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Mazel tov!
Being a Bar/Bat Mitzvah parent is super exciting – and super stressful. Between
venues and vendors, food and favors, décor and more… your head can start
spinning years ahead of the actual Mitzvah date.
To help you keep your head on your shoulders and reduce the risk of
hyperventilation, we created The Ultimate Bar/Bat Mitzvah Prep Guide.
A combination guide and notebook, the Prep Guide will outline all the different
components that go into your Bar/Bat Mitzvah planning (so you won’t forget any).
Each component has prompts for you to write down all the details as you
investigate.
No more forgetting to ask important questions and wasting time and
energy calling back.
Plus, when it’s time to make a decision, all the information will be
organized, at your fingertips.
So what are you waiting for? Print this out, and let’s get started planning The
Ultimate Bar/Bat Mitzvah – your child’s!
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Basic Info
Child’s name: __________________________
Bar/Bat Mitzvah Date: ____________________________
What parts will your B’Mitzvah have?
Synagogue service
Party in hall or hotel
Other _________________________
What will your child be doing in preparation for his/her B’Mitzvah?
Torah reading
Mitzvah project
Other _____________________
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Venue
Where will you have the B’Mitzvah?
List potential venues for the party:
(This is brainstorming. List the Queen Elizabeth if you want. You’ll narrow it down
later.)
1. ________________________________________________
2. ________________________________________________
3. ________________________________________________
4. ________________________________________________
5. ________________________________________________
6. ________________________________________________
7. ________________________________________________
8. ________________________________________________
9. ________________________________________________
10. _______________________________________________
Circle the venues that have the most potential. For each of those venues, use
the detail boxes on the next pages to keep track of the information.
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Venue: __________________________________
Location: _________________________________
Contact Info: ______________________________
_______________________________
Contact person: ____________________________
Price: ____________________________________
Available on our date? ___________________________
Other details:
Venue: __________________________________
Location: _________________________________
Contact Info: ______________________________
_______________________________
Contact person: ____________________________
Price: ____________________________________
Available on our date? ___________________________
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Venue: __________________________________
Location: _________________________________
Contact Info: ______________________________
_______________________________
Contact person: ____________________________
Price: ____________________________________
Available on our date? ___________________________
Other details:
Venue: __________________________________
Location: _________________________________
Contact Info: ______________________________
_______________________________
Contact person: ____________________________
Price: ____________________________________
Available on our date? ___________________________
Other details:
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List potential venues for the synagogue service:
(Again, this is brainstorming. List any and every option. You’ll narrow it down
later.)
1. ________________________________________________
2. ________________________________________________
3. ________________________________________________
4. ________________________________________________
5. ________________________________________________
6. ________________________________________________
7. ________________________________________________
8. ________________________________________________
9. ________________________________________________
10. ________________________________________________
Circle the venues that have the most potential. For each of those venues, use
the detail boxes on the next pages to keep track of the information.
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Venue: __________________________________
Location: _________________________________
Contact Info: ______________________________
_______________________________
Contact person: ____________________________
Price: ____________________________________
Available on our date? ___________________________
Other details:
Venue: __________________________________
Location: _________________________________
Contact Info: ______________________________
_______________________________
Contact person: ____________________________
Price: ____________________________________
Available on our date? ___________________________
Other details:
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Honors
Family and friends are often given honors during the synagogue service. These
can include the aliyot (being called up for the Torah reading), the opening of the
Ark, or the rolling up of the Torah scroll after the reading.
Start thinking about the different honors you will assign and to whom. Honor Honoree
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Mitzvah Project
In many communities, the bar/bat mitzvah child does a mitzvah project to add
meaning and significance to becoming a Jewish adult.
Here are some ideas to get you started: Toy drive, food drive, volunteer in soup
kitchen, volunteer in nursing home, collect money for charity, clothing drive…
A recommended resource is http://www.themitzvahbowl.com/
Brainstorm mitzvah project ideas here:
1. ________________________________________________
2. ________________________________________________
3. ________________________________________________
4. ________________________________________________
5. ________________________________________________
6. ________________________________________________
7. ________________________________________________
8. ________________________________________________
9. ________________________________________________
10. ________________________________________________
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B’Mitzvah Tutor/Class
B’Mitzvah tutors and classes can cover anything from reading your child’s Torah
portion to Hebrew language to Jewish history and customs to Jewish values and
responsibilities.
Your child may be attending a Jewish school or Hebrew school where they do
some preparation for the B’Mitzvah, and a tutor/class will be a supplement. Or
the class/tutor may be their only B’Mitzvah prep.
What preparation for the B’Mitzvah does your child already get from his/her
school?
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What extra things do you want a tutor or class to teach your child?
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List names and details of potential B’Mitzvah tutors/classes:
Name: __________________________________
Contact Info: ______________________________
_______________________________
Recommended by: _________________________
Goals for B’Mitzvah child: ____________________________________
__________________________________________________________
Timeframe: ________________________________________________
Price: ___________________________
Other details:
Name: __________________________________
Contact Info: ______________________________
_______________________________
Recommended by: _________________________
Goals for B’Mitzvah child: ____________________________________
__________________________________________________________
Timeframe: ________________________________________________
Price: ___________________________
Other details:
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Food
Food, glorious food. The fuel of every great event. B’Mitzvah fare can range from
homecooked goodness to royal feasts and everything in between. And then there
are the trimmings: candy bars, food trucks, B’Mitzvah cakes… Put your money
where your mouth is, please.
What extras do you want to have at the B’Mitzvah?
B’Mitzvah cake
Candy bar
Food truck
Other ___________________
Other ___________________
What do you want your menu to look like?
Get all your ideas down. Everything from specific dishes, to cooking style, to
presentation.
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List potential caterers:
(This is brainstorming. You’ll narrow it down later.)
1. ________________________________________________
2. ________________________________________________
3. ________________________________________________
4. ________________________________________________
5. ________________________________________________
6. ________________________________________________
7. ________________________________________________
8. ________________________________________________
9. ________________________________________________
10. _______________________________________________
Circle the caterers that have the most potential. For each of those caterers, use
the detail boxes on the next pages to keep track of the information.
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Caterer: __________________________________
Contact Info: ______________________________
_______________________________
Contact person: ____________________________
Price: ____________________________________
Available on our date? ___________________________
Other details:
Caterer: __________________________________
Contact Info: ______________________________
_______________________________
Contact person: ____________________________
Price: ____________________________________
Available on our date? ___________________________
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List options for food trucks (if relevant):
1. ________________________________________________
2. ________________________________________________
3. ________________________________________________
4. ________________________________________________
5. ________________________________________________
Circle the trucks that have the most potential. For each of those options, use
the detail boxes on the next pages to keep track of the information.
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Food Truck: __________________________________
Contact Info: ______________________________
_______________________________
Contact person: ____________________________
Price: ____________________________________
Available on our date? ___________________________
Other details:
Food Truck: __________________________________
Contact Info: ______________________________
_______________________________
Contact person: ____________________________
Price: ____________________________________
Available on our date? ___________________________
Other details:
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Cake design:
List options for bakers:
1. ________________________________________________
2. ________________________________________________
3. ________________________________________________
4. ________________________________________________
5. ________________________________________________
Circle the bakers that have the most potential. For each of those options, use
the detail boxes on the next pages to keep track of the information.
(You can always print out more of those pages if there aren’t enough.)
Do you have ideas about the cake flavor and/or design?
Get all your thoughts down.
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________________________________________________________________
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Baker: __________________________________
Contact Info: ______________________________
_______________________________
Cake options and prices: ____________________________________
____________________________________
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Other details:
Baker: __________________________________
Contact Info: ______________________________
_______________________________
Cake options and prices: ____________________________________
____________________________________
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Other details:
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Are wine and liquor included in the catering?
Yes
No
If not, are you having a bar?
List options for bars/bartenders:
1. ________________________________________________
2. ________________________________________________
3. ________________________________________________
4. ________________________________________________
5. ________________________________________________
Circle the bars/bartenders that have the most potential. For each option, use
the detail boxes on the next pages to keep track of the information.
(You can always print out more of those pages if there aren’t enough.)
What types of wine and liquor do you want to have at the B’Mitzvah?
________________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________________
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Bar service/bartender: __________________________________
Contact Info: ______________________________
_______________________________
Contact person: ____________________________
Options and prices: ____________________________________
____________________________________
____________________________________
Available on our date? ___________________________
Other details:
Bar service/bartender: __________________________________
Contact Info: ______________________________
_______________________________
Contact person: ____________________________
Options and prices: ____________________________________
____________________________________
____________________________________
Available on our date? ___________________________
Other details:
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Guests
This is the really important part, right? Which family and friends you want to be
present at your occasion? (And which people you might not want, but you need
to invite anyway? Yes, the guest list is one of the most important parts, but
sometimes it’s fun to plan, and sometimes there’s stress involved. It’s like that for
almost everyone. Either way, time to start thinking about it.)
Preliminary guest list:
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Party planner
Are you having one?
Yes
No
Maybe – depends on _________________________
List options for party planners:
1. ________________________________________________
2. ________________________________________________
3. ________________________________________________
4. ________________________________________________
5. ________________________________________________
6. ________________________________________________
7. ________________________________________________
8. ________________________________________________
9. ________________________________________________
10. _______________________________________________
Circle the planners that have the most potential. For each option, use the detail
boxes on the next pages to keep track of the information.
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Party Planner: __________________________________
Contact Info: ______________________________
_______________________________
Price: ____________________________________
Available on our date? ___________________________
Other details:
Party Planner: __________________________________
Contact Info: ______________________________
_______________________________
Price: ____________________________________
Available on our date? ___________________________
Other details:
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Theme
This is where you get to let your creativity run loose (or develop it).
Colors:
Will you have a theme?
Yes
No
What color scheme do you want? (Keep in mind décor of rooms/areas you’ve
reserved for ceremony and reception.)
________________________________________________________________
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________________________________________________________________
List potential themes.
________________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________________
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Who will be in charge of creating the décor?
Us (who in family? ______________________________)
Outside source
If outside source, list options:
1. ________________________________________________
2. ________________________________________________
3. ________________________________________________
4. ________________________________________________
5. ________________________________________________
6. ________________________________________________
7. ________________________________________________
8. ________________________________________________
9. ________________________________________________
10. _______________________________________________
Circle the options that have the most potential. Use the detail boxes on the next
pages to keep track of the information.
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Decorator: __________________________________
Contact Info: ______________________________
_______________________________
Price: ____________________________________
Available on our date? ___________________________
Other details:
Decorator: __________________________________
Contact Info: ______________________________
_______________________________
Price: ____________________________________
Available on our date? ___________________________
Other details:
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Traditions
List B’Mitzvah traditions you may want to incorporate into your ceremony or
party (poems, candlelighting):
1. ________________________________________________
2. ________________________________________________
3. ________________________________________________
4. ________________________________________________
5. ________________________________________________
6. ________________________________________________
7. ________________________________________________
8. ________________________________________________
9. ________________________________________________
10. _______________________________________________
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Entertainment
What type of entertainment are you thinking about having? Options include
bands and MC/DJs.
For each type of entertainment, list options. Use the detail boxes on the next
pages to keep track of the information.
Type of entertainment ___________________________________
1. ________________________________________________
2. ________________________________________________
3. ________________________________________________
4. ________________________________________________
5. ________________________________________________
Start thinking music! What are the “must-play” and “must-not-play” songs
for your DJ/band?
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________________________________________________________________
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Entertainment: __________________________________
Contact Info: ______________________________
_______________________________
Contact person: ____________________________
Price: ____________________________________
Available on our date? ___________________________
Other details:
Entertainment: __________________________________
Contact Info: ______________________________
_______________________________
Contact person: ____________________________
Price: ____________________________________
Available on our date? ___________________________
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Type of entertainment ___________________________________
1. ________________________________________________
2. ________________________________________________
3. ________________________________________________
4. ________________________________________________
5. ________________________________________________
Entertainment: __________________________________
Contact Info: ______________________________
_______________________________
Contact person: ____________________________
Price: ____________________________________
Available on our date? ___________________________
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Type of entertainment ___________________________________
1. ________________________________________________
2. ________________________________________________
3. ________________________________________________
4. ________________________________________________
5. ________________________________________________
Entertainment: __________________________________
Contact Info: ______________________________
_______________________________
Contact person: ____________________________
Price: ____________________________________
Available on our date? ___________________________
Other details:
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photos
Pictures show up at B’Mitzvahs around every corner, whether it’s the photo
montage of your young man or woman when they were two years old with sweet
potato smeared in their hair, or the photographer snapping pics of them laughing
with their friends.
Photographers
List options for photographers:
1. ________________________________________________
2. ________________________________________________
3. ________________________________________________
4. ________________________________________________
5. ________________________________________________
What’s important to you in a photographer? Think about style, attitude,
timeliness…
________________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________________
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Photographer: __________________________________
Contact Info: ______________________________
_______________________________
Options and prices: ____________________________________
____________________________________
____________________________________
Available on our date? ___________________________
Other details:
Photographer: __________________________________
Contact Info: ______________________________
_______________________________
Options and prices: ____________________________________
____________________________________
____________________________________
Available on our date? ___________________________
Other details:
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Will you take a family portrait pre-B’mitzvah?
Yes
No
Maybe
Will you have a photo booth?
Yes
No
Maybe
List options for photo booths:
1. ________________________________________________
2. ________________________________________________
3. ________________________________________________
4. ________________________________________________
5. ________________________________________________
Circle the options that have the most potential. Use the detail boxes on the next
pages to keep track of the information.
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Photo booth: __________________________________
Contact Info: ______________________________
_______________________________
Options and prices: ____________________________________
____________________________________
____________________________________
Available on our date? ___________________________
Other details:
Photo booth: __________________________________
Contact Info: ______________________________
_______________________________
Options and prices: ____________________________________
____________________________________
____________________________________
Available on our date? ___________________________
Other details:
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Will you have a photo montage?
Yes
No
Maybe
Who will be in charge of creating the photo montage?
Us (who in family? ______________________________)
Outside source
List options for photo montage providers:
1. ________________________________________________
2. ________________________________________________
3. ________________________________________________
4. ________________________________________________
What theme or style would you like in the photo montage?
________________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________________
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Photo montage: __________________________________
Contact Info: ______________________________
_______________________________
Options and prices: ____________________________________
____________________________________
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Other details:
Photo montage: __________________________________
Contact Info: ______________________________
_______________________________
Options and prices: ____________________________________
____________________________________
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Will you have a videographer?
Yes
No
Maybe
List options for videographers:
1. ________________________________________________
2. ________________________________________________
3. ________________________________________________
4. ________________________________________________
5. ________________________________________________
Circle the options that have the most potential. Use the detail boxes on the
next pages to keep track of the information.
What’s important to you in a photographer? Think about style, attitude,
timeliness…
________________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________________
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Videographer: __________________________________
Contact Info: ______________________________
_______________________________
Options and prices: ____________________________________
____________________________________
____________________________________
Available on our date? ___________________________
Other details:
Videographer: __________________________________
Contact Info: ______________________________
_______________________________
Options and prices: ____________________________________
____________________________________
____________________________________
Available on our date? ___________________________
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Flowers
List options for florists:
1. ________________________________________________
2. ________________________________________________
3. ________________________________________________
4. ________________________________________________
5. ________________________________________________
Circle the options that have the most potential. Use the detail boxes on the
next pages to keep track of the information.
(You can always print out more of those pages if there aren’t enough.)
What types of flowers do you want to have at the B’Mitzvah?
________________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________________
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Florist: __________________________________
Contact Info: ______________________________
_______________________________
Options and prices: ____________________________________
____________________________________
____________________________________
Available on our date? ___________________________
Other details:
Florist: __________________________________
Contact Info: ______________________________
_______________________________
Options and prices: ____________________________________
____________________________________
____________________________________
Available on our date? ___________________________
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Printed Items
There’s a lot of paper that goes into B’Mitzvahs: invitations, announcements,
thank you notes. Although e-versions are gaining in popularity, most people still
want to hold something in their hand.
List options for designers/printers:
1. ________________________________________________
2. ________________________________________________
3. ________________________________________________
4. ________________________________________________
5. ________________________________________________
Circle the options that have the most potential. Use the detail boxes on the
next pages to keep track of the information.
What type of design were you thinking about for the invitation?
________________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________________
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Designer/printer: __________________________________
Contact Info: ______________________________
_______________________________
Options and prices: ____________________________________
____________________________________
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Other details:
Designer/printer: __________________________________
Contact Info: ______________________________
_______________________________
Options and prices: ____________________________________
____________________________________
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Will you have a logo/monogram designed for the B’Mitzvah?
Yes
No
Will the invitation designer do the logo/monogram?
Yes
No
If not, list options for logo designers:
1. ________________________________________________
2. ________________________________________________
3. ________________________________________________
4. ________________________________________________
5. ________________________________________________
Circle the options that have the most potential. Use the detail boxes on the
next pages to keep track of the information.
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Logo designer: __________________________________
Contact Info: ______________________________
_______________________________
Price: ____________________________________
Other details:
Logo designer: __________________________________
Contact Info: ______________________________
_______________________________
Price: ____________________________________
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Will you get thank you cards from the same source as the invitation?
Yes
No
If not, where will you get thank you notes?
__________________________________________________________________
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Equipment
Do you need tables, chairs, or other rental equipment that are not given by the
venue?
Type of Equipment How Many? Places to Get from
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Favors
What will you give your guests to take home? From chocolates to backpacks,
almost anything can be personalized and provide a souvenir of your B’Mitzvah.
List ideas for favors:
1. ________________________________________________
2. ________________________________________________
3. ________________________________________________
4. ________________________________________________
5. ________________________________________________
List possible places to order the favors:
1. ________________________________________________
2. ________________________________________________
3. ________________________________________________
4. ________________________________________________
5. ________________________________________________
Circle the options that have the most potential. Use the detail boxes on the
next pages to keep track of the information.
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Favor source: __________________________________
Contact Info: ______________________________
_______________________________
Options and prices: ____________________________________
____________________________________
____________________________________
Other details:
Favor source: __________________________________
Contact Info: ______________________________
_______________________________
Options and prices: ____________________________________
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Guestbook
Your guestbook/sign-in book gives your guests the opportunity to leave a
personal message on the big day. It’s great to look at afterwards and remember
all the people who were there and the special wishes they had for the B’Mitzvah
celebrant.
Sign-in books don’t have to be books; they can be signs, montages – even a door!
Who will be in charge of creating the guestbook?
Us (who in family? ______________________________)
Outside source
If outside source, what are the options?
1. ________________________________________________
2. ________________________________________________
3. ________________________________________________
4. ________________________________________________
Brainstorm ideas for guestbooks: book, board or something else? What type
of design or style do you want?
________________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________________
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Circle the options that have the most potential. Use the detail boxes to keep
track of the information.
Guestbook creator: __________________________________
Contact Info: ______________________________
_______________________________
Options and prices: ____________________________________
____________________________________
Other details:
Guestbook creator: __________________________________
Contact Info: ______________________________
_______________________________
Options and prices: ____________________________________
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Clothing
Clothes make the man – on the day he or she turns into a man/woman! Take
some time to plan out the clothing before you hit the stores.
Is there a color theme for the clothing?
____________________________________________________________
Family member
Part of B’Mitzvah (service, party)
Clothing needed
Check this box when have clothing
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Guest packages
Your local family and friends will be able to make it to the B’Mitzvah with the
driving instructions you’ll enclose in the invitation. Out-of-town guests may need
a little more guidance, like packages with hotel reservation and city information.
How many out-of-town guests are you having?
________________
What information will they need to know for travel and stay arrangements for
the B’Mitzvah?
___________________________________________________________________
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___________________________________________________________________
How and when will you get them that information?
___________________________________________________________________
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Speech
The speeches can be the most powerful and memorable parts of the B’Mitzvah –
both for your child and for your guests. Put in the thought, the time – and get
guidance if you need it in order to come out with a wowzer!
Who will be speaking? (child, you and/or spouse, other family or friends)
1. ________________________________________________
2. ________________________________________________
3. ________________________________________________
4. ________________________________________________
5. ________________________________________________
Start planning your speech. What do want to say about your B’Mitzvah child?
What messages do you want your child to take with them?
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Transportation
Sometimes it’s as simple as “our family will go in the family car and everyone else
will get there on their own.” And sometimes there are elderly relatives who need
to be picked up, or other transportation responsibilities that fall on you. Be smart
– plan in advance so that you don’t end up making last minute phone calls to find
rides the night before.
Who do I need to find a ride for?
Who can potentially drive them?
Who is driving them? (final)
Do you need to arrange parking at the venue?
Yes
No
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Seating Plan
Who’s sitting next to whom? Until they create a computer program that can take
into account everyone’s relationships and preferences, we’re stuck doing it by
hand. But it’s worth it when everyone has great conversation and gets along with
their seatmates.
How many tables will there be? _______________________________________
How many people at each table? ______________________________________
Use the next pages to draw out sample tables and seating arrangements (hint:
use a pencil).
Are there any special relationships that should be taken into consideration
(people who definitely should or definitely should not be sitting next to each
other/at the same table)?
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Seating Plan charts 1
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Seating plan charts 2
A powerful, expressive speech that’s YOU. www.yourjewishspeech.com
Anything else?
We’ve tried to make this guide as comprehensive as possible. But your B’Mitzvah
is unique, and so you make have unique things you’re planning. Use this page to
keep track of them.
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The end
Wow! You are one planned out parent! We’re sure you’ll have an amazing, and
hopefully more relaxed B’Mitzvah.
(If you have any feedback on how this guide could be made more useful for
B’Mitzvah parents like you, be in touch at [email protected]. We’re
here to help.
And if you find yourself getting stuck on your speech for your B’Mitzvah boy or
girl, be in touch for a free speech consultation. We’ve worked with a lot of
parents who say, “I don’t know why this is so hard. I can usually communicate
really well. But for some reason I’m having a hard time expressing my thoughts
about my child.” We’ve helped them get their thoughts in order and give
speeches they love. So if that’s you, drop us a line.)
Mazel tov!