written by dr. celia hayhoe, cfp®, family resource management specialist, virginia tech ©2005...
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Written by Dr. Celia Hayhoe, CFP®, Family Resource Management Specialist, Virginia Tech©2005 National Endowment for Financial Education. All rights reserved.
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Chapter 6Effective Communication
is Essential
Protecting Your Retirement & Other Financial Informationfor Family Caregivers: What Every Adult Child Should Know
Effective Communication is Essential
• In most families, discussing financial matters is difficult.• Adding the additional issues that come with caregiving
decisions, makes the discussion even harder.• This chapter gives communication tips for dealing with
difficult topics.• See the companion Web site for more information.
Before You Start
• Turn off the television and the radio• Don’t start the conversation if you are rushed for
time• Start off with positive statements to put everyone
in a good mood• If you have difficulty communicating your
feelings, you may want to write them down• Voicing your own planning concerns may open
the door for discussing the concerns you have with the care receiver’s planning
Tips
• Take Time– You may have been thinking about the
problem for awhile. Give others a chance to think things over.
• Planning Ahead– It is much easier to discuss these issues
if you are not in the middle of a crisis.– This way you can involve all family
members including older children.
Tips
• Practice, practice, practice
–It takes time to change old habits
• Using a third party as illustrated in the video
–When possible choose someone who specializes in elder-care issues
Tips
• Use “I” messages
“I” message not “You” message
I feel that you do not hear what I am saying.
You never listen.
I am upset that I have to perform most of mother’s caregiving because it is causing me problems at work.
You never help with mother’s caregiving, or
You have no idea of the problems I am having.
I am worried about what would happen if you became ill since I live so far away.
You need to make plans in case you get sick.