shrm 2016 lead differently

#ILSHRM16Leading By Example

Daniel Lobb, CPLPTRP Enterprises, Inc.

Foundational Skill

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Stay Positive, Productive and EffectiveNo matter what the circumstances!

Session Objectives

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• Inspire others. Lead by example.• Explore the impact of a positive

mindset, and the consequences of victim thinking.

• Develop the resiliency that inspires others to move through adversity.

Objectives

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EQ OR IQ ?EmotionalQuotient

IntelligenceQuotient

(Emotional Intelligence)

•What percentage of job success is determined by our IQ?•Optimism, support, seeing stress as an opportunity.

Shawn Achor,Positive Psychologist

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Why does EQ matter?

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•What percentage of job success is determined by our IQ?•Optimism, support, seeing stress as an opportunity.

Shawn Achor,Positive Psychologist

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Why does EQ matter?

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Victim Mentality Statements

Look what you made me do!!

I told you not to do it like that.

Who did this!? If it weren’t for

you, I could get my job done!

Nobody ever listensto me… why bother?

It’s not my fault!What did you do it that way for?

Can you believe what he/she just said/did to me? 8

• If things are going wrong, or badly, or not to my liking, then someone is to blame.

• It is necessary to identify the persons, circumstances, or sources of why things are not as I think they should be.

• Blame must be determined and accepted by the wrongdoer, and things must be made right.

• I am justified in being emotionally upset.

Neither growth nor learning result from the bad things that happen to me.

The Victim Mentality

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Everything that happens to me provides me with Opportunities For Learning And Growth. I cannot blame anyone else for how I feel, what I do, or the attitude I choose.

Totally Responsible Person

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Stimulus

Reaction

Opportunity

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STIMULUS CHOICE RESPONSE

Opportunity

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Choice

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<Messages Contact

I am going to take you away this weekend.

My Sweetie

On my way to get you right now.

I have chocolate

and wine.

AWARENESSALLOWS

STIMULUS CHOICE RESPONSE

Awareness

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We are here

Victim Mentality TRP

Let’s Review…

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ELEMENTS of Self-Responsibility

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1. Everything that happens to me provides me with opportunities for learning and growth.

ELEMENTS of Self-Responsibility

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1. Everything that happens to me provides me with opportunities for learning and growth.

2. I cannot blame anyone elsefor how I feel, what I do,or the attitude I choose.

“At one point I was a product of my environment but in time I made my environment a product of me.

I’ve learned to eliminate the excuses that today our youth use to justify their failure.

If you want to get out of your situation you can, but you must decide to do so. I didn’t blame the problems I encountered through life on my parents.”

Derek Anderson Author, Entrepreneur

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ELEMENTS of Self-Responsibility

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1. Everything that happens to me provides me with opportunities for learning and growth.

2. I cannot blame anyone else for how I feel, what I do, or the attitude I choose.

3. I shall seek no exceptions to this belief… even when I’m not at fault.

Mary BarraChief Executive

Officer, General Motors

“We accept responsibility

for our mistakes and

commit to doing

everything in our power to

prevent this from

happening again.”

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What does TRP mean to you?

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Who is a personal role model for you, either now, or someone who has served that role in the past?

What does TRP mean to you?

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For whom are you a role model? Who is looking up to you to “Be TRP?”

Stimulus

Awarene

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Develop

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Negative

Reaction

Positive

Response

Moment of

Choice

Moments of Choice

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What am I taking away?

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