Making the Most of What You Have & Accepting Your

Feelings

Nancy M. Porter, Ph.D.Deborah J. Thomason, Ed.D.

Income = Expenses + Credit + Savings

Payments

http://spendster.org

Use Assets• Determine your net worth– Worksheet 3: Net Worth Statement

• Do it annually• Can you use any of your assets to fund income

reduction?• Can you reduce liabilities?

ACCEPTING YOUR

FEELINGS

What do YOU see?

The OLD Lady?

Just when you think you’ve given your all to the university they ask you to donate blood.

You can see the glass as half full…

Or you can see the glass as half empty!

Garfield and Work…

POSITIVE• Helps people respect the feelings of others• Helps define and clarify a variety of issues and values• Can lead to a confrontation, which can bring out ideas,

issues, and values in a way which clears the air• Can bring a sense of respect to all• Can be the start of defining adjusted or new goals, which

are more satisfactory to everyone

NEGATIVE• Interrupts normal relations between individuals• Provokes hurtful, personally harmful effects on the

self-concept of the persons involved.• Causes resentment and hostility• Makes rational discussion difficult or impossible• Robs the time and energy of everyone involved• Causes stress and resulting hardships• Causes possible break-up of relationships

REACTIONS TO CONFLICT

• Avoidance• Acceptance• Denial• Enjoyment• Flight

• Ignoring • Management • Promotion • Suppression

Strangled on the office grapevine

Will they say this about you?

Controlling Spending and How Children Can Help Mom and

Dad

Nancy M. Porter, Ph.D.Deborah J. Thomason, Ed.D.