Lesson 57

Proper Manners:

Scholars, Self and Parents

  Manners concerning knowledge and scholars:

Learning is an individual obligation on every Muslim, male or female.

Obligatory learning includes the basics of faith, acts of worship, Islamic teachings,

and way of life.

All useful knowledge is a communal obligation on the whole Muslim society,

with every group specializing in a subject.

       Every Muslim should learn the perfection of his job in order not to

depend on others and save the whole nation from dependency.

To venerate sincere scholars is a part of the Islamic manners.

  Proper manners towards one's self:

Have a sincere intention for every individual act.

Question oneself for every idea, saying, or act.

Hasten to repentance for any sin or shortcoming.

 Proper manners towards one's parents:

Obey and respect them, especially in old age.

Honor and show the fairest companionship to them even if they are unbelievers

Execute their will and respect their friends.

Being obedient to parents is better than Jihad and Hijrah (emigration).

Hurting and being ungrateful to parents lead to Hell.

  Honoring one’s mother takes precedence over honoring one’s father

Evidence from the Qur’an and Sunnah

Manners concerning knowledge and scholars:

Learning:

Allah says:

ل�ق� * ﴿ خ� ل�ق� خ� ال�ذ�ي ب�ك� ر� م� ب�اس�� رأ اق�

ع�ل�ق� * م�ن� ان� اإل�نس�ل�م� * * ب�ال�ق� ع�ل�م� ال�ذ�ي م� ك�ر�

األ� ب#ك� ر� و�أ� ر� اق�

ي�ع�ل�م� ل�م� ا م� ان� اإل�نس� ﴾ع�ل�م� : [5-1العلق]

This means: “Read! In the Name of your Lord, Who has

created (all that exists), Has created man from a clot (a clinging mass, a piece of

thick coagulated blood). Read! And your Lord is the Most Generous, Who has

taught (the writing) by pen. Has taught man that which he knew not.”

(Al-`Alaq: 1 - 5)

Allah says:

ن#وح�ي ﴿ اال* ر�ج� إ�ال� ب�ل�ك� ق� م�ن ل�ن�ا س� ر�أ� ا و�م�

� ال ك�نت�م� إ�ن الذ�ك�ر� ه�ل�أ� أ�ل�وا اس� ف� م� �ل�ي�ه� إ

﴾ت�ع�ل�م�ون� [43النحل] :

This means:

“And We sent not (as Our Messengers) before you (O Muhammad SAWS) any but

men, whom We inspired, (to preach and invite mankind to believe in the Oneness of

Allah). So ask of those who know the Remembrance, if you know not.”

(An-Nahl: 43)

Allah says:

ة9 ﴿ ط�ائ�ف� م� ن�ه� م� ة� ق� ر� ف� ك�ل� م�ن ر� ن�ف� ل�و�ال� ف�م� ه� و�م� ق� وا ل�ي�نذ�ر� و� الد�ين� ف�ي وا ه� ق� ل�ي�ت�ف�

ون� ذ�ر� ي�ح� م� ل�ع�ل�ه� م� �ل�ي�ه� إ ع�وا ج� ر� �ذ�ا ﴾إ : [122التوبة]

This means: “Of every troop of them, a party only should

go forth, that they (who are left behind) may get instructions in (Islamic) religion, and that they may warn their people when

they return to them, so that they may beware (of evil).”

(At-Tawbah: 122)

Allah says:

ا ﴿ ل�م* ع� ز�د�ن�ي ب� ر� ﴾وق�ل : [114طه]

This means:

“And say: My Lord! Increase me in knowledge.”

(Taha: 114)

The Prophet (SAWS) said, "Seeking knowledge is an obligation

on every Muslim." [Al-Bayhaqiyy and Ibn `Abdul-Barr]

The Prophet (SAWS) said:

“If someone treads a path in search of knowledge, Allah will make easy for him

the path leading to Paradise.”

(Reported by Muslim)

Allah's Messenger (SAWS) said:

“If one goes forth in search of knowledge, his endeavors will be regarded like

setting out to fight in the cause of Allah until he returns home.”

(Reported by at-Tirmidhiyy)

Allah’s Messenger (SAWS) said:

“The world is accursed and what it contains is accursed too, except

remembrance of Allah and what He loves, a learned man, or a learner.”

(Reported by at-Tirmidhiyy)

Allah's Messenger (SAWS) said:

“When Allah wishes good for anyone, He instructs him in the understanding

of religion.”

(Reported by al-Bukhariyy and Muslim)

The grace of scholars:

Allah says:

ال�ذ�ين� ﴿ و� نك�م� م� ن�وا آم� ال�ذ�ين� الله� ع� ف� ي�ر�ات� ج� د�ر� ال�ع�ل�م� وت�وا

: ﴾أ� [11المجادلة]

This means:

“Allah will exalt in degree those of you who believe, and those who have been granted

knowledge.”

(Al-Mujadalah: 11)

Allah says:

اء� ﴿ ال�ع�ل�م� ب�اد�ه� ع� م�ن� الله� ى ي�خ�ش� ا �ن�م� ﴾إ : [28فاطر]

This means:

“It is only those who have knowledge among His slaves that fear Allah.”

(Fatir: 28)

The Prophet (SAWS) said:

“The superiority of the learned man over the devout is like that of the moon,

on the night when it is full, over the rest of the stars.”

(Reported by Abu-Dawud)

The Prophet (SAWS) said:

“The inhabitants of the heavens and the earth, and the fish in the deep waters will

ask forgiveness for the learned man.”

(Reported by Ibn-Majah)

Proper manners towards one’s self:True intention:

The Messenger of Allah (SAWS) said: “Verily (the value of) deeds depends on the

intentions behind them. For every person (there is in store for him) what he

intended. The one whose migration is for the sake of Allah and His Messenger, his

migration is in fact for Allah and His Messenger;

and the one whose migration is for the worldly (ends), he will attain that; and the one who migrates for the sake of a

woman to marry her, his migration is for the aim he has in his mind.”

(Reported by al-Bukhariyy and Muslim)

The Prophet (SAWS) said, "Whoever makes the Hereafter his

preoccupation, then Allah places freedom from want in his heart, and arranges his

matters and life comes to him (easily) despite being reluctant to do so.

And whoever makes life his preoccupation, then Allah places his poverty before his eyes and disorganizes his matters and nothing of the life comes to him except that which has been decreed for him."

(Reprted by At-Tirmidhi)

The Prophet (SAWS) also said:

“Who seeks martyrdom with sincerity shall get its reward, though he may not

achieve it.”

(Reported by Muslim)

Reckoning one’s self:

Allah says:

م�ن * ﴿ اب� خ� د� و�ق� ا ك�اه� ز� م�ن ل�ح� ف�أ� د� ق�

ا اه� ﴾د�س� : [10-9الشمس]

This means:

“Indeed he succeeds who purifies his ownself. And indeed he fails who corrupts

his ownself.”

(Ash-Shams: 9 - 10)

Allah says:

ل�ت�نظ�ر� ﴿ و� الله� وا ات�ق� ن�وا آم� ال�ذ�ين� ا ي#ه�� أ ي�ا

الله� إ�ن� الله� وا ات�ق� و� ل�غ�د� د�م�ت� ق� ا م� ن�ف�س9ل�ون� ت�ع�م� ا ب�م� ب�ير9 ﴾خ�

: [18الحشر]

This means: “O you who believe! Fear Allah and keep

your duty to Him. And let every person look to what he has sent forth for the

morrow, and fear Allah. Verily, Allah is All-Aware of what you

do.” (Al-Hashr: 18)

Allah says:

س� ﴿ الن�ف� ن�ه�ى و� ب�ه� ر� ام� م�ق� اف� خ� م�ن� ا م�أ� و�

* و�ى ال�ه� ع�ن�و�ى

أ� ال�م� ه�ي� ن�ة� ال�ج� إ�ن� ﴾ف�  : [41-40النازعات]

This means:

“But as for him who feared standing before his Lord, and restrained himself from

impure evil desires, and lusts. Verily, Paradise will be his abode.”

(An-Nazi`at: 40 - 41)

The Messenger of Allah (SAWS) said:

“A wise man is that who calls himself to account and does noble deeds to be of

benefit to him after death.”

(Reported by at-Tirmidhiyy)

The Messenger of Allah (SAWS) said:

“Every person begins the morning ready to strike a bargain with his soul; he either

ransoms it or puts it into perdition.” (Reported by Muslim)

The Prophet Muhammad (SAWS) said:

“… It is to worship Allah as if you were seeing him, and even if you do not see

him, he certainly sees you.”

(Reported by al-Bukhariyy and Muslim)

Repentance:

Allah says:

ب�ة* ﴿ ت�و� الله� �ل�ى إ ت�وب�وا ن�وا آم� ال�ذ�ين� ا ي#ه�� أ ي�ا

ا وح* ن�ص�ي�ئ�ات�ك�م� س� ع�نك�م� ر� ي�ك�ف� ن

أ� ب#ك�م� ر� ى ع�س�ن�ات� ج� ل�ك�م� ي�د�خ� و�

ار� ن�ه�األ� ا ت�ه� ت�ح� م�ن ر�ي ﴾ت�ج�

: [8التحريم ]

This means:

“O you who believe! Turn to Allah with sincere repentance! It may be that your Lord will remit from you your sins, and

admit you into Gardens under which rivers flow (Paradise).”

(At-Tahrim: 8)

Allah says:

ن�ون� ﴿ ؤ�م� ال�م� ا ي#ه�� أ يع*ا م� ج� الله� إ�ل�ى ت�وب�وا و�

ون� ل�ح� ت�ف� : ﴾ل�ع�ل�ك�م� [31النور]

This means:

“And all of you beg Allah to forgive you all, O believers, that you may be successful.”

(An-Nur: 31)

The Messenger of Allah (SAWS) said:

“O people! Repent to Allah and beg pardon of Him. I turn penitently towards Him

a hundred times a day.”

(Reported by Muslim)

The Messenger of Allah (SAWS) said :“Allah, the Exalted, stretches out His Hand

at night so that one who committed evil during the daytime may repent, and

stretches out His Hand in the daytime so that one who committed evil during the night may repent. (This continues) until

the sun rises in the west.” (Reported by Muslim)

The Messenger of Allah (SAWS) said:

“He who repents before the sun rises in the west, Allah will forgive him.”

(Reported by Muslim)

Proper manners towards the parents:

Allah says:

ال�د�ي�ن� ﴿ ب�ال�و� و� �ي�اه� إ إ�ال� ت�ع�ب�د�وا ال�أ� ب#ك� ر� و�ق�ض�ى

و� � أ ا م� د�ه� ح�

أ� ال�ك�ب�ر� ند�ك� ع� ي�ب�ل�غ�ن� ا إ�م� ان*ا س� إ�ح�أ�ف\ ا م� ل�ه� ل ت�ق� ف�ال ا م� ك�اله�

ا * ك�ر�يم* و�ال* ق� ا م� ل�ه� و�ق�ل ا م� ه� ر� ت�ن�ه� و�الو�ق�ل ة� م� ح� الر� م�ن� الذ#ل� ن�اح� ج� ا م� ل�ه� ف�ض� و�اخ�

* غ�يرا ص� ب�ي�ان�ي ر� ا ك�م� ا م� ه� م� ح� ار� ب� : ﴾ر� اإلسراء]23-24]

This means:

“And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him. And that you be dutiful to your parents. If one of them or

both of them attain old age in your life, say not to them a word of disrespect, nor shout

at them but address them in terms of honor.

And lower unto them the wing of submission and humility through mercy, and say: "My Lord! Bestow on them Your Mercy as they

did bring me up when I was young.''” (Al-Isra’: 23 - 24)

Allah says:

ه� ﴿ م#أ� ل�ت�ه� م� ح� ال�د�ي�ه� بو� ان� اإل�نس� ي�ن�ا و�و�ص�

ن� أ� ي�ن� ع�ام� ف�ي ال�ه� و�ف�ص� و�ه�ن� ع�ل�ى ن*ا و�ه�

ير� ال�م�ص� �ل�ي� إ ال�د�ي�ك� ل�و� و� ل�ي ك�ر� ﴾اش� : [ 14لقمان]

This means:

“And We have enjoined on man (to be dutiful and good) to his parents. His mother bore

him in weakness and hardship - upon weakness and hardship, and his weaning is in two years; give thanks to Me and to your parents, unto Me is the final destination.”

(Luqman: 14)

The Messenger of Allah (SAWS) said:“Shame on him! Shame on him! Shame on

him! The one whose parents or one of them was alive and reached old age, and did not enter paradise (i.e. their presence

was not a cause to make him enter paradise).”

(Reported by Muslim)

Asma’ Bint Abi Bakr As-Siddiq (RA) narrated :“My mother came to me while she was still a

polytheist. I asked the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him): My mother, who is

ill-disposed to Islam, has come to visit me. She wanted something from me. Shall I

show her affection? He replied: Yes, be benevolent towards

your mother.” (Reported by al-Bukhariyy and Muslim)

The Messenger of Allah (SAWS) said:

“The finest act of goodness is that a man (i.e. a person) treats kindly the beloved (people) of his father after his death.”

(Reported by Muslim)

A man of Banu Salamah came to the Prophet Muhammad (SAWS) and asked :

“O Messenger of Allah! Is there any obedience to parents that I can show to them after their

death? He (the Prophet) replied: Yes. To pray for them, to fulfil their instructions

after their death, to keep affinity with those who are not connected with you but through

them, and to show reverence to their friends.”

(Reported by Abu-Dawud)

The Messenger of Allah (SAWS) said: “Should not I inform you about the most grievous of the grave sins? (The Prophet)

repeated it three times, and then said: Associating anyone with Allah and

disobedience to parents …” (Reported by al-Bukhariyy and Muslim)

A person came to Allah's Messenger (SAWS) and said :

“Who among the people is the most deserving of fine treatment from me? He said: Your mother. He, again, said: Then who (is the

next one)? He said: Again it is your mother (who deserves the best treatment from you). He said: Then who (is the next one)? He (the Prophet) said: Again, it is your mother. He

(again) said: Then who? Thereupon, he said: Then, it is your father.”

(Reported by al-Bukhariyy and Muslim)