Fostering

Your Energy

& Living Your

Life Well

ENERGIZE YOUR LIFE

DEBRA LAFLERWELLNESS CONSULTANT, COACH, & SPEAKER

GROUP HEALTH COOPERATIVE

OF SOUTH CENTRAL WISCONSIN

Debra Lafler

Doctorate in Spiritual Studies

Master’s Degree in Health & Behavior ---Health Education

Certifications in Wellness, Worksite Wellness, & Yoga

20 years of experience in the field

Areas of expertise:

Personal Wellness & Well-Being

Health Behavior & Health Behavior Change

Worksite Wellness (employee wellbeing)

SPEAKER INFORMATION

FOSTERING OUR ENERGY through understanding:

Wellness

Balance

Human Needs, Values & Priorities

Mindset: Perfectionism vs. Optimalism

Human Energy

Wellbeing & Longevity Research

Self-Care (tips, techniques, practices)

TODAY’S FOCUS

ICEBERG MODEL OF HEALTH (ENERGY)

Iceberg Model of Health & Disease, John Travis, MD, MPH

SNAPSHOT FROM WELLNESS 101

Physical

Social

Intellectual

Spiritual

Emotional

Occupational

ITS ALL CONNECTED

WELLNESS & BALANCE

THE WORK-LIFE BALANCE CHALLENGE

Consider your day’s schedule:

5am Personal 5pm Travel

6am Personal 6pm Personal

7am Travel 7pm Personal

8am Work/Career 8pm Personal

9am Work/Career 9pm Personal

10am Work/Career 10pm Sleep

11am Work/Career 11pm Sleep

12pm Personal 12am Sleep

1pm Work/Career 1pm Sleep

2pm Work/Career 2pm Sleep

3pm Work/Career 3pm Sleep

4pm Work/Career 4pm Sleep

BALANCING PRIORITIES

(HAVE TO / WANT TO)

WHY DO I DO (OR DON’T DO) THAT?

What is “most -needed” right now? (and why)

Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs :

HUMAN NEEDS

Am I thriving?

Am I good enough?

Am I loved/belong?

Am I safe? (food, water,

shelter, safety, & money)

Am I alive?

VALUES: What IS “most important (valuable)” to me?

& WHY? (note: not what “should” but what “IS”!)

MY BODY MY MIND MY SPIRIT MY SPOUSE/PARTNER

MY FAMILY SCHOOL WORK/CAREER HOBBIES

VALUES

What about all the things I “should” be

doing, but I don’t do?

YEAH, BUT…

RE-EVALUATE “SHOULDS”

I “should”…..

I “have to”….. DE-ENERGIZING

I “need to”…..

---Versus---

I “want to”…..

I “get to”…... ENERGIZING

SHOULDS VS. WANTS

I “can’t”…..

I “don’t have”….. DE-ENERGIZING

I “don’t do”…..

---Versus---

I “can do”….. ENERGIZING

I “have”…...

I “do”

CAN’T DO VS. CAN DO

Exercise: (from Tal Ben Shahar’s book “Being Happy”)

Make a list of the most important areas in your life.

Note what “perfection” is, and then what could be “good -enough”

Such as:

CATEGORY PERFECTIONIST OPTIMALIST (good enough)

Professional 12 hours a day 8 hours a day

Spouse/Partner Date(s) 2 x a week Date(s) 2 x a month

Kids (quality time) Every day 4 days a week

Friends/Social 1 x a week 1 x a month

Exercise Every day 3 days a week

Meditation 30 minutes a day 5 minutes a day

Hobby Every day 2 days a week

Cleaning Every day 2 days a week

EVOLVE FROM A PERFECTIONIST

TO AN “OPTIMALIST”

“It was a great relief to adopt this new good-

enough approach. With my revised set of

expectations, a fresh sense of satisfaction replaced

the old frustration. And, unexpectedly, I found that

I was more energized and focused.”

----Tal Ben-Shahar

QUOTE FROM TAL BEN-SHAHAR

KNOW ALWAYS

Aliveness, Health, Power,

Inertia, Creativity, Motivation

UNDERSTANDING HUMAN “ENERGY”

(OUR “BUZZ” & “ESSENCE”)

PHYSICAL …........................our bodies

INTELLECTUAL…..................our minds

EMOTIONAL…......................our emotions

SPIRITUAL…........................our spirit

SOCIAL….............................our relationships

ENVIRONMENTAL…...........…our environment

HUMAN ENERGY FLOWS

FOSTERING ENERGY…

BY RECOGNIZING OUR BLOCKS

FLOW FEELS: BLOCKS FEELS:

ALIVE DEAD/DYING

GOOD BAD

PLEASURABLE PAINFUL

ENERGIZING EXHAUSTING

PEACEFUL FRUSTRATING

“ALL IS WELL” FEARFUL/ANXIOUS

IDENTIFYING BLOCKS

BLOCKS ARE SIGNALS

(THEY ARE NOT ‘BAD’; THEY ARE A GIFT!)

CURIOUSLY ASSESSS OUR…

PHYSICAL …........................ self-care

INTELLECTUAL….................. thoughts

EMOTIONAL…...................... emotions

SPIRITUAL…........................ spirit

SOCIAL…............................. relationships

ENVIRONMENTAL…............. environment

Q: DOES THIS HELP OR HURT ME?

LEARNING WHAT TO LET GO OF

Image credit to: tracyholloway.comImage credit to: lessonslearnedinlife.com

FOSTERING ENERGY(CREATE IT, SUSTAIN IT, ENJOY IT)

TAL BEN-SHAHAR VIDEO (2 min)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pWfZ70bVQa8

BLUE ZONES VIDEO (10 min)https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=39puksTfUaM

BLUE ZONES BOOKS

SUMMARY TIPS

HOW DO YOU

INTEGRATE THESE

THINGS INTO YOUR

LIFE?

ADVICE/TIPS FROM ALL

Debra Lafler

dlafler@ghcscw.com

608-662-4913

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THANK YOU