business networking dining etiquette for int'l job candidates
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- 1. Networking witha Fork:General Tips on BusinessNetworking & Dining Etiquette Madison Morris
2. Four F benefits of Familiarity with the Proper Di RFamiliarity breeds confidencFocus on the conversationFit in factorFirst impressions manageme 3. More benefits :Stand out in the crowdAppear well-rounded 4. Basic starting points Preparation + Practice = Confidence Its never about foodEtiquette is about putting people at ease 5. Ahead of business mealLook signals to your lunch companions(interviewers) IF you made an effort IF you respect them IF you are familiar/comfortable w/ companys cultureClean/ironed clothes >than fashionCareful with perfumeCheck weather for appropriate clothing 6. Ahead of business meal 7. Coming inWhen escorted to a table by a maitred, walkfirst, the interviewer will follow behindIf you are seated before the others arrival, besure to stand up and shake hands (both menand women) 8. Seating downSit left, stand right.When possible, you A properly trainedshould be seated fromwaitperson will alsothe left side of the chair serve your meal toat the table and exityou from your left andfrom the chairs right.pick up from your right 9. Ordering Hostsrecommendation =also price guideNo more than twocourses Generally guestsorder will be taken first Never the mostexpensive thing onthe menu Questions about the dish ok , butnot too many substitutions 10. Orderingprix fixe/ table dhte all includedAl La Carte each item priced separatelydishes to void: spaghetti, ribs, messysandwiches - ease of consumption > yourappetiteIn the end, it is NOT about food 11. Start of a businessmealNapkin: the first thing off the table and the last thingon. As soon as youre seated, place your napkin in your lap with the folded edge facing you. When you excuse place your napkin in the chair seat/on the chairs arm. Only place your napkin on the table when leaving to the left of your plate. 12. Start of a business mealSilverwarelined up in the order in which a person will use them,going from the outside in 13. Start of aBread PlateButter Knifebusiness mealDessert /Coffee WaterRedWineWhiteWineCoffee Cupand SaucerPlate/Napkin Soupseafood Salad Meat Meat Salad 14. Start of aBMW method business meal Water always on the rightBread plate always on the leftB=breadW=water M=meal 15. Start of abusiness mealRight is spelled r-i-g-h-t.Thats 5 letters.Just like k-n-i-f-e and s-p-o-o-n.So your knife and spoon are alwayson the right side.Left is spelled l-e-f-t.Thats 4 letters.Just like f-o-r-k.So its always on the left. 16. Elements of Business LunchAppetizers(bread and butter)Do not bite in Tear into pieces, butter and eat. Repeat. 17. Elements of Business Lunch SaladsCherry tomatoes: cut in halvesCroutons: spear few leaves,crouton last Chew well to avoid leaves stuck between teeth 18. Elements of Business Lunch SoupSpoon your soup away fromyou.Dont drink from the bowlunless in an Asian restaurant.Sip from the side of thespoon.Leave the spoon in the cup orsoup bowl when resting.Tilt the bowl or cup of soupaway from you as you eat.If soup is too hot, wait for itto cool; do not blow on it. 19. Elements of Business LunchMain courseNever cut more than three bites at a timeTime your meal dish with aconversation 20. During business meal Any paper (e.g. empty sugar packets ) shouldnt be placed on the table, but instead on the edge of butter plate/cup saucer. Chew quietly with mouth closed. Do not talk with your mouth full. Bring food to mouth, not mouth to food. Straight posture throughout the meal. 21. During Business meal Remember to: Maintain Eye Contact Continue conversation, giving all equal time Refrain from joking Keep your elbows off the table at all times. Rest your wrists on the table 22. During business mealNever serve yourself first even if a dish isplaced in front of you 23. During business mealTurn your head away from the table and cover your mouthwhen you sneeze or cough with your elbow nook.Dont blow your nose at the table. Excuse yourself and usethe restroom.When leaving the table, always push your chair back to thetable. 24. During business mealNever state the reasons e.g.restroom break, I have food stuckin my teeth, Have to take my pillsetc.Say Excuse me onlyTough food (spit it out discretely)Stains (approach with humor;proceed as above to excuseyourself and clean up 25. During business mealAlways pass the salt and pepper togetherto place them on the table/ not directlyinto the persons hand.If you are asked to pass something, dontuse it/or take some first before passing-unless the person requesting it invitesyou to.Pass items ALWAYS to the right.The person closest to the bread basket,butter, salad dressing, etc., should beginpassing. 26. During business mealSwallow completely/ wipe you hands &mouth before taking a drink.If you do not want wine or coffee DONT :turn the glass or mug over; place your handover the glass or mug.Simply tell your server no thank you.It is called STEMware - always hold theglass by the stem.A water goblet is the only glass you do nothave to hold by the stem. 27. During business mealThink of your plate as a clock.The utensils should signalize 6PM if you are still eatingIf you are done: put your fork and knife akew in the 10 and 4oclock. 28. Questions otherTricksissues TippingOffering to pay for the meal/splitting the checkToasting 29. CONVERSATIONaspect 30. Art of conversation As anything worthy,it takes preparation and practice 31. PreparationCheck Google News/Scan headlines of major newspapersIf possible, learn about peopleyou will be interviewing Find common ground 32. PreparationPractice with your American peers (thats why itsimportant not to stick only with friends from yourhome country)Its better to practice now w/ colleagues than do it for the 1st time at the interviewObserve whats expected 33. IntroductionsInsure that people are comfortable addressing you:Use easy form ofMake an easyyour name e.g.connection in theirAbhinandan can be mind e.g.Pronounce your nameAbhi reveal the meaning behind very clearly (or even, if you choose,the nameeven more Americanized offer a word that rhymesversion such as Abe ) with your name 34. IntroductionsYou want to introduce someone Say the name of the key person. Mention the name of the other person and say something about him or her Come back to the key person and say something about him/her.Here is an example where the recruiter is Mr. John Packman and your friend is AneeshaPatel:John, I would like to introduce my friend, Aneesha Patel. Annesha is student in Kelloggs MMM program. Josh Packman is with Johnson and Johnson." 35. Hand shaking Business is generally gender neutral.A man does not have to wait fora woman in business to extend her hand for a handshake Americans expect thehandshake to convey strengthand confidence 36. Business card exchange In US, you should first establish rapport with a person in a chat BEFORE exchanging cards. Thus, you can expect to exchange business cards AT THE END OF THE CONVERSATION When you receive a card, you can look at it and atIf you arent asked for yours, ask for theirs first. State why the person, and then thanke.g. Id love you to see the results of the projects wevethem.been discussing. May I have your information? When alone, feel free toIf they dont offer their card, simply ask, "May I offer you write any comments at themy card?other side of the business card 37. Small talkDiscuss what constitutesMika and Peppe hadnt seen each other forages, so they decided to get together for "one" small talk in your culture beer. At the end of the first pint Peppe says and your experiences "How have you been?" Mika just grunts inwith small talk in the US reply.At the end of the second pint Peppe asks"So hows your family?" Again, Mika just gruntsin reply.After three pints Peppe asks"Hows work going?" Mika turns in fury andyells"Perkele! Did we come here to talk ordrink?!Finnish Joke 38. Basic starting points Its never really about specific topicsSmall talk is about making other peoplecomfortable through finding a common ground 39. Small talkANYTHING OBSERVABLE/ QUANTIFIABLE:WeatherArea aroundRecent fun activities (plans for the weekend/ recentvacation/trip)Hobbies ESPECIALLY sports that can be shared by others(current matches/games/favorite teams)TIP: Ask for suggestions e.g. for dining/visiting places orexplaining American/ local customs (e.g. unmerited love forCubs) 40. Small talk topicsto avoidPolitics/controversialtopics Intimate relationships ReligionDeathFinancial issues Age When in doubt, ALWAYS ask questions about theother person. People of virtually every cultureLOVE talking about themselves .