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You May Regret,But You Cannot Forget

What is on the Internet

Elea Kass

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People everywhere are spending increasingly

more time online4  

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When people allow their online life to constantly i n t e r r u p t their real life. . .

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They tend to reflect on their current state of being less9

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This negatively impacts their ability to experience

self-realization 7

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Without self-realization, ! people may often post things on the internet that are not representative of their “ true self ”

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There are many subsidiary reasons why one may act this way:

Anger

Frustration

Boredom

Accident

Entertainment

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People  also  tend  to  see  and  react  to  things  differently  at  different  times  in  their  life  due  to  their  maturity,  

experience,  and    general  knowledge  

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         Humans’  fundamental        desire  to  be  noticed              may  cause  them        to  say/do  more        extreme  things        than  they  normally  would

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Naturally,  people  tend  to  remember  more  good  things  from  their  past  than  bad  5

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The internet in this way does not mimic the brain:

It  does  not  allow  people  to  forget  their  follies  

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What  is  said  on  the  internet  is  like  getting  a  tattoo:

You  are  attached    to  it  for    the  rest  of  your  life  

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This  permanency    can  be  beneKicial  or  haunting

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   People  are  constantly  being  analyzed  and  judged  by  others    !

!    on  the  basis  of  their        online  presence1

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Posting  something                        unwise  may                    damage  your    reputation    online  and  in  life  

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There  always  comes  a  point  when    the  social  punishment

outweighs  the                severity            of  the    unwise  post 8

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Others  often  crave  the  “fame”    and  “power”  associated  with  exposing  an  unwise  post    to  the  public  

They  may  also  do  this  in  attempt  to  detract  the  public    from  their  own  mistakes 8

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Because  let’s  face  it:

nobody  is  perfect

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“Forgiveness  has  nothing  to  do        with  absolving  a  criminal  of  his        crime.  It  has  everything  to  do        with  relieving  oneself  of  the        burden  of  being  a  victim—      letting  go  of  the  pain  and        transforming  oneself  from    !    victim  to  survivor.”    

-­‐  C.R.  Strahan  

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Without  forgiveness,            the  person  whom              created  the  unwise              post  may                          experience  deep                long-­‐term            psychological                                problems  

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 Their  initial  regret            can  turn  into            chronic  stress            that  damages  their                                                                                                                      mind  and  body  2

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The  best  thing  to    do  is  understand    that  everyone    is  human:    !

humans  make  mistakes

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And  that  people  may  post    things  that  are  not  true    representations  of    themselves  

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“We  don't  forgive  people  because  they  deserve  it.        We  forgive  them  because  they  need  it—  !              because  we  need  it.”    

 –  Bree  Despain,  The  Dark  Divine

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