positive starters deepening and developing relationship mature love
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Positive Starters
Deepening and Developing
Relationship
Mature Love
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Sex
One-Sided
Communication
Not so great
Not much there
Not really
You Have No Commitment/Trust Non
e
Meant something only to one
person
Few Common Interests
Time Together Not Much Fun
Doesn’t Feels Like a Friend
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Inverted Relationship Pyramid
Not Really Mature
No Development
One-SidedRelationship
No Positive Starters
CommunicationNot Great
Few Common Interests; Time Together Not Much Fun
Doesn’t Feel Like a Friend
YOU HAVE NO COMMITMENT, NO TRUST!
SEX
No Foundation
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Copyright © 2007 by Marline E. Pearson. All Rights Reserved.
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Copyright © 2007 by Marline E. Pearson. All Rights Reserved.
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Copyright © 2007 by Marline E. Pearson. All Rights Reserved.
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FUTURE
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WHICH SIDE IS MISSING?
When Tom and Mary were 19 years old they fell in love practically at first sight. They were magically drawn to each other and couldn't bear to be apart. They quickly got sexually involved and within two weeks had moved in with each other. A month later they eloped. A year and a half later they discovered they really weren't very compatible. They had totally different interests and values. They were not good friends, their communication wasn’t very good and they didn’t have much fun anymore.
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WHICH SIDE IS MISSING?
Kevin and Keisha were very good friends. They enjoyed talking to each other and could talk for hours. They shared tons of interests. They had no better friend. But there was no heat, no physical attraction, or chemistry. After 18 months of being inseparable as pals, they thought “Why not? Let's get hitched, since we're so compatible and enjoy each other’s company.”
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1. Seek a good match – Someone with common interests2. Pay attention to values 3. Don’t try to change someone into someone he or she is not 4. Don’t change yourself to get someone’s love or friendship 5. Expect good communication6. Don’t play games, be phony, or pressure someone 7. Expect respect—Have standards for what you expect
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DECIDE, DON’T SLIDE
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Different interests Values and goals not compatible Discover you don’t really like his or
her personality The relationship feels complicated No freedom to experience other
people Find you like someone else better Poor communication; you’re not
able to talk and share freely Not so fun; not the kind of
relationship you had imagined
Don’t like the way he or she treats you
Lied to; cheated on Feeling used Put down; controlled; disrespectful
or abusive treatment Feeling unsupported Wanting to change your
boyfriend/girlfriend Discover he/she has serious
problems (drugs, alcohol) Getting an STD Getting pregnant or getting
someone pregnant Raising a child alone
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Attraction Learn More Decide
Attraction Slide Then Learn Risks…
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PERSONAL ADS