Getting Married

“The greatest problem in communication is the illusion that it has been accomplished.”

Daniel W Davenport

Communication

Ways we Communicate

WordsFacial Expressions

Body Language

Silence

“When a man speaks, he gives you a piece of his mind, when a woman

speaks, she gives you a piece of her heart.”

From ‘Mars and Venus Together Forever’ by John Grey

Decide who will be responsible for monitoring finances

Make regular time to talk about them

Agree realistic budget & review bank statements together regularly

Be realistic – most of us spend 10% more than we earn!

Beware of plastic money

Make sure lifestyle fits your budget

Be honest – never hide the truth

Managing Finances

Conflict is inevitable,

combat is optional!

Disagreements….DON’T..

Forget the issue Be historical “You always..”

“You never…” “Yes, but.”

Involve others Criticise partner in

public Use insults,

blame.. Deny being partly

responsible

Find right time to talk – 10pm rule

Stick to the issue Choose words

carefully Non-confrontational

phrases Hear your partner out Try to understand the

meaning & feeling behind words

Pray Be ready to back

down Resolve differences

lovingly before sleep Be first to say “sorry”

not “Sorry but…” Remember the

awesome power of forgiveness

Disagreements… DO…