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How To Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen
So Kids Will TalkKelsi Martinez, MS, CIMT, CCLS & Jennifer Grubbs, BSN, RN, CPN
Objectives
• Why is it important?• How to Engage children• Checkpoints to determine whose needs are being met• Limit Setting
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Audience Poll
How comfortable and confident do you feel when you’re talking
with a child?
Moving From “Me-Centered” to “Child Centered” • Non-directive • Facilitate development of self-awareness and self-
direction for the child• Provides sense of freedom and safety
Reasons to Use Non-Directive Communication with Children• Respectful• Preserves the child’s dignity • Builds trust• Establishes rapport quickly • Helps children deal with feelings
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Denial of Feelings
• Steady denial of feelings can confuse and frustrate children. • This frustration can cause a child to become either
angry or withdrawn.
Examples of Denying Feelings
• “You’re making a big fuss over nothing”• “You are being ridiculous!”• “Your sister never complains about being in a car seat”• “You’re acting like a baby” • “Well, you’d better get used to it because you’re gonna
have to be in this car seat every time you want me to take you anywhere.”
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Acknowledging Feelings
• Puts child in touch with his/her inner reality. • Leads to an ability to gather the strength to begin
to cope.• Builds trust.• Sets all involved up for success.
Audience Poll
How comfortable and confident do you feel when you are
playing with a child?
Engaging in Respectful Conversation• Starting statements to avoid:• “Would you like to play with your truck or cars?• Those dolls over there could sure use some attention
today.”• “Why don’t you color in your coloring book?”• “Look what you can do over here.”
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The Message
• I am here• I understand• I care
Tracking Statements
• “You are putting that one with the other one.” • “I see you have decided to fix that.” • “It looks like you are taking good care of that one.”• “You know exactly what you want to do with that.”
Tracking Statements to Avoid
• “I see you are making breakfast.” • “Oh there goes the airplane!”• “It looks like you are building a house.” • “Uh oh, the cars are crashing together and
someone may get hurt.”
Audience Poll
How comfortable and confident do you feel when you are setting limits for a child?
Limit Setting
• Limit setting follows three specific steps in the following order:
• Acknowledge the child’s feelings
• Communicate the limit
• Target an alternative
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Describe
Give information
Say it with a word
Talk about your feelings
Write a note
Describe
Give Information
Say It With A Word
Talk About Your Feelings
Write A Note
Audience Poll
How comfortable and confident do you think you’ll feel the next time you interact with a child?
Questions?Comments?