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Dear Birthmother,

I’ve written this as a kind of letter to you, so that

you might get a sense of who I am and the kind

of parent I plan to be. I know that this might be a

hard time for you, and I’m hoping we can go

through it together!

I’ve been looking forward to being someone’s

mom for as long as I can remember, and I’m

excited about doing it through an open adoption.

I have a lot of love to share and open adoption

feels right to me. I would be thrilled if you wouldconsider me to be your baby’s mom, and I look

forward to hearing from you!

-- Eve

Please contact me through Adoption Consultants Inc.,

1-800-605-4588 www.adoptionconsultantsinc.com

Hello,

I’m Eve!

In Sunny Alameda,

California

Thank you for reading my profile!

Me with my nephew Diego

when he was a baby and now.



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My house is usually full of loving friends

and family, with lots of kids running

around inside and in my yard. They’ve all

been waiting excitedly to welcome and

spend time with my baby.

My friends and family describe me as

funny, smart, loving, and honest. I’m

known for making up funny songs,

especially when I’m with kids. I know I’m

going to make up tons of silly songs and

dances for my baby. Luckily, my family

and friends, and even my students, have a

great sense of humor about this, and I loveto make them laugh.

Having friends over for dinner. I love

to cook!

The things that are most important to me

are being kind and compassionate, loving,

forgiving, honest, keeping to my word, and

working hard to be the best I can be. For

my entire life I will be learning how to be

a better me.

I understand that in choosing

someone to raise your child, you might

wonder if a single woman could raise a child

with a rich and full family, and with the

positive male and female role models you’d

want them to have. That question makes

total sense to me. I feel fully confident that I

have everything one could want in a parent.

I know a lot about children of all ages,

having taken care of my friends’ children

and my nephews, and having devoted my

life to working with kids and teenagers.

Spending time with my friends’ son Joaquin

Enjoying

fresh

veggieswith my

nephew

Camilo



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I grew up in a wonderful neighborhood in New York

City. My sister Danielle and I had friends from

many different backgrounds. I am so grateful that

my parents raised us in that type of environment,because I grew up comfortable and knowledgeable

about different cultures. This has helped me so

much as an adult, both in my work as an educator

and in my personal life.

I’ve worked in very diverse settings where it has

been important for me to understand people from

different backgrounds. I think growing up in the

community that I did pushed me to always want tounderstand other people’s experiences and

perspectives, not solely my own.

Below, you can see my second grade class!

In front of the

building where I grew up in NY, with a

childhood friend

I ’ m i n t h e

t h i r d r o w d o w n a l l t h e w a y o n t h e l e f t .




It seems like I’ve been preparing

for this moment since then.

After graduating from high

school, I was very focused on

getting through college, going to

graduate school, starting my

career, and buying a home. I

wanted to do all of those things

to prepare myself to be a great

mom to my child when the timewas right.

For years adoption has felt right to me. I’ve never tried

to get pregnant; I always thought I would create a family

this way. It’s one of the ways I feel I can serve the world.

I believe it is important for my child to know his or her

birthmother and birth family. We will all be important

parts of this child’s family.

I’d like to keep in touch and see each other at least once

a year, if this is something that you might enjoy as well!

In addition to that, I hope we can talk on the phone,

send emails, and share pictures and information online.

Two of my close friends created their family through

Adoption Consultants, Inc., and have a wonderful

relationship with their son’s birthmother. They visit her

once a year. She and her family are an extended part of

their family. Temporary foster baby Ruby




As practice for when I become a mom,

I’ve fostered two children who were in

need of a temporary home. One was ateenager named Michael, and the

other was a baby, Ruby. I was happy

to be able to provide a loving and

stable home for those two children

during intense transitions in their

lives. I loved having them here and

sharing my home, and it has only

made me even more excited to becomea mother to my own, permanent child now!

Through those experiences I learned that

open adoption really does feel right to me.

I want to know my child from birth, and be

able to provide him or her with contact

with their biological family.

Temporary foster baby Ruby

My nephew Camilo helping feed

foster baby Ruby

Temporary foster child Michael with his trumpet




Me with my parents Barbara and Mark

I grew up in a very loving family in New

York City, and since then we’ve all

relocated to the San Francisco Bay Area.

I share a two family house with my

sister Danielle and her family. I drive

my nephews Camilo and Diego to school

several days a week, and spend lots of

time with them.

My sister and her kids, silly as usual

My mom and sister at one

of our family dinners Almost the whole crew at Thanksgiving

Our parents Mark and Barbara live anhour away, and visit us every weekend.

On the weeks when we don’t have a big

family dinner all together, I get to spend

time alone with my parents, taking a walk

near my house, or having lunch or dinner,

and talking about our lives.

We have big holiday celebrations with my

godparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins.

For Thanksgiving we either gather at my

parents’ house or my godparents’ house. I

love to cook, and always help make the

meal.

Me with

my sister

and

newborn

nephew




My home is walking distance from

parks, playgrounds, the library,

great schools, stores and

restaurants.

The town I live in has great free

activities in the parks in the

summer. My grandfather loves to go

with us to outdoor movies in the

park near our house. We usuallybring a picnic dinner, and my

nephews play with their friends

until the movie starts. Once the sun

goes down, we bundle up and drink

hot chocolate! Last summer we saw

Up and Kung Fu Panda 2.

At the movie in the ark with m randfather Po i

My home is very spacious – in addition to the living room, dining room, and

large kitchen, I have a den/play room just off the kitchen and next to thebaby’s room. The baby’s room is all ready, with a crib, a changing table,

bookshelves full of children’s books, and lots of toys.




“Mima”, as my

nephews call my

mother, loves to do art

activities with Camilo

and Diego. She bringsover paints, markers,

glue, ribbon, glitter,

old paper towel rolls,

egg cartons… anything

they can get creative

with!

My parents live about an hour

away in Santa Cruz, a beach

town with a fun boardwalk with

roller coasters, bumper cars,

and lots of other rides and

games.

I hope one day my

child and my nephews

will take surf lessons

out there, while

spending time with

their grandparents.

My mom and Dad visit every

weekend. Here my dad Mark

is holding my nephew Diego.

My mom doing art with my nephews in our backyard




Last summer we took a trip to

Washington, DC. It is important

to me to take my child to see

our nation’s capital as well.

My nephews Camilo and

Diego at the National

Zoo in Washington DC

In front of the Washington Monument

with my nephews Diego and Camilo

and our cousin Lucas.

Camilo and I had fun building

an electric car at a

science museum in Berkeley

Two summers ago I

took my older

nephew to visit our

cousins at the beach

in Cape Cod.

I love air hockey, and my

nephew does too!

Digital butterflies landed on

us at the Tech Museum in

San Jose




We always celebrate Christmas with my mom’s

side of the family.

I can’t wait to share these traditions with my child.

I know we’ll bake cookies, decorate the house, and

sing carols together.

" My sister is pretty much my best friend. She’s one of the warmest, smartest,

most generous people I know. When my babies were born, she was there with me,

helping at each step as I got used to being a mom. Now my 2 sons constantly run

back and forth to their Tia Eve’s house. They love having her read, play games, do

arts and crafts, and cook with them. When it’s her turn to become a mom, I’ll be there

for her, 24/7. I can’t wait to meet my new niece or nephew!"

- Danielle

My sister Danielle and I at

Christmas when we were kids

My sister Danielle and I at

Christmas last year

I love these

handmade

Christmas

ornaments




Every fall, we take my

nephews to a harvest

festival on a farm in

Santa Cruz, nearwhere my parents

live.

My nephews choosing

pumpkins and gourds

Over the years, we’ve developed really fun traditions,

including our annual Halloween dinner and trick or

treating.

We all dress up in costumes, including my grandfather

Popi, who always dresses as a pirate! We live in a

neighborhood that has lots of families, and we get lots

of trick-or-treaters.

At our annual Halloween party, here’s Popi, my godson Jordan, and his dad Greg.

I’m holding our friend Asha, and my sister Danielle is holding Camilo.




Here, one of my “nieces” Alina and I were looking

longingly at the chocolate cake Danielle made for

Diego, which was amazing!

I really love feeding people and

making sure everyone is

having a good time, so when we

have parties like this, I’m

usually the hostess. I run

around and make

sure everyone has

what they need.

It’s nice to have

family and friends

here, and to watch

our friends’

children grow andchange.

I will be so happy

when my child will

be here to join in all

the fun!

We also have a great yard for birthday parties, and the

kids always love a piñata. At Diego’s 5th birthday party

he really tried to break it, but it took all of the kids tofinally get it open. My sister Danielle is a great baker

and she always makes homemade cakes.

In our backyard, my godson Jordan

painted the kids’ faces, and they all

jumped in the bouncy house for hours!




Every year we dye eggs with the kids

a few days before Easter. My sister

always hides eggs, candy and Easter

baskets, and they have fun searching

for them.

Later in the day, we get together with

my parents and grandfather for an

Easter meal, and spend the rest of the

day as a family.

My nephews Camilo and Diego on

Easter morning

We are Christian and Jewish, from New York, California and Chile. We speak

English and Spanish, and celebrate Christmas and Hanukkah, Easter and

Passover, July 4th as well as Chilean Independence Day.

These holiday traditions from

both religions remind me to

make the world a better place.

This is one of the values Ilearned from my parents, and

it guides my life.

I plan to teach all of these

traditions and values to

my child.

Eating my homemade holiday soup!




For the past 16 years, I have worked as

a middle and high school teacher and as

a high school principal.

I have worked in schools in San Francisco and

Oakland that are doing dynamic, creative work

with young people. I loved it, but now that I’m

hoping to become a new mom, I decided to

leave my position as principal last year. Being

a principal of a high school is a pretty

demanding position, and it doesn’t leave a lot of

time to raise a child.

I now have a much more flexible job evaluating schools in my district. My new position

lets me get home by early afternoon and have weekends and holidays off, as well as

several weeks in the summer. In addition to having much more free time to be a mom,

this position is giving me the chance to get to know all of the elementary schools in my

area – which will be very important in choosing the best school for my child! It is

important to me that my child attends a school with a strong academic program and

arts classes. It’s important to me that learning is fun and interesting! I will send him

or her to a school where children treat each other kindly and are taught to resolvetheir conflicts with words. I’m looking forward to volunteering in my child’s classroom,

because I know how helpful that is to teachers, and I’m excited to watch my child grow

and learn at school, as well as at home.

Becoming a mom isnow my top priority!

On a field trip to San Francisco with

my students a few years ago.




People who

work with me

know that Iwill fight for

what I believe

to be right.

I have strong

opinions about

education – every child

deserves to go

to a great school

- but I can also

be silly and

make everyone

laugh.

Photos from

my years of

teaching and

being a

principal




Last year, one of my former students was finishing college and living with his

family. He’s lucky to have a large and loving family, but with his siblings, their

friends, his little sister, his older sister’s baby, and a cousin who just came fromMexico, it was hard for him to study at home and he wanted to finish his last

semester of college strong. He stayed with me for several months as he finished

college. This is how I live. When someone needs something, if I can give it, I do.

When Huber was in 10th

grade, he was having a

hard time watchingmany of his friends from

elementary school drop

out of high school and

become involved with

illegal activity.

In this photo, my student Huber was presenting

his Senior Project – here we are with

another teacher

He wanted to travel and see a different part of the world, and so my family

connected him with the people we know in Chile. He spent the summer there,

living with a family and going to school, and it changed his perspective. He

hadn’t known many middle class professional Latinos before that, and I didn’t

want him to think that there aren’t any! I didn’t want him to think he had to

“act white” to go to college or do something important with his life.

He returned from that summer knowing that he can be Latino and be a

success, and he has been!




Eve Gordon has played a key role in my personal and professional

and academic life. She plays the role of a second mother in my life,

and I know she does that for many other former students as well.

While in my last semester of college at UC Berkeley, four years after

graduating from high school where she was my teacher and thenmy principal, she allowed me to stay with her while I was

struggling and facing many obstacles.

My mom was relieved that Eve helped

me out. She has known Eve since I

was in 10th grade, and trusts her

completely. She knew Eve would

watch out for me like I was her own

child, and help me finish college and

figure out the next steps in becoming

an adult. My mom immigrated here from Mexico, doesn’t speak much

English, and didn’t go to college, so

knowing adults like Eve has been

really important to our whole family.

In my last semester of college I was facing a huge crossroads in my

life, and I wasn’t always making good decisions. Eve treated mewith kindness, and provided me with feedback that was hard to

hear sometimes, but was indeed helpful. I stayed with her for six

months and in addition to finishing college I made great personal

positive leaps in my life.

While I was living with her she provided me with advice when I felt

ungrounded and not myself. Besides letting me stay in her extra

bedroom (her future baby’s room), she pushed me to be my best self

just like she did when I was her high school student.

I love her so much for the nurturing and unconditional love she has

given me, and that she gives all of her students. When I needed a

place to stay to finish college, Eve is one of the adults that I thought

might help me, and she did. She’s that kind of person. She has one

of the biggest hearts, can make you laugh even when you’re crying,

and I admire her SO much. Someday, I hope to be as wise and

loving as she is.

Right after I gave Huber his high

school diploma as his principal




I have a wonderful group of friends. We love to play cards, especially Nerts,

which is like a cross between Solitare and Speed – it’s a crazy fast game that youcan play with 3-6 people, and some of my friends are so fast that once in a while

I shriek, throw my cards into the air, and run out of the room. Sometimes if we

have enough people we just split up and play with two groups, and I’m always in

the slower group!

I love to sing karaoke, and a few of my friends have karaoke machines at home.

Sometimes we’ll get together and just sing our hearts out. I particularly love to

sing 80’s tunes (that’s when I was in high school). Some of my favorites are

Madonna’s Borderline and the Fugees version of Killing Me Softly. My friend Annie and I really love to rock out together and make our friends laugh and

laugh as we dance around being silly.

My friends and I love to go away for long weekends and explore new places. One

of my favorite places to

go is the Russian River,

where we picnic and

play with the kids in thewater. At least once a

year I go up there with a

group, we rent a large

house and take turns

cooking for everyone.

One of my favorite

things to cook is chicken

with Chinese spices,

everyone loves it!

When we go to Yosemite,

we hike or ride bikes to

beautiful Mirror Lake.

Each year my friends Audrey and Jorge organize

a big group to visit Yosemite National Park, here

we are!




"Eve and I met 15 years ago when we were

teaching and I was pregnant with my 3rd child.

We quickly became close friends, and she’s playeda special role in our family's life since then.

Eve was in the hospital with my husband and I

for Jordan’s birth, and she helped us through

many parenting moments when our older boys

were teenagers.

We sent our boys to the high school she was

working at because it was such a great publicschool and we knew she’d keep an eye out for

them.

When they started college, they moved into the

apartment above her house, so they could have

their first experience of living

separately from us, as adults, but

with family close by.

I can’t wait to be 'Auntie' Soraya and

support Eve in motherhood, the same

way she has for me."

With Soraya’s family for a birthday

celebration at their house

With my friend Soraya at the

iceskating rink

One of my other close friends Michelle is

a runner. On this day, I brought her kids

Joey and Ty to watch her finish a half

marathon in San Francisco.




I was married for seven years, and we were in

the process of trying to adopt a child. A year

into that process, we realized that even

though we really loved each other, there werethings we each wanted that we couldn’t give

one other. He was having cold feet about

becoming a parent, while I was sure becoming

a parent was precisely what I wanted to do.

In fact, I’d been waiting for years.

That was three years ago, and we are still

friends. We share our sweet dog Lulu, whospends time with each of us at home.

Lulu is now five years old, and very sweet and

gentle. On weekends, friends and I take her on

trailhikesinthelargeparksinourarea.Sheloves

to run around, sniff everything, and play with

otherdogs.

LuluandmynephewCamilohave

hadaspecialbondsincethey

werebothlittle–helovestoplay

fetchwithherinourbackyard,

andhesneaksherlittlesnacks

whenI’mnotlooking!




I love visiting different places,

and can’t wait to take my child to

some of my favorite spots around

the world!

I’ve traveled to France, Spain,

Jamaica, and Hungary with my

family.

I’ve visited Cambodia, Mexico,

and Costa Rica with friends.

I’ve taken students with me to

present about our unique and

successful school at Education

conferences in Australia and

Denver, Colorado.

Over the years I have sung in

several groups, which have taken

me to England, Mexico, and Chile

to perform. For five years I sang

in a Latin American musical

group, and we traveled to Chile

and Mexico to perform. When we

were in Chile, I got to meet my

brother in law’s whole family.

Here I am with a group of dance

students in Cambodia.

In this picture, I

was in Mexico

visiting an

indigenous

community – it may

have been the only

time in my life

when I was

considered tall!!!

Last year I had the opportunity

to attend a conference for

principals in Rio de Janiero. I

traveled with several other

principals from Oakland, and

we had an amazing time

comparing the public

education systems in California

and Brazil.

We really did

have class on

the beach inBrazil! Here I

am with

colleagues

discussing

essays we’d

written while

enjoying fresh

coconut water!




Over the years, I’vebeen at the births of

both of my nephews,

as well as a number of

friends’ children.

I love spending time

with the kids in mylife, and know that I

really want to be more

than an aunty to a

little person.

I’ve wanted to become a mom through adoption since my early twenties, when I

realized that my strong desire to be a mom didn’t need to come through having my

own child, nor being married. I’ve traveled around the world and seen many children

in orphanages. I’ve worked with many children who were adopted, and have close

friends who were adopted themselves, as well as those who have adopted children.

One of my closest friends placed her first

child with another family when she was

younger, and so I have always had a deep

appreciation for the love and courage of women who make this choice.

I know that love is what makes a

family, and I am excited to share my

love, family and community with a

child.

Sitting with my sister Danielle holding my

nephew Diego. He was 1 week old!

Readin to m riends’ twin dau hters




I hope you’ve gotten a sense of who I am, and the kind of mother I’ll be. The

baby who comes into my life will also get my whole wonderful community of

family and friends, and they will have a full and rich life.

I’m very excited to meet you, and to learn what your hopes and dreams are

for this special little baby.

I believe each child is unique and arrives in this life with special

characteristics, talents and passions, and that each one will follow a unique

path in their lives. I believe that the adults in their lives (parents, aunties

and uncles, grandparents, teachers and coaches) all need to recognize what

is special about each child, and nurture and support them.

I am so excited to bring a baby into my life and my home. I'm looking

forward to sharing in all the joys of life, and being there to comfort her or

him in the difficult moments. I know this is going to be an amazing and

wonderful journey.

I wish you the best in this challenging decision, and trust that you will do

what’s right for you and your baby. Thank you for reading about me and

considering what I have to offer.

I can’t wait to hear from you!

Please contact me through Adoption

Consultants Inc., 1-800-605-4588

www.adoptionconsultantsinc.com

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