The Bottom Line

Nothing Flies Without

Parental Permission

No Matter What!

Period.

Equity Institute of California

Rethinking

Repositioning

Calibration

Resolution

New Knowledge

1.What is the Goal you would like to achieve ?

10 Questions

a.What solutions have you attempted so far?b.What was it about these attempts

that didn’t work?

2.What is your feeling about the situation?

3.What is your attitude regarding the situation?4. What benefits do you receive from having this

situation?5.What is the reality of the

situation?

10. What one thing are you willing to change to makethis be what you would like it to be?

9. How would your life be different if this situation changed?

8. What do you need to do at this time?

7. What else would you like to see happen?

6.What would you like to see happen?

Data

Approximately 84% of custodial

parents are mothers

Approximately 84% of custodial parents are mothers

Of The 84%, 44% are currently divorced or separated

33% have never been married

79% are gainfully employed

29% work part-time or part-year

74% work full time, year round

16% of custodial parents are fathers

Of those fathers:

57% are divorced or separated

18% have never married

According to Custodial Mothers and Fathers and Their Child Support: 2005, released by the U.S. Census Bureau in August, 2007, there are approximately 13.6 million single parents in the United States today, and those parents are responsible for raising 21.2 million children (approximately 26% of children under 21 in the U.S. today).

13.6 million

21.2 million

Single Parents

Children

Parenting

Practices

Four Parenting Styles

1.Authoritarian

2. Authoritative

Strict RulesDo As I Say, Not As I DoWhy ? Because I Said SoHigh Demand, Low Response

Rules & GuidelinesHighly ResponsiveNurturing & Forgiving

Assertive, Forgiving, & Supportive

3. Permissive

4. Uninvolved

Very Few DemandsRarely Discipline

Lenient, Avoid ConfrontationMore of a Friend than Parent

Few Demands

Low Responsiveness

Little CommunicationDetached From The Child’s Life

Children Children Children Children

Authoritarian

obedientlow self-esteem

Authoritative

capable supportive

Permissiveauthority

issueslow academic performance

Uninvolvedlack self-control

low self-esteem

Impact of Styles on Children

culture attempts to provide the answerbefore the question is asked

The Family’s RoleEducational Research

has demonstrated that

parent involvement in a

child’s education is the

most important factor

for a child’s academic successLawrence Hall of Science

Berkeley

Interests!!!

When I don’t do well, it HURTS !

If you think one year ahead . . . plant a seed. If you think ten years ahead . . . plant a tree. If you think one hundred years ahead . . . Educate the People. ~ Chinese Proverb

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Virtually every issue that we deal with, be it education… be it human services, gang problems or drugs, we find ENGAGED FAMILIES the ultimate solution. ~ unknown

TimeManagement

14,400 hours

168 hrs a week

30 hrs of school per week

138 hrs per week

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Life Time

104,832 hours Time from K-12

14,400 hours In School Time

90,432 hours Out Of School Time

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Themes

OrientationOrientation is more than a physical context and

placement. In its deeper meanings it is about mindset, ways of

thinking and knowing, origins of communication and sense of direction.

It is about how the human spirit manifests itself.It is also a way of learning and understanding

where you are,your place,

and your relative level of development

CHILDREN TEND TO IMITATE AND IDENTIFY WITH THE BEHAVIOR OF THE PARENT

Children

tend to identify and imitate

the behavior of the parent.

If you want to change your child’s behavior,

you’ve gotto (be willing)

to change yours first

Tellin’ Isn’t Teaching and Tellin’ Isn’t Teaching and Sittin’ Quiet Isn’t Learning!Sittin’ Quiet Isn’t Learning!

If you don’t have a purpose then someone may give you one,

but it may not be the one you want

PurposePurpose

Never leave home without itand

it’s the first thing you checkwhen you return.

THERE IS NO GUARANTEE ON TIME. IF YOU DON’T USE IT, YOU’RE GUARANTEED TO LOSE IT.

When we struggle alone,we die alone...needlessly

YOU MAY NOT GET A SECOND CHANCE TO MAKE A FIRST IMPRESSION, BUT YOU MAY GET A SECOND CHANCE TO MAKE THE BEST IMPRESSION

the child and the parentare often born at the same time.

IF YOU EVER WANT YOUR CHILD TO CHANGE,

YOU WILL HAVE TO CHANGE FIRST

Visual CV

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