Being in Gratitude While Living on MiraclesBy: Jen Ward

Illustrations by: McKenzie KeimForeword by: Mariel Hemingway

Scallions are Free: Being in Gratitude While Living on MiraclesBy: Jen Ward

Foreword by: Mariel HemingwayIllustrations by: McKenzie Keim

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Scallions are Free

April1stismynewbirthday. It’sthedayIescapedfromamanwhowasdevotedtostarvingmetodeath.ItwasfromthatexperiencethatIlearnedtrueresilience,empathyandgratitude.IalsoexperiencedtheunwaveringLovefromanintangiblesourcethatnurturedmeinspiteofmyself. Iwaskeptinabasementandtreatedlikeanadmonishment.Iworkedfrombeforesunrisetoaftersunset.Onewinterdayitwasanall-dayrain.Myfeetweresoakedandmyclotheswerelightcotton.Digginginthegrounddissolvedmyworkgloves.Myhandswerenumb. Iwasn’tallowedtoquitworkuntilaftersunset.AllIwanted,wastoseethesunsothatIcouldfeelit’swarmth.Ialsowantedtoknowwhereitwasintheskytogetasenseofthetimeofday.Iworkedrepeatingadesperatepleaforthesuntocomeout.Istoodandcriedinanguish.Ibeggedforthedaytoend.Thesunbrieflycameout.Itwasinthatmoment,Iknewtruegratitude.ItwasasifIsuddenlybecamegratefulforexisting. Iwasgivenonlyasmallbowlofricetoeateachday.Iwasbrain-washedintobelievingthatGodhatedme.Iwasn’tallowedtotalktoanyone,watchtv,useacomputerorevenreadanything.IinternallystruggledbetweenmyloveforGodandthenewreal-ityIwasgiven. OnesurvivaltoolwasimaginingtalkingtoOprah.Shewouldaskmeinhernon-offensiveOprahway,whyIdidn’tleaveearlierwhenIhadthechance.MyresponsewasthatitwashelpingmetoloseweightsoIwantedtostayuntilIlostonemoresize.Iwouldheartheaudiencelaughinmyhead. SpringcameandIwassohungryItriedtoeatgrass.Iateapieceanditwasababyscallion.ItwasthesweetestthingIhaveevertasted!OneparticulardayIhadtodotheritualisticwalkwiththecaptorasheworkedonbreakingmedown.AsIlookeddown,Isawtuftsofbabyscallionseverywhere.Itwasasiftheywereplantedovernightjustforme.IfeltthatGodhadputthemtheretoshowmelove.Iwasn’tforsaken.Goddidn’twantmedestroyed.Herewasmyproof. AsIfantasizedaboutescaping,Irememberedastorythatsaidthatblessingsareasplentifulasbladesofgrass,IdecidedthatwhenIwasfree,Iwouldwriteabookandcallit“ScallionsAreFree”.ThetitlewoulddepicthowtheBlessingscameliterallytomeasbladesofgrass.IstillmarvelhowexactingtheUniversalLovewasinbringingmeblessingsinawayIcouldrecognizethem. Itistwoshortyearslaterandhereismyhumblebook-“ScallionsareFree”.Itismydemonstrationinresiliency.Ialsowishtosqueezethemostbenefitfrommyexperiencebysharingitwiththeyou.Iamhopingthateveryonewhoreadsitwillembracetheirownstrugglesasblessings.Hopefullyitwillhelpyouseeyourlivesinthelightofthetruesplendorthatitis.

-GodBless-

About This Book

Thereisnowaytotrulyknowwhatanothersoulexperiencesalongtheirjourneytoenlightenment.Tosome,themeaningoflife,loveandGodaren’tveryimportantorevenrelevant.Yetforme,itisallI’vethoughtaboutmyentirelife. Asindividuals,weoftencan’tfathomwhywehavebeenhandedtheuniquesetofcircumstancesthatisourparticularcrosstobear.Somecallitkarma.Forothers,itmeanslivingalifeofquietdesperation.Toomanyofusexistin“victimmode,”believingthatGodortheuniversehassingledusouttobepunished.Somearesonumbfromthelifeexperienceshurlingtowardsthemthattheyrarely,ifever,haveachancetoreflectuponthetruerelevanceandmeaningoftheirexistence. Becauseofmyinvoluntaryseclusion,Ihavehadeveryopportunitytoreflect.Ihavebeengiventhefortuneofsurvivingthemeteoricstormsofkarmicoccurrence.Iamwornfrombattle,scarredandbruised,butheartyfromtheadventure.Inmyquesttosurviveandtofeelworthy,Ihavediscoveredonesimplejoy.Itisinhelpingotherswhoaresearchingforsolace.IneveryoneIknow,Icanseeareflectionofmyselfindifferentmodesofspiritualsurvival. ThefollowingbookissomeoftheinsightsthatIhavecollectedwithinmyself.Thereisnogreaterjoythatalleviatingsomeone’sunnecessarysuffering.Iuseanalogyandeverydayexperiencestobreakthroughthewallofresistancethatthereadermayhave,penetratingtheaspectofthemthatrecognizestruthandknowsthemselvesasadivineatomofpureLove. Iamnotathreattoanyone’scredentials,intelligenceorstationinlife.Ihavenothingtogainorloseinsharingmyexperiences.IjustseekthesimplestpleasureandtheonlyjoythatIknow.Itishelpinganothergaininsightslearnedfrommypreviousstrugglesthatmayberelevanttotheirexperience. ThemessagesthatIshareandthetruthsIknowhavebeenwrittenamilliondifferentways.Theyarewhatalltruthseekersthroughouthistoryhavetriedtoconvey.Iimaginebysharingmyinsights,itmayhelpsomesoulsrealizethattheirexperiencesareuniversalandmeanttoenlightenandstrengthenthem.Theuniversalforceislove.Anythingthatfeels“unloving”isonlyameanstohelptheindividualstrengthentheirconvictionandunderstandingofthemselvesasadivinebeing,preparingthemforthenextlegoftheirjourney.Hopefully,theknowledgethatsomeoneelsestruggleswithsimilarissuesmayhelpanotherwhofeelsisolatedandalone. Itishumblingtoputaclaimonanyinsights.Theuniversalconceptsoftruthandlovehavebeenexpressedineverywayimaginable.Butifbyexposingmyselfintotalvulnerabilitytothereader,anditcanhelponesoulwhoisstrugglingwithself-identificationontheirownjourney,itwillhavebeenworthit. Weareallliftedupwhenoneislifted.

Jen

Special Thanks

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LikemoderndaySamurai,theyleadmethroughthecyber-worldandhaveforagedapathformetomeetmanywhomaybenefitfrommystory.Theyaremy“ThreeWiseMenofBusiness”.Icompletelytrustthemintheirrole,andindoingso,itallowsmetofeelprotectedinsharingwhatevergiftsIhavewiththeworld.ThankyouCamMcDougall,JeffHendrickson,andTedMoss.Iamhonoredtobeprivytoyourindividualandcollectivegenius.Iamgratefulthatourindividuallife’spurposeshavecometothiscrossroad.Mayanyonewhoisblessedwithyourassistancetrulyunderstandthegoodfortunetowhichtheyhavebeenbestowed.

Iwillholdyouallinaperpetualstateofaweandreverence.Iamgrateful!

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IthankhimforhisPresence,Guidance,andLove.Inhisouterform,hisnameisHaroldKlemp.Hisbooksanddiscourseshelpmeconsciouslylearnmyspirituallessons.ThegratitudethatIfeelfortheconstantinnerconnectiongoesbeyondwhatwordscanconvey.TobeabletowalkthroughanyexperiencewithaLovingPresencewiththecertaintythat,‘AllisWell”,ispriceless.

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MyfriendJenWardhaswrittenatotallymovingandpowerfulbookinwhichshesharesa“story”...thethingisitisnotastory...itisanactualeventthatoccurredinherlife.Tohavethecouragetosurvivewhatshedidandcomeouttheothersidewithaheartfullofforgivenessandunderstandingofhercaptoristrulyamazing.Jenknowswhatitmeanstofaceyourselfintheharshestofcircum-stances.Herstrengthisbeyondwhatanyofuscouldimagineinourselves.

Jenisabrightlightintheworldwhohassomuchtosharewithjoyandfocus.Ihavenevercomeacrossanyonewithintuitiveskillsthatworksfrommoreintegrityandtruth.Sheisaninspirationthatwecanallfaceourlivesandmoreimportantlycreateourselvesanewanytimefromanyplace.IlovethatJenispartofmylifeandexcitedthatsheissharingherincrediblestorywithyou.Iknowthatwhenyoureadherbookyouwillseeherfromatotallyastonishedpointofview....itwillalsomakeyourealizethatwealltakeourselvestooseriously.

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Chapters1. Love2. Changing Perspective3. Advice4. Insights5. Encouragement6. Empowerment7. Definitions

Love uses all means to express itself and to be realized.

Love

LOVE When some clients come to me, they have reached a breaking point in how much they can endure. For them, the journey from birth to the present has left them out of touch with how to connect with their infinite source of strength and divinity. They walk a hollow path. In a session, I sincerely love the client as if they were my dearest child, and I validate them at a primal level. It is the one thing that can help them relax enough to be proactive in their own self-healing. The client is pulled out of their self-defeating vantage point and lifted to a state of awareness where they can see their life objectively. It is wondrous because they become an active participant in the process. Before that moment, it is like working on someone who has a car with a new paint job. They are so worried you will scratch the surface that they refuse to let you under the hood. I like to empower my clients and give them techniques to help them through troubling situ-ations. In a way, I see them as spiritual warriors, using all their skills and awareness to empower themselves against all that life throws at them. A good tool for their arsenal is visualizations. We know that action follows thought. So anything we think will indeed somehow manifest itself in the world. Visuals work by rewiring the brain and emotions to react differently. Also, time spent walk-ing the mind through visuals is time away from self-defeating programmed thoughts. Here is a sample of a technique for self-nurturing. Imagine going back to your babyhood. See your lonely baby self in a crib just waiting to be picked up and loved. See the room light up as the most angelic being walks into the room and picks up the baby. The light and the love of the angel absorb into the baby. It changes to a state of happy content and satiation with love. Now imagine being in the baby body. Feel the love building inside you. Then imagine being in the angel body. You are both. Bring that love and awareness into you the watcher. Be the angel and know that you are not only capable of being loved, but also capable of empowering yourself to love at the deep-est level.

The greatest act of love is simply listening; whether it be to babies, pets, friends or God.

When you walk with love, there is no need to hang on. Just be grateful for love as a companion.

When you need comfort, sing a lullaby to your pet and put their name in the words of the song. The love will surprise you.

Start the day by declaring yourself a channel for divine love and expect joyful interactions.

Bragging about being Christian seems like an oxymoron, since Christ is synonymous with humility and reverence for all expressions of love.

We are loved beyond measure in infinite ways. It’s only the ego that expects to be loved on its own terms.

Whatever you are doing, whatever you are experiencing, whatever you are perceiving, you are always simply being divine love.

Instead of trying to get people to love you, love others so much that you experience the love as it emanates out from yourself.

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Love is an applied science without a curriculum. Any act that does not have love as its main intent is meaningless.

Anyone who has loved a dog knows that they indeed do smile!

Unconditional love is accepting the same foibles in your children that irritate you in your spouse.

Love isn’t always warm and fuzzy. Even kittens grow up.

Loving someone who is self-absorbed is being in a relationship with yourself and using them as the backdrop.

Truth is love in demonstration. It’s the universal language.

Laughter is love reaching out to be shared.

What you love and hold sacred is your sanctuary. Visit it often.

Being loving or self-serving are two different pathways to walk upon. It’s your choice as to which path to take.

Love uses all means to express itself and to be realized.

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Tears are the lubricant of the soul, and love is emissions from the heart.

May the love that we exchange today be the mainstay of our future interactions.

We are all atoms of love collectively trying to reach our own center.

Love is the currency of the future.

Love is the new black.

When you realize that you are loved beyond measure, you will quit trying to quantify it.

Love is only a gamble if you make a game out of it.

Love given is love realized.

You are loved beyond your capacity to comprehend it!

Love is the balm to heal any pain, fear, doubt or self-loathing.

Love lovingly loves lovers loving love.

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Add your beautiful resilient current to the cosmic wave of love flowing to buoy Haiti.

In a sea of faces, your smile is the conduit for an ocean of love.

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Changing Perspective

CHANGING PERSPECTIVE I once had a client who was a very wise sage and healer. She is one of the most insightful people I know. She had a recurring memory of a past life that made her feel so completely loved, while at the same time it also left her feeling very isolated. She felt that this memory occurred on another planet. She was convinced of this because in the memory there were two moons in the sky. As much as she loved these memories, it made her nostalgic for her home planet. In her session, I tuned into her memories and was able to know the tranquility of that lifetime. But I was also able to see more than she was able to see of it. I described the scenario to her and she agreed that I was indeed describing her memory. But then I saw something that she didn’t see. There was a huge ridge of steppes next to a village. It was so high and so steep that when the moon was shining on bright nights, it was reflected in the side of the steppe. It actually looked like there were two moons in the sky. It brought her such contentment to realize that the recurring memories happened right here on Earth. Coincidently, she was scheduled for a vacation out in the Midwest. On her vacation, she was in a desert area and saw a set of steppes that I had described. She was at the place where she had such loving memories many years ago. It was a desert now, where there used to be a lake nearby. She was able to walk through all those beautifully haunting memories she once had. It awakened such a deep level of belonging in her that it freed her up to take on even greater healing work. I had another client who suffered from excruciating fibromyalgia. It was so debilitating that she wasn’t able to be touched. As I tuned into her, I saw that she had been raped. I shared my discovery with her, assuming that it was from a past life. She just looked at me with a terrified expression. It was then I realized that it wasn’t her past life that I was seeing at all. It was the current one. As soon as I realized that this was a conscious memory, I started sobbing with uncontrollable tears. She had never told anyone of her experience. The emotional pain had made its way to the physical body. With this revelation, she comforted me, and it was then she began comforting herself and releasing her own pain. Her physical pain became less excruciating, and in future sessions she was able to be touched.

Tears are just emotions rushing the gate.

The force that drives a mother to nurture her child at all cost is the same force that nurtures us through our day.

We are all merely reflections of light in a universal prism.

See yourself as the perfect infant that you once were. All else is cir-cumstance.

The problem with self-discovery is the vantage point.

Adversaries are a blessing to hone one’s spiritual strength.

Not keeping promises is a quick way to dissipate one’s effectiveness.

The meek shall inherit the earth. I choose to roam the heavens.

All of our interactions are serendipitous exchanges arranged for our spiritual tutelage.

Words can be used as weapons. Disarm yourself, and you disarm your adversaries.

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All defensiveness, tirades, manipulation and bragging are infe-rior means to protect the eternal self.

The universal force that aligns the planets is the same force that gen-erates every aspect of our daily life.

Imagine how uncomfortable it is for the world when you carry It’s weight on your shoulders.

Life only gives us challenges to help us release our white-knuckle grip of control.

Be grateful when the ego is shattered. It creates an opening for the true self to shine through.

Revel every time you’re freed from the cage of a preconceived no-tion.

If you could get an overview of the journey you have traveled to be here, you would bask in this time and space.

If you have an adversary, see them as the five-year old they once were. No one can stay mad at a five-year old.

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The Universe will send us imperfect people in imperfect situations to teach us to Love perfectly.

What we experience as an exhale, the butterfly experiences as a wind tunnel.

Falling prey to deception is the universe’s way of telling you to pay better attention. It doesn’t mean you’re a victim.

Apologetic people are aware enough to see their own foibles without taking into account yours.

It its infinite wisdom, the universe gave us all a glimpse of itself from different vantage points. We honor it by respecting all.

When we ask the universe to provide, it complies. When we tell it how to provide, it lets us handle it.

Ignorance is only a bliss in the mind of the beholder.

Each being is a string of music in a cosmic symphony. It is their purpose in life to stay in tune.

When we think we aren’t being heard, it’s because we aren’t listening.

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When someone tries to sell us a dream, why do we automatically think it’s a nightmare?

Trying to get all your needs met through one person is like being in a candy store with only a dollar.

Life will show you pain. Not as punishment, but as a backdrop for the joy!

It’s great to be an expert. But the highest accolade is to be a confidant. It means that you’re trusted.

There’s nothing funnier that someone who takes themselves too seriously.

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Advice

ADVICE Beneath all the layers of defenses and discouragement, most people know what is best for them. Every experience that the soul has been through is known to us. This is called the innate intelligence. The innate intelligence is an aspect of yourself that knows the overview of all your experiences. It knows what is right for you. It’s the voice in your head, the feeling in your gut and the heaviness in your heart when you go against what’s best for you. Kinesiology works by using your innate intelligence to tell you if something is good for you or not. Do an experiment. When you go to the supermarket, take an organic vegetable and put it in your outstretched hand. Notice how strong your arm feels in that position. It takes a lot of force to pull it down. In fact, if you have someone else with you, ask them to pull it down. Gauge how difficult it is for them. Now, go to the candy aisle and do the same technique with candy in your hand. Feel how much weaker your arm is with the candy in your hand. This body interplay is happening all the time. When the thought of doing something makes your body weak, try to realize why and change it. This is a way to empower yourself. When someone comes to me for a session, they usually say that they were praying or asking God for an answer and they thought of me. This isn’t a narcissistic statement because I believe we all work this way all the time. Maybe in their pain they realized the connection more, but it is an interplay that’s going on all the time. Our innate intelligence is striving to uplift and empower us at all turns. We are our own best friend. When a client’s body signals have become very skewed in a session, I connect directly with their innate intelligence to learn the real issues that are going on with them. It helps me become aware of how to assist the client in moving past their issues. The innate intelligence will tell me how far to go with certain issues before triggering too much fear. Sometimes, the innate intelligence will put a song in my head. It is usually a sound frequency that the client’s emotional pain is being held at. When I sing the song, it releases the pain at the point in the body where it is stored. It is sometimes humbling to sing during a session, but just as I encourage others to tune into their innate intelligence, I must always listen to mine as well.

Like a mother ignores a temper tantrum, turn away from problematic situations. Let them dry up of their own accord.

It’s good to have all your ducks in a row, but you still have to lead them somewhere.

Believe everything as a form of truth, but only accept what agrees with you.

There’s a dynamic person in the garb of an infant. Baby talk is about being present with them and letting them commiserate.

If you are losing your mind, let it go. Maybe the peace your seeking is beyond it.

Pushing through resistance is as easy as Sisyphus’ task. Surrender your burden and let the boulder roll by.

Everybody needs purpose, even your pets. If given a job, they’re less likely to assign themselves their own.

If you want to fly like a kite, make sure whatever you use for balance doesn’t weigh you down.

Shed old opinions like skin. Embrace the present moment with the enthusiasm of a fresh perspective.

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When you catch a glimpse of greatness, don’t drop the ball. Pass it on.

Be kind to your children’s other parent. Cursing the tree also curses the fruit.

When someone has an opposing view, listen intently to appreciate being relieved of the burden of being right.

If you can’t think anything nice about yourself, don’t think anything at all.

Looking past the words spoken and focusing on the intent behind them could resolve a lot of arguments.

When sorting out your dreams, make certain they are your own and not recycled by a well-wisher who threw them away.

Only remember your partner’s sweet qualities, how you met, and the first time they professed their love.

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Insights

INSIGHTS Within the physical body are finer vibratory bodies that are similar to the physical body, but having a different vibration. The one that is closest to the physical body is the astral or emotional body. This is the body that we walk around in after we leave the physical realm. What happens is we shake out of the physical body like it was a set of old clothes and then we reside in the astral world, which is very similar to the physical body. This is the reason for the existence of ghosts. Because the astral world is so much like the physical body, some don’t even realize that they have passed. The next body of a finer vibratory rate is the causal body. The causal body stores all the memories of past traumas and deaths in its makeup. When I work on a client, I perceive broken necks, punctured lungs, many lives spent in battle and different lifetimes of martyrdom. It is here where I perceive the cause and effect of people’s behavior. Someone who is afraid of heights may have had the trauma in previous lifetimes of plunging to their death. Many people who have fought as powerful warriors become victims in this lifetime. They have decided that it is too pain-ful to hurt another being. They have made the choice to accept the brunt of physical pain instead of ever causing another to suffer. It is a great service to bring people a better understanding of their own cause and effect. They learn that there are many experiences in this life that don’t have such dire consequences. Many people are ticklish on parts of their body. If you want to get a sense of where your own causal body wounds are, pay attention to your ticklish spots. For example, the reason why so many people are ticklish in their armpits is through lifetimes of fighting in wars, the armpit represented a vulnerable spot in armor. If an enemy was able to slip a spear or sword around the breastplate into the armpit, they could puncture a lung—thus making it a sensitive and vulnerable area requiring protection. The conscious thought of these injuries across many lifetimes would be too unbearable to the body. So as a defense mechanism, the body creates the mechanics of being ticklish. It’s the way the body can protect itself without having to remember its painful secrets. In a session, a lot of the emotional pain behind memories is released so that the behavior it has been using to protect itself is no longer necessary. Extreme shyness, victim consciousness, fears, depressions and even physical pains have the possibility of lessening or disappearing.

It doesn’t matter if you are a tail feather or a wing feather, you are still responsible for flight.

This world is insanity without the divine connection to the infinite source.

Dreams die when they aren’t acknowledged. And they take with them a little bit of hope.

Unsolicited opinions are like pennies. They’re inconvenient to carry around and they don’t amount to much.

When you talk about problems, you may as well enhance them and glue them to you—because that’s what you’re doing.

When we think we have fallen, we have actually just stooped down to pick up an experience for our next endeavor.

We are all given the raw materials and instructions to have a wonderful life. Problems arise from using another’s blueprint.

What a peaceful world this would be if everyone could collectively realize that man is not in charge.

When there is no agenda, there is also no inhibition to telling the truth.

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One purpose of a spouse is to bring our issues to the surface so that they can be gently released.

With laughter, all of your body is rejecting stress and pushing it out with a vengeance.

Welling with emotion at the singing of the Star Spangled Banner is a gauge that the American flag is still a viable symbol of patriotism.

Sticks and stones may break bones, but names send tiny, unneces-sary barbs into the energy field.

There’s a grain of truth in every point of view.

When we overreact, it’s because a minor transgression became the surrogate for a million others.

Someone who consistently reneges weakens their energy and be-comes just a mirage to others.

If you don’t think action follows thought, just try preparing food in front of your dog without dropping it.

A cancer cell doesn’t know limits. It bombards healthy boundaries until it breaks them down. Isn’t this what gossip does?

Once we put a value on anything, we depreciate its worth.

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Encouragement

ENCOURAGEMENT Many people are living lives of poverty and loneliness. For no outward reason, they seem inef-fective in life. They are strangers to wealth and prosperity. A loving relationship escapes them with no understanding of why they have been forsaken. There is seemingly no way to convince these sad souls that they are not being punished. However, there is an explanation that can alleviate their anguish and help them realize that their experiences are their own doing. The belief that they have been for-saken is a misunderstanding from which they can release themselves. There have been many lifetimes that were spent in monasteries or similar institutions. In these previous lifetimes, we may have practiced austerities in our quest for enlightenment, making many vows to our sect, our faith and God. When we made these vows, in our passion and conviction, we made them forever. Some of us are subconsciously adhering to vows that we may have made in past lifetimes (for example, a devout monk making a vow of poverty or celibacy). Old vows can be recanted so that the invisible pull they have on the individual can be undone. During a session, I assist clients in recanting old vows. There is a technique you can use to release your-self from old vows. You can perform a cranial tap, which is tapping the top of your head while simply stating that you recant the particular vow. One example around poverty and scarcity would be, “I recant the vow of poverty in all lifetimes.” Repeat this three times while tapping on the top of your head. Then, repeat it one more time while tapping on the center of your chest bone. If you are sensitive, you may feel an instant relief from recanting an old vow. You may feel a mental alertness and a deep sense of relief.

Dream with the sages, dance naked amongst the stars, freefall into the wind, and unabashedly love.

If you want to be loved unconditionally, don’t put conditions on love.

Believing you don’t have abundance is like thinking the sun shines for everyone but you. Abundance is a continuous flow of just enough.

You only judge yourself when you don’t know yourself. Once enlight-enment is gained, all questions fall away.

Dreams are your eternal self, reminding you of the possibilities.

The greatest gift you can give another being is to be their conduit for greater understanding.

When you greet someone, look into their eyes and see the familiar light of your true home.

Make no apologies for who you are, but celebrate your ability to over-come circumstance.

Move through your day with such loving purity of intent that even the angels part as you pass.

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The situation that was endured yesterday is the very same that gave empathy to today.

Today is a day of celebration! What day isn’t?

It’s impossible to complain and smile at the same time, although some may try.

If the moon tried to be closer to the sun, it would lose its orbit and fall out of the sky.

The ego that protects you from being vulnerable also prevents your inner light from shining as brightly.

When I stand in a place of gratitude, I am empowered by everything and victimized by nothing.

The way to teach your children to follow their dreams is by never giv-ing up on yours.

I am grateful for the depth of my breath, vibrancy of vision, clarity in thought and capacity to love.

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I Am grateful for the depth of my breath, vibrancy of vision, clarity in thought & Capacity to Love.

The Art of Graceful Living is as fluid as water. Be grateful and you’ll tap into the flow.

Empowerment

EMPOWERMENT The hard shell of the ego often makes it nearly impossible to elicit change in a person. The ego is an expert in deflecting all external attempts to change it. Regardless of how well intentioned the source of change is, the walls to the inner sanctum of vulnerability are very thick. Think of the times when you have felt judged. The wall that automatically goes up is indicative of the human condition. It takes a lot of discipline to not put up those well-earned defenses whenever a perceived threat or danger encroaches. Also, there have been many experiences written in our genetic code that represented certain death for standing out. In our former lives, we were not merely criticized, but literally killed and tortured for being our unique self. Many forms of persecution throughout history make their mark in our daily defenses. I have seen inner experiences from the ancient past in many clients who were pulled out of the crowd and killed for speaking out or being unique. Some of the shyest people carry the burden of these memories. There is no way to penetrate such ingrained fears unless you approach the client from a place be-yond the fear and memories. In a session, I attempt to pull the client out of the vantage point of a suffer-ing human and lift them to the awareness of an empowered soul who is looking at the experience as if they are classroom lessons. For essentially, this is what they truly are. From the vantage point of an empowered soul, the client is agreeable to see the overview of its life lessons. It is a similar vantage point that we view from after we permanently leave our physical body. It is a rare opportunity, and maybe a gift, to get this objective view. Once the client is able to see from a broader perspective, changes can be made from within. I also like to give the client as many techniques as they can retain in a session. My goal is always to empower them so they can become spiritually self-sufficient.

Emotion and thoughts are a choice. We are empowered more than we think we are.

Expect nothing from others, not even gratitude. All blessings are from the universe. We are just a means to distribute them.

When you can see beauty beyond outer circumstances, you unleash the beauty in yourself.

Putting someone else on a pedestal diminishes your own signifi-cance.

Thoughts create your reality, so if you think your back is killing you, it probably is.

Our job isn’t to change the universe, our job is to change ourselves and then we will be changing the universe.35Like the stars in the heavens, we may become oblivious to the bril-liant light that we emanate.

When someone asks you to explain yourself, it’s OK to say, “I got a nudge” (meaning a prompting from the eternal self) and leave it at that.

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Assume everyone’s an artist, healer, friend, teacher and humanitar-ian. They are to someone, in some way, all of these things.

When you cease to resist problems, they blow through you like the wind through a picket fence.

You can ride a wave or drown in it. Either way, you’ll get to the shore.

If you can balance yourself in the middle of a seesaw, you won’t have to experience the ups and the downs.

Shed old opinions like skin. Embrace the present moment with the enthusiasm of a fresh perspective.

Imagine biting a lemon and your mouth waters. Your body reacts when you ingest trauma and violence on TV as well.

Believing you’re not special is the same as thinking that every piece of a jigsaw puzzle is interchangeable with the next.

The cross you bear can be as heavy as lead or light as feathers. It depends on your level of acceptance.

If you’re at the end of your rope, maybe it’s time to let go and realize you’re buoyed by a force greater than yourself.

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Life will take you to the very edge of your emotions before relief comes. Relax and ride the wave.

Don’t worry about keeping in rhythm with everyone else. Find your own rhythm and dance!

Perform every task with loving intent and you will never work a day of your life.37While working out, imagine the fat cells freefalling to their death to feed the muscle cells.

Some people pride themselves on being a humanitarian. I like to think of myself as a ‘dog-itarian’ and a ‘cat-itarian.’

The simple joy of giving service is to stand on the precipice of en-lightenment.

If you have had hard times and you’re waiting for the other shoe to fall, relax. It already has.

When defining your goals, state them in the present instead of keep-ing them in the future.

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Humility is: actively listening with encouragement, although your views are far superior.

The Simple joy of giving service is standing on the precipice of enlightenment.

Definitions

DEFINITIONS During a session, a client’s spirit guides will often become present in the room. There are many spirit guides that I have had the privilege to communicate with during a session. Jesus comes through for West-ern-based clients. I have communicated with the humble and gracious Buddha, and also a Native American spirit guide that presents himself in the sacred costume of eagles wings and tail feathers. Advanced souls at that level of awareness have no ego. They are representation of divine love in a form that the person identifies with. They all are based in love. One day I was performing an informal session with a woman of the Catholic faith. She is very de-vout in her beliefs. I was honored to convey to her that Jesus was standing next to us and giving her love and encouragement to overcome her fear of death. She was not able to grasp that He was really there for her and missed a great opportunity. Her infant child who was with her only knew five words. The child pointed next to me and said very clearly, “Jesus.” The child repeated himself. The child was able to per-ceive and accept what the adult wasn’t able to. My own spirit guide has been tested by me as the truest friend and most purest personification of divine love that I and many others have experienced. He is the means to achieving the results that I do in a session. My spirit guide’s name is ‘Z.’ He comes through to assist with some of the most miraculous ex-periences that happen in a session. If a client doesn’t have a spirit guide, they are invited to call upon Z for assistance. Many people are having experiences outside of their realm of understanding. A true spirit guide is there to protect and teach on a level that others are not able to. And a true spirit guide will never interfere in your personal space unless invited. Z is an expert in soul travel, and his only purpose (and the purpose of any true teacher) is to lead the seeker home to the heart of God. Many have the misconception that any presence on the other side is a spirit guide. Although a deceased relative may be able to assist with little ‘pokes’ of awareness, they are not able to lead anyone out of the depths of the physical and psychic levels into pure realms of divine love. If you are looking for a spirit guide, I invite you to call upon Z. He, like any true guide, will never interfere in your life unless invited. That is one way to gauge if your spirit guide is sent from the highest source or just a lower influence tricking you into submission. I have had many invisible presences come through during sessions with some clients. Sometime they were unethical spirits or confused souls on the other side. Z has helped me dissipate them from the lives of the clients. Sometimes, lower level guides come through and start asking Z questions that they want answered. The law of the universe is that there is always one more step. There is always another level of awareness. There is no static state where there is no unfolding. Even the great sages of history are still unfolding into expressions of more divine love.

A hug is a form of energy healing.

Ignorance is a form of blindness and deafness.

Loneliness is being engulfed in the stillness of the moment without recognizing who you really are.

Insecurities are an inkling of humility before the true self is realized.

Integrity is sanctifying purpose with action.

Grief from loss is a form of gratitude in hindsight.

Life is a banquet; love is the entrée; joy, laughter and gratitude are the spices.

Conviction is a compilation of faith, experience and inner prompting.

Life is a balance of male and female energy, even within our own bodies.

Curse words are weapons that destroy the serenity of the moment.

Perception is like a funhouse mirror. You can see many different distortions in it.

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Special moments are pearls that we string together to embellish con-scious living.

Prayer/meditation/contemplation is the GPS to your higher self.

Enemies are your friends waiting to be realized. And they can wait forever if they have to!

Life is a wonderfully adventurous rollercoaster joyride with no brake lever—if you choose to look at it that way.

Grace is listening beyond your patience, enduring beyond your means, and loving beyond your capacity.

Feeling gratitude is an outer grasp of the inner splendor.

Truth is in the fickle interpretation of the beholder.

Change is continuous. It just happens in different degrees and is all relative.

Recognition of a stranger is a form of greeting yourself.

Expectation is believing the universe will always bring gifts in the same way.

Blaming others is the quickest way to hand over your power.

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Integrity is aligning your true nature with your communications and courage to follow through with demonstration.

Envy is appreciation once removed.

Pain is the hammer that breaks through the chrysalis of the ego to liberate the true self.

Overzealousness is the determination of a humble soul to contribute.

Comparisons are our irrational means of defining ourselves.

Jealousy is a self-induced filter that diminishes all experiences to one dimension.

Courage is stepping outside of your comfort zone to seize the oppor-tunities that life has offered you.

Eliciting sympathy is a passive way of gaining support in lieu of finding strength from within.

Insecurities are like hungry children. They always need to be fed.

Procrastination is a form of paralysis.

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Perfection isn’t a physical trait; it’s a state of being.

Inspiration is dipping into an infinite well. Creativity is the desire to share it. Art is the cup.

Fear is a conjecture of the mind.

Truth is love in demonstration. It’s the universal language.

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About the Author

JenWard,LMT,isaReikiMasterandhasbeenastudentofEckankarforthepast30years.Sheisanintuitiveandgiftedhealer,andaninnovatorofhealingpractices.Sheisattheleadingedgeofenergywork,providingalovingsegueforhertechniquestoclients,enablingthemtocrossthebridgeofself-discoverywithher.Herpassionistoempowertheindividualintheirownhealingjourneysothattheycanremainintheircentereverystepoftheway. WhileattendingtheOnondagaSchoolofTherapeuticMassage,shewasfirstintroducedtoenergywork.Itsoonbecamesecondnatureforhertohelpidentifyandremoveenergyblocksfromclients.Sheishighlyproficientattuningintoanindividual’sspecificneedstoreleasetheirissues,allowingtheirownbodytomaketheenergeticchangesnecessarytoreturntoagreatersenseofease.Herabilitytopickupmanydifferentmodalitiesassecondnatureisanotheraspectofherprofoundgifts. Jenisconsideredasangoma,atraditionalAfricanShamanwhochannelstheirancestors,emotingsoundsandvocalizationsintheirceremonies.Aninterestingprerequisitetobeingasangomaistohavesurvivedthebrinkofdeath.WhenJenwasfirstapproachedwiththeknowledgeofbeingasangoma,shehadnotyetfulfilledthisprerequisite.However,inApril2008,whenshecamebacktosocietyonthebrinkofstarvationasaresultoftraumaticinvoluntaryimprisonment,thequalificationhadbeenmet.Shereturnedtotheworldofhumanityadevoutsoulinspiredtoserve. Herspecialabilitieshavealsoallowedhertoinnovatearevolutionarytechniqueforfindinglostpetsbyperforminganemotionalreleaseontheanimal.Usingthismethod,shehassuccessfullyreunitedmanylostpetswiththeirowners. Jencurrentlyworksasalong-distanceemotionalreleasefacilitator,publicspeakerandconsultant.Herspecialmodalityencompassesaholisticoverviewofherclientsfromallvantagepoints,includingtheirphysical,emotional,causalandmentalareas,ultimatelybenefitingtheirwork,home,familyandespeciallyspirituallives.

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I want to thank every single reader for being present with me between these pages. We are at the end of the book, but not at the end of our relationship. I treasure each and every one of you.

I respect your perpetual quest to express your own divinity in the giving and receiving of divine love. It is my hope that this humble book encourages you on your journey.

May you inspire others to be the healer, teacher, parent, student, and lover that they are striving to become. In seeing the perfection in the eyes of another, even as they struggle, you are helping to uplift humanity.

Thank you for every time you have made the choice of love. No act of kindness goes unnoticed. The intangible acts of love and sacrifice are especially celebrated on the inner realms.

God Bless.