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www.yama-dojo.ca
Yukon Academy of Martial Arts “Peaceful-Warrior”,
Anti-bullying School Program – 2013
Walk the path from Victim to Victor!
Basic lessons Part.1
By Sensei Vitold Jordan; 6th
Dan degree Black Belt, the Bully Expert
"When you empower your children with assertiveness/confidence, they
no longer face certain people and certain situations with fear!"
“Peaceful-Warrior” Kids – Grade 5th
Graduation at Holy Family School, Whitehorse, Dec.2012
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" I am against war, against violence, against violent revolution, for peaceful settlement of differences, for nonviolent but nevertheless radical changes. Change is needed, and violence will not really change anything: at most it will only transfer power from one set of bull-headed authorities to another." - Thomas Merton
“And he said unto them, do violence to no man” - Luke 3:14
" I always believe in fighting; the question is – do you fight to change things, or do you fight to punish.... An eye for eye will make the whole world blind." – Gandhi
Martin Luther King Jr. once said: “The old law of an eye for an eye leaves
everyone blind. It destroys communities and makes humanity impossible. It creates
bitterness in the survivors and brutality in the destroyers... In winning our freedom,
we will so appeal to you heart and conscience that we will win you in the
process.“ Bullying is a form of aggression that unfolds within a relationship. The
teen who bullies uses aggression and control to maintain a position of power over
the victim. As bullying evolves over time, the power dynamics and inequality in
the relationship become stronger. The victimized teen gets caught in an abusive
relationship. This problem can also happen between groups of young people.
In schools, bullying occurs in all areas of school. It can occur in nearly any part in
or around the school building, though it more often occurs in PE, recess, hallways,
bathrooms, on school buses and waiting for buses, classes that require group work
and/or after school activities. Bullying in school sometimes consists of a group of
students taking advantage of or isolating one student in particular and gaining the
loyalty of bystanders who want to avoid becoming the next victim. These bullies
taunt and tease their target before physically bullying the target. Targets of
bullying in school are often pupils who are considered strange or different by their
peers to begin with, making the situation harder for them to deal with.
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Bullying consists of three basic types of abuse – emotional, verbal and physical.
It typically involves subtle methods of coercion such as intimidation. The
"imbalance of power" may be social power and/or physical power. The victim of
bullying is sometimes referred to as a "target."Bullying is abusive treatment, the
use of force or coercion to affect others, particularly when habitual and involving
an imbalance of power. It may involve verbal harassment, physical assault or
coercion and may be directed persistently towards particular victims, perhaps on
grounds of race, religion, gender, sexuality or ability.
There is a strong link between bullying and suicide or "bullycide". Bullying leads
to many suicides among young people every year although it is hard to determine
exact numbers.
Many children have a good idea of what bullying is because they see it every day!
Bullying happens when someone hurts or scares another person on purpose and the
person being bullied has a hard time defending themselves. So, everyone needs to
get involved to help stop it.
Bullying is wrong! It is behaviour that makes the person being bullied feel afraid
or uncomfortable. There are many ways that young people bully each other, even if
they don't realize it at the time. Some of these include:
Punching, shoving and other acts that hurt people physically
Spreading bad rumours about people
Keeping certain people out of a group
Teasing people in a mean way
Getting certain people to "gang up" on others
The four most common types of bullying are:
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Verbal bullying - name-calling, sarcasm, teasing, spreading rumours, threatening,
making negative references to one's culture, ethnicity, race, religion, gender, or
sexual orientation, unwanted sexual comments.
Social Bullying - mobbing, scapegoating, excluding others from a group,
humiliating others with public gestures or graffiti intended to put others down.
Physical Bullying - hitting, poking, pinching, chasing, shoving, coercing,
destroying or stealing belongings, unwanted sexual touching.
Cyber Bullying - using the internet or text messaging to intimidate, put-down,
spread rumours or make fun of someone.
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What are the effects of bullying?
Bullying makes people upset. It can make children feel lonely, unhappy and
frightened. It can make them feel unsafe and think there must be something wrong
with them. Children can lose confidence and may not want to go to school
anymore. It may even make them sick.
Some people think bullying is just part of growing up and a way for young people
to learn to stick up for themselves. But bullying can have long-term physical and
psychological consequences. Some of these include:
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Withdrawal from family and school activities, wanting to be left alone.
Shyness
Stomach-aches
Headaches
Panic Attacks
Not being able to sleep
Sleeping too much
Being exhausted
Nightmares
If bullying isn't stopped, it also hurts the bystanders, as well as the person who
bullies others. Bystanders are afraid they could be the next victim. Even if they feel
badly for the person being bullied, they avoid getting involved in order to protect
themselves or because they aren't sure what to do.
Children who learn they can get away with violence and aggression continue to do
so in adulthood. They have a higher chance of getting involved in dating
aggression, sexual harassment and criminal behaviour later in life.
Bullying can have an effect on learning.
Stress and anxiety caused by bullying and harassment can make it more difficult
for kids to learn. It can cause difficulty in concentration and decrease their ability
to focus, which affects their ability to remember things they have learned.
Bullying can lead to more serious concerns
Bullying is painful and humiliating, and kids who are bullied feel embarrassed,
battered and shamed. If the pain is not relieved, bullying can even lead to
consideration of suicide or violent behaviour.
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How common is bullying?
Approximately one in 10 children have bullied others and as many as 25% of
children in grades four to six have been bullied. A 2004 study published in the
medical Journal of Pediatrics found that about one in seven Canadian children aged
11 to 16 are victims of bullying. Studies have found bullying occurs once every
seven minutes on the playground and once every 25 minutes in the classroom.
In the majority of cases, bullying stops within 10 seconds when peers intervene, or
do not support the bullying behaviour.
Students are most vulnerable to bullying during transitions from elementary to
junior high school, and from junior to senior high school.
There is a correlation between increased supervision and decreased bullying.
Bullies stop when adults are around.
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What are the myths about bullying? Myth #1 - "Children have got to learn to stand up for themselves."
Reality - Children who get up the courage to complain about being bullied are
saying they've tried and can't cope with the situation on their own. Treat their
complaints as a call for help. In addition to offering support, it can be helpful to
provide children with problem solving and assertiveness training to assist them in
dealing with difficult situations.
Myth #2 - "Children should hit back - only harder."
Reality - This could cause serious harm. People who bully are often bigger and
more powerful than their victims. This also gives children the idea that violence is
a legitimate way to solve problems. Children learn how to bully by watching adults
use their power for aggression. Adults have the opportunity to set a good example
by teaching children how to solve problems by using their power in appropriate
ways.
Myth #3 - "It builds character."
Reality - Children who are bullied repeatedly, have low self-esteem and do not
trust others. Bullying damages a person's self-concept.
Myth #4 - "Sticks and stones can break your bones but words can never hurt
you."
Reality - Scars left by name-calling can last a lifetime.
Myth #5 - "That's not bullying. They're just teasing."
Reality - Vicious taunting hurts and should be stopped.
Myth #6 - "There have always been bullies and there always will be."
Reality - By working together as parents, teachers and students we have the power
to change things and create a better future for our children. As a leading expert,
Shelley Hymel, says, "It takes a whole nation to change a culture". Let's work
together to change attitudes about bullying. After all, bullying is not a discipline
issue - it is a teaching moment.
Myth #7 - "Kids will be kids."
Reality - Bullying is a learned behaviour. Children may be imitating aggressive
behaviour they have seen on television, in movies or at home. Research shows that
93% of video games reward violent behaviour. Additional findings show that 25%
of boys aged 12 to 17 regularly visit gore and hate internet sites, but that media
literacy classes decreased the boys' viewing of violence, as well as their acts of
violence in the playground. It is important for adults to discuss violence in the
media with youth, so they can learn how to keep it in context. There is a need to
focus on changing attitudes toward violence.
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" Non-violence is not a cover for cowardice, but it is the supreme virtue of the brave.
Exercise of non-violence requires far greater bravery than that of swordsmanship.
Cowardice is wholly inconsistent with non-violence.
Translation from swordsmanship to non-violence is possible and, at times, even an easy stage.
Non-violence, therefore, presupposes ability to strike.
It is a conscious deliberate restraint put upon one' s desire for vengeance.
But vengeance is any day superior to passive, effeminate and helpless submission.
Forgiveness is higher still. Vengeance too is weakness.
The desire for vengeance comes out of fear of harm, imaginary or real.
A dog barks and bites when he fears.
A man who fears no one on earth would consider it too troublesome even to summon up anger against one who is vainly trying to injure him.
The sun does not wreak vengeance upon little children who throw dust at him. They only harm themselves in the act."
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Benefits of Anti-bullying Program
Don't be a victim - be a Victor!
“Respect, righteousness, compassion, and honesty are the foundation of the
true Martial Art”.
- Sensei Vitold Jordan
Improved physical fitness: Make no mistake: training in Martial Arts is a great
workout! It is a total body workout – your stamina, muscle tone, flexibility,
balance and strength will all show signs of improvement.
Enhanced self esteem: By learning these skills and improving your physical
condition, you become more comfortable in all situations – whether you’re in
danger or simply doing a task that takes you beyond your comfort zone. Kids have
a new sense of self-confidence, making them virtually “bully proof.”
Increased focus and concentration: From the very first day of class, students are
challenged to think as much as they act. Learning the forms and movements
reinforces working memory.
Increased social skills: Martial arts strongly emphasize self discipline and self
control as a core component of its teachings. Self leadership and the ability to deal
with others in a mature way is the result.
Stress relief: practical self-defense, sword and staff combat combined with kiai
(screaming) are a great release, no matter what your age.
Respect for values: Honesty, respect, righteousness, sincerity, integrity, courage,
perseverance, excellence, and etc. are some curriculum areas of focus. These
qualities help both children and adults become great leaders.
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“Peaceful-Warrior” Kids – Grade 5th
Graduation at Holy Family School, Whitehorse, Dec.2012
Self-defense skills
Precision and timing
Speed and agility
Self-discipline
Health and fitness
Vitality
Flexibility and stamina
Mindfulness
Awareness
Will-power
Harmony of mind and body
Inner peace and calmness
Stress reduction
Intuition
Self-confidence
Self-control
Self-worth
Independence
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Strength of character
Friendship
Virtue
Fearlessness
Courage
Respect
Compassion
Righteousness
Honor
Calligraphy: "Respect - Unity - Peace - Love"
For more information please visit our websites: www.yama-dojo.ca and www.yeshuado.com
E-mail: yeshuado@gmail.com phone: 1-(867)-333-0997
"The Way of the Warrior Is To Stop Trouble Before It Starts"
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