Be A Catalyst, Start a Revolution!An Uncommon Leadership Perspective

By: Ed Cabellon, LTE ConsultingOctober 6, 2010

University of North Carolina - Pembroke@EdCabellon, #UNCPleads

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Learning Outcomes:

• Will learn why they are doing this “Leadership”• Will learn to turn FEAR into ACTION• Will learn how online communities can change your life• Will learn how to build and earn trust

Do you ever have days where you

feel like this?

Do you ever have days where you

feel like this?

How will you leave your mark

on this earth?

Why You Want to Become an

LEADER?

What characteristics make a model LEADER?

What do you

believe in?

What do you stand

for?

AGREE DISAGREE

Truth #1: Not everyone is going to like you… Get Over It.

Truth #2: You won’t always get what you want… DEAL.

Truth #3: No one can transform your life like you can… Don’t wait for someone else to do it for you!

Truth #4: You’re going to FAIL, a lot. Stop trying to be PERFECT.

Truth #5: You are not in complete control… stop acting like you are!

Truth #6: Someone else will always have more than you.

Truth #7: There may be no tomorrow… so make the most of today.

FEAR Factor EquationFEAR

- (Possible Consequences) + (Best Outcomes)

ACTIONLet’s take an example of a common FEAR that most people have: “Asking

someone out” (REJECTION)Possible Consequences:

They say “not interested”They laugh and say “not interested”You get rejected

Best Outcomes:They say “YES”

ACTION = “Ask that person out!”

Why do we allow FEAR to hold us back? What’s the worst that could happen?

What would you do, if FEAR was removed from

the picture?

Small Group Breakout• Please break up into groups of no more than

10• Take sheet of paper and markers and answer

these questions:– “What would you do with your life if you removed

FEAR from the picture?”– “Insecurity comes from: ____________________”

• What answers did your group come up with?• How did you feel about removing FEAR?

Comfort Challenge: Pair up and “Eye Gaze”

Now that we’ve defined FEAR, how do we rid ourselves of it, once and for ALL?!?

• Step 1: Uncover FEAR disguised as Optimism– “There’s no difference between a pessimist who says, ‘Oh, it’s hopeless, so don’t

bother doing anything’, and the optimist who says, ‘Don’t bother doing anything, it’s going to turn out fine anyway.’ Either way, nothing happens. – Yvon Chouinard, founder of Patagonia

– Life won’t improve on it’s own. Be real with yourself, do you really think it will improve on its own or is it wishful thinking and an excuse for inaction?

“I am an old man and have known a great many troubles, but most of them never happened” – Mark Twain

BREAKING UP WITH FEAR

BREAKING UP WITH FEAR

Step 2: Instead of “What do you Want?” ask “What Would Excite Me?” Unfortunately, most people will never know what they want. The question itself is

ambiguous and needs clarity. The 2nd gets at the heart of what will bring you happiness, not just for today, but for a

long time. “What Makes Me Happy” is no longer a good enough question to break yourself of FEAR.

“I have learned over the years that when one's mind is made up, this diminishes fear; knowing what must be done does away with fear.” – Rosa Parks

BREAKING UP WITH FEAR

Step 3: Realize That Doing the Unrealistic is Easier Than Doing the Realistic!

This is easier than it seems, and all it takes is believing you can do it. Have you ever heard of the term, “lonely at the top?” Why? 99% of the world are convinced that they are incapable of achieving great things, so

what do they do? They all aim to be the best “mediocre” they can be. The levels of competition are FIERCE for what is considered, “Realistic”, paradoxically

making them the most energy and time-consuming. Ex: It’s easier to raise $10,000,000.00 than it is $1,000,000; It’s easier to pick up the

one “perfect 10” in a bar, than it is to pick up five different “8’s”. Do NOT overestimate the competition and underestimate yourself. You are better

than you think you are!

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.” – Marianne Williamson

Source: “The Four Hour Work Week by Tim Ferriss

Unlocking Success

Starts by…

Taking theNext Step!

Become an Active Member of an Online

Community

How to Build Your Digital Footprint

Facebook has evolved from a reflection of your personal

life, to a reflection of your LIFE.

• When creating your account, fill out all information fully, including who is managing the account. Pick a Twitter “handle” that best represents YOU

• Find other’sTwitter accounts through (http://search.twitter.com).

• What to Tweet? Announcements, News, Things that are important to you, “Crowdsourcing” for help.

• Create Twitter Lists to help connect other Twitter brands & users.

• Respond to every “@ response” and DM you receive in a timely matter.

• Be respectful and authentic.• Find a JOB, Assistantship,

etc.!

Build Your Professional Connections / “People You Want to Know”Try Twitter

• Create a writing schedule that you can stick to (e.g. once a week, twice a month, etc.)

• Share your passions and expertise; your collegiate experiences.

• Look for guest bloggers who may draw their crowd’s traffic to your site and return the favor if ever asked!

• Always end your blog posts with a closing question to start conversations in your comments.

• Try keeping you posts averaging 750 words or less.

Create the Digital Version of YouStart a Blog

Becoming a Digital Citizen

Creating Opportunities

To Build Connections

Turn your #UNCPleads experience

into an adventure!

Be A Catalyst, Start a Revolution!An Uncommon Leadership Perspective

By: Ed Cabellon, LTE ConsultingOctober 6, 2010

University of North Carolina - Pembroke@EdCabellon, #UNCPleads