FOUNDATIONS OF HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPSCooperation and Compromise

BELL RINGER (5 MIN)

Describe your relationship (s) with your siblings and/or closest friends. How do you get along? How do you work through disagreements?

Keep journals out!

RELATIONSHIPS Relationship: a bond or connection you have with other

people.

Friendship: a significant relationship between two people that is based on trust, caring, and consideration.

Citizenship: the way you conduct yourself as a member of the community.

SANDRA BULLOCK VIDEO CLIPS (10 MINUTES)

Sandra Bullock is just one person, but she has played many different roles. Is that true for all of us?

Do we all play different roles in the relationships we have throughout our lives?

Do the roles we play ever change?

THE ROLES WE PLAY

Role: a part you play in your relationships

Examples of the roles I play

MRS. DAY’S ROLES

Roles Mrs. Day Plays Now: Sister Daughter Wife Mother Friend Student Teacher Aunt Church member Community member Cousin

Roles Mrs. Day has Played Before: Employee Girlfriend Fiancé Team captain Team member Class president Class member Volunteer Someone’s date Tutor Care-giver/ Pet-owner

SKILLS FOR BUILDING RELATIONSHIPS

Communication: the exchange of thoughts, feelings, and beliefs between two or more people.

Cooperation: working together for the good of all.

Compromise: a problem-solving method in which each participant gives up something to reach a solution that satisfies everyone.

TWO “C”S OF HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS

Cooperation and Compromise

Cheaper by the Dozen: Movie Clip (12 min)

RELATIONSHIP BANK ACCOUNT (RBA) We have a different bank account with every

person we have a relationship with.

The quality of our relationships depends on how many deposits and withdrawals we make in each account.

When there are significant “funds” in our bank accounts, an occasional withdrawal will not damage the relationship.

Minimize withdrawals and make generous deposits on a regular basis.

RELATIONSHIP BANK ACCOUNT (RBA)

Examples of Withdrawals: Not listening Being unsympathetic Not keeping a promise Forgetting a friend’s birthday A sarcastic comment

Examples of Deposits: Understanding what’s important to them Remember the little things Tell the truth Sense the need and do it Open up Use the most important words

“I DO CARE” ACTIVITY (PAGE 93 IN PAGE BOOK

10 min Take out a piece of paper

1. Make a list of the most important people in your lives.2. Write down ways to show these people that you care about them.3. Write a list of things that you do that might make these people feel like you don’t care about them.

Make a conscious effort to increase the ways you show these individuals in your life that you care!

INGREDIENTS FOR A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP

Self Respect Respect for Others

RESPECT FOR OTHERS

Listen to other people

Be considerate of other’s feelings

Develop mutual trust

Be realistic in your expectations

TRAITS OF HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS Mutual Respect

Treat others with respect and they respect you in return Accept each other’s opinions, tastes, and traditions Accept each other’s differences Don’t force your opinions on each other

Caring Treat others with kindness and consideration Show empathy and support Willing to help others

Honesty Honest and open with others Don’t conceal your thoughts, feelings, or actions

Commitment Contribute to the relationship Work to keep the relationship strong Make sacrifices for the friendship Deal with and overcome problems in a positive way

UNHEALTHY BEHAVIORS

Stereotyping: making an exaggerated or oversimplified judgments about people who belong to a certain group.

Prejudice: an unfair opinion or judgment of a particular group of people.

Bullying: deliberately harming or threatening other people who cannot easily defend themselves.

Hazing: making others perform certain tasks in order to join the group.