making difficult conversations less difficult
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How to make difficult work conversations less
difficult
Helping organisations bring out the best in their talent
Helping individuals make positive and rewarding career choices
www.pinpoint.ie
Prepared by John Deely BA MSc
Occupational Psychologist with Pinpoint.
ABOUT PINPOINT
Pinpoint – occupational psychologists and career management specialists
Key Services: Coaching talent in organisations especially new
managers and teams working under pressure Career direction and development for
individuals off their own bat or as part of a redundancy programme
Profiling – psychometric testing of talent
Firstly, Gain Perspective
The Biggest Barrier One of the biggest
barriers for having difficult conversations is anxiety caused by incorrect assumptions.
Inner speech (or self talk) plays a central role in human consciousness.
A key concept in the study of optimism, depression, healthy marriages.
Let go feelings & Provide Clarity
Avoid Avoidance “Can’t do it today, too
busy” “I’ll catch it at the
performance review” “Maybe someone else
will tell them” “Their work was good
today, so maybe it is ok” “I don’t want to upset
the apple cart” “I can’t believe they
could not be aware they are doing a bad job”
Questions to challenge yourself How will I be helping
them? Why am I delaying this? Will delaying telling
them about this problem make it go away?
Would I like to know how I was doing?
What am I assuming their reaction will be?
Give room to explore
Avoid or don’t rush into Advising, Giving Solutions “Why don’t you...” Ordering, Directing “You have to...” Preaching, Moralising “You’d better not...” Warning, Threatening “You ought to...” Evaluating, Blaming “You’re wrong...” Interpreting, Diagnosing “You need to...”
Delivering the message Be direct about the
current and desired state Own the message. Use “I” Get to the point, don’t
mix it in with other things.
Sensitive Let’s not pretend it will be
easy Practice this
communication Like a muscle, it will
develop.
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