1) revised growing christian values in children

7/31/2019 1) REVISED Growing Christian Values in Children

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Linda Mei Lin Koh

Childrens Ministries

General Conference of Seventh-day Adventists

Leadership Certification, Level III

Course #1


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Psalm 1:1-3

Blessed is the man whodoes not walk in the

counsels of the wicked . .

. But his delight is in the

law of the Lord . . . He is

like a tree planted by

streams of water . . .

Whatever he doesprospers.


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The Values Tree

Good genetic stock Good soilgoodness of fit

Sunshine of love and warmth

Watering with gentle teachingfrom Gods Word and life

experiences

Fertilizer special teachingexperiences

Pruning discipline

Protection from winds/storms


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Strong Values Needed

Children need more than good

food, a nice physicalenvironment and psychological

understanding; they need tolearn ethical principlesa firmnotion of what they ought to

do, and what they ought not todo, and why?

Robert Coles

Family Weekly


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Ellen G. Whites Counsels

Parents, teach your children . . . howto conduct themselves in the homewith true politeness. Educate themto show kindness and tenderness toone another. . .The principles ofheaven are to be brought into thegovernment of the home. Every child

is to be taught to be polite,compassionate, loving, pitiful,courteous, tenderhearted.

Child Guidance, 143.


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Why Are Values Important?

Lights the dark moments ofdecision.

Points the way to the path of

integrity and honesty. Keeps the soul in tune with

God.

Provide a sense of purpose. Directs the means and ends of

actions.

Are standards of conduct.


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Values Begin With God

Without God, values die Today, God is no longer the

source of values for most

people

*values begin with ME, not God

*society emphasizes valueslike: athletics,, materialism,

physical appearance, andstatus


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Values Begin With God

Gods values are sometimesdrastically different from thesecular values

What are Gods values?*Gal 5:22,23 *1 Cor 13

*2 Peter 1:5-7 *Matt 5:3-11


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Pair-Share: Make a list ofthe most important values

you desire to pass to thenext generation. Thendiscuss:

What Values Are Important to You?


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Effective Methods of

Values Transformation


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Child Guidance, p. 496

"As the very best friends of these inexperiencedones, parents should help them in the work ofovercomingThey should consider that their

own dear children who are seeking to do right

are younger members of the Lord'sfamilyWith loving interest they should teachthem day by day what it means to be childrenof God and to yield the will in obedience to

Him. Teach them that obedience to Godinvolves obedience to their parents. Thismust be a daily, hourly work. Parents, watch,watch and pray, and make your children your

companions.


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Group Activity: Think of one ortwo significant others in your life

whom you have shared warm relationships

made Christian attractive

you wanted to be like them andtheir values your own.

Take 3 minutes.


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Group Activity: Think of one or twosignificant others in your life whom youhave shared warm relationships andwho made Christian values so winsomeand attractive you wanted to be like

them and their values your own. Take 3


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What Do They Model?

Parents and teachers actions,words, and demeanor.

How they treat others and treat

them. Their attitudes and behaviors.

How to handle disappointments.

What Christians do when they makmistakesforgiveness in Christ.

How God is at work in their lives.


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Dwight Moody

Where one man

reads the Bible,

a hundred readyou and me.


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Testimonies, vol. 6, 119

"Parents are giving to their childrenan example either of obedience or

of transgression. By their exampleand teaching, the eternal destinyof their households will in most

cases be decided. In the future lifethe children will be what theirparents have made them."


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Deuteronomy 6:5-7

You shall love the Lord your Godwith all your heart, with all your soul,

and with all your strength. And these

words which I command you todayshall be in your heart. You shall

TEACHthem diligently to your

children, and shall talk of them when

you sit in your house, when you walk

by the way, when you lie down, and

when you rise up.


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How to Create TeachableMoments

Articulate children's actions ofkindness, hospitality, ability toresolve conflicts, etc.

Provide events, experiences, andmaterials to develop traditions thatcreate a bond betwn generations.

Provide examples to think moredeeply about moral issues and

dilemmas in various situations.


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John Gardner, Self-Renewal, 21

All too often we are giving

our young people cut

flowers when we should beteaching them to innovate.

We think of the mind as a

storehouse to be filled whenwe should be thinking of it

as an instrument to be

used.


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Teaching Strategies:

Stories/object lessons Questions

Real-life situations

Act-it-out scenes

Posters and pictures

Values journal Post Bible verses in strategic

places

Pray with children every day


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Discipline Guidelines Correct misbehaviors with love.

Explain the reason for punishment ifthere is a need for it, but love shouldalways be the basis of correction.

Avoid being authoritarian; parents &teachers who control children throughpunishment and reward retard moralgrowth.

Adults who treat children with respect,fairness and consideration, promotemoral growth.


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Values Transmission

The ValueGenesis Study on Family


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The ValueGenesis Study on Family

Worship

How often does your family have family

worship?VG2 VG1

Never 23% 26%

Less than once a month 13% 11%

About once a month 7% 6%

About 2-3 times a month 9% 8%

About once a week 16% 15%

Several times a week 11% 11%

Once a day 15% 15%

More than once a day 6% 8%


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Values of Family Worship

Opportunity for covenantrenewal.

Rehearsal of religiousheritage.

Testimony sharing.

Values exploration andinstruction.

Relationship building.


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Values Transmission


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Getting children and youngpeople involved in service in

the church and community, aswell as in the home, helps themto internalize values such as

love, compassion, patience,humility, kindness, etc.


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Service Projects

Start an "adopt a grandmother/grand-father program:

Make cheery cards for placementon food trays in the hospital &nursing home.

Volunteer at a local soup kitchen.

Clean up a park.

Rake leaves, cut grass, etc. for theelderly.

Bake cookies or cook food to give

to poor children or students.

Th R ibilit f P t


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The Responsibility of Parentsand Teachers

Live the values

Teach the values

Make right and wrong veryclear

Give lots of practice inmaking decisions

Show your child how to

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