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Chapter 4 Listening & Talking to Your Child. communication. Is the To most relationships. Listening To Your Child. How To Be A Good Listener. Why is listening for feelings important? Understanding Think about what and why Solve problems Talking about feelings OK. - PowerPoint PPT Presentation

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Chapter 4Listening & Talking to Your Child

communicationIs the

To most relationships

To most relationships

2Listening To Your Child

How To Be A Good Listener

Why is listening for feelings important?UnderstandingThink about what and why Solve problemsTalking about feelings OK

Book page 684

How To Be A Good Listener

Listen for feelingsListen with your body hear the feelingsUse reflective listening (not paraphrasing)

Book page 68

5Reflective Listening

Reflecting what you think your child feels and says. Use the words you feel and because.Sample in the book carnival.Overused wordsGood, bad, upset. Book page 68-69Repeating what you think your child feels and says. Use the words you feel and because.Sample in the book carnival.Overused wordsGood, bad, upset.

6Look for body feelingsFrown or a smileThrowing thingsState the feeling

How to be a Good ListenerPage 69Look for feelingsFrown or a smileThrowing things

7Feelings

Frowning.Face is happyLooks Upset.

Children dont always use words to communicate. Sometimes they are silent, but they smile, or scowl, or cry. Your frown seems to say that you disagree.When your face lights up like that, you look very happy. It looks like youre really upset. Want to talk about it.

8Feelings

Things to keep in mindSurprised Child.Respectful Questioning.Check your feelingsHelp with saying no.Not always necessary.

Pg 70Things to keep in mindYour child may be surprised by your new way of listening.Use respectful questioning tone.Check your own feelingsReflective listening helps when you have to say no.Reflective listening isnt always necessary9

Reflective Listening

Check your feelings RL helps when you have to say no.Give feedback Then your child will know you understand his/her feelings.

Page 70Check your feelings RL helps when you have to say no.Give feedback Then your child will know you understand his/her feelings.

10Reflective Listening Formula

Any of the following can show that you understand how your child is feeling or can help your child to tell you how he/she feels.

11REFLECTIVE LISTENING1. Youre (insert feeling word) for or because (state reason for the feeling).2. Sounds like youre (insert feeling word or phrase).

Youre (insert feeling word) for or because (state reason for the feeling).2. Sounds like youre (insert feeling word or phrase).

12Reflective listening3. You seem (insert feeling word or phrase).4. It seems like you are feeling (insert feeling word or phrase).5. Sounds like youre feeling sort of (insert feeling word or phrase).

You seem (insert feeling word or phrase).4. It seems like you are feeling (insert feeling word or phrase).5. Sounds like youre feeling sort of (insert feeling word or phrase).

13Reflective Listening WorksheetWhat the child saysReflective Listening ResponseMath is so dumb! Why do I need to learn Fractions anyway. I got chosen last for softball in gym class today.Youre so mean, I hate you!I made an A on my paper!I look stupid in this outfit. Mr. Jones is so mean. He yelled at me and made me stay in from recess.

Talking to Your Child

You - Messages Put Children Down

Cant You See Those Dirty Dishes?

How Many Times do I have to Tell YOU?!

How to Talkso your Child will ListenRespectfullyCalmlyWithout Blame

RespectfullyCalmlyWithout Blame

19I-Messages 3 partsWhen

I feel .

because . When

I feel .

because .

20YOU ARE LATE AGAIN!When you are late..

I feel worried..

because you may be hurt or need helpWhen you are late..

I feel worried..

because you may be hurt or need help

21You Live Like a PIG!

When our house is a mess.

I feel upset .........

because I took a lot of time cleaning to make it look good.When our house is a mess.

I feel upset .........

because I took a lot of time cleaning to make it look good.

22Instead of Accusing Give InformationWho drank milk and left the bottle standing out?

Kids, milk turns sour when it isnt refrigerated. Who drank milk and left the bottle standing out?

Kids, milk turns sour when it isnt refrigerated.

23Instead of blamingdescribe the problemYou are so irresponsible! You always start the tub and then forget about it. Do you want us to have a flood?

The water in the bath tub is getting close to the top.You are so irresponsible! You always start the tub and then forget about it. Do you want us to have a flood?

The water in the bath tub is getting close to the top24Take noticeSum it up in a word You stood up for your friend even though the other kids made fun of him. Thats __________.

COMMITTMENT25Take NoticeSum it up in a wordYou only ate a little sliver of cake, even though you love it. That really takes ___________.RESOLUTION26Listening and Talking

KEEP PRACTICING

Rapid fire ballCommunication is important for _________Children want parents to _____, _______ and ________ their feelingsWhen you use reflective listening you reflect ______ and ______ for the feeling.Start by using the words ______ and __________You messages ____ ____ and _____ childrenI messages tell how ___ _____ without ________To use an I message tell what is _________, what ___ ____ and why ___ ____ ____ ___Avoid using ____ I messages. If you are ____, __ ___ and ____ ____

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