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UNLEASH THE GENIUS IN YOUR CHILD
In real life situation there are only two
instances when a defeat is a victory. This typically is true, when your children are
better than you, or when your student achieves a status greater than yours. Everyparent or a teacher always strives to make their wards shape themselves to become
top class achievers. Sometime it so happens that the parent and teacher may have
diversified views. Typically majority of the parents want their children to take upprofessional courses and they feel it would be a big drawback if the child has
extraordinary talents or interests in some other areas like sports, music, painting,sculpture, poetry, etc. Many a time professors, teachers may also pressurize the
student to be a top grade achiever in the interests of their institution. Such peer
pressures may sometimes be able to be most stressful which may make or break astudent. It may be that a peer is able to look deeper and identify that the ward has a
potential talent which may be controversial to parents views, but peer may stillencourage bringing out the best in the ward. Life is not all only in professionalcourses and many personalities have made a mark have become world famous. Can
we really make our wards really achieve?YES .Parents. teachers .and other well-wishers can really make the child a genius when they understand the SELFFULFILLING PROPHECY and apply in day to day life. Many a time due tolack of such knowledge and following outdated grandpa methods of wielding the
stick and tongue lashing results in a large number of failure oriented persons.PYGMALION PRINCIPLE also called THE
SELF FULFILLING PROPHECY is a vital management strategy, which couldbe used in day-to-day life to bring up your wards, which suitably incorporated,would UNLEASH THE GENIUS IN YOUR CHILD.
Pygmalion was the name of a highly skilled sculptor in Greek mythologywho carved out a beautiful statue of Venus. It was so charming that he was wishing
everyday that it should come to life and should marry him. Mythology says this
became a reality with the statue coming to life and the sculptor married Venus andlived happily ever after.
This small episode made Sociologists and Psychologists ponder over and
carry out investigations whether such a thing is possible. They formed a group andwent to a school and conducted an IQ Test. (which was totally fictitious, and
enacting an evaluation) Later went to the class and identified that the class hasthree geniuses one each in Physics, Chemistry and Biology, and after identifying
went off. They had secret plans to monitor their progress.
Students, who were identified, went home and told their parents that, afterevaluation by scientists he/she has been told that he/she would be a genius. This
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made parents give some extra attention, and they started supporting their ward
positively in the particular field they were identified. The teachers in the schoolalso started giving special attention to nurture them in the identified field of
specialty, and over a span of years each of the children identified blossomed to be
a genius. Having come to know of this the group of scientists wondering how theeffects ofjust a statement made had a wonderful effect and wanted toinvestigate in other fields also.
They went to the sports field and conducting some psychological and
attitudinal tests (which were again fictitious and enacting an evaluation) addressed,identified some mediocre players as specialists with a killer instinct, and potential
goal scorers. In a similar study with a good team, after similar evaluations
pronounced that they are good players but they may not win match due to lack ofkiller instinct, and went away. Over a span of time secretly monitoring the progress
of both teams found, that the first team went on winning with goal scored by theidentified players while the second team could not win any major match.
The group of scientists was really surprised, as to
howjust statements made, can create sucha massive impact and wanted to testit in a laboratory where some research scholars were evaluating response
characteristics on rats. They visited two laboratories and after studying the
investigation results (which was again an enacted drama) made statements that therats in first laboratory were very intelligent whereas in the second laboratory they
were dumb rats and workers may not get good results, and went off. Theresearchers in the first laboratory started petting the rats and used to feed them well
in time with good nutritional diet etc, and did get excellent results. In the second
laboratory the researchers started handling the rats without proper care and evenwere ill-treating, resulting lack of proper care and got improper results.
Thus scientists came up with a SELF FULFILLING PROPHECY, that ifyou wish for something, nurture with positivity, it becomes a reality But whathappens in everyday life is that it is full of negativemessages creating a set offailure oriented wards. Teachers, Parents, Friends, Grandparents Well-wishers, all
are to be blamed as they knowingly or unknowingly use lots of negative statementswhile criticizing or admonishing or even when the wards are in sleeping state
making comparisons which are creating a negative feeling in the wards.
An examination of the first few stages of Ericksons eight stage of personality
build-up indicate
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< I year-----------------Love & Trust
2 to 3 years------------------Independence & Autonomy4 to 5 years----------------- Discovering, Experimentation& Goal Achieving
6 to 12 years----------------New Skills, Sociability, Industriousness
12 to 18 years---------------Biological changes, Identity conflict, Pulling roots
In the present day scenario with parents
busy in their professions, there is a lack of quality time being spent with children,and it is indirectly affecting love of parents, affecting the levels of trust, as young
kids are left to care of grandparents or others. This leads to build up of aggressiontendencies subconsciously, which affect their personality in later life. During this
stage of life the child absorbs messages visually and by emotional feelings rather
than by voice mode or by actions mode. The learning is mostly by imitation andwhen not properly taken care of by parents, will be learning others behavioural
mannerisms.The auditory senses are active whether the child is awake or asleep,and during sleepy conditions messages heard gets directly recorded in thesubconscious memory, which later causes behavioural and attitudinal impacts in
conscious wakeful conditions.
During the second stage of 2 to 3 years the child will
be accumulating enormous vocabulary, creativity, discovery, independence, and
autonomy through playing, mixing with other kids and many a time throughmishandling and sometimes even by breaking of toys etc. They may not attach
much importance to cleanliness of dress, makeup, hairdos, timely eating etc .Thisbecomes a matter of great concern to parents and an excessive amount of negative
messages are uttered in the name of disciplining them. It is common to hear
parents chiding the child comparing to other kids, neighbouring kids, siblings etc.Usual statements like this child is dirty while that child is so neat, this child breaks
toys while that child keeps it in good shape, this child is excessively naughty and
does not listen while that child is so very nice and well disciplined, this childcreates a ruckus for eating while that child is very cooperative and so on. Further if
the child is a female the parents make many atrocious statements like let her do
something, after all she will get married and go away. Sometimes comparing to
other siblings statements are often made that he/she is not so intelligent like otherkid to study professional course etc. Such statements often made even when child
is asleep gets recorded directly into subconscious memory and during waking statemakes the child react accordingly.
It is a rare thing to hear positive statements like this child is lucky,
very creative, very neat and disciplined, handles items very well, veryhardworking ,active smart, has superb memory , very creative and excellent in
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music, excellent in communication skills etc If one were to observe such kids who
have been exposed to such positive statements whether during waking state or evenin sleeping conditions, and observe their progress, one would definitely find such
kids progressing very well on statements made and will be on a highway of
success.Have you ever heard from any politician or
cinema artistes that their child is dull headed, or not very bright, or not have talent
in fine arts etc? These persons are always making positive statements that theirchild will be a great leader, a top class artist, will be a minister etc. Children of
these parents may not have good education or even be bright in their school days,but they eventually achieve the required levels making mark in the fields they have
been praised and nurtured to become. This is because the positive statements,
which they go on constantly, hearing which gets deep rooted into theirsubconscious mind which makes their conscious brain act accordingly achieve and
shape to become performers. This psychological fact is sometimes unknowinglyemployed may be in an unwise or wise manner, eg, with radio playing music whilethe ward may be studying or sleeping. It would be surprising that the ward can
recall many of the tunes at a much later date or even in anthyakshari competitions.
However this could be very effectively used in Learn Through Sleep strategy,wherein if a recorded notes, lecture, or a set of positive self developmental
statements, were played in a endless tape mode while a person is asleep, without
any conscious effort the person would be able to learn. Further many behavioraldeficiencies or even bad habits can be controlled/overcome by this method. Parents
and well-wishers could very well use this strategy for betterment of wards.During the third stage of development of personality
wherein at their formative years as well as the initial schooling career the child is
getting exposed to new environment. The child begins to form new friends andbeing in school has to do lot more of studies, homework, extend assistance to
mummy or daddy or even in some household activities. Here again the parents,
grandparents, friends and perhaps teachers are in the habit of praising or passingnegative remarks on and off which get embedded in young minds subconscious
and eventually bring it to reality. While these elders do not realize the damage they
are doing day in and day out with negative messages even sometimes when their
wards are sleeping become fatalistic in their outlook and blame the birth star orbirth date or day of birth like born on Saturday, Tuesday, Amavasya etc and
blame the ward as well as their destiny.During the fourth stage of personality buildup the rate
of assimilation and information gathering by wards is so enormous that the wards
tend to ignore positive statements, due to ego and self esteem tending to take thenegative statements more seriously, creating a dent in their emotive and cognitive
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capabilities. These start creating serious deficiencies, which are again and again,
recalled and played in their memory causing an avalanche or snowballing effect intheir performance ultimately even to the extent of becoming school dropouts. In
these formative years which should act as pillars in an individuals personality
makeup the parents, teachers, friends, and the near and dear, kith and kin, need tobuild in positivity and self esteem and self confidence in their wards. Further they
should encourage the ward to enhance the industriousness and hardworking
potentials with goal setting to be on a highway of successful personalities. Thewards being more physically and mentally active should be encouraged. Even
when they are asleep, parents should very well be cautious not to decry, denigrate,or make negative remarks as to the wards future due to present or previous
performances. Parents should be more proactive and be enthusiastically positive
about their ward becoming an achiever, shaping to become individuals withexcellent characteristics. These subconscious thought implantations will be making
them alert and awake to grab opportunities and progress to higher levels.In this stage of stage of personality buildup the
children would be undergoing major biological changes in their metabolism (a
girl becoming a lady, a boy becoming a man--) and in addition to pressures of
parents, well-wishers, teachers, and other near and dear ones, the individual wouldbe going through his/her own stresses due to the biological changes. Also as at this
stage they would be reaching in their careers a zone of severe competition. These
coupled at this age they are likely to develop strong emotional bondage withperson of opposite sex and also pickup new habits. Further due to lack of sex
education, unnecessary curiosity with social stigma, not permitting free and frankdiscussions, may lead to seek new avenues, which may sometimes lead to
disastrous consequences.
This is also the stage when the wards may have to leave the parental home inpursuit of their educational pursuits or in special cases work place, to augment
some extra income to family, etc.In any of the above options or even otherwise, it
is almost a certainty that eventually the individual may have to leave parental home(except in very few cases of joint family etc) and these thoughts will be causing
additional stresses in addition to anxieties of studies, job, career, marriage etc.The
parents around this timeframe are also very busy in their own career buildup and
consolidation of their status and property etc for their future to be secure. Thusboth parents and the wards due to stresses, anxieties, progress, and unknown fears
may indulge in bouts of unnecessary negative comments and blames. Care isneeded to handle wards under such circumstances and it is at this juncture parents
and teachers should act with utmost positivity and should be able to have free and
frank communications in their as well as family traditions, bondages and theirfuture growth, goals, life etc.
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Beyond the fourth stage the individual would have had
sufficient or insufficient inputs and would have reached a stage with necessarymental capability to proceed on their own and with the media, press, book, internet
resources and friends. The route that they would pursue further depends on these
four stages of personality buildup and by this time they would also have attitudinalmakeup to go further in lifes milestones. Thus the inputs, knowingly, or
unknowingly, casually or inadvertently, positively or negatively, when ward is
awake or asleep, conscious or unconscious, have all the necessary ingredients tomake or mar the makeup of the ward. This when properly utilized with lot of
positivity, providing opportunity, and building self esteem will create selfconfidence in young minds and they will rise up to the occasion to fulfill parental
and well-wishers ambitions.
If some of you have ever witnessed a hypnoticshow, you would have seen that under hypnosis an adult may behave as told by
hypnotist. Given an onion saying it as an apple, the person would chew takinglarge bites relishing it to be an apple. Many instances and examples are in literatureas to how, many a time, people are cured of behavioral deficiencies; get over some
unwanted habits etc by thought implantation under hypnosis. The subconscious is a
massive storehouse of information and is ever active from womb to tomb, and anynegative statements implanted act as virus in a computer. Under relaxedconditions any statement repeated a large number of times are directly recorded in
subconscious and the person behaves accordingly in wakeful conditions. Youngwards could be presented autobiographies of great persons who overcame all
obstacles of resource shortages, but with patience, persistence, hard work turnedout to become performers. Parents should encourage young wards to become
achievers encouraging in their areas of potential, rather than forcing their own
ideas. Such winning streak created during the formative years would be one of thegreatest assets of a youngster and lay the necessary foundation stone for a
prosperous career so that their wards can become leaders and great personalities
with super achievements.We all live only once on this planet and before we leave let us do our best and
leave behind a set of capable, competent and committed performers to lead
humanity to a better future for next generation.
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CHILDRENS GROWTH CAN BE LIKE THE GROWTH OF THE
Chinese Bamboo Tree
You take a little seed, plant it, water it, and fertilize it for a whole year,
and nothing happens.
The second year you water and fertilize it,and nothing happens.
The third year you water it and fertilize it,and nothing happens.
How discouraging this becomes!
The fourth year you water it and fertilize it,
and nothing happens.This is very frustrating.
The fifth year you continue to water and fertilize it,
then sometime during the fifth year, the Chinese bamboo tree sproutsGROWS NINETYSIX FEET IN SIX WEEKS
Life is similar to growing The Chinese Bamboo TreeEfforts may be Discouraging, Frustrating, and nothing seems to happen
With Patience and Persistence for those who do things right
RESULTS ARE BOUND TO COME AND REWARDS BOUND TO ACCRUE--------x---x----x------
Dr.K.Anantha Ram