* TBI services are now streamed live and archived on our website tbi.org.au for the benefit of the community. If you are positioned near the front of the synagogue or near the bimah your image will be recorded. Attendance and participation in our services will be deemed as consent for your image, or the image of minors in your care,

to be used for the purposes of filming and promotion. We thank you for your support.

WeeklyKOL YISRAEL

The President, Rebecca Silk, together with the Board, Rabbis and staff of TBI, welcomes you to our community.

DRASH FOR SHABBAT B’REISHIT BY RABBI RAFI KAISERBLUETH, EMANUEL SYNAGOGUE, NSW

SHABBAT B’REISHIT Parashah: Genesis 5:1-6:4 (page 51) Haftarah: Isaiah 42:5-43:10 (page 320)

We kindly ask that phones and cameras not be used during services*

SHACHARIT SHABBAT MAIN SYNAGOGUE 10am Saturday Morning Shabbat Service Board members: Rebecca Silk and Joanne Loewy Irons Shammash: Jadwiga Holcdorf Darshan: Rabbi Gersh Lazarow Shira: Rhondda Hall and the Ruach Community Choir Bar mitzvah: Theo Boltman Torah readers: Evi Morawetz, Caroline Paz, Jade Karp and Theo Boltman Kiddush: Kindly sponsored by the Abrahams and Boltman families

FAMILY SHABBAT FRIEDLANDER SYNAGOGUE 6pm Friday Night Family Service Board member: David Freedman Shira: Ari Sharfsetin

KABBALAT SHABBAT MAIN SYNAGOGUE 6pm Kabbalat Panim 6.15pm Friday Night Shabbat Service Board member: Rebecca Silk Darshan: Rabbi Gersh Lazarow Shira: Patrick Prunster, Sharon Mattatia and Mary Marks

COMMUNITY DINNER SLOME HALL 7.15pm Community Dinner Please bring a milchig/pareve dish to share.

Probably the most famous part of B’reishit, the first portion of the first book of Torah, is the actual story of creation. Many of us recall the words at the end of each day, v’yar Elohim ki Tov, that the work that God had accomplished was good. For every act the phrase is repeated. There are, however, two exceptions. The first is at the conclusion of creation; God says that it was very good. The second occurs when God observes that Man is alone, and says lo tov heiot adam levado, ‘it is not good for man to be alone’.The response then is for God to create an ezer k’negdo, typically translated as a ‘fitting helper’. Looking closely at the actual words, they seem to indicate two opposing ideas: ezer means helper, while k’negdo has a connotation of being against, opposite or counter to something. How is it that these two ideas together connote the ideal partner?Relationships wherein one party acts only on one side of balance are not healthy. Think of a relationship in which one person always acts in a helpful manner, is always complicit and dutifully fulfils the partner’s requests. It is almost as if the helpful party lacks free will. This relationship runs the risk of ploughing ahead on paths that will not lead to good places. One person becomes

more in control of the other; the partners are not equal. Likewise, think of a relationship in which one person always challenges the other, always disagrees, always claims to have a better idea. This type of relationship is destined to fights, hurt feelings, and stagnation, since agreement is impossible. In a healthy relationship, one partner is able to recognise when to be helpful and when to challenge. They are able to encourage and assist at times, and at other times are able to push the other onto a better path. The one side creates a sense of support while the other pushes the partner to be better. This balance over time allows for honesty and integrity without dooming one partner to submission or the relationship to argument. In this relationship, when one partner takes the side of acting counter, both parties know that it is from a place of love and care, and not from anger or a need for control. And when the helpful side is chosen, both parties know too that this is from a place of love and care and not submissiveness.Let us strive, in this new year, to be that healthy, balanced partner, and thus create the healthy relationships that will sustain us.

SHABBAT 5 - 6 OCTOBER 2018 / 27 TISHREI 5779

TBI FILM CLUB 50th SCREENING

Sunday 7 October 6.30pm entry 7pm startin partnership with Project Dignity

Featuring a pre-screening talk by Ale Kan, 22-year-old Arts-Law student from a refugee background, and a post-screening

discussion moderated by film journalist Jan Epstein.Sponsored by

CREATIVE ARTS ON DISPLAY Applications are invited from artists in the community who paint, weave, make jewelry, kippot, challah covers, etc. to show their talents at the Shuk stall, part of the UPJ Biennial, 15-18 November, Novotel St Kilda.

Places limited. For more information contact: jocelyn@upj.org.au

Contact TBIPh: +613 9510 1488

MISSION: Temple Beth Israel is a kehilla kedosha (spiritual community) bringing innovation and creativity to Jewish traditions. We provide multiple pathways for our members and friends to enjoy an engagement with Progressive Judaism that enhances their lives through spiritual enrichment, learning and community. We are guided by principles of egalitarianism and respect for others. We are inspired to continually develop and grow and to provide a spiritual home for all who wish to embrace our values. Temple Beth Israel acknowledges that we are assembled on land whose traditional custodians are the people of the Kulin Nation. tbi.org.au

Twitter: @TBIMelbournePlease take this news sheet with you

WHAT’S ON

PO Box 128 / 76-82 Alma Rd, St Kilda VIC 3182Email: info@tbi.org.au

CALENDAR

REMEMBRANCE

Sunday 7 October 5.15pm Kol Simchah Choir rehearsal 6.30pm TBI Film Club special 50th screening

Tuesday 9 October 4pm TBI Tamid 7pm Melton School 7.30pm Parashat Hashavua

Wednesday 10 October 10.30am Drop In and Chat 7pm Melton School 7.30pm Living with Dementia Support Group

Thursday 11 October 10am Melton School

Friday 12 October 10am Bubs & Bagels 6.15pm Kabbalat Shabbat service

Saturday 13 October 10am Gesher service 10am Shabbat Noach service Samuel Lowe bar mitzvah 3.30pm Minchah service Max Adler bar mitzvah

CHOOSING JUDAISM: PERSONAL JOURNEYS PANELSUNDAY 21 OCTOBER 3-5pm

For the first time at TBI, a panel of those amongst us and in the wider

Melbourne Jewish community who are Jewish by choice will share the story of their Jewish Journey.

SHLOSHIM• Andrew Benjamin Blecher Father of Peter and Anthony • Ellen Frenkel Wife of Erwin (dec.), mother of David and Miriam, sister of Ilse Felder (dec.) • Jack Friedman Father of David • Sylvia Gelman Close friend and confidante of Caroline Heard • Marie Gold Mother of Sandra Lewin Smith and Robyn Johnson • Janice Goldberg Wife of Harold, mother of Russell and Tonie, sister of Ross and David Cohen • Sophie Haimowitz Grandmother of Rabbi Allison Conyer • Jeanne Hill Mother of John Hillel • Manfred Klein Father of Don and Stephen • Ronald Lowe Husband of Frances, father of Kerryn and Jason • Jillian Raile Mother of Michael and Rebecca, sister of Ted Goldstein

• Aaron Sheynin Husband of Ida, father of Alla Kogan• Rosslyn Silver Wife of Leno, sister of Lillian • Anne Starr Mother and mother-in-law of Alex and Janet, Robin and Rosemary • Paulette Winograd Mother of Claude

YAHRZEITS OBSERVED THIS SHABBAT• Sasha Alexander • Mordka Joel Bando • Jane Frances Bourne • Yvonne Bentata • Queenie Bernstein • Arthur Best • Michael Cotton • Erna Curtis • Les Eizenberg • Edna Flack • Ruth Goddard • Pola Goldberg • Sylvia Green • Bert Hand • Louis Joseph Hyams • Jessie Kaufman • Therese Kaufman • Laura Kipen • Richard Melzak • Rollie Minski • Stella Opas • Coral Pratt • Rose Rosta • Marcia Sakinofsky • Mark Sapoznikow • Sara Segal • Leon Splitter • Evelyn Taft • Joy Tregoning • Richard Valentine • Max Weiner • Hugo Wolfe • Ann Zamsky

Commencing Friday 19 October

We are present

An alternative lay-led Kabbalat Shabbat and Maariv experience.

Third Friday of every month, 6.15pm

HINEINU - הינינו

Saturday 20 October 9.30am

A playful 1-hour program for toddlers and their families, with challah plaiting, songs,

stories and crafts.

HANDEL - SOLOMON

MCC is working with TBI for this special performance, and is seeking financial support to enable them to hire musicians to form an orchestra. All donations are tax deductible. To make a donation:

Direct Deposit: FD Singers Inc. Donations Fund - BSB: 063 145 Account: 1013 3788 Reference: Handel Cheques payable to The Faye Dumont Singers, PO Box 456 Richmond VIC 3121 (write Handel on the back)

Sunday 25 November 3pm @ TBI TICKETS: trybooking.com/UZDTMELBOURNE CHAMBER CHOIR

SOLOMON HANDEL

MELBOURNE CHAMBER CHOIR

The Visit of the Queen of Sheba to King Solomon – Edward Poynter

Help us form an orchestraIn a Melbourne first, Melbourne Chamber Choir is working with Temple Beth Israel to perform Handel’s Solomon on Sunday November 25. Here is your chance to become involved in supporting this very special performance…

We are seeking financial support to ensure that we are able to hire some of Melbourne’s finest musicians to form an orchestra for this performance.

• $300 will pay for an orchestral musician• $350 will pay for an orchestral musician and hire of music• $400 will pay for the leader of the orchestra

All donations are tax deductible. Please make your donation by September 20.

To make a donationDirect depositFD Singers Incorporated Donations Fund BSB: 063 145Account: 1013 3788Reference: Handel

Cheques payable to The Faye Dumont Singers PO Box 456Richmond VIC 3121 Write Handel on the back

SOLOMON HANDEL

MELBOURNE CHAMBER CHOIR

The Visit of the Queen of Sheba to King Solomon – Edward Poynter

Help us form an orchestraIn a Melbourne first, Melbourne Chamber Choir is working with Temple Beth Israel to perform Handel’s Solomon on Sunday November 25. Here is your chance to become involved in supporting this very special performance…

We are seeking financial support to ensure that we are able to hire some of Melbourne’s finest musicians to form an orchestra for this performance.

•$300 will pay for an orchestral musician•$350 will pay for an orchestral musician and hire of music•$400 will pay for the leader of the orchestra

All donations are tax deductible. Please make your donation by September 20.

To make a donationDirect depositFD Singers Incorporated Donations Fund BSB: 063 145Account: 1013 3788Reference: Handel

Cheques payable to The Faye Dumont Singers PO Box 456Richmond VIC 3121 Write Handel on the back