msb guidepost newsletter - feb/march 2013
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MSB Guidepost Newsletter - Feb/March 2013TRANSCRIPT
THE MONTESSORI SCHOOL OF THE BERKSHIRES – FEBRUARY/MARCH 2013
Have you ever stumbled upon your child acting out an imaginary scene? Perhaps you’ve found her “playing school” or witnessed him use a Lego person to boss a Beanie Baby around a bit.
Play is a way for children to process and make sense of their lives. They need play, and as Lawrence J. Cohen, PhD, so eloquently explains in his book, Playful Parenting, children need the adults in their lives to play too.
Let’s be honest, though. Between feeling sapped from work, or drained from the hustle and bustle of getting our kids from here to there, we don’t often default to “let’s romp around and have some fun.” Instead we’re likely to feel a little annoyed when our children’s play gets a little too rowdy or they don’t want to stop in order to come to dinner.
Yet by engaging playfully, we can actually create more closeness, cooperation, and conJidence in our children.
On March 6, we’re inviting Bill Corbett, a national parenting educator, to give a Cooperative
Kids workshop at MSB. One of the many things I’ve learned from Cooperative Kids is that we all have emotional bank accounts.
We can make deposits to those accounts, much as we do when we put money into our Jinancial accounts. Those deposits can take the form of hugs, appreciations, reading together, and really whatever strengthens the connection. Withdraws are those actions that weaken the emotional connection: sarcastic comments, failure to remember a promise, acting maliciously, and so forth.
When our emotional bank accounts are full, a little withdraw here and there doesn’t feel so bad because there’s plenty of cushion in our emotional bank account. But when those emotional bank accounts feel drained, a small withdraw will feel even more hurtful.
Cohen has a similar description in terms of establishing our connection with children. He describes how children (and really adults, too) need their
cups Jilled. A child’s need for attachment is like a cup that gets emptied by being tired, hungry, hurt, or lonely, and then reJilled by being loved, cuddled, encouraged, and even fed. Cohen suggests looking at children’s behavior and thinking about these “cups.” Is a child running around desperately trying to get a reJill? Is she bouncing off the walls in the process and even spilling what little is in her cup? Does a child have a leaky cup, always needing more attention but never feeling satisJied? Is the child who really needs a reJill blocking others from giving him just what he needs to feel better?
Montessori G U I D E P O S T
Playfulness: Why it Matters to Kids (and Adults)by Meagan Ledendecker
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I hope this edition of the Guidepost Jinds Montessori families healthy and well as the daylight extends and spring approaches.
As this winter wanes, the MSB Trustees are continuing to examine our school’s Jinancial well being, so as to improve the educational experience for our children.
We are always working to earn the trust you have
placed in us by your decision to enroll your children at MSB.
The decision to invest your resources in Montessori education is an investment that will never depreciate; what your child learns from this curriculum and in this environment will continue to blossom for their entire lifetime. I can’t think of another investment that makes that promise.
Finally, at the risk of rankling my daughter, Bryn, (what are parents for but to forever embarrass their children?), I’d like to welcome Craig and Bryn’s newborn baby girl, Tuula, born this past Valentine’s Day. That puts her in the class of 2026, correct?
With warm best wishes,
Church DavisChairman, Board of Trustees
Dear MSB Parents & Friends,
HEAD OF SCHOOL NOTES: COMMUNITY
A Montessori environment works to instill a sense of independence, creativity, and resourcefulness within each child. This is accomplished through a carefully prepared environment that allows them access to speciJically designed lessons that promote a sense of focus and interest.
In line with the child’s experience in their environment, our school community works to create resources and opportunities for families and community members to participate more in and learn more about their child’s experience as well as Montessori in general.
This spring, we have a number of events and activities that work toward this goal including, Bill Corbett’s Cooperative Kids workshop, pinning ceremonies for
kindergarten, 3rd grade, 6th grade, as well as 8th grade graduation, the Silent Journey night, family sharing, in-‐school open houses, Toddler and Children’s House playgroups, afterschool enrichment, parent conferences, the robotics competition, Grandparents/Grandfriends Day, our May Pole dance, the Great Brain Fair, and the Moving Up Ceremony. And we can’t forget about our Springtime in Paris auction event!
We are excited about these resources and hope that you are able to take advantage of at least some of them…see you in Paris!
Warmly,
Todd Covert
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“The child, making use of all that he finds around him shapes himself for the future.” –Dr. Maria Montessori
When our children need their cups reJilled, or deposits in their emotional bank accounts, it’s time for us to re-‐establish connection. And a very effective way to rekindle that connection is through play.
The play doesn’t have to be elaborate, although Cohen does advocate for how working toward extended play times with our children will create healthier family environments for all of us. Really, though, the playfulness can be as simple as acting a little silly. Cohen’s tenant is to “follow the giggles.”
It’s actually pretty amazing how effective following the giggles can be, even for those of us who have a hard time letting ourselves go in the playful department. After reading the book, I tried one of Cohen’s suggestions to reverse the roles we typically play. Instead of being the one who dolled out reminders about what needed to happen, I stomped my foot and whined that I didn’t want to clean up my things. Sure, I felt a little goofy right after I did it, but I heard my kids start to giggle and knew I was on the right track.
I also used the experience to try one of Cohen’s other suggestions, which is to weave in alternatives to how a particular situation can play out (no pun intended!). In my case, after I whined and moaned about cleaning up, and my daughter – playing along of course – told me that I absolutely had to clean up, I pouted a little but then shifted
gears, “Okay, okay. I’ll pick up my things.” Reversing the roles offered me an opportunity to suggest, without having to lecture or be didactic, a new storyline to how my daughter could respond to a clean-‐up reminder.
Cohen’s work on playful relationships with children really extends how we can approach discipline. First, the playfulness is proactive. We’re Jilling cups so children don’t resort to unpleasant behavior to get our attention. But there’s more to the playful approach.
One of my favorite suggestions is having a “meeting on the couch.” Rather than launch into a reactive, habitual response, we can call for a couch meeting. I did this over break when sibling rivalry had erupted for the umpteenth time. At Jirst my kids didn’t know how to respond. Even the mention of couch-‐time, though, diffused the intensity of the moment.
The couch symbolizes snuggles and comfort, not harsh discipline. And that’s the point. Being together on the couch worked for them and me. We all relaxed. I found myself better able to sit back and listen. They were able to share
ideas. The next thing I knew they were playing again, both happy with the arrangement they negotiated.
Cohen’s book, Playful Parenting, is full of these kinds of valuable tools.
I should mention, though, that in the last paragraph of the book, Cohen takes a Montessori quote out of context. In a recent email exchange, Cohen graciously admitted that he wished he hadn’t used Dr. Maria Montessori’s words about work and play, as the line was certainly out of context.
In fact, Dr. Montessori’s writings about work and play have many subtleties. She wanted to emphasize how children are drawn to meaningful activities, and using the terminology of “work” rather than “play” helped validate what children were choosing.
Despite Cohen’s misuse of Montessori’s words, his book is incredibly applicable for Montessori families. The essence of Montessori philosophy is about respecting our children, recognizing what they need from their environment, and following their lead.
This is exactly what Cohen advocates, too. His insight into how we can approach interactions and connections with lighthearted, yet meaningful, play is something that can beneJit us all.
For more information about Cohen’s work visit:
www.playfulparenting.com
COMMUNITY SNAPSHOTS
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CLOCKWISE FROM TOP LEFT: 1) Bonny working with Athan on reading three-letter phonetic words. 2) Jamie at Kimball Farms starting a scrapbook with her resident partner. 3) Jackson ready to explore his bag of Valentines. 4) Flora reading her Writer’s Workshop book (which Patricia is holding). 5) Joshua and Kade after the Author’s Celebration. 6) Natalie enjoying lunch with Audie and Ben in the background.
PARENT GROUP NEWSThe Parent Group is pleased to announce tremendous success for our Winter Oasis dinner parties. We'd like to extend a heartfelt thank you to our gracious hosts, Ursula and Enore Ceola, Giovanna Fessenden and Chris Hennessey, Ailsa Colbert and Adrian Elliot, and Rachel and Andrew Beckwith. This year's attendance surpassed last year’s and over $1,000 was raised for the Parent Group.
We heard lots of positive feedback from attendees. Ursula and Enore offered a Mine dining experience and Enore was complimented for his instruction on wine pairing. Giovanna and Chris made fabulous margaritas. Ailsa and Adrian served an impressively wide variety of delicious foods. Others commented on how gracious Rachel and Andrew were and how fun it was to marvel at their beautiful Victorian home.
Words describing the parties ranged from "elegant" to "spirited" and everyone had fun mingling with others in the parent community! Thanks to all of you who
attended and took this opportunity to enjoy the company of new friends. We look forward to creating more dinner parties in the future.In January we kicked off our Coffee, Cut, & Chat and are excited to say that it has been a huge success! The group has had so much fun chatting while making classroom materials and the time just Mlies by. We have helped cut, glue, and organize many materials and have learned a lot along the way! While we worked on labeling maps, all
of us expanded our knowledge of geography. What an unexpected perk! We meet every Tuesday morning at 8:00 am, and welcome any new volunteers. Contact Becky Cachat at <[email protected]> if you are interested in joining us or feel free to peek in on Tuesday morning to see what we’re doing.
We'd like to express our gratitude to everyone who has generously signed up for volunteering within the Parent Group teams. It is only through your time and commitment, that we can make the Parent Group a thriving entity within our school community.
We are currently still looking for assistance with our school yearbook planning, planning family outings and our Spring Auction Committee. If anyone is interested in these particular areas please email: <[email protected]>.
Plans are underway for a school-‐wide Parent Group meeting in the spring, as is the development of our after school enrichment program. Look for future surveys from the Parent Group to help us determine how best to meet everyone's needs and interests.
The Parent Group exists to foster community among parents and to help parents channel their support for the school and its staff.
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Lori, Jan, & Becky put together CH birthday books and prepare Scholastic book orders
After a child Jinishes working with any activity, he or she is responsible for returning it to good order and replacing the materials to their spots. Part of the clean up activity is to look around your work area and make sure that your friends won't sit on a wet chair that you might have Jinished washing, or place their papers on a table that might have splatters of paint,
while checking for any object you might have missed. Every activity is left ready for the next person. The teacher helps guide the child to return his or her work to serviceable order, clean and restocked with the necessary materials. For example, a watercolor lesson would have clean paints, brushes and fresh paper on a dry tray. Perhaps if we can, from the start, teach our children at home, at school, and in our larger communities to think and take the time to leave things ready for the next person, we'll create a sustainable world.
Maren Schmidt, an AMI trained elementary teacher, is author of Understanding Montessori: A Guide for Parents, and writes the weekly syndicated column, Kids Talk. Sign up for Kids Talk at KidsTalkNews.com and visit MarenSchmidt.com.
Sustainability seems to be one of this decade's buzzwords. Product labels proclaim sustainability. Clothing is sustainable. Tuna is sustainable. New construction is sustainable. Marketing types seem to be playing upon our ecological concerns of making sure we don't run out of resources, that we aren't unwittingly spending our grandchildren's inheritance. When I opened my Jirst Montessori classroom, many friends went through their schools' storerooms and sent me materials that were serviceable but well loved. With one set of wooden puzzle cubes I received a note: These are at least 25 years old. Perhaps a coat of paint will make them useful again. A few coats of paint did the job. One day a student came to me sad-‐eyed to show me that someone had written on one of the cubes and scratched the paint. My student asked for me to call a class meeting. “This is our binomial cube that we all love to work with. It was given to me by a friend in Philadelphia and was used by the children in her school for 25 years. My daughters used this cube. Some of your older brothers and sisters used this cube. I would like for
your baby brothers and sisters to use this cube. How are we going to make sure that our brothers and sisters who aren't even walking, maybe not even born yet, will be able to use this puzzle?” Fifteen years later, the puzzles were still in service, giving another generation hands-‐on experience with algebra formulas. These puzzle cubes represent one of the underlying concepts that endear me to working in a Montessori classroom; the idea of leaving an activity ready for the next person. A Montessori classroom is lined with shelves full of hands-‐on learning materials. For three to six-‐year-‐olds the materials needed for each activity are grouped together on a tray or in a basket, and activities follow a left to right sequence on the shelves. A place for everything and everything in its place is true in a Montessori classroom.
Understanding Montessori: Leave it Ready for the Next Person by Marin Schmidt
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Student Showcase: Rosa Parks by Jos Beckwith, age 6Rosa Parks was born on February 4, 1913. She died November 24, 2005. When Rosa grew up African Americans did not have a lot of rights. On December 1, 1955 she broke the law by sitting in the front of a bus. Because of segregation she was not allowed to sit in the front of the bus. Segregation was laws that African American people and white people had to be separate. She was arrested and had to pay a Jine. After that she started a boycott. She organized her whole community to boycott going on the buses. So her and her friends started to walk to work. Because of the boycott the bus company lost a lot of money.
She also started working with Martin Luther King Jr., who announced that African Americans should Jight for rights but do it peacefully. The boycott lasted to 1956. After that in Alabama, African Americans could sit in the front of a bus. Rosa Parks worked for civil rights, she was brave and helped change the American South and is remembered for that.
Grandparents/GrandfriendsGrandparents/Grandfriends Day invitations are in the mail! We look forward to seeing children share their Montessori experience with loved ones: Saturday, March 16, 9:00–11:00 am.
It's re-‐enrollment time!Enrollment agreements for current students are due! We are thrilled to be reaching capacity in many of our classrooms and urge you to return your enrollment agreements as soon as possible to secure your child's space for the 2013-‐2014 school year.
Return your agreement by March 8 and you'll be entered to win a 2013 MSB camp session of your choice! Current families who have applied for Jinancial aid will be entered in the drawing.
PO Box 422Lenox Dale, MA 01242
SAVE THE DATECooperative Kids Workshop with Bill CorbettWednesday, March 6, 20136:00–7:30 pm
Please RSVP to [email protected] call (413) 637-3662Childcare for MSB families provided by AE