shrm 2016 lead differently
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#ILSHRM16Leading By Example
Daniel Lobb, CPLPTRP Enterprises, Inc.
Foundational Skill
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Stay Positive, Productive and EffectiveNo matter what the circumstances!
Session Objectives
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• Inspire others. Lead by example.• Explore the impact of a positive
mindset, and the consequences of victim thinking.
• Develop the resiliency that inspires others to move through adversity.
Objectives
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EQ OR IQ ?EmotionalQuotient
IntelligenceQuotient
(Emotional Intelligence)
•What percentage of job success is determined by our IQ?•Optimism, support, seeing stress as an opportunity.
Shawn Achor,Positive Psychologist
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Why does EQ matter?
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•What percentage of job success is determined by our IQ?•Optimism, support, seeing stress as an opportunity.
Shawn Achor,Positive Psychologist
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Why does EQ matter?
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Victim Mentality Statements
Look what you made me do!!
I told you not to do it like that.
Who did this!? If it weren’t for
you, I could get my job done!
Nobody ever listensto me… why bother?
It’s not my fault!What did you do it that way for?
Can you believe what he/she just said/did to me? 8
• If things are going wrong, or badly, or not to my liking, then someone is to blame.
• It is necessary to identify the persons, circumstances, or sources of why things are not as I think they should be.
• Blame must be determined and accepted by the wrongdoer, and things must be made right.
• I am justified in being emotionally upset.
Neither growth nor learning result from the bad things that happen to me.
The Victim Mentality
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Everything that happens to me provides me with Opportunities For Learning And Growth. I cannot blame anyone else for how I feel, what I do, or the attitude I choose.
Totally Responsible Person
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Stimulus
Reaction
Opportunity
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STIMULUS CHOICE RESPONSE
Opportunity
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Choice
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<Messages Contact
I am going to take you away this weekend.
My Sweetie
On my way to get you right now.
I have chocolate
and wine.
AWARENESSALLOWS
STIMULUS CHOICE RESPONSE
Awareness
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We are here
Victim Mentality TRP
Let’s Review…
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ELEMENTS of Self-Responsibility
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1. Everything that happens to me provides me with opportunities for learning and growth.
ELEMENTS of Self-Responsibility
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1. Everything that happens to me provides me with opportunities for learning and growth.
2. I cannot blame anyone elsefor how I feel, what I do,or the attitude I choose.
“At one point I was a product of my environment but in time I made my environment a product of me.
I’ve learned to eliminate the excuses that today our youth use to justify their failure.
If you want to get out of your situation you can, but you must decide to do so. I didn’t blame the problems I encountered through life on my parents.”
Derek Anderson Author, Entrepreneur
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ELEMENTS of Self-Responsibility
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1. Everything that happens to me provides me with opportunities for learning and growth.
2. I cannot blame anyone else for how I feel, what I do, or the attitude I choose.
3. I shall seek no exceptions to this belief… even when I’m not at fault.
Mary BarraChief Executive
Officer, General Motors
“We accept responsibility
for our mistakes and
commit to doing
everything in our power to
prevent this from
happening again.”
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What does TRP mean to you?
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Who is a personal role model for you, either now, or someone who has served that role in the past?
What does TRP mean to you?
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For whom are you a role model? Who is looking up to you to “Be TRP?”
Stimulus
Awarene
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Develop
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Negative
Reaction
Positive
Response
Moment of
Choice
Moments of Choice
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What am I taking away?
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Upcoming Program: bit.ly/2dcGc7x11/15 @ The Management Association
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Daniel Lobb, CPLP [email protected] TRP Enterprises, Inc. (336) 777-1947
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