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  • OurChildrenOurAbout

    Supplement to The Jewish Standard October 2014

    Fall Fun

    Food and Crafts for Sukkot

    Bracing for Braces

    Useful Information for the Next Generation of Jewish Families

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    2 ABOUT OUR CH I LDREN OCTOBER 2014

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    October 2014

    Camp Open Houses . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 6A fall fun day to make happy campers

    Crafts for the Holiday . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 8Homemade creations for Sukkot and Simchat Torah

    Unbraiding the Knot of Homework . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 9Getting organized and staying the course helps

    Super Soup Recipes . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 10Scrumptious dishes to enjoy for Sukkot

    Helping Children Thrive . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 12Key ingredients in getting the best from your child

    Fall Fun . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 14Apple picking, animal petting and more outdoor activities

    Bracing for Braces . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 16High-tech orthodontia comes of age

    Pets for the Family . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 17How to find the right animal member for your clan

    Fitness for Every Season . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 18Tips to keep in shape inside and outside

    Getting to the Core . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 20Apple activities for your children

    Generation G . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 21Bound in name and game

    Where Chocolate and Tzedakah Meet . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 22Teaneck teen raises money to fight poverty

    Share and Share Alike . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 23Teaching toddlers the art of sharing

    Simchas . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 24Celebrating our lifecycles

    Top Choices . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 25Hot picks for October

    Calendar . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .26Great things to do this month

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  • ABOUT OUR CH I LDREN OCTOBER 2014

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    My rst Sukkot, and I was a bride-to-be.

    My brother Ronald and my sister-in-law Meryl invited my husband-to-be

    Jeff and me for the holiday and, happily, it has become a wonderful family tradition.

    There is nothing like spending the Yom Tov with family, but Ronald and Meryl were not only our family, but also our ambassadors into a new chapter of our lives. Married for many years, with three young children and a fourth on the way they were, by default and design, going to help shepherd us into a life of marriage and children, whom we wanted to raise in a tra-ditional way.

    I remember their sukkah. It was a spacious, royal blue structure usually put up right af-ter Yom Kippur and decorated with artwork by their children and pictures of Torah greats. Over the years, it also has been adorned with pictures that were created by our children, assorted hanging chains of fruit and sundry things, and a funky crystal chandelier lit by a bulb that changed colors as we sat there. It was a conversation piece.

    I remember the food. Oh, do I remember the food. That rst Sukkot came at the end of September, when we sat outside and had to sweater up. Meryl, who is a great cook, baker and hostess (Ive been hocking her to write a cookbook for years!) pulled out all stops. That year, Meryl made her special caramel-ized onion soup, a recipe that takes a copious amount of onions that have to be peeled and sliced and simmered for hours (Oy! Think of the tears shed!) and requires an inordinate amount of patience to bring forth its savory

    sweetness. It is an incredibly delicious soup. I was touched that she served it. I also remem-ber the sweetbreads that she served. Some of you may be oohing and ahhing others say-ing yuck but sweetbreads, a real delicacy, not only sate my palate, but reminds me of my mother, of blessed memory. (In fact, that was a must-have at our wedding. Sweetbreads on the smorgasbord!)

    I remember the feeling. Warm and loving all around. Lots of laughs at their table. Ronald and I would joke that we needed at least one big belly laugh, a guffaw that would go deep inside, each yontif. It was usually something quite silly that would set us off, but it would make us laugh and laugh.

    I remember that their sukkah was open. It was not only for family, but also for friends and members of the community who needed a meal in the sukkah. Now, some of these young boys who learned their way at Ronald and Meryls table are family men or their own, presiding

    over their own meals in their own sukkahs.I remember a few years later, when our chil-

    dren were little, one of the highlights of being at Uncle Ronald and Aunt Meryls on Sukkot was sukkah hopping, an activity anticipated by all the neighborhood children who went door to door, through the backyards of this Brooklyn neighborhood, bringing home treats galore (as if all the dessert Meryl served was not enough!).

    And here we are this year. Since that rst Sukkot, theres been the addition of a few fam-ily members, and sadly, the loss of others.

    But there are things that never change. The joy of holiday. The faith that we demonstrate by being in the sukkah. The tradition that we pass down to our children. The memories that we create when we celebrate the holiday to-gether. And of course, Meryls delicious food.

    Cheers,

    musings from the editor

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    6 ABOUT OUR CH I LDREN OCTOBER 2014

    Open Houses Give Campers a Taste of Summerin the Fall

    H E I D I M A E B RAT T

    Memories of camp are not too much in the dis-tance, as the school year gets underway. That still doesnt mean that you cant be thinking

    ahead to next summer. Many camps send their camp-ers home and nearly right away, even before the last camper departs the bus, sign them up for the next sea-son.

    Plenty of camps are taking advantage of the lovely weather in the beginning of the fall, hosting open hous-es on their sprawling grounds during the month of Oc-tober as a way of reuniting campers and their families and yes previewing the next summer season.

    At Camp Veritans, a fall festival will be happen-ing on Oct. 19 from 2 to 4 p.m. on the campgrounds in North Haledon. The day is set be a fun family-oriented event with a plethora of activities including hayride

    tours, arts and crafts, glitter tattoo-ing, face painting and more, says Carla Rudow, camp director.

    The early-bird special for registration runs until Oct. 15 where campers can save $250 off an eight-week summer or $150 off four to seven weeks. Rudow says that if campers sign up on the day of the open house on Oct. 19, they too will get a discount for the next season.

    Camp Veritans is celebrating its 60th anniversary and is constantly adding programs. Its latest addition, the Yeladim program, is geared to the youngest camp-ers 4 years old. The Jewish day camp now serves about 300 youngsters ages 4 through 15 or 10th grade.

    At Blue Rill Day Camp in Airmont, N.Y. , October will be a month of many different open house opportuni-ties, says Greg Schreiner, camp director.

    The Big Festival is on Oct. 11 from 1 to 5 p.m. on the campgrounds. It will be a fabulous fall fun day, which will include lots of activities such as soccer, basket-ball, pumpkin decoration, rock wall climbing and more. There will be inflatables on hand for jumping action. And because the camp that accommodates about 700 youngsters a season is celebrating its 65th anniver-sary, anyone who enrolls for the 2015 summer season will get a commemorative fleece pullover jacket, says Schreiner.

    Blue Rill Day Camp will also hold open house tours on Oct. 18 and on Oct. 26.

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    8 ABOUT OUR CH I LDREN OCTOBER 2014

    Homemade Crafts to Heighten the Joy of Sukkot and Simchat Torah

    R I V K Y KO E N I G

    The holiday of Sukkot is tailor-made for do-it-yourself-ers who love building forts or home additions

    and who feel more at home on a ladder than on the ground. For many people, the really fun part of the chag is deco-

    rating the sukkah, the temporary home away from home that commemorates the booths that God created for the Jews in the desert after they had left Egypt. Decorations glitter in the candlelight and the sound of happy singing is heard through the bamboo or leafy schach that serves as its roof. You can craft

    so many decorations. Whatever you choose, youll feel even happier during this time of rejoicing surrounded by your familys own creations.

    As Sukkot ends, we greet the holiday of Simchat Torah during which the con-gregation celebrates the cycle of Torah readings. They circle the bimah with the

    Torah scrolls to the fanfare of waving flags, stamping feet and voices raised in song. Proudly joining the circle of danc-ers, children will be thrilled to display the flags that they created to hold their very own cuddly Torahs made of felt.

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    When my daughter was in Mo-rah Ellens class in Bais Yaakov of Queens, she made this beauti-ful flag for Simchat Torah. I had never seen such an unusual flag before and immediately knew that I wanted to craft this project as well. The overhead projector transparencies can be found in most craft, office and school-supply stores.

    Stained Glass Flag

    What you will needscissors1 piece shiny paperpencilmetallic markerdecoupage medium, such as Mod Podge

    2 (8 1/2-inch by 11-inch) overhead projector transparencies

    pastel-colored tissue paperpaper clipshole puncherwooden dowel or round cardboard stick from dry cleaners clothes hanger (you can paint it first to match your flag)

    glue gun and glue stickspastel yarn

    How to do it:

    Using a template of a small Torah, trace the Torah twice onto the back of the shiny paper and cut out the two traced Torahs. Use the metallic marker to write Simchat Torah or your favorite Simchat Torah phrase on the front of each Torah.

    Coat the front of one Torah with a thin coat of Mod Podge and glue it to the center of a transparency.

    Take 3 or 4 large pieces of tissue paper and cut into 2-inch squares (approximately they dont have to be perfectly straight).

    Working with a small area at a time, spread a thin coat of Mod Podge on the transparency and place tis-sue paper squares on the coated area, overlapping slightly. Continue spreading Mod Podge and sticking on squares, until the transparency is covered. Let dry.

    Coat the back of second Torah with a thin coat of Mod Podge; glue it to the back of the Torah on the first transparency. Let dry

    Place the second transparency to the back of the paper-covered transparency and clip together with several paper clips.

    With the hole puncher, punch holes 1/2-inch to 1-inch apart, around the outer edge of the whole flag.

    Line up the dowel with the top left corner of the flag. Carefully sepa-rate the transparencies slightly and insert the dowel between them; glue into place with the glue gun and glue sticks.

    Double a long piece of yarn and knot one end. Thread into the hole at the top left corner of the flag. Weave yarn through holes around the dowel and continue around the rest of the flag, removing paper clip as you weave. Knot the yarn and trim.

    Estimated time: 1 hour, divided

    Drying time: 4 to 6 hours, divided

    This stunning chain is simple to make and can be customized to your decorating taste by using the ribbons and fake fruits of your choosing. It is perfect for sukkah decoration.

    Ribbon Bow and Fruit Chain

    What you will need:long cording or thin ribbonfake fruit with stems and /or berry picks

    1/4-inch to 1/2-inch wide ribbons of your choice; sheer ribbons work best

    scissors

    How to do it:

    Decide how long you would like your chain to be and cut a piece of cording or ribbon 12 inches longer than that length.

    Knot a small length of ribbon tightly to the stem of a fruit and tie the other end around the cording. Continue to tie additional fruits on to the cord-ing in this manner, at approximately 3-inch intervals. If you are using berry picks, bend the end of the pick around the cording until it is securely attached to the cording.

    Tie ribbons into bows between fruits.

    To hang the chain, loop each end around a sukkah beam or piece of bamboo and knot securely into place.

    Estimated time: 30 minutes

    This delightful flag is the perfect size for small hands to hold while dancing in shul on Simchat Torah. The glittery design will capture everyones attention and the pompom on top is there to ensure that no ones eye is accidently poked by the stick.

    Mini Flag

    What you will need:1 (12-inch by 18-inch) sheet stiffened felt in the color of your choice

    pencilscissorscraft glue or glittering glue with brush

    glitter in assorted colorspaper platesdouble-sided red liner tape (we used Provo Craft Terrifically Tacky Tape)

    X-Acto knifechopstick or small dowellarge pompommetallic dimensional fabric paint

    curling ribbon, optional

    How to do it:

    Cut the stiffened felt into at 7-inch by 9-inch rectangle. Brush a thin line of glue around 3 edges of the flag. Working over a paper plate, cover the glued areas with glitter and shake the excess onto the paper plate. Pour

    the extra glitter back into the container.

    Cut a 1-inch by 2-inch rect-angle of the double-sided adhesive sheet and stick the shape onto the left side of the flag to form the Torah.

    Peel the top paper from the adhesive rectangle and sprin-kle glitter on. Shake off any excess over a paper plate.

    Use stripes of tape to craft the top strip of the Torah cover and the top and bottom han-dles. Add glitter as in step 3.

    Use the X-Acto knife to cut a 1/2-inch horizontal slit near the top and bottom of the left side of the flag. Thread the dowel through the slits. Spread some craft glue on top of the dowel and glue a large pom-pom to the top. Let dry.

    Use a pencil to outline the let-ters in the center of the flag.

    Trace and fill in the outlined letters with fabric paint and let dry.

    Optional: Tie strands of curling ribbon around the top of the dowel, under the pompom. To curl the ribbon, pull each rib-bon strand against the blade of the scissors.

    Estimated time: 30 minutes

    Drying time: as recommended

    on the fabric paint bottle

    Reproduced from Crafting Jewish by Rivky Koenig, with permission of the copyright holders, ArtScroll / Mesorah Publications, Ltd.

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    ABOUT OUR CH I LDREN OCTOBER 2014 9

    Getting the Thorns Out of Doing Homework

    D E N I S E MO R R I S O N Y E A R I A N

    Homework is an important component of a childs educational experience. For many children its a given. They just do it without complaining. But

    for others, its a battleground, a place where war ensues every weekday evening.

    Even in well-functioning families, homework can be one of the hottest parent-child crisis buttons. So how can you, as a parent, keep the battle to a minimum and make homework a positive experience?

    A childs ability to be successful with homework be-gins with the value parents place upon learning. Success in this department requires helping your child develop essential homework skills, creating a working alliance with your child and his teachers, and learning to deal with common homework problems. Following are a few tips to help get homework done, without the battles.

    Hand over the reignsWhile asking about homework and helping out is an important part of guiding your child through his assign-ments, excessive involvement may stifle his ability to learn to work independently. Be available for assistance and feedback, but do not jump in too quickly to correct homework, or wait until the eleventh hour when, out of frustration, you end up completing his homework for him. Remember, the more responsibility you assume, the less responsibility your child will take. Hand over the reigns. This will give your child responsibility and ownership for his homework.

    Eliminate excusesFrom time to time, children will make excuses to avoid doing homework. While there may be times the ex-cuse is valid, at other times it could be just a ploy to avoid the unpleasant. For this reason, parents should familiarize themselves with their childs abilities. Then theyll know if Junior is really struggling or just wanting to take the easy way out.

    Establish Rules And RoutinesOne way to avoid homework hassles (and help your child become an independent learner) is to establish rules and routines. This should include a regular place and time for doing homework, as well as guidelines re-garding television, telephone and device usage. Try to create a pleasant homework environment. For example, if you decide to work at the kitchen table, make sure its clean and that you have ample supplies within reach. You might even include a healthy snack or drink. Some children work better with quiet music playing or a win-dow open for fresh air. Others are easily distracted and need absolute quite. Try to figure out what works best for your child and stick with it.

    Guidelines regarding device and phone usage should be established from the very start. While es-tablishing these rules, remember that there may be a circumstance in which your child needs to call a class-mate to double check an assignment. If this is the case, set a time limit on the calls, five minutes or so. This should be ample time to write down any information needed. From time to time, a television special may rouse your childs interest. If the special comes on dur-ing homework time, give your child the option of do-

    ing his work early, or offer to videotape the program so he can watch it at his leisure. Above all, be consistent with rules and routines. This avoids procrastination and lets your child know his boundary lines and your expectations.

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    10 ABOUT OUR CH I LDREN OCTOBER 2014

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    Some Super Soup in the Sukkah for Soul Satisfaction

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    RAC H E L H A R K H AM

    Its uncanny how Sukkot almost al-ways presents itself at the perfect moment in autumn. For a holiday cel-

    ebrated outdoors, the scenery and the climate doesnt get any better than early October in the northeast. The ery-hued foliage and the invigorating crispness in the air are enjoyed from the vantage point of a sukkah, hopefully with family and friends. And the only other thing needed to complete this setting is a cozy sweater and a bowl of delicious soup.

    The sweater I cant really help you with, but I have a few soup recipes that will surely add seasonal avor and deli-cious warmth to your autumn-in-the-sukkah experience.

    Roasted Potato Soup is a simple vegan soup that is loaded with toasty and satis-fying roasted vegetable avor. The slightly sweet edge of the roasted onions and garlic mixes nicely with the solid earthy savory avor of the roasted potatoes.

    If you like you can substi-tute sweet potatoes for the regular potatoes for a dulci- ed version of the soup.

    The Chicken Meatball and Kale Soup is a one-bowl meal. It begins with satisfying but not-too-heavy ground chicken meatballs. The chopped kale adds a nice leafy texture and

    offers a nice helping of healthful greens. And little pasta shapes are in there just for fun (you can substitute rice or leave it out completely to keep the soup

    gluten-free).The rich and palate-pleasing avor

    in the Flanken Soup is achieved by sim-mering anken, bones and all, with aro-matics for two hours on the stovetop. The savory, meaty broth that results is irresistible when combined with chopped tomatoes, carrots, and celery. A steaming bowl of any of these soups enjoyed in the sukkah will make your Sukkot a celebration of seasonal beauty and delicious avor.

    Roasted Potato Soup3 large russet potatoes, peeled and cubed (about 2 pounds)

    1 large onion, peeled and quartered6 garlic cloves, crushed2 tablespoons olive oil or saffl ower oilsalt and pepper6 to 8 cups vegetable stock

    Place a rack in top third of oven. Preheat oven to 400F.

    Toss together potatoes, onion and garlic in olive oil on a baking sheet or roasting pan. Season with salt and pepper. Place in oven.

    Stir and rotate pan every 15 minutes. Vegetables are ready when the potato is tender when pierced with a fork (about 45 minutes). Remove from oven.

    Pour vegetable stock into stockpot and gently heat. Combine the roasted veg-etables with the vegetable stock. With an immersion blender puree soup to desired consistency. You can alternate-ly puree in blender in batches. Season with salt and pepper, to your taste.

    Recipe makes 6 to 8 servings..

    Chicken Meatball and Kale Soup1 pound ground chicken cup fresh breadcrumbs3 garlic cloves, minced1 large egg, lightly beaten teaspoon salt teaspoon pepper2 tablespoons extra-virgin olive oil

    1 onion, chopped8 cups chicken stock1 carrot, peeled and cut into coins

    cup ditalini or other small pasta shape

    1 bunch of kale (about 6 ounces), center ribs and stems removed, leaves torn into pieces

    Mix ground chicken, bread-crumbs, garlic, beaten egg in a medium bowl. Add salt

    and pepper. Form mixture into meatballs.

    Heat oil in a heavy pot over medium high heat. Sear meatballs until golden brown (about 3 minutes). Transfer to a plate, they will fi nish cooking in the soup.

    Add chopped onion to pot and saut, stirring often until translucent and golden around edges (about 3 minutes). Add stock, and bring to boil. Stir in carrots. Add meatballs and pasta. Simmer until pasta is al dente. Stir in kale. Once the kale has wilted season to taste with salt and pepper.

    Recipe makes 6 servings

    Rich Flanken Soup3 to 4 pounds fl ankensalt and pepper1 tablespoon olive oil2 onions, peeled and quartered

    4 garlic cloves, smashed1 tablespoon + 1 teaspoon Worcestershire sauce

    10 cups of beef stock or cold water2 bay leaves2 carrots, peeled and diced2 ribs of celery, thinly sliced1 15-ounce can diced tomatoes

    Season fl anken with salt and pepper.

    Heat oil in a large heavy pot set over medium heat. Sear fl anken on all sides until lightly browned about 2 to 3 minutes on both sides. Work in batches, if necessary, so as not to overcrowd the pot. Transfer seared fl anken to a plate and set aside.

    Add onions to pot and cook for 3 minutes, add garlic and cook until garlic browns. Add a cup of water or stock and scrape the bottom of pan to lift up any fl avorful bits. Put

    the fl anken back in the pot, pour in the rest of the water or stock, Worcestershire sauce, and the bay leaves. Raise heat to medium-high and bring to a boil. Skim off any foamy scum that rises to the top. Reduce to simmer and cover. Skim off any fat that rises to the surface periodically.

    Simmer until meat is fork tender about 2 hours. Remove from heat. Use a slotted spoon to remove meat and bones from pot, let cool a little. When meat is cool enough to handle, discard bones, and trim off any fat and cut beef into bite-sized chunks.

    Strain broth with a sieve set over a bowl or another pot. Discard any solids (onions, garlic, bay leaves). Return liquid to a boil, mix in diced tomatoes with juices, carrots and celery. Cook until veggies are tender about 10 minutes. Return meat to soup and season to taste with salt and pepper.

    Recipe makes 6 servings.Rachel Harkham is a recipe developer, cookbook author and chocolatier. She lives in Rockland County with her fam-ily. Visit her at reciperachel.com.

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    Giving Our Children What They Really Need to ThriveS LOV I E JU NG R E I S -WO L F F

    What do children require in or-der to thrive? Here are five vi-tal things we must give to our

    children.

    Self-WorthAll children have the need to feel accept-ed. When we nurture our childs feelings of self-worth, we create a sense of pride. There is an atmosphere of belonging so that the child does not feel the necessity to find acceptance elsewhere. We want our sons and daughters to know that we love them for who they are and that each child possesses a unique gift given by God. For each child the gift is differ-ent. It can be brains, personality, sports, art, baking, music, friendship, even the ability to care for a baby. Our role as parents is to help the child discover the magic within instead of focusing on the perceived gifts that others possess.

    Once we are able to do this, we can help each child feel stronger with who he is. Self-confident children can deal successfully with the ups and downs that life brings. Children who possess self-worth will better navigate future re-lationships, feel resilient enough to try and risk failure, and become a source of strength to future generations.

    I do not mean a child who is full of himself. Some children perceive them-selves to be superior and knock others down. This type of self-esteem is super-ficial and creates an arrogant monster in the home. Instead, I am speaking about the unearthing of what lies beneath the soul. If we can then show our children that they can use their gift to make this world better, we transmit to each child a confident awareness that I make a difference and I have value. When a child feels inadequate we hear lines like I cant, No one likes me, and Im not good enough, smart enough, and popu-lar or pretty enough.

    Parents who appreciate their chil-drens differences, interests, and talents, encourage their children to grow confi-dent and be happy with who they are.

    SecurityWe live in a frightening world. Our chil-dren are aware of current events, pain-ful tragedies and images that boggle the mind. Words like kidnapping, missiles, terrorist attacks and killings are no lon-ger scenes from Hollywood movies. A generation is growing up surrounded by loss. And it is not just grim world news that kids must confront. I have spoken to parents whose children are fearful of returning home from summer camp be-cause each year there are couples who announce their pending divorce. Do you feel confident that you have given your

    child a sense of security?We can help assure our children by

    creating an atmosphere of trust. Despite the difficult world out there, know, my child that you can always count on me.

    Here are practical ways to make this happen: rid yourself of chaos and com-mit to routines and schedules that work; try to de-clutter so that your home envi-ronment does not feel messy and over-whelming. Keep your word; when you say you will be there dont disappoint, and honor your promises.

    A lack of consistency in rules makes a child unsure of what to expect. Wishy-washy discipline does not allow a child to anticipate proper consequences and strips away the security of knowing right from wrong.

    Most of all let us recognize the de-structive power we possess when we scream at our children. All it takes is a few moments of outrage to cause a child to feel that he is living with a parent who is out of control. Anger, yelling, sarcas-tic put downs and belittling removes the inborn trust that a child had but is now lost. Why would I want to connect with you if I do not feel safe at your side? Once the bond between parent and child is destroyed, it becomes very difficult to rebuild. Even if you try afterwards to spend time together and offer sooth-ing words, lose it often enough and the harsh image and tone simmer within your childs heart. Your son or daughter

    is always second guessing-will this be a safe conversation or will I feel vulner-able? Creating a stable home instead will enable your child to grow knowing the definition of dependable, reliable and trustworthy.

    Relationship SkillsOur children need to learn how to deal with others. Too often parents make excuses for their childs misbehavior or hurtful words. Instead let us concen-trate on helping our kids handle their encounters. Practical ways for us to do this is to open our eyes to teaching mo-ments where kids can learn about apolo-gies, forgiveness, gratitude, sharing, not interrupting, allowing others to be in the limelight, listening skills, overcom-ing the desire to hit or scream, dealing successfully with tantrums, and learning how to quell angry reactions.

    At the same time it is important to impart the deference required when en-countering authority. Discuss the proper derech eretz - standard of respect - while speaking to rabbis, principals, teachers, parents, relatives, and elders. Just as crucial is the knowledge of how to act in a synagogue, bar and bat mitzvah, airplane, restaurant, hotel, and other peoples homes. I have seen children de-stroy hotel lobbies while parents watch and laugh that it is not their home. Lack-ing social skills produces children who either bully or withdraw into painful

    silence. Providing the proper relation-ship know-how gives children character traits like loyalty, respect, unselfishness and honesty.

    SensitivityTeach your children to be considerate of other peoples feelings. When a sibling or classmate has been pained, it is okay for a child to be aware and feel empathy. If possible, give your children opportuni-ties to cultivate compassion. The unpop-ular kid in class who never gets invited how do you think he is feeling? How can we try to make this better? There are many chesed kindness projects that we can get our children involved in, instead of just focusing on themselves. This past year a group of bat mitzvah aged stu-dents whose mothers I teach collected hundreds of coats that we shipped off to Israel. We discussed how there are kids their age who are freezing during the winter months because they cannot af-ford a coat. It was an incredible day that opened up the eyes and hearts of these young girls to the suffering of other chil-dren. Compassion must be nurtured. It will not happen by itself.

    Children notice if their words bring a smile or a tear. They recognize from early on if theyve brought pleasure or pain. We cannot afford to shy away from allowing them to confront their behav-ior and deal with poor decisions that theyve made.

    As parents, we must replace angry reactions with firm but loving discipline. We cannot expect to raise sensitive chil-dren if we, ourselves, are insensitive to our childrens needs.

    Love, Love, LoveOf course, all this is not possible if we lack the ability to make our children feel loved. Be generous with your affection. Hug more, laugh more, say I love you more. Stop making your child feel as if he is never good enough. Allow your children to see that you appreciate and are affectionate with your spouse. Give words of gratitude and admiration.

    When you have family time, dont seem bored and uninterested. Turn off your devices and tune in to the ones who count on you most in this world. Watch that the pressures of school, homework, carpools, bedtime and daily life do not ruin the precious moments you have together. Our families are our greatest assets. Let us create homes filled with peace so that we can transmit our legacy to the next generation.

    Slovie Jungreis-Wolff is a parenting educa-tor and the author of Raising a Child With Soul (St. Martins Press).

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    Autumn is when the start of school collides with the start of the holidays heralding the Jewish new year. The leaves ash their awe-inspiring

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    Abmas Farm & Market700 Lawlins RoadWyckoff201-891-0278www.abmasfarm.comThis historic farm dates back to the 1790s. The 200-year-old Dutch-style barn is among the few that are still stand-ing in Bergen County. No longer a barn, it is a retail mar-ket. So if you venture here, while the parents shop for fresh produce in the market, the children can head over to the barnyard and pet and feed the animals. The farm is featuring hayrides through the month of October.

    Brookhollows Barnyard301 Rockaway Valley RoadBoonton Township201-400-4505www.brookhollowsbarnyard.com

    During the fall, this family-run petting zoo operates a pumpkin patch and is open on weekends through Oc-

    tober. Come along and shoot the corn cannon, enjoy a hayride, take the children on one of their train rides, Moo Moo Choo Choo or the Cow Train. There is also an alpaca clothing shop where yarn, hats, sweaters, gloves, blankets and other items are sold.

    Dr. Davies Farm306 Route 304Congers, N.Y.845-268-7020www.drdaviesfarm.comFamily run since 1891, Dr. Davies Farm is as American as apple pie, which you can whip up from the fresh apples that you pick here. With more than 4,000 trees on 35 acres, you can pick a plenty. There are also hayrides, a farm market through November and more fun.

    Demarest Farms244 Wierimus RoadHillsdale201-666-0472www.demarestfarms.comPick your own apples; there are more than 14 varieties of pick-your-own apples. If you like, you can take a hayride or go through a corn maze. The farm features a store with a bakery, apple cider, salad bar and fresh produce. Hayrides available. Through November, the farm fea-tures pumpkins.

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    Dr. Davies Farm306 Route 304Congers, N.Y.845-268-7020www.drdaviesfarm.comFamily run since 1891, Dr. Davies Farm is as American as apple pie, which you can whip up from the fresh apples that you pick here. With more than 4,000 trees on 35 acres, you can pick a plenty. There are also hayrides, a farm market through November and more fun.

    Demarest Farms244 Wierimus RoadHillsdale201-666-0472www.demarestfarms.comPick your own apples; there are more than 14 varieties of pick-your-own apples. If you like, you can take a hayride or go through a corn maze. The farm features a store with a bakery, apple cider, salad bar and fresh produce. Hayrides available. Through November, the farm fea-tures pumpkins.

    DePieros Country Farm300 W. Grand Ave.Montvale201-391-4576 Maneuver through the giant hay maze. Open all year, the farm stand features specialty produce, from mush-rooms to Thai lemongrass, in addition to seasonal good-ies. Through October there are hayrides, pumpkin pick-ing and lots of other fun like face painting and a balloon twisting.

    Flat Rock Brook Nature Center443 Van Nostrand Ave.Englewood201-567-1265www.fl atrockbrook.orgA 150-acre preserve and education center located on the western slope of the Palisades in Englewood established in 1973 by citizens, offers a chance to be in the city and explore nature. There is a network of self-guiding trails leading to a cascading stream, wetlands, pond, wild ow-er meadows, quarry cliffs and woodland. The Great Fall Festival is scheduled for Sunday, Oct. 19 featuring music and a barbeque.

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    Bounce! will host the second Slam Dunk Basketball Team Challenge on Octo-ber 21 from 7 to 8 p.m.

    Referees from Bounce! will keep score, tracking the baskets that are made as well as the type of slam-dunk style used. Each team will be given $1 for the successful dunks and the winning team will receive a $150 bonus. The cost is only $5 per team

    member to participate and teams should be made up of 3 to 10 members. Each team receives a total of 30 attempts at making a basket.

    The contest is open to both girls and boys ages 13 to 17 and mixed age and gender teams are welcome. The contest will be held in the newest area of Bounce, which houses two more foam pit-jumping areas and two slam-dunk basketball lanes. Unlike regular basketball, the trampoline adds an exciting dimension to the sport.

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    Look at yearbook or prom pictures from the 1950s or 1960s and youll see many smiles framed with heavy metal braces. Its a sight that is less com-

    mon in high schools today. Why the change? Children today tend to get braces at a much earlier age. Some patients with special problems begin orthodontic treat-ment at age 7 or younger. Not only that, the heavy metal braces have given way to more re ned material that is more aesthetic and much better for the patient.

    About Our Children asked Dr. Adam Schulhof, di-rector of the Schulhof Center with locations at Kinder-Smiles in Oradell and in Manhattan, a few questions about orthodontia.

    Q: At what age should a parent rst consult an orthodontist?

    A: The American Association of Orthodontists rec-ommends that every patient have an initial consulta-tion at age 7. That does not mean that every patient who has that initial consultation is going to be ready for treatment at that time. It is just a recommendation so that the orthodontist can determine if, in fact, the patient is going to be a candidate for any kind of early intervention of treatment.

    Q: If a parent misses that window, is it ever too late to get braces? What are the consequences of waiting?

    A: Its actually never too late to get braces. In fact, my practice in the city is about 95 percent adults. I be-lieve my oldest patient is about 78 years old. We now know a lot more about not just tooth movement, but also bone biology, and so we really have a better grasp on how to move teeth regardless of the age group. The issue with really getting your child into that time frame, the 7-year-old time frame, is sometimes there are situa-tions where if we kind of nip it in the bud, if we treated now prophylactically, we can avoid certain things later on such as surgeries or extraction of teeth or extensive orthodontic treatment. If we do miss that window of op-portunity, we obviously can still treat any patients at any age. The issue may be that we just possibly wont have growth working on our side, and we may have to ght growth, [that is] work against growth, which can sometimes happen. There are some situations where a child has a growth opportunity, and if the orthodontist assesses a child and its need for growth in a certain di-rection or direction, we can actually modify that growth pattern so growth can work very much with us at the right point in time.

    Q: Are there times that an orthodontist would not make a recommendation for braces even though the child has teeth that need correcting?

    A: Yes. There actually are there are number of rea-sons, and some of them may include, for example we talked about growth opportunities. There are some children who have certain types of growth patterns that we recommend the only way to properly correct with sometimes include not just orthodontics but perhaps orthognathic surgery, as well. In those situations, those surgeries are typically done when growth and develop-ment has been completed. So we would possibly rec-ommend waiting until getting close to that opportune time so that the orthodontics can be done and then the

    surgery can be done simultaneously with the orthodon-tics. There are other situations where a patient may be dentally prepared for orthodontics but emotionally, or possibly even hygienically, unprepared for that. For ex-ample, there are some children unfortunately even at 12, 13, or 14 year-old that are just not brushing their teeth as well as they could or should. The orthodontist may say you know what we can get nice straight teeth, but we do not want to harm the child or their teeth and give them a mouthful of cavities. Therefore perhaps we are better served by waiting until the patient is more ma-ture and can handle the little bit of responsibility that we like them to be responsible for during treatment.

    Q: What are the most common types of braces these days?

    A: Fortunately we live in an age with so many new cutting-edge materials and orthodontic options avail-able to us. Some of the most popular include clear ceramic braces and invisaline, and incognito, which are braces placed behind your teeth. Traditional met-al braces have kind of come and gone. There are still practices that utilize them. However, in the newer age, braces and some of the ceramics there are certain new technologies that really bene t the patient, including certain types of glues that seal the brace to the tooth with a much more complete seal to really help avoid some of the cavities and white spot lesions that have traditionally occurred with regular braces. Invisalign is a very popular product and can be used in more lim-ited cases. Unfortunately, it is used at times beyond its means just because the patient or the doctor would love to use it in speci c situations, and it results in less then perfect results. However, there are so many other beau-tiful aesthetic types of orthodontic treatments now that I can nish cases to the perfect results that orthodontist always want to achieve. One example is incognito. with your braces place behind the teeth. These are custom made and therefore, aside from just being completely hidden behind the teeth, actually can offer better more customized results. With traditional braces an ortho-dontist uses a standard prescription for most of their patients. With custom braces such as incognito, each and every patient has her own custom set up and cus-tom treatment plan, so each smile will be as individual as every single patient. The newer types of ceramic braces arent just clear, but they actually are translucent to the point where they take on the color of the patients individual enamel. These look really wonderful on every single patient the yellowing or discoloration that were seen in previous generations of ceramic orthodontics.

    Heidi Mae Bratt is the editor of About Our Children.

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    Getting the Family Ready for Fido, Tabby or Tweety

    D E N I S E MO R R I S O N Y E A R I A N

    Ive been in the doghouse lately. Its not that Ive done something wrong, I just havent done what my children

    think is right get a dog. It started sev-eral months ago when random pet items suddenly appeared on my shopping list: dog food, pet dish, leash. You get the idea. Then there was the begging, pleading, whining and tears.

    Dont get me wrong. Its not that I dont want a four-footed, furry friend. But having grown up with a sundry of dogs, cats, birds, and rabbits, I know what a huge responsibility it is to own a pet. So before we get one, I want to be sure were making the right choice.

    Bringing a pet into your home can lead to years of joy and happiness. But choose the wrong animal, and it can end in frustration for you and your pet. So how do you decide what is the right pet for you?

    First hold a meeting to discuss out what kind of animal your family would like. While discussing potential pet choic-es, consider your familys lifestyle and needs. Do you travel much? What kind of living quarters do you have, a large home or small condo? Are there young children in the home? Does anyone have pet al-lergies? Do you have time to devote to an animal? Can you financially afford the licensing, regular veterinary visits, food, and potential kennel costs? The answers to these questions will vary according to the kind of pet you choose.

    Next consider the animals needs. Think about the breed, size, tempera-ment, and tolerance of the animal. Are you in the market for a large dog? Better have plenty of room for it to run and play. Do you have young children? You may want to choose an animal that is not too large or small, has a calm temperament, and is tolerant with children. Some breeds of dogs, such as Retrievers and Dalmatians, are ideal with children, while others, such as toy-sized poodles, are more suited to adult households.

    If you are uncertain about a particular breed, have family members do research to find out more. You may also consider talking with a vet, family members, or friends who are familiar with that type breed. One word of caution: If you are considering a puppy, plan to make your-self available, since house-training pups need constant attention.

    Also consider your lifestyle. If your family is active and spends little time at home, you may consider a cat, hamster, or rabbit over a dog. Dogs require much more attention than felines and rodents. If you are active but still want a dog, choose

    a smaller breed so you can take it with you. Other lifestyle issues to consider include finances, health matters, costs, shedding, animal scents, cleanliness, and time to ex-ercise and/or play with your pet.

    While discussing potential pet choic-es, share your expectations about animal care and maintenance. Who will care for the pet? Where will it sleep? Who will be responsible for feedings, walkings, vet visits, clean ups, and grooming? How of-ten will these things occur? Be sure your children understand the magnitude of the pet ownership a responsibility and time commitment of up to 15 year may-be more.

    One problem many parents run into is a child who begs for a pet, promises to take care of it, and then doesnt own up to the responsibilities. To avoid this, consider your childs age. Most children under the age of 10 or 11 are developmen-tally able to care for a pet entirely on their own. While this is a good way to teach your child responsibility, for the time be-ing you will need to act as an administra-tor, checking to see that the work is done.

    To help your child establish a pet care routine, create a job chart. Make two lists. One will contain daily tasks; another should have weekly pet care chores. Place the list on a large poster board with box-es to check off when the job is done. Put the chart in a conspicuous place so your child will see it. To help him remember to do these chores, link the responsibilities to other daily routines. For example, feed the cat before dinner or walk the dog be-fore going to the bus stop.

    If your child forgets to carry out his responsibilities, use natural consequenc-es as simple reminders. If, for example, he forgets to clean out the hamster cage, dont let him play with his pet for the day. If he forgets to take the dog out, make him clean up the mess on the floor. If your child doesnt take care of his pet responsibilities before leaving for school, tell him you will do it for him and, in ex-change, he can do some chores for you after school. This way the animal doesnt suffer at your childs expense.

    When you bring your pet home, es-tablish house rules. This includes where the animal can and cannot go and what it can and cannot do. If your children are small, safety rules are especially impor-tant. This will keep both your children and your pet safe. Talk about how to (and not to) touch the animal, as well as signs your pet wants to be left alone. Ad-here to strict rules about tail pulling and leaving the animal alone while it is eat-ing and sleeping. While all this may seem

    like common sense to you, it may not be to your child. Also, show your little one how to pick up and carry the animal so injury to either party is not incurred.

    Give your pet a retreat so it will al-ways have a place to go when it wants to be alone. This private area could be an extra bedroom, laundry room, hallway, or a corner of a quiet room where youve placed the pets bed. If you have toddlers, a baby gate can be used to protect your pet from your child.

    Finally encourage positive play. Show your child the right way to play with your new pet. Give him a piece of yarn, paper bag, or ball on a string and let him wiggle it in front of the cat. Teach him

    how to play fetch or hide and seek with your dog. Avoid potential attack or chase games where an overzealous animal may inadvertently pounce on, or run down your child. If your child is under 5, always supervise the play.

    Above all show your child how to love your new pet. It is, after all, a new mem-ber of the family. During the holidays, wrap up a special gift for it, celebrate its birthday, and buy it special treats. Most important, love your pet, play with it, and enjoy it.

    Denise Morrison Yearian is the former editor of two parenting magazines and the mother of three children.

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    Lets Get Physical (Fitness) Indoors and Outdoors

    ME R I L E E K E R N

    No matter the season, its impor-tant to ensure children get up and moving so they stay on track with

    their physical fitness. Here are some tips with many that offer the opportunity for some good old-fashioned family time.

    Exercising need not be reserved for the outdoors as there is plenty children can do inside of the house to get fit. Here are just a few good ideas:

    Walk or run up and down a stairwell multiple times (skip a step for added in-tensity and effectiveness).

    Jump rope, yes, indoors, too. Just make sure that the child has enough clearance from that cherished vase

    Dance. Let the children boogie away those calories.

    Calisthenics (push-ups, sit-ups, jumping jacks, etc.) are great exercise and you can hold a friendly competition.

    Hula-hoop where, again, clearance is key here.

    Crunches. Sure, let the children watch television but challenge them to do as many sit-ups as they can while the commercials are on. Do this for at least one full television program, which usual-ly has at least 3 or 4 commercial breaks.

    Shadow boxing is a great way to work the arm, leg and core muscles while also getting the heart pumping for some nice calorie-burning cardio. And, its fun. Children will have fun showing you how they can float like a butterfly and sting like a bee.

    Yoga is great for developing body co-ordination and balance.

    Stretching helps with flexibility, which is another sign of a healthy body.

    Prefer the great outdoors? No prob-lem. Outdoor fitness ideas abound, including:

    Take a walk, jog, or hike. Raining? Walk the mall double time.

    Ride a bike, skateboard, or scooter.Roller skate or in-line skate.Catch a pickup game for basketball,

    baseball, football, tennis and others that get your heart pumping and muscles working.

    Swim. Forget doggie paddles; in-stead, do laps up and down the pool or, for the ambitious types, try butterflies!

    Jumping rope is an old standby that offers an array of health benefits.

    Take casual activity to the next level and add excitement. Seek out communi-

    ty events, such as a walk-a-thon, bike-a-thon, or even a triathlon that accepts mi-nors. However, competition should not be the focus. Instead, the focus should be on doing ones best. These events are often in support of a good cause, so chil-dren can also learn the value of fundrais-ing and giving to those that are in need. Let children pick a cause that is impor-tant to them and make sure the activity matches their physical abilities. Families can even spend a couple of weekends prior to the event in training, getting conditioned and practicing team-build-ing skills.

    Take advantage of local activity courses. Many area parks and schools are set up with physical activity courses that span across fields and trails with exercises stations interspersed through-

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    Take some lessons. Find an after-school program or community center that offers lessons or activities that are physical fitness-oriented. Your options are unlimited and may include tennis, dance, kickboxing, golf, swimming and self-defense. These lessons will help your child become more well rounded in many areas of fitness and may possibly help them find one that they enjoy and where they might want to take advanced

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    Apple Print Tote Bagpaper platesred and green fabric paintknifeappleplain tote bag, lined with protective newspaper

    1. Place red paint on one paper plate and green paint on the other. Set aside.

    2. Turn an apple on its side and slice it across the middle to reveal a star shape where the seeds reside. Remove the seeds.

    3. Take one end of the apple and dip the fl at side in paint.

    4. Hold it over your tote bag and press down lightly without shifting the apple stamp. Lift the stamp.

    5. Repeat steps 3 and 4 with the other portion of the apple and a different colored paint until one side of the bag is replete with designs.

    6. Let dry then turn the bag over and stamp the other side.

    Pared Down Puppetsapple with stemapple corerparing knifelemon juicestringglove

    1. With the apple turned upside down, remove the bottom half of the core using an apple corer. Leave upper stem intact.

    2. Use a paring knife to cut away the skin of the apple in a smooth, circular direction.

    3. Cut out facial features, making sure you leave enough room between them because the apple will shrink as it dries.

    4. Soak the apple face in lemon juice for 10 minutes to pre-vent browning.

    5. Tie a string around the stem and hang in an undisturbed location where nothing can touch it for three weeks. Let dry.

    6. As it begins to dry occasionally redefi ne the facial fea-tures.

    7. Once dry, remove the stem.

    8. Place a glove in your hand and insert your middle fi nger into the bottom where the apple core was partially removed. Use your thumb and pinky fi nger to create arms. Then put on a play.

    Core Candlesticksapples, 2 with fl at bottomsapple corertapered candles, 2waxed paperpenknifelemon juicepaintbrush

    1. Use an apple corer to cut vertically halfway through the core of each apple. Carefully remove each core half, leaving the remaining portion of each apple intact.

    2. With a pen, draw a design (hearts, stripes, zigzags, etc.) around the skin of the apple.

    3. Use a paring knife to carve out the design.

    4. With a paintbrush, apply lemon juice to the carved parts of each apple to prevent browning.

    5. Place a tapered candle into each partially hollowed-out core. Use a knife to widen the holes or wrap waxed paper around the candles if the holes are too large.

    Autumn Apple Crumblewhole-wheat fl our, 2 cupssalt, 1 teaspoonbaking soda, 1 teaspoonbrown sugar, 1 cup (packed)oatmeal, 1 cup (coarsely ground)margarine, 1 cupsapples, 6 cupslemon juicenutmegcinnamonmixing bowlsgreased baking pan, 9 x 13-inch

    1. In a bowl, mix fl our, salt, baking soda, brown sugar and oatmeal.

    2. Cut in 1 cup of margarine until crumbly.

    3. Press half of mixture into baking pan.

    4. In a separate bowl, slice apples into thin wedges, sprinkle with lemon juice and toss with small amounts of nutmeg and cinnamon.

    5. Place apples over mixture in the pan.

    6. Sprinkle the remaining crumbs over the apples and apply small pats of margarine to the top.

    7. Bake at 350 degrees for 45 minutes. Cool and cut into bars.

    Denise Morrison Yearian is the former editor of two parenting magazines and the mother of three children.

    Carve Out Some Core Time with Apple Activities

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    Nearly 200 years ago Johnny Appleseed planted apple trees from Ohio to Indiana because he had a dream that no one would ever go hungry. Origi-

    nally known by the name of John Chapman, this simple man slept outdoors, hiked barefoot and wore sackcloth clothing and a tin pot hat, even in the winter.

    Although there werent many apple varieties in his

    day, thanks to this American legends fruitful efforts, farmers have been able to develop more than 7,500 dif-ferent kinds for us to enjoy today.

    This season of autumn is the height of the apple. And autumn and apples go together like horse and car-riage. So after youve spent some time apple picking on the farm or apple picking at the supermarket why not try these few apple activities to make the delicious fruit that keeps the doctor away part of your family fun.

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    They were an unlikely pair Yehu-da D., a year-anda half older and a head taller, wearing a multi-col-

    ored Bukharan kippa; Yehuda Silberfarb, awaiting his bar mitzvah and his teenage growth spurt and inexplicably wearing a Chicago Bulls cap though, from Bal-timore, he had no affi nity for the Bulls, Bears, Cubs or any other Chicago sym-bol of heroism.

    Yehuda D. was preparing for a two-week stint at a standup comedy camp in New York; Yehuda S. was awaiting a ye-shiva-sponsored day camp in Baltimore. Each displayed an inscrutable mask: Ye-huda D., a quizzical expression; Yehuda S., a dreamy one. Yehuda D. had been elected president of his school, and de-livered the 8th grade graduation speech. Yehuda S. was an entrepreneur, selling candy bars, honey buns and drinks to his classmates on the school bus.

    And so they made arrangements to meet in New York when Yehuda S. came to visit his grandparents. After a sleepover at the grandparents home, they headed to Prospect Park in Brook-lyn where Yehuda S.s cousins kinder-garten class was having its graduation picnic. It was a strange setting for the two Yehudas, suddenly in the midst of screeching 6-year-olds, not the way they would have chosen to begin the day, but it was a brief detour en route to Coney Island the aquarium and the amuse-ment park.

    The sea lion show at the aquarium seemed routine to the two sophisticates until one of the animals on cue boosted itself on the pools edge and doused the audience with its fl ipper. Bagel lunch was followed by a favorite Dippin Dots a dish of bb-sized particles of ice cream in fl avors that ranged from the standard mint chocolate to rainbow and moose tracks. And then the amusement park.

    The venerable Cyclone, one of the nations oldest roller coasters, dating to 1927, a national historic landmark, was still rolling and rattling. The grandpar-ents passed it up, but the two Yehudas were eager, and away they went at $9 a ride. A Cyclone ride in 1927 cost 25 cents.

    If the Cyclone seemed expensive at $9, the new Thunderbolt topped it at $10. Yet if you gauged your moneys worth, then dollar for dollar, the Thunderbolt provided at least 10 percent more terror. The chairs climbed perpendicular to the ground to a height of about a 12-story building, then they dropped precipi-tously more than 50 miles an hour, then spun around on the next upward climb,

    turning the riders upside down as they leveled out for the next horrifi c drop. At the end, the grandparents, mere specta-tors, looked around for a paramedic, but the two Yehudas were aglow and ready for the next terror test.

    They chose the Tickler, mild by com-parison, with a ghoulish, grinning clown face on the superstructure. Each group of riders was spun deliriously while the car gave one spine-wrenching lurch after another.

    Walking along the boardwalk, we were stunned when two bodies, splayed horizontal and strapped on a wire con-veyance, zoomed above us, then were pulled back. We learned that was the Slingshot, another of the parks new tor-tuous thrillers. The two Yehudas looked longingly, but we hurried along before they could react and request.

    Looming above the park was the 84-year-old Wonder Wheel circling up-ward to 150 feet, and offering a spec-tacular view of the park, the beach and the ocean, a pleasant comfortable ride in cabins that rocked gently as the wheel turned.

    No way! was the double Yehuda re-sponse to the grandparents suggestion that the four of us take a relaxed ride in the Wonder Wheel. It was as if John Glenn and Scott Carpenter were invited to spend the afternoon rocking on a porch swing.

    Whats that? the Ys asked, point-ing to what looked like a giant umbrella on the far side of the park.

    That, said Grandpa, is the famous parachute jump. It was in the old New York Worlds Fair, then moved here. You got strapped into a little chair, got hoisted up a couple hundred feet, then dropped, and caught just before you hit the ground.

    Agape, the Ys were properly impressed.

    It was so scary, they dont use it anymore. Its now a historic landmark, but Grandma and I did it when it was still working.

    Awesome!Thus the grandparents scored a few

    much needed bragging points, and orga-nized a subway ride home, stopping for pizza. Yehuda D. wanted his with green olives; Yehuda S. with mushrooms. So the pie was divided. Yehuda D ate the olives, leaving most of the crust, which had served primarily as an olive convey-ance. Yehuda S. lubricated his with a strawberry milkshake.

    After an afternoon of high intensity thrill seeking at Coney Island a more

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    How Sweet It Is Teen Fights Hunger Through Chocolate Business

    H E I D I M A E B RAT T

    Sweet success is when you can help other peo-

    ple. It is even sweeter when its done in chocolate.

    Rachel Meier, a 17-year-old senior at Frisch and Teaneck teen, has been mak-ing fanciful choco-late favors and cen-terpieces for a few years, selling them, and donating 100 percent of the profits to Yad Eliezers Feed-A-Baby Program, in an effort to banish poverty and hunger.

    What began as a fun hobby has morphed into a marriage of confection, entrepreneurial spirit and phi-lanthropy, all in the shape of chocolate painted flowers, carousels, bar mitzvah boys and an array of other cre-ative chocolate sculptures.

    When I first started out, says Meier, I thought it would be fun. I loved putting a smile on peoples faces when they got the chocolate treats.

    But the passion gave way to a business, which gave way to a tzedakah. Now she has a website (www.simplysweetbyrachel.com), sells her chocolates at dif-ferent venues and online, and teaches classes.

    I soon realized that the art of chocolate-making could extend beyond a simple pastime. Not only did I enjoy crafting chocolate, but people enjoyed buying and eating it as well. Suddenly, it hit me, something as simple as sweets could save the lives of people, she writes on her website.

    The creative chocolate passion went back a genera-tion starting with Rachels mother, Elizabeth Meier. The creative streak went back a generation earlier with Eliz-abeths father, Aaron Zanker, who also lived in Teaneck. He was a painter and a designer. Elizabeth, who started painting at a young age, had a yen for the creative arts.

    One of the ways in which Elizabeth Meier, whose husband Ronny Meier is an ob/gyn, expressed her cre-ative self was in her cooking and baking and in creat-ing chocolate sculptures. Making beautiful chocolate became a way to share her love.

    So Rachel, who is the youngest of the seven Meier children, watched as her mother made the sweets and learned the craft. Now Rachel creates her confections in the Meiers chocolate kitchen, which has been fash-ioned in the basement of their Teaneck home and desig-nated for chocolate-making.

    I think what she is doing is just wonderful, says Elizabeth Meier.

    Rachel Meier is encouraging others to help her fight poverty through her creative chocolate effort.

    Today, we invite you to join the movement. As a high school student, I make use of Moms famous choc-olate kitchen and her supplies. With practically zero overhead, 100 percent of profits go towards improving the lives of those without the luxury of chocolate, she

    writes on the website.Remember, youre not just treating yourself; youre

    treating someone truly in need.

    Heidi Mae Bratt is the editor of About Our Children.

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    subdued activity seemed appropriate for the next day. The venue would be the wax museum where life-like famous figures had been created with astound-ing accuracy from every field of en-deavor the Incredible Hulk and King Kong, Marilyn Monroe and Woody Allen, George Washington, Abraham Lincoln, Michelle and Barack Obama, Neil Arm-

    strong and Buzz Aldrin, Babe Ruth and Eli Manning.

    The photo ops were endless. Yehuda S. put his feet on the desk in the Oval Of-fice, and then proofread the Declaration of Independence with Thomas Jefferson. Yehuda D. sparred with Muhammed Ali, then rode a bicycle with E.T., the Extra Terrestrial.

    Posing with wax figures is intrigu-ing, but has limitations. Fortunately

    there was an opportunity for chaos next door a video game arcade. The boys worked their way across the floor through the cacophony of shrieking crowds, and selected a target shooting device, which enabled them to match scores with each other and the many mystery players who had preceded them.

    Amusement park thrill rides, wax figure fantasies, and video game immer-

    sion, the two Yehudas had been going at a frenzied pace. All that remained was a plan for a reunion.

    Ed Silberfarb was a reporter for the Bergen Record in New Jersey, then the New York Herald Tribune where he was City Hall bureau chief. Later, he was a public infor-mation officer for the New York City Transit Authority and editor of one of its employee publications.

    Two Yehudas continued from page 21

    The venerable Cyclone in Coney Island.

    Rachel Meier

    One of Rachel Meiers chocolate creations.

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    When toddlers have play dates, territorial battles are bound to

    ensue. To foster sharing skills in young children, experts sug-gest parents start early, look for learning opportunities and offer plenty of praise.

    Lisa Crim, early childhood program director, says parents should lead by example. Children naturally want to mimic adults so as soon as your child can hold objects, begin modeling the behavior. If youre eating a cookie, break it in half and give part to your child while you explain, Im sharing this cookie with you, so he starts to associ-ate the word with the action, she says.

    Tonjia Coverdale believes show and tell is an effective way to teach her 14-month-old sharing skills, and she does it through every day childs play. This morning at a Mommy and Me Mon-tessori class, Anna was playing on this little staircase and another child tried to join her, but Anna pushed him off, says the mother of two. I stepped over, took her by the hand and looked her in the eye to make sure I had her attention. Then I said in a rm but loving tone, This staircase is for everyone to share. Let this little boy play with you. I then put the child back on the staircase and they began to play on it together.

    Animated activities can provide powerful lessons in sharing.

    Children love to engage in imagina-tive play so it can be a natural platform for teaching these skills, says Early Childhood Educator Fran Walls. Place a puppet in each hand and have them talk about and act out sharing situations. Tea parties and play kitchen are great avenues too.

    Thats what Joy Krupka uses. Mi-kayla has a small kitchen set where she pretends to cook, and shes eager for me to share what she has made, says Krupka of her 2-year-old. First shell feed me then shell give herself some and well talk about how shes sharing. If her father is home, shell give some to him too.

    Juvenile books that parallel shar-ing and giving can be used to reinforce these skills, particularly when re ection is part of the process.

    Read childrens stories about shar-ing then talk about past experiences: Do you remember when you shared your toy with Jordan yesterday? Thats what the children are doing in the book, says Crim. Parents can also help little ones create a personalized sharing book with

    easy-to-do pictures and words that focus on real people in their lives.

    Before play dates talk it up. Remind your child how much fun it is to play with friends and tell him he will need to share his toys. Even so, realize truly trea-sured items may need to be stashed for a spell.

    Coverdale does this. When children are coming to play, Ill get Anna to help me put away things I know she really likes and will be reluctant to share. As we put them into the basket Ill say, Well see these toys later, then we take them upstairs so they are out of sight, out of mind, she says. Then Ill pull out dupli-cates identical toys she or (her 4-year-old brother) Benjamin have received during birthdays and holidays so theres more than one of the same item for the children to play with.

    Good idea, says Walls. Having simi-lar items allows children to play along-side of and imitate one another. It may also avoid an offense.

    Crim says collaborative activities work well, too. In addition to unstruc-tured playtime with toys, pull out a large roll of paper and box of crayons or give each child a handful of Playdough any kind of group activity will do. As the chil-dren work together, talk about sharing and how well they are interacting with one another, she says.

    Active participation in childs play may nip a battle in the bud and teach kids to give and take. It has with Cover-dales kids. The other day Anna was playing with Benjamins trains and he started to get upset. So I suggested he get on one side of the train table and I put Anna on the other. Then I directed them to take turns rolling the train back and forth to one another, she says.

    Most important, when you catch your child sharing, capitalize on it by offering an abundance of praise. And remember be patient. Although you are laying the foundation, dont expect your child to begin grasping the concept until he reaches age 3 or 4.

    Thats what Krupka is holding out for. The other day we were at a friends house and Mikayla grabbed a toy cell phone the other child was playing

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