolearnaboutsomething,eventhoughitseemslikeanimpossiblylargeoresotericsubjecttocomprehend,andyouspendenoughtimeonit,youwilleventuallylearnenoughwhereyoufeellikeyoucangraspit.Itmaytakeseveralyearstoreachthisstage,though.Sohavepatiencewithyourself.

Idon'tknowifthere'sasmuchtruthtothisasIthinkthereis,butitseemslikeIreachedastageseveralyearsago(I'minmymid40's)whereInoticedthereareaLOTofpeoplewhothinktheyunderstandanissuefullywhenthey'refarfromthat,andthere'snowayinhellyou'regoingtoconvincethemotherwise.Ialsorealizedthatmanypeoplemyagearelikethis.Astheyearshavepassed,thisfeelinghasn'tgoneaway,andI'velearnedtounderstandthatI'mbetteroffnotbeatingmyheadagainstawall.I'mjustgoingtohavetoadapttotherulesthesepeoplecomeupwithinthebestwayIcan(orfindsomewaytoavoidthedisaster),becauseI'mintheminority...

SometimesmyfriendsusedtoaskmerhetoricallywhenIwasyounger,"Doyoubelieveeverythingyouread?"AsIgotolder,Iunderstoodwhattheyweretalkingabout.Idon'tbelieveeverythingIread,evenifitseemstoprovideacompletenarrativeofevents,individuals,groups,and/orphenomena,becauseIunderstandbetterhowpeoplecanfoolthemselvesveryelaborately.BTW,narrativesarenotareliableformofknowledge.Ittakesalotofworkonyourparttogetagoodunderstandingofasubjectfromthem,becauseyouneedtocrosschecksources,evenifpeopletryhardtogetthestoryright.Analyticsourcesarebetter,thoughI'mtryingtoacquireatasteforscientificsources(Ihavesomeexperiencewithsuch,butI'dliketomakethemmoreofamainstay).Thisrelatestotheitemabove.

I'vewonderedwhetherlearninghistorywasawasteoftime,exceptasanicehobby.IfeellikeIunderstandtheworldabitbecauseofmyknowledgeofit,butwhenitcomestoinfluencingdecisionsthatmatterintheworld,Imightaswellbeignorant.WhatIthinkIknowabouthowwegottowherewearetoday,andhumannature,doesn'tmatteronejotintheschemeofthings.MostAmericansarenotinterestedintheconversation.

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Ihaveverylittlecontrolovermyownlife,andI'velearnedtoacceptthat.Thiscanseemverythreatening,butthere'sanothersidetoitthat'sveryliberating,becauseitencouragesyoutotakerisks.Idon'tworryasmuchabout"whatmighthappen."Idowhatfeelsfulfillingtome.I'lldealwiththeconsequencesofmydecisionsastheycome.

Mylifedidn'tturnoutanythinglikeIthoughtitwouldwhenIwasateenager.Irememberwedidanexerciseinschoolwherewe"envisioned"ourfutureselveswithpicturesweclippedoutofmagazinesandpastedonapieceofpaper.Wealsowroteabitaboutwhatourliveswouldbelike,andwhatwesawourselvesdoing.Nothinglikethat...

I'velearnedtovaluethosequalitiesofmyselfthatwhenIwasyoungerothersthoughtwere"weird,"andwhichIsuppressed,becauseIthoughtwhatothersthoughtofthoseaspectsmattered.Theydon't.Embracingthosequalitieshasbeenoneofthemostrewardingexperiencesofmylife,andIfeelmorecomfortablewithwhoIamnowthanwhenIwasyounger.Ihavenoticed,though,thatembracingthemhasbeensociallyisolating,becausewhatI'vereallydoneisembracedmyuniqueness,andwhatItrulyvalueinmypursuits.Astheyearsprogress,thisisolationmaychange,andIwouldwelcomethat.Fornow,that'sthepriceI'vebeenwillingtopayforthereward.

IhitastageafewyearsagowhereIrealizedsomeopportunitiesImissed,becauseofthelifecircumstancesIlivedthrough,andsomedecisionsIandmymothermadewhenIwasyoung,andIreallyregrettedit.Itwasmostlyrealizingmymortality,andthatIonlyhavesomanyyearsleft.Icametorealize,though,thatmycircumstancescould'vebeenworse,andIshouldbesothankfulforwhathappenedinstead.

Yourbodycan'ttakeeverythingyouthrowatitasyougetintoyour30s,sotakecareofit.Thefirstthingtogoformewasmydigestion.Eatingproteinrichfoodsgavemecrampingandgas,andincreasedtheleveloftensioninmybody.Ilaterlearnedthatthiswascommonformyagegroup.Enzymesupplementshelpwiththatalot.

Igottoapoint,aboutwhenIhit40,whenIcouldseethatItendtogivemyselfmyownbestgifts.Idon'tmeanthatIgoshopping,andIfindjusttherightthing.Imeanthatsofar,I'vedoneabetterjobofsatisfyingmyowndesiresthananyoneelsehas.So,thingslikebirthdaysandChristmasaremorehumbleaffairs.WhenI'maskedwhatI'dlikeforapresent,Iusuallydon'thaveananswer.Idon'tfeellikeIneedmuchbeyondwhatIalreadyhave.





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Tensimplerules:1.Smile.Apositiveattitudewillgetyouthroughmostproblems.2.Lifeisnotfair.Getusedtoit.3.Theuniversedoesnotcareaboutyou.4.Takecareofnumberone.Youareresponsibleforyourown(words,actions,wellbeing,success,safety)5.Manyinterpersonalrelationshipproblemscanbesolvedwithfoursimplewords:Youreright.Imsorry.6.Mistakeshappen.Admittothem,learnfromthem,moveon.7.Dontsweatthesmallstuff.Alotoflifesproblemsarenotworthworryingabout.8.Questionassumptions.9.Youcantchangesomeoneelse.10.Yourparents(andtheirparents)mightactuallyknowsomething.Listentothemoccasionally.

BobAnnand,Scientist,oldfogeyintraining11upvotesbyKateSimmons,DevRajhansa,VasuKumar,(more)

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Ifyoudonothingelseinlife,finishyoureducationatminimumatwoyeardegree,preferablyafouryeardegreeormore.It'salmostimmaterialwhatyourdegreeisin,aslongasyougetone.Manydoorswillbeclosedtoyouifyoudon't.

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ThingsI'verealized:

PeoplearemoreforgivingthanIrealized.

Peopleandplacesareareflectionofmyperceptionsandmyselfhatemyselfandtheworldishateful,lovemyselfandtheworldiswonderful.

Alotoftimes,allIhavetodoisask,nicely.

Whensomethingoraneventmakesmeangrythat'swheretherealinformationaboutmeishidden.

Thereisalwaysaway(ifinasituationyoudon'tlike)notmovingisslowdeath.

Peopledon'thaveagendasformeandarenotthinkingaboutmeatalltimes.

CommitisaverypowerfulactthanIrealized,beforeitwasjustamereword.

Realizationsmeansquatintheheatofthings...

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youseemtorealizeatsomepointthatyouhavefarmoreexperiencethanpotential.Andtheworldyousetouttochangechangedyouinstead.

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ThisiswhatIrealizeasIgetolder:

Inolongerhavepatienceforcertainthings,notbecauseIvebecomearrogant,butsimplybecauseIreachedapointinmylifewhereIdonotwanttowastemoretimewithwhatdispleasesmeorhurtsme.

Ihavenopatienceforcynicism,excessivecriticismanddemandsofanynature.Ilostthewilltopleasethosewhodonotlikeme,tolovethosewhodonotlovemeandtosmileatthosewhodonotwanttosmileatme.

Inolongerspendasingleminuteonthosewholieorwanttomanipulate.Idecidednottocoexistanymorewithpretense,hypocrisy,dishonestyandcheappraise.Idonottolerateselectiveeruditionnoracademicarrogance.Idonotadjusteithertopopulargossiping.

Ihateconflictandcomparisons.IbelieveinaworldofoppositesandthatswhyIavoidpeoplewithrigidandinflexiblepersonalities.

InfriendshipIdislikethelackofloyaltyandbetrayal.Idonotgetalongwiththosewhodonotknowhowtogiveacomplimentorawordofencouragement.

ExaggerationsboremeandIhavedifficultyacceptingthosewhodonotlikeanimals.

AndontopofeverythingIhavenopatienceforanyonewhodoesnotdeservemypatience.

ThisisOSMICARDTEIXEIRA'quoteanditreflectsexactlywhatIthink.ThanksOse.

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I'msorrythatIwon'tbeabletoaddmoreresoundinginsights,Iamafterall,notmuchfurtherdownthelinethanyouare(at24),butbeingaQuoranmeansthatyoushareanyways.Youneverknowwhensomeonesomewhereintheworldwouldfindyouranswersthemostrelatable.Withthatspiritinmind,andamidstalloftheawesome,insightfulanswersofotherQuorans,here'swhatI'velearnedinmyrelativelyshortlifehereonthistinylittleplanetcalledEarth.

1. Asanintrovert,I'vehadahardtimedefecatinginpublicrestrooms,especiallywhenIknowthere'speopleoutside.It'snotthecleanlinessthat'sanissue,itstheembarrassmentatthesoundsI'dgeneratethatgetsme.AsIgrewolder,Irealizedtheprobabilityofmemeetingthesepeopleeveragain,thatthey'drememberthisparticularincidentandthatthey'drememberitwellenoughtolinkittomewasinfinitesimallysmall.Feargone.

2. ALWAYStrustyourinstincts.(Yourmileagemayvary).IcannotrecallhowmanytimesI'vefeltasifsomethingisnotrightanddecidedtoplowrightonanywayonlytoregretit.OrwhenIfeellikeIneedtoduck,duckingrightassomethingwhizzedpass,almostdecapitating/slamming/killingme.OrwhenIfeltthatIwasmissingsomething,ignoringit,walkingout

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anywayandrememberingwhatIneededhalfwaythrough.Yoursubconsciousisalwaysworkingman.Gutfeelingsarethereforareason.(Ofcourse,othersmightdisagree)

3. Gooutofyourwaytohelppeople.Itsawesome,itmakestheworldabetterplace.BUTDONOTEXPECTANYHELPBACK.Thatway,youdon'tgetbitterandcynicalandwhenyoudogetsomethingback,you'llbepleasantlysurprised.Alwaysbettertobepleasantlysurprisedthanforeverexpecting.

4. Bettertoregretthantowonder.Icallthis"TheFilter".It'ssomewhatinlinewithwhatothersaretalkingaboutwhentheysaynottobeafraidofmistakes.BeforeIdosomething,I'llalwaysaskmyselfWillIregretnotdoing/experiencingthis?Ifyes,thenIdoit.EvenifIknowitsbadforme.Atbest,yougetanawesomestoryoffofit,andyougainaknowledgeofsomething,somethingyouwouldn'thaveknownifyoudidn'ttryit.Atworst,youhaveabadstorytopassdown.

5. Finally,andthemostimportantlySHITHAPPENS.Ilovethislesson.IwasareallyseriouskidwhenIwasyounger,beingbroughtupinasemistrictasianenvironmentwheremistakesareconsideredsevereandyouarealwaysexpectedtobethebest.AddthattothefactthatI'manonlychild,alleyesarealwaysonmeitslikeaspotlightandamicroscopeisalwaysonyou,judgingyoureverymove.ThatmademeveryconsciousofmistakesandIwasoverlycriticalofmyselfforalongtime.ThenIgrewupandasIgrew,Irealizesometimes,therearejustsomethingsyoucannotplanforanditsnoone'sfaultanditdoesn'tmeanthewholeworldisover.Embracethesuck,revelinit,learnwhatyoucanandcarryon.Pointingfingers,sulking,blaming,cursingtheearth,cryingandallthatjazzisnotgoingtohelpyouonebit.

6. Ohcrap.Onemore.THISTOOSHALLPASS.Yeah.That'sdefinitelymylastlesson.Howevershittythingsarerightnow,howeverdownyoufeelbecauseofthatjob,thatcommentbythatyoutubeperson,thatassholewhocouldn'tgiveyouabreak,howeverhardthingsgetwiththatexaminationcomingup,itwillfeelliketheweightofthewholefuckingworldisonyourightnow,butgiveittwodays,andyouwilllaughatitafterwards.Again,I'mgonnausethisEmbracethesuckandcarryon.=)

Goodluck,buddy.

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Thatyoucantdoitallonyourown.Inanyareaoflife.Havingnetworksisaboutgivinggenerouslyandtakingwhenlifegetstough,normallywhenyouleastexpectit.IlikeasimplesentencebyBruceKasanoffwhosephilosophyisthatifyouseethelightinothers,youbringouttalentinthem.Anddontexpecttobepaidback.Thisishowheexplainsit:Begenerousandexpert,trustworthyandclear,openmindedandadaptable,persistentandpresent.Generousmeanstohelpotherslongbeforeandafteryouneedtheirhelp.Expertmeanstobecompetentinoneormoreareasthatothersvalue,andtousethisexpertisetobenefitothers.Trustworthymeanstobeapersonwhostandsbehindothers,especiallyintoughtimes.Clearmeanstohelppeopleclarifywhattheywantandalsohelpthemexpress

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thisinasimpleandstraightforwardmanner.Openmindedmeansneverstoplisteningandlearning,andmakeiteasierforotherstodothesame.Adaptablemeanssharingoneofthemostvaluableinsightsanyonecangain,whichisthatweallhaveagreaterabilitytochangeoursituationsthanitoftenseems.Persistentmeanstohelppeopleevenwhenitishardandtheydon'timmediatelysucceed.Presentmeanstosetyourthoughtsandagendaasidesothatyoucanlistentoothersandprovethattheyareimportanttoyou.HowtoDeveloptheMostAmazingTalentofAll

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Theravagesoftimeonourbodiescannotbeoverexaggerated.

Metabolismslows.Injuriesfromthepastturnintoarthritisorotherwisecausepain.Jointsfail.Teethturnyellowandchip.Musclemassdecreasesinproportiontoage.Energydiminishes.Digestionslows.Eliminationandurinationbecometopicsofconcern.Gravitycausesissuesofitsownasweallloseheightanddiscsinourbacksbecomecompressed.Weendupvisitingmoredoctorsandseeingmorespecialistsinanyoneyearthanweeveranticipated.Wethinkbacktowhenwewereyoung,tothedaysweneverconsideredtheideathatpainwouldeverinvadeourbodiestotheextentitdoes,andwewonderwhywedidn'ttakebettercareofourselves.

Theravagesoftimeonourbodiescannotbeoverexaggerated.

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Thateveryrelationship,nomatterhowstrongthatis,hasanexpirydate.Thatpeoplechange,forgoodorforbad.ButtheydoThatlifeisasgoodorasbadasyouseeit.Icanbehappyinadormroom,andIcanbesadinapalace.Mostofitdependsonmeandmyperspectivetowardslife.Thatwordshitharderthanapunch.Choosethemwisely.ThattimeisTHEbesthealer.Youmaynotrealiseitatthemoment,butitdoesgetbetterThatloveandhateareveryrelativeterms.SoareGoodandBad.People,feelings,relationshipstheyallliesomewhereinbetweengoodandbad.Thatquittingisalwaystheeasiestoption.

Thatfamilyalwayscomesfirst.

Thattruefriendsareprecious.Andyouhavetomaketimeandeffortstokeepthemwithyouforever.Youwillneedthemmanytimesinyourlife,sohold

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Thatlifeisshortandthedaysmovefast.Yourarelyevergetasecondchancetomakeanimpression,tocorrectmistakes,tofixthings.Givingisthehighestformofgetting.

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Thisisaninterestingthreadwithvaluableinsights.Inadditiontotheabove,followingaremythoughts

1. Thekeytakeawayfromthisstoryisthatnothinginlifeispermanent,whichiswhybeingemotionallybalancediscriticalAboyisgivenahorseonhis14thbirthday.Everyoneinthevillagesays,Ohhowwonderful.ButaZenmasterwholivesinthevillagesays,Weshallsee.Theboyfallsoffthehorseandbreakshisfoot.Everyoneinthevillagesays,Ohhowawful.TheZenmastersays,Weshallsee.Thevillageisthrownintowarandalltheyoungmenhavetogotowar.But,becauseofthebrokenfoot,theboystaysbehind.Everyonesays,Oh,howwonderful.TheZenmastersays,Weshallsee.

2. Thefollowingareinterestinglines,whichhelpedmeseemyselfthroughatoughphasewheremylifesituationwasverysimilartothedescriptionbelow.WhatIgotoutofthatphasewasthatproblems,andbigonesatthat,willcome.Onejustneedstokeepthefaithandassomeoneheresaid,theonlywayoutisthroughthem"Sometimesfateislikeasmallsandstormthatkeepschangingdirections.Youchangedirectionbutthesandstormchasesyou.Youturnagain,butthestormadjusts.Overandoveryouplaythisout,likesomeominousdancewithdeathjustbeforedawn.Why?Becausethisstormisntsomethingthatblewinfromfaraway,somethingthathasnothingtodowithyou.Thisstormisyou.Somethinginsideofyou.Soallyoucandoisgiveintoit,steprightinsidethestorm,closingyoureyesandpluggingupyourearssothesanddoesntgetin,andwalkthroughit,stepbystep.Theresnosunthere,nomoon,nodirection,nosenseoftime.Justfinewhitesandswirlingupintotheskylikepulverizedbones.Thatsthekindofsandstormyouneedtoimagine.Andyoureallywillhavetomakeitthroughthatviolent,metaphysical,symbolicstorm.Nomatterhowmetaphysicalorsymbolicitmightbe,makenomistakeaboutit:itwillcutthroughfleshlikeathousandrazorblades.Peoplewillbleedthere,andyouwillbleedtoo.Hot,redblood.Youllcatchthatbloodinyourhands,yourownbloodandthebloodofothers.

Andoncethestormisoveryouwontrememberhowyoumadeitthrough,howyoumanagedtosurvive.Youwontevenbesure,infact,whetherthestormisreallyover.Butonethingiscertain.Whenyoucomeoutofthestormyouwontbethesamepersonwhowalkedin.Thatswhatthisstormsallabout.HarukiMurakami(KafkaontheShore)

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Aclich,butsotrue:You'llhavegreaterregretforthethingsyoudidn'tdo,thanforthethingsyoudid.

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WhatIthoughtwasimportantinmyteenswasn'timportantinmytwenties,andinmy30stheyareevenlessimportant.

Noonereallyholdsyouback,it'syourperception.YouonlyholdYOUback.

Don'tlistenwhenpeoplelabelyou.Youwilllivewiththatlabelyourwholelife,andlikeapieceofmaskingtape,theolderitgetsthemoreabitchthatadhesiveistogetoffandyouhavetofighttoremoveit.(ADHD,Slow,Genius,Pretty,Thin,Fat,Bully,Ugly...)

STRESSisaREALthing.Donottakepillsforit.Recognizeit,acknowledgeit,dosomethingaboutit(i.e.exercise)andmoveforward.

Havinganattitudeofgratitudemeansmorethansayingthankyou.Discoveringthatgratitudetotheinthdegreeandbeingthankfulforthecompanywhowascreated,whohiredthepeople,whobuilttheproduct/designedtheservice,thatprovideslifesupport/cleanwater/heatinthewinter/foodonyourtablemeanssomuchmorethanasimplethankyou.

AhugandasmileCANbrightenaday,ifgenuine.

WineisbetterinEurope.

Therearemorepeopleintheworldthanyouthink,andnotallofthemthinklikeyoutoleranceandacceptancecangoalongway.

Ifyouquestionfaithorscienceorexistencekeepquestioning,neverstopasking,findthatinsideyouwhichiscomfortableconformingto,holdontoitandownit,andneverletitgountilyoustartquestioningagain.

Itdoesseemlikeeverythingiscyclical

IlovebeingaparentandawifemorethanIlovedbeingselfishandalone.

Youcan'tgettothetopwithoutclimbinguptoit.

Youdonotknoweverything.

YOURHEALTHMATTERS!Youneedagoodfoundationforitwhenyouareyoungsoitiseasiertohaveahealthierlifelater.

Iamnotwillingtotrademytimeforworkfortimewithmyfamily,unlessIampassionateandlovewhatIdo.

"Family"comesindifferentforms.

Aboveanything,behappy.Ifyouaren'thappy,changesomething.Don'tthinkaboutit.Changeit.

Youwillfindyourfooting.

Youwillmakenewfriends.

Thereismoretolifethan...

Icouldgoon...I'msurein30years,I'llhavemorelifelessons.

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AngelHallCoulstonAsIgetolderittakeslongereachmorningtowashmyface.Seriouslytho,asIgetolderIappreciatemore,thethingsIhave.Seenalotoffriendsfallatthefirsthurdle.Drugs,suicide,heartattacks,brokenmarriages....andnowIwakeupwithmylovelywomanandknowhowluckyIam.I'vebeenthroughthemarriagebreakup...trieddrugsinmymadyouth(soonrealisedthatrealpeoplefaceuptotherealreality....thatdrugsareforlosers),eventriedsuicide.SogladmybleedingmysteriouslystoppedandIwokeupthenextday.....thankyouguardianangel.Ilovelife.Trialsmakemecrysometimes...butIcamethroughstronger,wiser.Butneverafraidtogetbackupandtryagain.Ioncewashomelessandsleptinacardboardbox....at17,nowat50Ihavebeautifulviewsofmountainsandcoast.Nothingstaysthesamemyfriend....evenmisfortune,rememberthat.Enjoythejourney...begood,andifyouwishtofindloveandbeloved.....firstyouhavetolove.Andlastly.....buyamotorbikeratherthantherapyifyoueverneedit......it'sadamnsightcheaperandmorepractical.Itlookscoolertoo.ReplyRepost3mago

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Momanddadwererightafterall!

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Youreadjusttheageatwhichyouthinkyou'dliketodie...Atfifteen,reachingfortyseemsquitesufficient,thanks.Whenyoureach30,then59isplenty.Thinkingaboutit,maybeit'ssomethingtodowithyourparents'ageatthetimeyouaskyourselfthatquestion.Whatevertheirageatthattimeismorethanenoughforyou,untilyougetclosertoit.

YouwillrealisethatyouDOknowitall,orthatyouDON'Tknowitall.Makesnodifferencetoanyoneelse.

Youwillunderstandwhyolderfolksarecalled"oldfarts".Watchoutforbeans,cabbage,cauliflower,etc.

Ifyou'relucky,youwillfindoutwhat'sreallyimportanttoyou.

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Alotofwisdomhasbeensharedalready,soI'llgiveyouthreeshortrealizations:

1. Thehealthofthebodyproceedsfromthehealthofthemind.Notthereverse.

2. Yourconnectionswithotherpeople,andthestrengthandqualityofthoseconnections,isnotonlythemostimportantthingitis,infact,theonlythingofanylastingvalueinthewholeofthiswide,green,duplicitous

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world.

3. Givingbringswealth.

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Irealizedthathappinessisalifestyle.Lifeistooshorttocomplain.youwillgetallyouwantinlifeifyouhelpothersachievewhattheywantinlife.SometimesandIrepeatonlysometimesIfeelthatIwasyoungagainorIcouldjustWanishandcreateanewidentity.AndIrealizegrowingupasascamandoverrated.Nomatterhowoldyouaresaysthecalendarbutyouareasoldasyoufeel.Tolookbeyondmyselfandforyouortryandfeelwhatothersarefeeling.Togiveandnottoexpectinreturnsotherewouldbenodisappointment.Don'tcomplainaboutyourproblemunlessyouhaveasolutiontogowithit.Forgiveothersnotbecausetheydeserveforgivenessbutbecauseyoudeservepeace.Don'tjustreacttoaproblembutrespondtoit.Bekindtoeveryoneyoumeetasthey'refightingtheirownbattlesaswell.

JagirJhaveri,JourneyOfALittleSoul2upvotesbyNelusigweMbinguandPatrickMathieson.

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1.Ourbodystartstofailfromthedayweareborn.Growinghavingabruiseorcutwasnobigdeal.Nowtheydon'thealwell.IhavebeenworkingoutlastfewyearsbutmybackiscrookedandIamlearningaboutthingsthatareincurable.Itstartedhappeningpast40.

2.Needreadingglass.Thiswastheshockerthatgivemetherealizationthatagingisaninevitablefact.Iusedtoprideonmyabilitytoreadtiniestthingonmycomputerscreen.Now,Ineedreadingglass.Icannotevenfocusonsometextmovingmyheadbackandforth.Inowhaveprogressivelenseononeofmyglass.Icarrythemaround.

3.Allthereadingandlearningdopayoff.Iamapeoplewatcher.Iwatchpeople.Ihavebeenforlast30yearsorso.Now,Igettoconcludeonmyobservationsandtheyareveryaccurate.51%accuracy,Iclaim.Iamrightaboutpeoplemajorityofthetime.Ifyoustudysomethingallyourlife,youwillbegoodatit.Doit.Mostpeopledonotstudynorlearn.Theywatchsportsandtrytogetbydaybyday.Studyandyouwillbeenlightened.

4.Everyoneisjustaboutthesame.Enlightenedinoneareadoesnotmakeyousmartontheotherareas.Wereallydohaveaboutsamespaceinourbucket.Someputspecializedknowledgeinthereandsomegeneralknowledge.Somedoeshaveveryshallowbucketbuttheyarenotthenorm.Donotrespectpeoplewithdeeperbucket.Theywillonlyusethatagainstyou.Justworkonyourbucketanduseyourlifetimetofillitwithinterestingstuffthatyoulike.Butdon'tstopdoingthat.

5.Weareborn.Ihavetriedsohardtobelievethatwearemadethroughourenvironment.Havinga8yearoldboychangedmyprematureconclusion.WearebornandwhatweareisinnatebutIdonotmeanenvironmentdoesnotchangeus.Itchangesus.Butourjobisnottochangeasthewindblowbutkeepsearchingwithinandfindwhoweare.Andkeepitaliveandwateritdaily.Itismostheartbreakingtoseepublicschoolhellbentonquenchingmyboy'sspark.Publicschoolisahostileplaceforourpreteenboys.Weneed

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malesteachersinelementaryschool.MyboyisnowinprivateschoolandtheydothesamethingjustIhavelittlemorecontrol.

6.Spendtimewithyourboyandyourlovedone.Ihavefailedtryingtofocusonmoneyinsteadoftime.Allthemoneyandplansdoesnotmatterifyourfamilyisbroken.Familyisagroupthatcommunicatewitheachother.Mostfamiliesarebroken.Oraltraditionisgone.Throwawaywhatyouknow.Doeverythingyoucantocommunicatewithyourfamily.Nothingismoreimportantthanthat.Sleepwithyourboyandhavebedtalks.Spent12hoursinbedbeforesleeptalkingaboutlife.ImarriedsomeonethatIcouldn'tdothatwith.Andmylifeisruined.Spendingtimeconversingwithmyboyisnowmostpreciousthing.

7.Andeverydoghassomethingtosay.Stoplisteningtoothers.Homelesspersononthestreetwillhavesomethingtoteachyou.Don'tbother.ThatincludesWarrenBuffet.Don'tbother.Allthequestionandanswersarewithinyou.Ifyouhavecuriosity,youareblessed.Feedit.Ifyoudon'thavethatIamsureyouarenotreadingthis.Spendyourresourcesonyourselfandgiveyourselfchancesandchoicestolearnfrom.

8.Allanecdotesarewrong.Quoraisfilledwithwonderfulstoriesandanecdotes.Ignorethemandviolentlyfightthosecutesyanecdotes.Theyarejustthatcutestories.Manyifnotallaredetrimentaltoyourthoughtprocess.Itkeepsyoufromthinkingfewstepsdeeper.

9.Yourstrengthareyourweakness.Don'tenvyotherpeople'sstrength,embracethem.Justlikeyoutheysufferbecauseoftheirstrength.Societywillbestrongerifweletpeople'sstrengthnotbeimpedimenttotheirgrowth.Asweacceptothersstrength,yourstrengthwillbeacknowledgedbythemtoo.Andembraced.

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JustissBoyeralludestothisabove,butIthinkitdeservestobesingledout:

Nothingisasimportantasyouusedtothinkitwas,andthingsthatnevermatteredbefore,willmattergreatlysomeday...Andthen,withtimethosegreatissueswillbesupplantedwithothers.Alessonworthlearningistotakethethingsthatbotheryou,ordelightyou,justseriouslyenough,nomoreorless.

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AsIwatchtherevolvingdoorofpeoplethatcomeinandoutofmylife,Ihavecometotherealizationthatwhatattractedmetofriendsinmyschoolyearsisdifferentfromthetraitsthatattractedmeinmyfreewheelingtwenties.Thosecharacteristicschangeagainonceyougetmarried..andthendramaticallychangeagainwhenyouhavechildren.I'msureitcontinuestoevolveasyoumovetowardsyourgoldenyears.

Ihavefoundthatallrelationshipsneedtobecontinuallyevaluatedtoseeiftheyarestillbasedonthatgenuineinterestorattractionoriftheyarebeingprolongedduetosomeunnecessarysenseofloyalty.

Hangingontorelationshipsthatareclearlypasttheirusefulnesssimplyisn'tworththeinvestment.Consideryourtimeasvaluableandonlyinvestinthosecoreindividualsthatcontinuetocatchyourinterest.

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Aslongasyouhavefood,warmth,andhealth,nothingelsereallymatterssodon'tgetstressedaboutanythingelseitwon'thelp.Honour,respect,career,money,possessions,winning,trophies,fame,andeverythingelse,arejusttemporaryconstructsofourhumanworld.Noneofthemmatter,theyarechainsthatweighyoudownandultimatelycanbringonlysuffering.

Alwayssayyestoyourpartner,andlifewillbebetter.

Neverfeelentitledandrememberthatit'suptoyoutocontribute.

Andfinally,youareonlyyoungforashorttime,sotryeverything,anddon'tbeovercautiousthere'llbeplentyoftimeforthatwhenyouareolder,alltosoon.

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Thatthebodyslowlydeterioratesandstartstogivelittlesignsoffailure.

Thatphysical(andthenemotional)healtharethebaseforeverythinginlife.

Thatangerandpridetakeyounowhere.

Thatpatiencemustbepracticedbecauseit'suseful.

Thattryingthingsthatatfirstmaysoundlikeoddornotforyoucanleadtoseethingsinapositivedifferentlight.

Thatyoureatinghabitsmatteralotandreallymakeadifferenceinhowyoufeelnowandhowyou'llage.

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Weareneversatisfiedwiththeanswerstothesetwoquestions:

1.HowdoIdifferfromothers?2.HowamIthesameasothers?

RichardCareaga,age672upvotesbyDeanLaureaandNashKhan.

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Egoisatooltobeusednotaweapontobewielded.

"GrandDad"knewofwhathespoke.Thosethatlistenedwereonestepahead.

Takecareofyourphysicalbody.Youwillneeditforalongtime.

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Takenothingatfacevalue.

Spendmoretimelisteningthantalking.

Showrespecttoreceiverespect.

Yourintegrityistheonlythingthatyouwilleverownandnoonecantakeitfromyou.Butyoucanloseitforeverintheblinkofaneye.

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Youwillspendmoretimeatworkthanwithyourfamily,itisimportantthatyoulovewhatyoudo,itdoesn'tmatterwhatyoudojustthatyouloveitandyougiveit100%Sayyesalot,ifsomeoneasksyoucanyoudoso&sosayyes,thenworkouthowtodoitlaterthishasworkedwellformeandIhavedonemanythingsIwouldhavethoughtimpossibleIfyoufollowtheyesadvicewhenyoudosayNOpeoplewillbelieveyouStartsavingforyourpensionNOWretirementisfantasticbutonlyifyouhavethemoneytofollowyourdreams.TravellotsAvoidisms(racismsexismEtc.)therearemanymorenoneofthemanygood,treatpeopleasindividualsanddon'tputtheminboxes.AndfinallyIcan'trememberwhosaidthisbutit'ssotrueIfyouthinkyoucanoryouthinkyoucan'teitherwayyouwillberight.

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Iam58thispastJanuary.Ihavehadmanyexperiencesandtraveledalot.Ihavechildrenandgrandchildren,marriedtwice.Lostmanylovedonesandeachlosshurtsasmuchasthefirst.Theheartnevermendsandtimedoesnotheal,itmakesiteasiertolivewithbecauseyoulearntoacceptwhathashappend.Ihaverealizedhowfastmylifehasgonebyandtimedoesspeedup,theolderyouget.IhavelearedthatwhatIoncethoughtwassoimportant,likemoney,jobtitleorhavingthingsmeannothing.Whatrealycountsiswhatisintheheart.Lovingeachotherinspiteofourfaults,pickingeachotherupnomatterhowmanytimeswefallandstandingupforwhatyoubelieve.Gettingtoapointthatyoudon'tcarewhatothersaredoingorwhattheythink,followingyourself.Beingdifferentisok.Keepingyourwordissoimportantandallwaystellthetruth.Childrenshouldbelovedandprotectedatallcosts,peopleshouldtalknothitandifyoulookhardenoughthereisalwayssomethinggoodevenintheworstsituation.IhavefoundthatItrulydon'tknoweverythingandalwaysbeopentolearnsomethingnew.Anopenmindisanassetanddon'tchangeyoumoralswiththetimes.YourconscienceisalwayswithyouandifyouhaveanyquestionsaboutlifetheBibleneverchanges.

LanaJoHoweDearborn4upvotesbyYesudasonPaulraj,ShefalyYogendra,JocelinFaith,(more)

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I'vespentalotoftimewithyoungadultsandhavediscoveredthat'thekidsarealright'.

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Ireadaquotefromadoctoralongtimeago.ItchangedthewayIlookedatthings,andIhavecometoappreciateitmoretheolderIget.Ican'trememberitexactly,butthegistis"Ihaveattendedmanypeoplewhowereinthelaststagesoflife.Notoneofthemeversaid,'IwishIhadspentmoretimeatwork.'"

EricIvers,PresidentofaSiliconValleyrobotic...(more)3upvotesbyNelusigweMbingu,PatrickMathieson,andSullyAugustine.

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AsIamgettingolderwithnewexperiences,theseconddecadeofmylifehasmademerealizethat:"Fakepeopledon'tsurprisemeanymore,loyalpeopledo".

JayashreeBhagabati,Despite'allthat',anemptyvessel!22upvotesbyLauraParker,BridgetBrennan,ErisBolt,(more)

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IrealizedbackthenwhenIsaidtomyselfthat"Iknowitallnow".IfiguredwhatIknewwasjustalittleamountofknowledge.Itwasjustthebeginningandthatyoulearnmoreasyougetolder.

SoussanSabra,SunlifeFinancial2upvotesbyKatrinA.OtrzonsekandGarrettCollins.

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1.Thatthisworldisnotatalljustandfair.2.Thatsocalled"experts"canreallydoomyourlife.Trustnoonebutyourself.3.Eldersdonothavealltheanswers

SuvilSipani,HungryExplorer!Interestedinthein...(more)8upvotesbyVandioZuccarelli,AdelePitt,VinodhiniRavi,(more)



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4.Eldersarenotperfect.Theywillmakemistakes.5.Makingassumptionsistheworstthingyoucandotoyourselfandothersaroundyou.6.Solitudeisgoodandsometimesreallynecessary.Damnthosepeoplewhoeasilyconfusesolitudewithloneliness.7.Readingisthebestthingyoucandotoyourbrain.8.Beingaproducerofcontentismuchbetterthanaconsumerofcontent.Don'tjustsitandread,watch,listen,playetcbutdosomething.Writeaparagraph.Createatune.9.Getyouraddictionsincontrol.10.Relationshipsmatter.11.Damnyourpassion!Besogoodthattheycan'tignoreyou!

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Happinessgetseasier.Notnecessarilyduetoloweredexpectations,butmorebecauseIjustdon'tenjoybeingmiserableasmuchasIusedto.

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Iam52andworkwithacreativeagency.Recently,whenmyyoungercolleaguesapproachedmewithanideaandaskedformyadvise,Ivetoedtheideaandgavethemreasonswhyitwouldn'twork.Oneofthemcontinuedtoplaywiththeideaandturneditintoagreatidea.Everyonelikedtheoutcome,includingme.

Nomatterhowoldyouare,youwillbewrongsometimes.Beopentothepossibilityofbeingwrong.Don'thangyourselfwhenyouare.Learn...moveon.

Moreoftenthannot,myideas/thoughtshaveprovedeffective.That'swheyyoungercolleaguescometomeoften.SoIamoftenrighttoowhichisacombinationofexperience,logicandinstinct.Takestrengthfromthat...andmoveon.

WhenIdosomethingtothebestofmyability,withoutplayinggamesorgettingsuckedintopalaceintrigues,Ifinditisextremelyliberating.IsleepbetterandIsleepsatisfied.

Beyou...andkeepmovingon.

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Wroteitlongback.Sharingtheexactcontent.

KeepLifeSimpleSayHitoapersonjusttwice,atdifferenttimes.Ifyougetacheerfulreplyboththetimes,youhaveafriendaddedtoyourlist(andnotfb).Ifnot,thenleave.Noteveryoneinthisworldcanbeyourfriend.

CallOneDifferentFriendEveryWeekend

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Justtoaskhowishedoing.Don'ttalkbusinessordon'taskforasmallfavour.Thesedayswhenyoutalktosomeonejusttosayahi,itisanecstaticfeeling.

LearnToLetGoDon'tlingeronyourpast,learnfromit.Youleftyourchildhoodbutyoudidn'trealizeitandhencenocriesandemotions.Youhavetoleaveyourcollege.Yourealizeit.Cryalittleandthenlaughitoff.

YouGivetimeforyourself.Friendswillleaveyouatsomepointortheother.Butyouyourselfwillbewithyourselfforeachandeverymomentofyourlife.Lifeisbeyondfriends,lifeisyou.Itsyourlife.UnderstandandLive.

DoSomethingWorthEveryday,everymonthoreveryyear.Doitforothersorifnot,thenatleastforyourself.You'llfeelgood.

ReplyIfsomeonetextsyou,mailsyou,callsyou,remembersyou,reply!Yourreplymattersalot.Ifyouareunabletoreplythenandthere,replyafterfewhoursorevenadaybutdoreply.Itjustshowsyourconcernforhim/herotherwiseitsaninsulttohis/herfeelings.

RememberYourselfIfsomeelderlyasksyouthesamequestiontwiceorthrice,don'tfeelirritated.Justthinkofthattimewhenyouusedtosay2*2=3a100timesandstillyourparentsneverfailedtocorrectyou.Respecttheirhardwork.Respectthem.

EarnLess,LiveMoreDropajobwhichdoesn'tgiveyoutimetoeatforwhichyouareactuallyworking.Dropajobwhichdoesn'tgiveyoutimetospendtimewithyourparents,spouse,childrenforwhomyouareactuallyworking.Dropajobwhichdoesn'tgiveyoutimetospendtimewithyourselfforwhomyouareactuallyliving.

SayItIfyouLovesomeone,SayIt.Don'tmakeLifecomplex.Youneverknowifthetimewilleverrollbacktocorrectthatregretteddecisionofnotsayingitnow.

Don'tFALLinLoveYoumighthurtyourselfandtheotherperson.Justletithappen.Don'tforceyourselfintoit.

Don'tPostPicsAboutyourrecenttripsandcelebrationsinstantlyonnet.Keepthemsafeforfewyearsandthenshowittoyourfriends.Youknowhowthefeelingwouldbethen.

DoGetAngryAtyourbossandtakeoutthefrustrationonyourkeyboard.Notonyourfamilyandfriends.

TakeLifeSeriouslyOnlywhenyouaresleeping.

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justdon'twasteyourtimelifeisshortyouareaboutat1/4ifluckymostprobably1/3ofittrytoEnjoywhatyoudoinlife

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Youmaybegettingolderbecausetheyearsseemtobegoingfasterasyouage,that'smythought.I'minmyseventybutstillfeellikeI'mtwentyone.Youareonlyasoldasyoufeel,Idon'tfeelold.It'suptoyouhowoldyoufeel,thinkthatyouareoldandyouwillbeold.Justdon'tthinkofyourage,getonwithenjoyingitandmakeeverydaycount.Whenyouwakeinthemorningfeelblessedbecauseyouareseeinganewday.Letsliveit,what'sagegottodowithanything?

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Wowyouaresmarttorealizethere'ssomuchyouneedtolearn!!I'llbefortyseveninSeptember,andIwishI'dhadthegutstothinkaboutthisandaskforthiskindofadviceatyourage.Here'smylist:

1.RealizethatTIMEisafiniteresource,theonlyoneweallhavean"equal"amountof.Obviously,somewilldiesoonerthanothers,buttimeticksawayatthesamerateforall.Therefore,ineverythingyoudo,youneedtoaskyourself:"Isthisaconstructiveuseofmytime?"OfcourseanhourortwoofTVseveralnightsaweekwon'tkillyou(thoughyoumaywellstopwatchingmuchofwhatyounowfindfun).Butasyouconsidercollegeandgraduateortrainingschool,workandotherbiglifec

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