Session 4: X3pure Men’s SeriesConfession & Accountability

Review

ReviewUnwanted Sexual Behavior

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Review

White-Knuckle Change||

Abstinence||

Relapse

Real Change||

Understanding of Physiology||

Abstinence||

Acceptance of Conditional Love||

Pursuit of Unconditional Love

Unwanted Sexual Behavior||

Confession and Accountability

Confession and Accountability

• White Knuckle Change vs. Real Change

Confession and Accountability

• White Knuckle Change vs. Real Change

- We need to be on the real change side of the Sexual Sobriety Map.

Confession and Accountability

• White Knuckle Change vs. Real Change

- We need to be on the real change side of the Sexual Sobriety Map.

- We need to be looking at how our lives are structured.

Confession and Accountability

• White Knuckle Change vs. Real Change

- We need to be on the real change side of the Sexual Sobriety Map.

- We need to be looking at how our lives are structured.

- Who is in them?

Confession and Accountability

• White Knuckle Change vs. Real Change

- We need to be on the real change side of the Sexual Sobriety Map.

- We need to be looking at how our lives are structured.

- Who is in them?

- What meaning life ultimately has for us, not just physical ways of stopping

the behavior.

Confession and Accountability

Confession and Accountability

• Terry’s Example

Confession and Accountability

• Someone you trust with the hard truths, realities and struggles of your recovery

Confession and Accountability

• Someone you trust with the hard truths, realities and struggles of your recovery

Confession and Accountability

• Self-differentiation

• Someone you trust with the hard truths, realities and struggles of your recovery

Confession and Accountability

• Self-differentiation - Why did Terry want to use pornography in the first place?

Next 3 Sessions

Next 3 Sessions

• Focus on the physiology of sexual addiction

Next 3 Sessions

• Focus on the physiology of sexual addiction - What happens in the brain when we use, or want to use, the object of our addiction?

Self Differentiation

Self Differentiation

• An ability to see yourself as separate from those people or groups of people in your life who love you conditionally, which means that they don’t just love you for who you are (warts and all), but love you only if you act or behave in a certain way.

Confession & Accountability

• Understand that to begin on your journey of real change you need to have the beginnings of unconditional support.

Confession & Accountability

• Understand that to begin on your journey of real change you need to have the beginnings of unconditional support.

Confession & Accountability

• This could be...

• Understand that to begin on your journey of real change you need to have the beginnings of unconditional support.

Confession & Accountability

• This could be... - A mother, father, brother or sister

• Understand that to begin on your journey of real change you need to have the beginnings of unconditional support.

Confession & Accountability

• This could be... - A mother, father, brother or sister

- An uncle or aunt

• Understand that to begin on your journey of real change you need to have the beginnings of unconditional support.

Confession & Accountability

• This could be... - A mother, father, brother or sister

- An uncle or aunt

- A close friend

• Understand that to begin on your journey of real change you need to have the beginnings of unconditional support.

Confession & Accountability

• This could be... - A mother, father, brother or sister

- An uncle or aunt

- A close friend

- Your wife

• Understand that to begin on your journey of real change you need to have the beginnings of unconditional support.

Confession & Accountability

• This could be... - A mother, father, brother or sister

- An uncle or aunt

- A close friend

- Your wife

- A church friend or church leader

• Understand that to begin on your journey of real change you need to have the beginnings of unconditional support.

Confession & Accountability

• This could be... - A mother, father, brother or sister

- An uncle or aunt

- A close friend

- Your wife

- A church friend or church leader

- A counselor or therapist.

Assignment

Assignment

• Figure out whom you can confess to and from from whom to seek accountability.

Assignment

• Figure out whom you can confess to and from from whom to seek accountability.

• Remember that God created us for community and it is when we are in a community of unconditional love that we begin to thrive and become the best we can be.