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SCOTTISH LIFE (GA) Scottish National News Volume 12 Issue 3 October 2015 When Anyone, Anywhere, At Any Time, Reaches Out For Help, I Want The Hand Of GA And Gam-Anon Always To Be There; And For That I Am Responsible. EDITORIAL 24 HOUR HELPLINE 0370 050 8881 SUBSCRIPTIONS If you would like to receive the magazine direct to your home, write to one of the addresses on the front page enclosing a cheque for £10 to cover postage for one year and of course include your name and address. (Southern Ireland £16) Gamblers Anonymous Scotland G.A. Service Office, St Columbkiilles Halls, Room 3, 2 Kirkwood Street, Rutherglen, G73 2SL Office Hours 10am-5pm Tel. 0141 353 3223 G.A. SCOTLAND WEBSITE www.gascotland.org [email protected] Gamblers Anonymous Scotland Website Members Pages Username-Member Password- r3cov3ry Hello Fellowship, I hope everyone is enjoying their recovery One Day at a Time. Thank you to those who contributed this month and thanks to the Web Team for all their help. I’ve been thinking a lot recently about responsibility and patience and therefore hope to make them the theme for the next issue in December. This will also be the Christmas edition in which it would be wonderful to hear about the comparison between before you came in the door and now. These are just a few ideas, but as always the Scottish Life is a tool in Recovery where all stories on any subject are welcome. Have A Happy New Day. Thanks Again-Pam

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SCOTTISH LIFE (GA)

Scottish National News Volume 12 Issue 3 October 2015

When Anyone, Anywhere, At Any Time, Reaches Out For Help,

I Want The Hand Of GA And Gam-Anon Always To Be There;

And For That I Am Responsible. EDITORIAL

24 HOUR HELPLINE

0370 050 8881

SUBSCRIPTIONS

If you would like to receive the magazine direct to your home, write to one of the addresses

on the front page enclosing a cheque for £10 to cover postage for one year and of course

include your name and address. (Southern Ireland £16)

Gamblers Anonymous Scotland

G.A. Service Office,

St Columbkiilles Halls, Room 3,

2 Kirkwood Street,

Rutherglen, G73 2SL

Office Hours 10am-5pm

Tel. 0141 353 3223

G.A. SCOTLAND WEBSITE www.gascotland.org

[email protected]

Gamblers Anonymous

Scotland Website

Members Pages

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Hello Fellowship, I hope everyone is enjoying their recovery One Day at a Time.

Thank you to those who contributed this month and thanks to the Web Team for all

their help. I’ve been thinking a lot recently about responsibility and patience and

therefore hope to make them the theme for the next issue in December. This will also

be the Christmas edition in which it would be wonderful to hear about the

comparison between before you came in the door and now. These are just a few

ideas, but as always the Scottish Life is a tool in Recovery where all stories on any

subject are welcome. Have A Happy New Day. Thanks Again-Pam

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Useful Numbers as of 01/06/2014

Citizens Advice Scotland Debt Advice Centre

Aberdeen 01224 569 750 Aberdeen 01224 523 738

Dumfries 0300 303 4321 Dumfries 0800 019 1278

Dundee 01382 307 494 Dundee 01382 431 167

Edinburgh 01315 548 144 Edinburgh 0131 200 2360

Falkirk 01324 626070 Falkirk 01324 506735

Glasgow 0141 552 5556 Glasgow 0808 801 1011

Inverness 0844 4994 111 Highland 0800 090 1004

Perth 01738 450580(1) Perth 01738 450580

Saltcoats 01294 467 848 Saltcoats 08001383328

What to take with you to the Citizens Advice Bureau www.cas.org.uk/bureaux

You should not delay seeking advice even if you haven't got all the information listed below.

In some cases there may be only a limited time in which to take certain action. It is important

that the adviser who deals with your problem has as much information about your case as

possible. (It may take longer to deal with your case if you cannot provide the relevant information)

Debt/money problems

Details of your income

Details of all those that you owe money to (creditors)

Copy of original agreements

Copy of any court papers

Proof of income

Wage slips/benefit/tax credit details

Details of household expenditure/bills (food, utilities, etc.)

Copy of the latest correspondence you have received

Housing problems

Tenancy agreement/letters from your landlord (for rented accommodation)

Mortgage details (if applicable)

Title deeds (for owner occupiers)

Proof of income

Wage slips/benefit/tax credit details

HELP NEEDED

We have members in outlying areas that cannot get to a meeting. Contact with a group or

individual can be sporadic for these people. Do you have time for a five minute chat via

phone or Skype? If you are willing to give this a try call the office on 0141 353 3223.

G.A. Scotland Website

Members Pages

Username member

Password r3cov3ry

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***REMEMBER GAM-ANON***

Gam-Anon can help and support the partner, relative or friend of any

compulsive gambler. Our gambling and its consequences, sometimes affects

those around us. It can be beneficial for those affected to contact Gam-Anon.

Please email: [email protected] (or contact the G.A. office)

Literature

o Deviations along the road to Recovery

o GA Handbook (orange)

o Towards Recovery In Prison

o The 12 Steps Of Recovery

o Newcomers Handbook

o The 12 Steps Of Unity

o Climbing The 12 Steps

o GA Manual

o Who Am I?

o Unity Checklist

o Towards 90 Days

o Beyond 90 Days

o Sponsorship Booklet

Please ask your group Secretary for any literature you require

Convention

Specific, Measurable And Realistic Targets

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As you know I am putting together a magazine for our Convention in

October and am looking for some assistance. I would be grateful if

members could send me stories, articles etc. particularly if they have

a Convention theme. Thank you from Charles

Articles can be sent to the office by email to [email protected] or send di-

rectly to me at [email protected]. You can also post an article to either

of the following-

GA Service Office, G.A. (F.A.O. Charles)

St Columbkilles Halls, Room 3, Neighbourhood Centre

2 Kirkwood Street, Daisy Street, Govanhill

Rutherglen G73 2SL Glasgow G42 8JL

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The Editor reserves the right of refusal on all submissions and may shorten/amend articles where appropriate. Views

and opinions reflected in articles in the Scottish life (GA) are not necessarily the aims and ideals of GA or the Editor.

ALL WELCOME AT THE

GA SCOTLAND CONVENTION Celebrate 50 years of GA in Scotland.

The Erskine Bridge Hotel

16th

-18th

October 2015.

Contact the office for details

0141 353 3223

NEW MEETING

Starting on Wednesday 16th September 2015

Partick Burgh Halls from 7-30pm till 9-45pm

Burgh Hall Street, Glasgow, G11 5LW

(Next to Peel Street)

Same Location as all Partick Meetings

ALL WELCOME

Aberdeen Gam-Anon

Are Moving To the Same Premises as G.A.

on Tuesday 22nd September

(Every fortnight thereafter)

Ruthrieston Community Centre,

532 - 536 Holburn Street

Aberdeen AB10 1XZ

7.30pm-9.30pm

ALL WELCOME

On The 26th October 2015

The Elgin Meeting Will Celebrate Their First Anniversary

The first half will be a standard Meeting

The second half will be a pot luck buffet

All G.A. Members Are Welcome To Join Us

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Hannah Aberdeen

Hi my name’s Hannah and I am a compulsive gambler. I joined Gamblers Anonymous on

Wednesday, 15th of July 2015. After 12 years of gambling (some years worse than others)

and after years and years of lies to myself, friends and family, building up debt, losing jobs,

getting myself in trouble, ruining relationships, hurting people and losing everything.

At the age of 27 I finally decided something had to be done. It took a push from my partner

to get me through the door, but after my first meeting it was like a weight had been lifted

from my shoulders. Being just 27 and female, I was very nervous to say the least! As I was

going through the doors, I was thinking in my head I was the only female out there gambling

and who had a problem spending all my money but this is not the case at all! Gamblers come

in all shapes, sizes and genders and come from all backgrounds. There is absolutely no

judgement and I can't stress enough how welcoming and at ease everyone makes you feel!

I have a very long way to go, but 100% believe that if I give everything I can to GA, I will

get 100% back from it! The people I have met in the past few weeks have been a huge

support for me and really inspiring. I hope, one day, that someone thinks of me like that and

how I have helped them along in their journey of recovery.

My goal for myself is just to stay off a bet and I believe that with going to my meetings

every week that this will be 100% possible! I wish everyone in the program the best of luck

and thanks for all the support!!

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Carol Parkhead

It’s lovely to be humble,

And admit when you are wrong.

It keeps a friendship even,

And you feel like you belong.

But, the greatest friend of all

Is the one who acts bright-

And kindly says “I was wrong”

When we all know they were right

‘You're imperfect, and you're wired for struggle, but you are worthy of love and belonging’

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Deviations along the Road to Recovery Section 2-Some Deviations along the Road to Recovery

9. Dishonesty

For many, especially for gamblers but for some drinkers and unfaithful people too, lying becomes a

natural way of life. Some even see it as an art form and take a pride in their more inspired efforts

and success. Lying is an escape. It avoids reality and protects oneself and others from the truth.

Some can lie so convincingly to themselves as well as to others that they lose sight of the truth

altogether and end up in some bizarre play-act of a life or in a state of hopeless confusion. Others

work so hard at maintaining a complex web of lies to all, that they exhaust themselves before they

have begun the real business of life. Lying can easily be seen as another instance of short term gain

for long term loss. The recovering addict needs to make out a careful personal balance sheet. What

are the gains of lying in this way? Avoiding trouble? Admiration of self? How long do these gains

last? What are the losses? Peace of mind? Trust of others? How long do these losses last?

10. Longings

Longings can be about the past and about the future. The dream world of the compulsive gambler is

about longings for the future and when gambling stops these longings don’t always just go away.

They need to be looked straight in the eye and they will then often be found to be about material

ways of getting something immaterial, about restoring self-respect and affection of others, about

buying affection and love. The recovering addict can begin to find slower but surer ways of

obtaining these things. “Longings” is not the same as “cravings”, they are more like a longer term

feeling of deprivation, sadness or incompleteness. Usually when people lose something or someone

valuable, they suffer a sense of loss, they grieve and they endure bereavement. If your addiction has

been the very center of your life and you are left with that great “gambling shaped gap” then, no

matter how relieved and glad you are to be stopped at last, you will still, on occasions, suffer an

experience of bereavement, often without recognizing it for what it, and usually without being

allowed to talk to anyone about it, especially to anyone in GA.

The whole psychology of such a “hidden bereavement” is too deep and complex to go into here, but

the most important things are: (1) to know that this state can exist even in the most determined and

happy-to-be-stopped addict and to recognise it when you see it and (2) not to be afraid to talk about

it. (i.e. possibly not at first when your spouse/partner or even a member of GA.) Talking about it

and facing up to what it really is that you feel is lost, is often less likely to lead you back to

gambling than pretending the loss isn’t there. Allow yourself to mourn a bit with those who can take

it from you, and you may be able to recover more quickly

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I Am A Part of A Fellowship Not A Me-Ship

‘When I meet a new person, I am on the lookout for signs of what he or she is loyal to. It is a preliminary

clue to the sense of belonging, and hence of his or her humanity’

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Jim Perth Login-Member Password- r3cov3ry

Hi everyone , it's been about two and a half years since I came through the doors

of G.A. this time around and I am coming to realise the best thing it gives you is

the ability to learn. For if I'm honest, the only thing I learned while gambling was

faster ways to lose money, friends and family. Now with the help of some very

experienced people, who have all been there and made the same mistakes I have

and with the benefit of a few simple ideas that were given to us by others that

went through the same illness and came out the other side, I am being steered in

the right direction.

When I started this journey only about ten percent of those ideas made any sense

to me, but that was all I needed to make a start on my recovery because it was

enough to open my mind to other possibilities. Now I realise something my dad

said to me when I told him I'd passed my driving test all those years ago “Well

done son, now you’re learning to drive.” A wise man, as we never stop learning

as long as we are willing too. All it takes is the courage to listen to those who’ve

gone before us and realise, as I have, that I'm not the genius I thought I was. If I

stay willing to listen and learn, maybe one day I will be able to help others in the

same way.

The really amazing thing I'm learning in G.A. is that what I learn in the rooms

makes life in the 'real' world so much better. It’s not magic -it's just common

sense; not gambling gives me the time to do the fun stuff that makes life worth-

while. Recently I was on holiday with my eldest daughter and grandsons and had

a fantastic time. I’m not saying this to say how great my life is, it was just a sim-

ple caravan holiday, but a similar holiday a few years back was miserable as my

family lost me for an entire day as I gambled my life away hiding from every-

thing important. They even had camp security looking for me thinking I was ly-

ing hurt somewhere or worse. I don't want to put them through that ever again.

I now have friends and family back in my life, all thanks GA and its members for

showing me a better happier way to live. Here to listening and learning. My

name's Jim a compulsive gambler with no gambling to report and a life to live.

‘A deep sense of love and belonging is an irreducible need of all people. We are biologically, cognitively,

physically, and spiritually wired to love, to be loved, and to belong. When those needs are not met, we don't

function as we were meant to. We break. We fall apart. We numb. We ache. We hurt others. We get sick’

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TOLERANCE- Putting up with the opinions or behaviour of others without necessarily

agreeing or sympathising

HONESTY-Being fair and candid in dealing and talking with other people. Being open and

sincere

DIGNITY- A state of worthiness, honour and self-respect about one’s general appearance

and manner

HUMILITY-Regardless of ability, fame or fortune, the state of mind that one is not better

than another person

INDUSTRIOUSNESS- The giving of an earnest, hardworking, diligent and steady effort to

all challenges undertaken

OPTIMISM- The tendency to take the most hopeful view of matters or expect the best out-

come regardless of circumstances; the practice of looking on the bright side of things

FORGIVENESS-To give up the wish to punish or get even with; to pardon or excuse

RESPONSIBILITY-obliged or expected; to account for, the ability to tell right from wrong

CONSIDERATION- To be thoughtful of others and their feelings

FRIENDLINESS- On good terms, not hostile; the quality or condition of being friendly

COMMUNICATION- The ability to transmit and receive information, feelings and under-

standing through talk, gestures or writing

CHARITY-Being kind and generous in the giving of help, understand and compassion to

those in need

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L.O.V.E.

Listen, Observe, Value, Embrace

‘I had come to a place where I was meant to be. I don't mean anything as prosaic as a sense of coming

home. This was different, very different. It was like arriving at a place much safer than home’

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Andrew Login-Member Password- r3cov3ry

I attended my first GA meeting on the 14th

of April 2015 after things came to a

serious head at home and I was at risk of losing everything. I came clean to my

wife about my gambling and the reasons for me not having any cash.

I had been a gambler since I was probably aged 16 until the age of 42 and I have

now been gamble free since the 14th

of April 2015, something I never thought I

would hear myself say and it feels great to actually say that.

I just wanted to write something down to express how good it feels to actually be

gambling free. The fact that I can sleep at night and that my family and close

friends know about my problem makes life so much easier.

I am very early into my recovery programme, but the welcome, the advice and

the support I have received from the fellowship so far has been nothing short of

fantastic. Just being able to speak to people who understand what we go through

is amazing and I will be forever grateful for this.

Yes, I am very early in my recovery and I have had a couple of testing moments,

but, speaking about this at my base meeting got me sorted quickly and got me

back on track and long may it continue. I know that there will be other testing

times in the days, weeks, months and hopefully years ahead, but, following the

programme and doing it ‘One Day at a Time’ I am sure I will continue to get

stronger.

I take so much out of my Tuesday meeting simply by talking to other members

and listening to what others have to say.

From me, to GA, thank you, for simply just being there.

_________________________________________________________________

How Does Your Garden Grow?

“My mind sees possibilities about people, places, things that happen. I count my

blessings. I accept my thinking can be unorthodox at times and I can’t explain

myself. But, this I do know-that I feel good, upbeat, raring to go. Let’s get on

with it and encourage others to feel their own positivity today”

‘Perhaps home is not a place but simply an irrevocable condition’

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THE HOUSE OF BELONGING Login-Member Password- r3cov3ry

I awoke this morning in the gold light

turning this way and that thinking for a moment

it was one day like any other. But the veil had gone from my darkened heart

And I thought

It must have been the quiet candlelight that filled my room,

It must have been the first easy rhythm,

with which I breathed myself to sleep,

It must have been the prayer I said

speaking to the otherness of the night.

And I thought

this is the good day you could meet your love,

This is the black day someone close to you could die.

This is the day you realize

how easily the thread is broken between this world and the next.

And I found myself sitting up in the quiet pathway of light,

The tawny, close grained cedar burning round me like fire

and all the angels of this housely heaven ascending

through the first roof of light the sun has made.

This is the bright home in which I live,

this is where I ask my friends to come,

this is where I want to love all the things

it has taken me so long to learn to love.

This is the temple of my adult aloneness

and I belong to that aloneness as I belong to my life.

There is no house

like the house of belonging.

By David Whyte June 1996

‘When you get to a place where you understand that love and belonging, your worthiness,

is a birthright and not something you have to earn, anything is possible’

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Mark -East Kilbride Happy to be a compulsive gambler first published March 2014

I have often said, in G.A. rooms, that I am genuinely happy to be a compulsive gambler.

Some may think this is absurd, knowing themselves what misery they have gone through,

due to this illness, that is, compulsive gambling. Let me explain my statement…

When I was in the throes of gambling I was a selfish, deceitful, fearful and angry person. I

could, in fact, list most of the defects of character in the G.A. manual as my “qualities”.

Today it is quite the opposite. I try to be selfless, honest, fearless, calm and happy every day.

I use the word “try” because the programme has taught me that I will never be the finished

article and all that is asked of me is to try to improve myself. I have good and bad days in

this respect. Some days I am fearful of the future and other liabilities creep back into my life,

but I can now notice when this happens and use the programme to fight them off. I would not

have this ability, to be a better person today, if I was not a compulsive gambler in G.A. In

fact, if you look at the general population (those who are not compulsive gamblers) you can

find people who live a good life and others that don’t.

Another thing I have learnt in G.A. is that I am not just a compulsive gambler, but a

compulsive person. If it wasn’t gambling it could have been another addiction. I have, whilst

in G.A., let other compulsions take over my life at times. Thankfully these compulsions

haven’t been as destructive as my gambling was. Through G.A., I understand why I am a

compulsive person and this allows me, to hopefully, spot the issues before they become

major problems.

Most importantly, is the group of people I have met in the many rooms, of the fellowship, I

have been to. Nowhere else in the world would you find as nice a group of people, who are

technically strangers, but understand who you are, what you have been through and are

willing to do anything for you, to help you recover. I needed this help when I first came to

G.A. and during other times in my recovery. I am now happy that I can give back and help

anyone who is struggling with this addiction and what it has done to their life. If a stranger

came up to you in the street, before you were in G.A., asking for your help, would you have

helped them? Knowing the person I was back then, I am ashamed to say, the chances are that

I would have ignored them, walk past and carried on planning how to get money for my next

bet. Finally, I want to clarify, that I am not for one second saying that the hardship I went

through, during my gambling days was good in any way. They were some of the most

depressing, horrible and lonely days of my life. My life was terrible back then. However,

bearing in mind everything I have mentioned and the way I feel today, living the life I

currently have, it is hard not to think it was all worth it.

Do you think it was worth it? Login-Member Password- r3cov3ry

‘One should live as if the very rocks are glad you are here’

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GA Unity Programme Step Eleven: Our public relations policy is based on attraction

rather than promotion; we must always maintain personal anonymity at the level of

press, radio and films

1. Do I sometimes promote GA so fanatically that I make it seem unattractive?

2. Am I always careful to keep the confidences reposed in me as a GA member?

3. Am I careful about throwing GA names around-even within the fellowship?

4. Am I ashamed of being a recovering compulsive gambler?

5. What would GA be like if we weren’t guided by the ideas in Step 11? Where would I be?

6. Is my GA recovery attractive enough that another compulsive gambler would want such a

quality for their selves?

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October 1st Reflection For The Day from the GA Blue Book

We can be surrounded by people and still feel lonely. We can be all by ourselves and still feel

happy and content. What makes the difference? We feel lonely if we look to other people for

something they really can’t provide. No one else can give US peace of mind, an inner sense

of acceptance and serenity. And when we find ourselves alone, we needn’t feel lonely. God is

with us; God’s presence is like warmth enfolding us. The more we are aware of ourselves as

beloved by God, the more we’re able to feel content and secure-whether we’re with others or

alone.

Am I experiencing a sense of God at all times and in all places?

Today I Pray

May I understand that we each have our own kind of lonliness-whether we are young and

friendless, old and kept waiting by death, bereft, left, running away or just feeling out of it in

a crowd. May my lonliness be eased a bit by the fact that loneliness is, indeed, a universal

feeling that everyone knows first-hand-even though some lives seem more empty than

others.May I-and all the lonely people-take comfort in the companionship of God.

Today I Will Remember

Shared loneliness is less lonely. ‘ Login-Member Password- r3cov3ry

Positive feelings come from being honest about yourself and accepting your personality, and physical

characteristics, warts and all; and, from belonging to a family that accepts you without question.

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Dave, Dundee Gam-Anon RECOVERY first published April 2014

I had been married for 20 years. During which time, I had built, brick by brick, a wall around

myself. I built this wall initially with small bricks made from doubt, suspicion and irritation. As time

progressed the bricks I used got bigger and bigger. Some were made from lies, some from fear and

some from jealousy. As I completed my wall, I used my biggest bricks made from debt, self-

loathing, insecurity, pain, hurt and anger.

My wall protected me from reality and, as I could not see over my wall, I could not see what was

happening to my life. No one could get through my wall, I thought I was safe. Six years ago I

discovered that my wife was a compulsive gambler and my wall came crashing down.

Probably for the first time, since I got married, I was forced to deal with the reality that my life was

a sham. My wife had become a stranger, I had lost all my friends, and I had debts I could not repay.

I was not a husband or father, but a person whose only purpose in life was to enable my wife to

gamble. I did not know what to do or where to turn. Then I found Gam-Anon.

Like many others, I came to my first meeting not knowing what to expect. My wife had phoned the

GA help line that had mentioned Gam-Anon and been to her first GA meeting earlier that week. I

thought I should go along to her next meeting to give her a bit of support.

I walked into a room full of strangers dragging my bricks behind me. From the minute I began to

tell my story I knew I was in the right place. No one judged me and I could start to find me again.

Gam-Anon made me realise that my wall may have fallen down but the bricks I used to build it

were still lying all around me. For the first time I had choices. I could either use my bricks to

rebuild my wall or. I could use the new bricks that Gam-Anon were giving me, to rebuild my life

and my marriage.

The first brick I was given was hope. I decided to use this brick and one day at a time, brick by

brick, I began, not to build a new wall, but a path I could follow to serenity.

I have been in the fellowship for 6 years and have been steadily moving along my path.

It has not always been straight. Sometimes I would walk along my path, sometimes I would run and

some parts of the path were so steep I did not think I could climb them.

When I was unsure of my route or came to a crossroads and did not know which way to turn, I knew

that I could ask my Gam-Anon room to help me choose the right path.

I have continued to build my path, but the bricks I now use are happiness, contentment, self-worth,

confidence, love and serenity.

I also know that I will never need to walk my path alone. I will always have my Gam-Anon friends

with me and I know they will pick me up if I stumble or fall on my path. I can only thank my higher

power for putting me on the path to my first meeting. Without Gam-Anon and GA I would not have

rebuilt my marriage, fallen in love again and found the strength to try to atone for the damage I did

while building my wall.

Words alone are not sufficient to thank my room, for the bricks they have given me to build my path

and for the new friendships I have made that will last a lifetime.

‘Positive feelings come from being honest about yourself and accepting your personality, and physical

characteristics, warts and all; and, from belonging to a family that accepts you without question’

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DAY AREA GROUP ADDRESS START Additional Info

MON Glasgow GA Parkhead Congregational Church, Ravel Row, (off Westmuir Street) Parkhead, G31 5EW

10am-12noon

Ravel Row Side to enter

2 GA Wee Monday Duns Scotas Church, 147 Ballater St, Gorbals, G5 OYT 7.30pm 9.30pm finish

3 GA Big Monday Anderson &Kelvingrove Church,Ellderslie St, G3 8DS(off St Vincent St.) 7.30pm Gam Anon7.30pm

4 GA Clydebank Radnor Parish Church, Radnor Park Spencer Street,G813AS(off Killbowie Rd) 7.30pm

5 GA Croftfoot United Free Church, Crofrtfoot Avenue,Croftfoot, Glasgow,G44 5HH 7.45pm

Enter off Carmunnock Road

6 Ayrshire GA Ardrossen Civic Centre, Cumbrae Room 150 Glasgow street, Ardrossan, Ayrshire, KA22 8EU 7.30pm

NEW MEETING ELGIN Moray College Elgin in the Community Hub room 6.30-8.30pm

8 Hurlford GA Hurlford The Thistle Pub, 2-4 Riccarton Road, Hurlford, Ayr-shire, KA1 5AQ 7.30pm Rear of Thistle

9 Fife GA Dunfermline Del Farquarson Centre,7 Netherton Broad St.Dunfermline, KY12 7DS 7.15pm

10 Edinburgh GA Edinburgh Methodist Church The Square Centre, Nicholson Square, EH8 9BX 7.15pm

11 Lothian GA Blackburn Church Of Scotland East Mains St. EH47 7QR 7.30pm

12 Cumbernauld GA Cumbernauld Greenfaulds Meeting Rooms Lochinvar Rd, Green-faulds Cumbernauld G67 4AR 7.30pm

13 England GA Carlisle Church of Scotland , Chapel St. CA1 1JA 7.30pm

14 Airdrie GA Whinhall Beechbank Community Centre, Wester Mavisbank Ave, Airdrie, ML6 0HE 7.30pm

15 Dundee GA Dundee St Andrews Parish Church 2 King St. DD1 2JB 7.30pm

TUES

16 Glasgow GA Maryhill Central Halls, 304 Maryhill Road,G20 7YE 2.00pm

17 GA Oxgangs Colinton Mains Parish Church, 223 Oxgangs Road North, Edinburgh, EH13 9ED 7.00pm

18 GA Coatbridge St Andrews School, Sports Community Centre, Coat-bridge, ML5 5EA 7.30pm

19 GA Partick Partick Burgh Hall, Burgh Hall Street, Glasgow, G11 5LW Next to Peel Street 7.30pm Beginners 7.30pm

20 GA Rutherglen St Columbkilles, Kirkwood St,, G73 2SL 7.30pm Room 5

21 GA Dennistoun Our Lady of Good Counsel, Craigpark, G31 2JF Off Alexandra Parade 7.30pm

Beginners 6.30-7.15pm

22 Dumbarton GA Dumbarton Ben View Resource Centre, Strathleven Place, Dum-barton, G82 1BA 7.30pm

23 Falkirk GA Falkirk Falkirk Old St Monans Parish Church, Manse Pl, Fal-kirk, FK1 1JN opposite M&S Falkirk High Street 7.30pm

Steps Please park in street {not church)

24 Hamilton GA Hamilton Whitehill Neighbourhood Centre, 9 Hunter Road, Whitehill, Hamilton, ML3 0LH 7.30pm

Beginners 1st Half

25 Aberdeen GA Aberdeen Ruthrieston Community Centre, 532 - 536 Holburn Street Aberdeen AB10 1LL 7.30pm

Gam-Anon22/9/15 thenEvery fortnight

26 Paisley GA Paisley Ralston Community Centre, Allanton Avenue PA1 3BL 7.30pm Beginners 7.30pm

27 Perth GA Perth Caladh Centre, 6 Milne Street, Perth, PH1 5QL 7.30pm Gam anon 7.30pm

WED

NEW Glasgow GA Partick NEW Partick Burgh Halls, Burgh Hall Street, , G11 5LW 7.30pm-9.45pm Starts 16/09/2015

28 Glasgow GA Partick Partick Burgh Halls, Burgh Hall Street, , G11 5LW 1.00pm

30 GA Parkhead Congregational Church, Ravel Row, (off Westmuir Street) Parkhead, G31 5EW 5pm-7pm

Enter Ravel Row Side

31 GA Glasgow Wed Neighbourhood Centre, Daisy Street, Govanhill, Glas-gow, G42 8JL 7.15pm

Beginners 7.30pm Gam Anon 7.15pm-9.15pm

32 GA Blackhill Molendinar Community Centre, 1210 Royston Road, Blackhill, Glasgow, G33 1HE 7.00pm

33 GA Halfway The Archway Centre, Craigallian Ave, Halfway, G72 8RP 7.00pm

34 GA Inverness Raigmore Hospital, Recreation Hall, IV2 3UJ 6.30pm

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35 Coatbridge GA Coatbridge St Bartholemews Church, 1 Trent Street, ML25 2NT 7.30pm

36 Kilmarnock GA Kilmarnock Henderson Parish Church, London Road, , KA3 7AD 7.30pm

NEW Peebleshire GA West Linton NEW Castle Craig Hospital EH46 7DH 7-8.30pm Steps starts 22/10/14

38 Kirkcaldy GA Kirkcaldy Saint Brycedale Church, Saint Brycedale Road, Kirk-caldy, KY1 1ET 7.30pm

THU

39 Glasgow GA Parkhead Parkhead Congregational Church, 77 Westmuir Street, Glasgow, G31 5EW 2.00pm

Entrance Ravel Row side

40 GA Maryhill Central Halls, 304 Maryhill Road,G20 7YE 7.30pm Gam Anon same time as GA

41 GA Rutherglen St Columbkilles Church Hall Room 5, Kirkwood Street, Off Main Street,, G73 2SL 7.30pm

42 Edinburgh GA Edinburgh Oxgangs Neighbourhood Centre, 71 Firrhill Drive, Edinburgh, EH13 9EU 7.00pm

43 GA Edinburgh Methodist Church, The Square Centre, Nicholson Square, Edinburgh, EH8 9BX 7.30pm

Gam Anon same time as GA

NB Venue Change Livingstone 126 VICTORIA STREET, CRAIGSHILL , EH54 5BJ 7.30pm From 04/02/15

45 Ayr GA Ayr Forrester halls, New Road, Ayr, KA8 8EX 7.30pm

46 Dundee GA Dundee St Peter Pauls Church Hall, Milton Street, DD3 6QN 7.30pm Gam Anon same time as GA

47 East Kilbride GA East Kilbride East Mains Baptist Church, Maxwell Drive, East Kil-bride, G74 4HG 7.30pm

Beginners within meeting 7.30pm

48 Erskine GA Erskine The Erskine Hotel, Floor 5 Room 1, PA8 6AN 7.30pm Finish 9.50pm

49 Falkirk GA Falkirk Salvation Army, Main Street, Stenhousemuir,FK5 4BH 7.30pm

50 Kelso GA Roxburghshire The Parish of Kelso North and Edna, 42 Bowmont Street, Kelso,TD5 7JH 7.30pm

Access through blue door Bowmont st.

51 Kilmaurs GA Kilmaurs The Cabin, Townhead, Kilmaurs, KA3 2TY 8.00pm Next to Wheatsheaf pub

52 Kirkintilloch GA Kirkintilloch AR Centre, 29 Townhead,, G66 1NG 8.00pm

NEW Hamilton GA Hamilton NEW

Hamilton Accies Football Ground, New Douglas Park, ML3 0FT.

1pm till 2.30pm NEW

FRID

54 Glasgow GA Parkhead Congregational Church, Ravel Row, (off Westmuir Street) Parkhead, G31 5EW

10am-12noon

Enter Ravel Row side-Beginners 9am-10am

55 GA Anderson Kelvingrove Church, Elderslie St,, G3 8DS off St. Vincents Street 7.30pm

Beginners same time as meeting

56 Glasgow GA Glasgow St Stephens Church, 260 Bath Street, , Glasgow G2 4JP 7.30pm

Gam Anon 7.30pm Beginner 6.45-7.25pm

57 GA Cambuslang Cathkin Community Wing, Cathkin Primary School, Burnside Road, Burnside, G73 4AA 7.30pm

58 Dundee GA Dundee St Andrews Parish Church , 2 King St, DD1 2JB 6.30pm Steps

59 Dumfries GA Dumfries Activity resource centre Burns St., DG1 2PS 7.00pm

60 Motherwell GA Motherwell St Brendans RC Church, 51 Barons Road,, ML1 2NB 7.30pm SAT

61 Edinburgh GA Oxgangs Colinton Mains Parish Church, 223 Oxgangs Road North, Edinburgh, EH13 9ED-Upstairs 10.00am

Beginners Downstairs

62 Hamilton GA Hamilton Fernigair Hall, 150 Carlisle Road, Hamilton, Lanark-shire, ML3 7TX 10.00am

63 Glasgow GA Rutherglen Reuther Hall, Victoria Street, G73 1DS 10.00am

Gam Anon 10am-noon Beginners 9am-10am

64 Aberdeen GA Aberdeen Ruthrieston Community Centre, 532 - 536 Holburn Street Aberdeen AB10 1LL

9.45am-11.45am

NEW Kirkcaldy GA Kirkcaldy NEW VOLUNTEER CENTRE, 10 ST. BRYCEDALE AVENUE KY1 1ET 10am-12am (Opposite Adam Smith Theatre Car Park)

SUN Glasgow GA Maryhill Central Halls, 304 Maryhill Road, G20 7YE 6.00pm Steps

67 GA Rutherglen St Columbkilles Halls 2 Kirkwood St, G73 2SL 7-9pm Steps

NEW Partick GA Partick NEW Partick Burgh Hall, Burgh Hall St, G11 5LW 11.45am-1.45pm

Next to Peel Street

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