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Calm, Cool, and Collected: Proven Anger Management Tools Presented By: This manual was created for online viewing. State specific information in this manual is used for illustration and is an example only. MAIL: P.O. Box 509 Eau Claire, WI 54702-0509 • TELEPHONE: 866-352-9539 • FAX: 715-802-1131 EMAIL: [email protected]WEBSITE: www.lorman.com SEMINAR ID: 406312 Donna Hatch, Ph.D., LCSW True Potential Coaching and Consulting

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Calm, Cool, and Collected:

Proven Anger Management Tools

Presented By:

This manual was created for online viewing. State specific information in this manual is used for illustration and is an example only.

mail: P.O. Box 509 Eau Claire, WI 54702-0509 • telephone: 866-352-9539 • fax: 715-802-1131email: [email protected] • website: www.lorman.com • seminar id: 406312

Donna Hatch, Ph.D., LCSWTrue Potential Coaching and Consulting

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Prepared By:Donna Hatch, Ph.D., LCSW

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•WHY ARE THEY SO DIFFICULT AT TIMES?

• HOW DO I DEAL WITH INTENSE

EMOTIONS?

•WHAT ARE SOME STRATEGIES I CAN USE

TO HELP MANAGE MY EMOTIONS?

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• 1972, PSYCHOLOGIST PAUL ECKMAN SUGGESTED FROM HIS RESEARCH SIX BASIC EMOTIONS: FEAR,

DISGUST, ANGER, SURPRISE, HAPPINESS, AND SADNESS

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• 1999, ECKMAN EXPANDED TO INCLUDE A

NUMBER OF OTHER BASIC EMOTIONS,

INCLUDING EMBARRASSMENT, EXCITEMENT,

CONTEMPT, SHAME, PRIDE, SATISFACTION, AND

AMUSEMENT

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• AN EMOTION IS A COMPLEX PSYCHOLOGICAL

STATE THAT INVOLVES THREE DISTINCT

COMPONENTS…

CALM, COOL, AND COLLECTEDTHREE KEY ELEMENTS OF EMOTION

• SUBJECTIVE EXPERIENCE

• PHYSIOLOGICAL RESPONSE

• BEHAVIORAL OR EXPRESSIVE RESPONSE.

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•SUBJECTIVE EXPERIENCE

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•PHYSIOLOGICAL RESPONSE

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•BEHAVIORAL OR EXPRESSIVE

RESPONSE

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•RECOGNIZING EMOTIONS

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• EMOTIONAL SELF MANAGEMENT

•MIND + BODY

CALM, COOL, AND COLLECTED• MANAGE THEIR IMPULSIVE FEELINGS AND DISTRESSING EMOTIONS WELL

• STAY COMPOSED, POSITIVE, AND UNFLAPPABLE EVEN IN TRYING MOMENTS

• RESTRAIN NEGATIVE REACTIONS

• THINK CLEARLY AND STAY FOCUSED UNDER PRESSURE

• MAINTAIN THEIR STAMINA AND PERFORMANCE IN EMOTIONALLY-CHARGED SITUATIONS

• CHOOSE NOT TO ESCALATE A PROBLEM WHEN ATTACKED, PROVOKED, OR AGGRESSIVELY CONFRONTED BY ANOTHER

• WHEN FACED WITH HOSTILITY OR OPPOSITION, REMAIN ―COOL UNDER PRESSURE‖

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•NOW WHAT?

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•LABELING EMOTIONS AS THEY

COME UP

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•LINK THEM BACK TO THE SOURCE

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•MANAGE THE FLOW OF ENERGY

GENERATED BY YOUR EMOTION

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•WHAT ARE YOU SAYING TO

YOURSELF?

Wrestling with Internal Dialog

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CALM, COOL, AND COLLECTEDStrategies, when Identified, can help us manage our emotions effectively rather than allowing emotions to control our actions and reactions

CALM, COOL, AND COLLECTEDTHREE KEY ELEMENTS OF EMOTION

• SUBJECTIVE EXPERIENCE

• PHYSIOLOGICAL RESPONSE

• BEHAVIORAL OR EXPRESSIVE RESPONSE.

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Self Awareness is the first step

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• ENLARGE YOUR CONSCIOUSNESS. IF YOUR CONSCIOUSNESS IS SMALL, YOU WILL EXPERIENCE SMALLNESS IN EVERY DEPARTMENT OF YOUR LIFE

ROBERT PANTE

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•WHAT IF YOU WERE ABLE TO CHANGE

THE LENS AND VIEW YOUR EMOTIONS AS

DATA?

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•WHAT’ IS THE EMOTIONAL DATA TELLING

YOU?

•WHAT IS THE EMOTIONAL DATA

FLOODING YOUR SYSTEM TRYING TO

CONVEY OR SIGNAL?

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•THE 30,OOO FOOT VIEW

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• EXAMINE YOUR INNER DIALOG

• TELL YOURSELF WHAT IT LOOKS LIKE TO

STAY COMPOSED, STAY FOCUSED &

THINK CLEARLY UNDER PRESSURE

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•WHAT MEANING HAVE I ASSIGNED TO

THIS EVENT?

•WHAT ARE SOME OTHER OPTIONS?

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•MAKE A LIST OF THINGS THAT CAUSE

YOU TO LOSE IT

•WHAT ARE YOUR “HOT BUTTONS”?

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•WHAT IS OUR BODY TELLING US ABOUT

THE EXPERIENCE?

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• CHECK IN WITH YOUR SENSES…

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• CHALLENGING THE BODY

• LET’S TRY THIS…

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•SERIOUSLY…

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• “ANYONE CAN BECOME ANGRY – THAT IS EASY.

BUT TO BE ANGRY WITH THE RIGHT PERSON, TO

THE RIGHT DEGREE, AT THE RIGHT TIME, FOR THE

RIGHT PURPOSE, AND IN THE RIGHT WAY – THIS

IS NOT EASY” – ARISTOTLE

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• HE WHO BLOWS HIS TOP LOSES ALL HIS

THINKING MATTER - CHINESE PROVERB

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• BETWEEN STIMULUS AND RESPONSE THERE IS A SPACE. IN THAT SPACE IS OUR POWER TO CHOOSE OUR RESPONSE. IN OUR RESPONSE LIES OUR GROWTH AND OUR FREEDOM ~ VIKTOR FRANKL

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• AT THE END OF THE DAY…IT’S ALL UP TO

YOU!

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