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Quiz of the Month:Look Who’s taLkin’

The Rocky Road To Romance

What Justin has to say...

Dealing w/The Green Monster

&the truth about Choosing Justin

1) if there’s a dispute, i tend to react: a) calmly B) quickly C) angrily

2) During conversation, i always listen attentively. a) Mostly B) if i agree C) usually not

3) When you’re concerned, you ... a) Drop hints B) Voice your opinions C) ignore your feelings

4) Do you make assumptions about your partner’s feelings or thoughts? a) i know them, so i usually can B) not often at all C) often

5) i bring up past issues in current arguments. a) in defense B) sometimes C) i don’t do this

6) i use sarcasm or jokes to respond. a) to lighten the mood B) When they deserve it

C) i don’t do this

7) i insult and criticize. a) in defense B) When they deserve it C) Rarely, if ever

8) i use phrases like, “that’s ridiculous,” as a response. a) if they say something dumb B) never C) often

9) there are bad feelings for a long time afterward. a) not at all B) Depends on the topic C) usually

Q u i z o f t h e M o n t h :L o o k W h o ’ s t a L k i n ’

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L e t t e r f r o m t h e e d i t o r : Well spring is in the air. Most of us think of budding relationships when we think of spring. Like the exclusive story we have with selena Gomez and Justin Bieber. or the newest couple in your school. i’ve had my fair share of budding relationships, too. i bet you’ve had a few as well. unfortunately, when i was in high school they didn’t turn out the best. I could never figure it out. as i got older though, i finally realized I was going about it the wrong way. i always hung out with boys my age. We never really “officially” dated. That’s why they didn’t work out. We never communicated about our relationship. they just sort of ...

happened. You know? so, in an effort to give all of our readers a helping hand, this month’s issue is all about relationships. take our quiz to see if you communicate well as a couple. Read about how selena and Justin decided to date. Then, use our five steps to help you when you’re embarking on your next relationship. We want to hear how it goes, too! send us a letter, tell us a story or write to us on our blog! We’d love to share your success (or lesson learned) with our other readers.

love, amandathat’s me!

tM: So, you guys finally went public. When’d you actually start dating?

sG: Well, we’d been hanging out for a few months. You know, going out with friends to dinner. We went to the Bahamas. We didn’t start dating until about a week ago.

JB: Yeah, we just really wanted to be sure we were compatible and everything. You know?

tM: so, what kind of qualities were you guys looking for in your next relationship?

sG: Well, i knew that i would want to date someone who understands the industry i’m in. Dealing with the things i do, paparazzi, scheduling, things like that.

JB: i knew i needed a girl who could

make me laugh. she’s really great at doing that.

tM: so, you guys weren’t just hanging out and hooking up? it sounds like you made a real decision to start dating.

sG: Yeah, we felt like it was really important to make a conscious decision. Most people don’t do that. i feel like that’s why divorce is so high these days.

JB: i come from a divorced family, so relationships are something i am careful about. that’s why we waited so long to start dating.

tM: sounds like you all thought about this a lot. Did you have help from family, friends or someone like that?

sG: i’m really close with my parents. even if i wasn’t though, i feel like it’s important to keep them involved. other people are better at seeing red flags in your own relationships than you are. Most times.

JB: other than Robert Pattinson (laughs), i’ve talked to my Dad a lot. But, i also have a close friend and mentor who’s a lot older than me. i talked to him. he gives great advice.

tM: sounds like you guys are on the right track. We wish you the best!

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Justin Bieber and selena Gomez holding hands on the red carpet for the first time.

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The Rocky Road To Romance in honor of selena & Justin’s decision to date, the mag decided to help our readers know how to make the decision themselves. Check out our steps:

1) Learn what’s good for you: if you know you like to laugh, you like funny people. Make a list of things you’d like in a future relationship. they don’t have to meet all your criteria, but they need to meet at least a few.

2) know who they are, really: When you are only spending time with someone alone, they tend to put their best foot forward. spend lots of time with them in a group setting. You see the reality of their personality when they’re with their friends. so, go hangout.

3) know what to compromise on: Compare their qualities to your list. Do they really meet your preferences. they’ll meet some, but they won’t meet others. Which ones can you compromise on? Which ones will cause the biggest problems in the future? think about the things you value most.

4) Make a decision, with them: if you get asked out or if you’re doing the asking, decided with your friend. talk about the things you feel you can’t compromise one. talk about the reasons you feel you can date, or would be compatible. Let them know what page your on... then take our quiz and see if you are good at communicating.

5) You’re dating, so act like it: You’re not married, you’re just dating. take time to plan dates or encourage your friend to do so. they don’t have to be extreme or expensive. then make time for your other friends. Believe us, you’ll need them later.

It all began when Tyler and Kelly were juniors in high school. First it was sitting

together at a football game. Then a movie with friends. Then lunch together every day. They’d been hanging out a lot. It seemed to Tyler that it was official. Until he saw Kelly talking to a strange guy at her locker. Are they flirting? Tyler brushed it off. That same week he saw the guy again. This time Kelly was

smiling and waving at him during her soccer game. Frustrated and irrational, Tyler confronted Kelly later that week at school. “Kelly, I wanna know what’s going on with you and that guy

you have been flirting with,” Tyler said. Kelly looked at him incredulously. She had no idea what he was mad about. Kelly calmly informed him about her mysterious friend.

“That’s Ted! He’s dating my friend Mary. I grew up with him!” Kelly said, laughing.

T y l e r & K e l l y

Dealing w/ The Green Monster:How Jealousy Almost Ended Our Relationship

“We just weren’t talking. We weren’t

communicating and it could have hurt us both.”

-- Tyler, 16

Quiz Results: Drum Roll, Please!

no. 1 >> a = 0 B = 2 C = 5 no. 2 >> a = 6 B = 4 C = 0 no. 3 >> a = 2 B = 3 C = 0

no. 4 >> a = 3 B = 9 C = 0 no. 5 >> a = 0 B = 2 C = 8 no. 6 >> a = 3 B = 0 C = 5

no. 7 >> a = 2 B = 0 C = 3 no. 8 >> a = 5 B = 6 C = 0 no. 9 >> a = 5 B = 3 C = 0

0-15 points = Serious red flag!16-30 points = there’s potential...

31-50 points = keep it up!

Tyler blushed, embarrassed at his jealous mistake. “We just weren’t talking. We weren’t communicating. And it could have hurt us both,” Tyler said.

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